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Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.
If it wasn’t you could be sat round a dinner table with a group of friends and quite comfortably say ‘ anyone else enjoy swinging like we do’ but you just can’t . It’s one of the last taboos. |
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over a year ago
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"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.
If it wasn’t you could be sat round a dinner table with a group of friends and quite comfortably say ‘ anyone else enjoy swinging like we do’ but you just can’t . It’s one of the last taboos. "
Haha but we are tho... A brilliant, brightly coloured pack of wierdos who sparkle wherever we go... That's part of the joy, we don't need to fit in to society's idea of 'normal' we make our own rules and live a life that makes us happy not one that makes us fit in.... Who wants to be a shade of magnolia blending in as they make their way through life? |
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"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.
If it wasn’t you could be sat round a dinner table with a group of friends and quite comfortably say ‘ anyone else enjoy swinging like we do’ but you just can’t . It’s one of the last taboos. "
I wish i had such friend lol
To be honest its not fear its jealousy that gets in the way of swingers.
To explain i would say;
imagine a couple who are your friends and you admittedly told them that you swing.
The male may be jealous that his wife or GF is now a target for your partner and you are totally ok with this.
The female maybe jealous that her partner would be invited by you or your partner to join looool
People are jealous and they may steer clear because they don't want to share their partners.
I hope i have explained myself properly lol |
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Those of you open about the lifestyle are very brave or just don't give two... I'm sure I would be seen as a degenerate if friends and family knew lol... |
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"Those of you open about the lifestyle are very brave or just don't give two... I'm sure I would be seen as a degenerate if friends and family knew lol... "
I get that it’s a risky decision to make.. you could end up with no friends or family.. i guess am just lucky as far as my friends are concerned.
My son however was told at 18 as thats the age you can join fab and I didn’t want his mates maybe coming across me and taking the piss.
And anyone els who actually thinks pming me and asking would a take him to a club with me, get a grip of your sick minds .. very disturbing question  |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
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No we wouldn’t disclose it to vanilla friends.
Just a thought sprung after reading the posts from a couple of single women above, saying they don’t mind who knows. I wonder if generally people would “mind” less and might just regard that as being “ok” - an independent woman going to a swinging club to have fun in a safe environment. I think a lot of people might think “good luck to her”.
Whereas many people probably take the view that when a couple dies it there must be something wrong with their relationship. A decent subsection of these would secretly be jealous.
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"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.
If it wasn’t you could be sat round a dinner table with a group of friends and quite comfortably say ‘ anyone else enjoy swinging like we do’ but you just can’t . It’s one of the last taboos. "
It's just that most british people are clueless about sex and have a horrid old fashioned view of it, thankfully the rest of Europe is a lot more openminded about sex. |
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It entirely depends on your friend-group. I have what I would call 'sex-friends', 'music friends' and 'other friends' so depending on who I'm with, I can say what I like.... |
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"Obviously I disagree with that statement but that’s the opinion of a majority of the population.
If it wasn’t you could be sat round a dinner table with a group of friends and quite comfortably say ‘ anyone else enjoy swinging like we do’ but you just can’t . It’s one of the last taboos. "
Early intro to this life we went on a swinger cruise ...2000 couples...shared meal times ..conversations ..couldnt believe just how nice people could be ...it was an education ...it was great to be amongst a load of like minded folk..if every body did it maybe swinging wouldnt be as exciting  |
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Its easy to develop a sense of normality when you are engaged deeply in the swinging scene that isn't reflected in the wider public. I learned early on that my 'normal' friends didn't have the same enthusiasm that I had for watching their partner getting fucked hard by others. |
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I don’t think there will nearly as many ‘weirdo pervert’ comments directed at the single male ( or even single female ) swingers as us married couples . After all they are just sowing their wild oats and that’s normal for single people to do but for two married couples to swap sexual partners or dare I say go to orgies and gangbangs together is definitely considered perverted by most non swingers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's also worth noting that terms like 'pervert' or 'slut' are held very differently within a community like ours.
Those used to be negative terms, in the same way things like 'queer' used to be a slur - these words have been reclaimed and no longer mean the same things. |
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By *andboyMan
over a year ago
Calne |
"It entirely depends on your friend-group. I have what I would call 'sex-friends', 'music friends' and 'other friends' so depending on who I'm with, I can say what I like...."
I would add family to this list. It is all down to knowing that this may be a divisive topic and only discussing what is accepted in that circle. I also make a point of not discussing politics especially Brexit with certain people. I would sooner keep my friends than open divisions. |
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We have actually told a couple of our closest friends about what we get up to. They were interested in finding out about it but only from a curiosity point of view. It certainly didn’t affect our friendship and now becomes a bit of an in joke about us being dirty buggers. We would never look to play with vanilla friends, ever.
We would also never look to introduce swinging friends to vanilla friends. Everyone has a right anonymity and we respect that 100%. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People could help the situation but not using words like 'naughty' or 'dirty' to describe themselves. If people want to normalise it, stop making it seem like you're doing something wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm of the opinion that if more couples paid attention to making sure their other half was sexually fulfilled, there's be a lot less cheating.
Helping each other fulfil sexual fantasies can actually bring some couples closer together.
Sure, the opposite can also happen, but that's where communication is key.
If I was married and my wife had a fantasy I couldn't fulfil for her - what would be the point in denying her?
Better to let her indulge with people who know how to play safe, than for her to take her chances in a club or pub...
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I'm a weirdo who is perverted. Luckily I met my Husband 25 years ago and he is as equally weird and perverted. 
I will add though, that I encourage 'Weird' as 'Normal' when using the word with my kids.
I wouldn't want to upset anyone by calling them wierd or perverted though as I don't see it as a negative. I use these words how I want to and that's positively.
Jo.Xx
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
Ok so I have my friends that I would categorise in the following boxes
1) ex swingers and some non vanilla friends who no longer swing but have known them for years. They know I swing, so they may ask how is clubbing going or what not. (Include non vanilla in this because they know I swing)
2) current swinging friends. The discussion may be a more detailed but it will be more on going to clubs at etc
3) non swinging / non vanilla (football friends) I keep it off the table. May say I had sex with a lady etc but nothing more than that.
4) work certainly not
Tbh as a lot of my friends know anyway it may get mentioned but not in detail |
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It's fine keeping a swinging lifestyle a secret from regular friends. People can be too judgemental.
I like the fact people know me in one mode and not another. It's a bit like being a superhero rather than a pervert.
Ok a pervy superhero if you like.
I like the fact some of my friends haven't a clue.
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