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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
Try and find a nice friendly couple or single person who is on your wavelength. Chat first on the phone so you are not a complete stranger to them. Maybe set a limit for your first meet. Then just enjoy x
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Hi, we've been swinging on and off (mostly off) for 20 years and we both still get nervous.
I'd suggest:
*only do it if you're both sure - nerves is one thing, not up for it is another
*Try a club. Treat it at as a night at the pub with no expectation of play. People are friendly; although like a night at the pub without mates it's easier to get chatting
if you're outgoing (we're not)
*Go for a few drinks with the couple you want to meet before you play...or even have a none play social |
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"Hi, we've been swinging on and off (mostly off) for 20 years and we both still get nervous.
I'd suggest:
*only do it if you're both sure - nerves is one thing, not up for it is another
*Try a club. Treat it at as a night at the pub with no expectation of play. People are friendly; although like a night at the pub without mates it's easier to get chatting
if you're outgoing (we're not)
*Go for a few drinks with the couple you want to meet before you play...or even have a none play social"
Exactly this, a club is perfect for your first time, you can sit back and comfortably enjoy the naughtiness and maybe play together without any pressure.
Although given current climate you may not want to wait, in which case have a social with a couple you like. Just the energy of doing something like that and being able to talk about sex with strangers will make it a great night for you.
Advice would be to start slowly, it’s better to wake up the next day wishing you’d gone further, than to wake up regretting something. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
"She has chatted a couple of times and did a couple of cam sessions but was very d*unk
We got verifications which was encouraging"
Shouldn't this be a couples profile? Anyway, look for a well verified, experienced guy read the veris and start chatting, took us five weeks to find the right person. |
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A couple profile would definitely be a good idea, let her build her confidence a bit by having a look around the forums and chatting to people. Also, I think a lot of people will be put off by a solo male profile claiming to be a couple, even with verifications.
I'd say a good conversation, when sober, is needed to establish fully whether it is really nerves or whether she actually isn't really into the idea & hence needs the Dutch courage. If she needs to be very d*unk to play on cam then I'd be concerned the same would be true in a face to face meet & that raises lots of red flags regarding the issue of consent.
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
wirral |
I’d encourage her to chat to people, I chatted briefly with her a couple of wks ago. To me it’s all about building a connection, so that when you do meet it’s less awkward. Nerves for me are part and parcel of it or rather nervous anticipation but if you’ve already hit it off with them to an extent beforehand it’s better. Even a phone call maybe x |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"We are hoping to meet after lockdown wife is do nervous though any tips on how to get over them"
Have you been to clubs, they are a good way to ease into swinging, you can chat, watch or do as much or as little as you want when it suits you, many people use clubs for sex with each other, some like to be watch while the have sex with each other, others like to talk to people who have watched etc. |
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"She has chatted a couple of times and did a couple of cam sessions but was very d*unk
We got verifications which was encouraging"
Sorry, I’m a little confused. Why are the veri’s encouraging under these circumstances?
Honestly, this sounds like a lot more than just nerves. Being very d*unk before cam just sounds like she’s trying to please you. I think she needs the pressure taken off of her. If was meeting with and she was this nervous then I’d say no thank you and leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was so nervous on my first meet but we had a drink and a chat and relaxed and had some good fun
I still get nervous now meeting new people just turn up and have a drink and a chat and then see if you wish to play or not you never have to play if you dont wish too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chat for a good while first and really try to get to know what you all like. Share pics of yourselves and of your likes.. Meet socially and flirt like mad |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am so going to get a new one ripped for this
But in my opinion if anyone needs to get d*unk to play then they don't really want to and are just doing it to please there partner.
As I say only my opinion.
Now getting my tin hat on.
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
We found a club environment very much eased the way ... you can control how and with whom you play. You might be surprised how quick a lady can be turned on by the availability of choice and attention. x |
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Have a read of the story I recently put up of when we first visited a club.
She was extremely nervous but completely shocked me once she relaxed and got going.
Its titled - Young couple's First time visit to swingers club (TRUE) |
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By *ohn1953Man
over a year ago
North Wales |
"We are hoping to meet after lockdown wife is do nervous though any tips on how to get over them"
I wrote a true story in here of (my meet with with a first time couple ) Michelle and Steve and you see that they was nervous too . Just have a read . |
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