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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey,
So as a single guy on here people tend to pass you by as there are thousands of us.
I am an open and honest guy, I will never be a dick to anyone.
But how do you approach a couple that you are interested in on here? I have never been with a couple before but recently it is becoming more and more interesting to me.
Anything welcome. Help a brother out. |
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"Don’t send a friend request without chatting first. We hate that from single guys.  "
^^this for us too, friend requests without any kind of conversation will always be ignored. Id recommend throwing a wink and sending a polite message, then crosd your fingers  v |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just send a mail and hope they see it and like it enough to reply.
For most men its very much a luck thing due to the amount of mails couples can get from men. |
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"Don’t send a friend request without chatting first. We hate that from single guys.
^^this for us too, friend requests without any kind of conversation will always be ignored. Id recommend throwing a wink and sending a polite message, then crosd your fingers v "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just send a mail and hope they see it and like it enough to reply.
For most men its very much a luck thing due to the amount of mails couples can get from men."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey,
So as a single guy on here people tend to pass you by as there are thousands of us.
I am an open and honest guy, I will never be a dick to anyone.
But how do you approach a couple that you are interested in on here? I have never been with a couple before but recently it is becoming more and more interesting to me.
Anything welcome. Help a brother out. "
I wouldn't wink.
It's usually 50/50 with the husband and wife messaging so consider that.
It doesn't matter what you say. You'll get these people saying to write something original or unique but it's bull shit.
Be normal, say hello or make your silly joke or pay a compliment. I think it's better to say not enough than too much
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Read their profile. Respect their age limits. Taylor your message to suit the couple. Copy and paste messages are so easy to spot. Involve both the male and female in the message and don't direct it to just one half.
Don't start your message with anything like 'nice tits' or anything along those lines. Along with just saying 'hi' won't help either. X |
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Say "Hello" before anything else. It's amazing how few people omit this part before going straight into how they want to smash somebody back doors in. God only know how they function in society with conversational priorities like that.
Then introduce yourself.
Then say say something of substance, preferably related to something you have read in their profile or on the forum, or maybe a photo, which shows why you are have chosen to send them a message. If you don't actually have anything to say then you should question why you are contacting them at all. Almost all the messages we get are utterly vacuous. We wouldn't even vaguely consider meeting anybody who don't appear to be able to have a normal conversation with us.
Keep it non-sexual. Just chat. If they don't like you as a person they are highly unlikely to let you into their bed, so prioritise chatting above everything else. We have had guys asking us about our sex lives thinking that will lead us to want to meet them. You've got to have more in your arsenal than that.
Do not, under any circumstances, suggest anything to do with meeting until you have a conversation going. There's plenty of time for that.
Your no. 1 aim should be to show you are a guy they can get on with. If you can't then you are dead in the water. If you can then you are in with a chance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Say "Hello" before anything else. It's amazing how few people omit this part before going straight into how they want to smash somebody back doors in. God only know how they function in society with conversational priorities like that.
Then introduce yourself.
Then say say something of substance, preferably related to something you have read in their profile or on the forum, or maybe a photo, which shows why you are have chosen to send them a message. If you don't actually have anything to say then you should question why you are contacting them at all. Almost all the messages we get are utterly vacuous. We wouldn't even vaguely consider meeting anybody who don't appear to be able to have a normal conversation with us.
Keep it non-sexual. Just chat. If they don't like you as a person they are highly unlikely to let you into their bed, so prioritise chatting above everything else. We have had guys asking us about our sex lives thinking that will lead us to want to meet them. You've got to have more in your arsenal than that.
Do not, under any circumstances, suggest anything to do with meeting until you have a conversation going. There's plenty of time for that.
Your no. 1 aim should be to show you are a guy they can get on with. If you can't then you are dead in the water. If you can then you are in with a chance. "
I'm obviously not part of a couple, but this is solid advice. |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
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As above, make sure you have read their profile at least 3 times before you message. If their profile doesn't sound compatible, dont message. (Age, preference facial hair, etc incompatibility)
Don't go overboard on your initial gambit by writing War and Peace. Try and find something in their profile to base your conversation around and pay a compliment perhaps. Don't throw in a one liner as sometimes they come across as a statement ...Good Luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ger yourself to a club when they open up. Much better for meeting people as you are face to face.
You can relax have a laugh with loads of different people and lots of action to be had. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not that it's helpful advice right now but I can say for certain with us that an approach in a club is far more likely to net results.
YMMV with other couples but odds of success with us would be hugely moderated by how you interact with the male of the couple rather than by the female. She will either want to fuck you or not, and of course will demand some decent craic and a respectful tone, but ultimately she's going to be more forgiving than the male in this scenario (as will the male be if it were a single female approaching)
A little bit of gentlemanly respect and deference to the male will get you a long way towards a couple letting you in. At least it will for us. Cockiness is an instant no. |
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"Don’t send a friend request without chatting first. We hate that from single guys.
^^this for us too, friend requests without any kind of conversation will always be ignored. Id recommend throwing a wink and sending a polite message, then crosd your fingers v "
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Address the couple as a couple but assume that the profile is being handled by the man which will guarantee you'll get the etiquette correct. You have face pictures on your profile but if you didn't it would be advisable to send one with your message. Couples get loads of requests to meet so your message has to stand out and without face pictures it'll be deleted or forgotten about.
Read the couples profile and read it again and determine what they might have in common with you or what they might find attractive about you, not the other way around. If you manage to get this part right you're guaranteed a reply, even if it is 'no thanks'. We would always respond to someone who has made a proper effort and sounds decent and respectful. Being invited into the bedroom of a couple is a huge privilege and mark of trust and respect and the single guy's that get this understand what this means and are generally successful on here. What makes Fabs so frustrating for most is there's such a lot of chancers and fakes on here or just lazy arrogant people who think it is a site for a quick easy shag! How wrong they are.
On the plus side, your profile reads well with varied pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Say "Hello" before anything else. It's amazing how few people omit this part before going straight into how they want to smash somebody back doors in. God only know how they function in society with conversational priorities like that.
Then introduce yourself.
Then say say something of substance, preferably related to something you have read in their profile or on the forum, or maybe a photo, which shows why you are have chosen to send them a message. If you don't actually have anything to say then you should question why you are contacting them at all. Almost all the messages we get are utterly vacuous. We wouldn't even vaguely consider meeting anybody who don't appear to be able to have a normal conversation with us.
Keep it non-sexual. Just chat. If they don't like you as a person they are highly unlikely to let you into their bed, so prioritise chatting above everything else. We have had guys asking us about our sex lives thinking that will lead us to want to meet them. You've got to have more in your arsenal than that.
Do not, under any circumstances, suggest anything to do with meeting until you have a conversation going. There's plenty of time for that.
Your no. 1 aim should be to show you are a guy they can get on with. If you can't then you are dead in the water. If you can then you are in with a chance.
I'm obviously not part of a couple, but this is solid advice. "
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"Address the couple as a couple but assume that the profile is being handled by the man which will guarantee you'll get the etiquette correct. You have face pictures on your profile but if you didn't it would be advisable to send one with your message. Couples get loads of requests to meet so your message has to stand out and without face pictures it'll be deleted or forgotten about.
Read the couples profile and read it again and determine what they might have in common with you or what they might find attractive about you, not the other way around. If you manage to get this part right you're guaranteed a reply, even if it is 'no thanks'. We would always respond to someone who has made a proper effort and sounds decent and respectful. Being invited into the bedroom of a couple is a huge privilege and mark of trust and respect and the single guy's that get this understand what this means and are generally successful on here. What makes Fabs so frustrating for most is there's such a lot of chancers and fakes on here or just lazy arrogant people who think it is a site for a quick easy shag! How wrong they are.
On the plus side, your profile reads well with varied pictures."
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