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An unread message means they have not read the message. A deleted message means they have deleted the message. A read and deleted message means they have opened the message, and deleted it.
Unless you get a reply, just assume "no interest". Ladies can get multiple hundreds of messages a day. The only inference to take from unread, is that they haven't read it, and it's probably lost in their inbox...
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Often we leave some messages as unread because both of us must read it before we respond. We both have fab on the phones.
When we are at work and I check the message, I always mark it as unread until Kama will not see it. Or we just discuss it at home later before responding.
Some messages are deleted without reading if we see that someone who txt’ed us did not read our profile. If he/she/they did not bother to read the profile, why we should bother and read someone’s message. |
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"I know ladies get loads of messages, I currently have 49 unread ones I've sent,Does this mean their not interested or just had mass delete ? Asking for a friend, lol"
If they were deleted wether read or not it would show deleted in your sent box! |
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"I know ladies get loads of messages, I currently have 49 unread ones I've sent,Does this mean their not interested or just had mass delete ? Asking for a friend, lol"
They might be leaving them there because after a certain number/ length of time they disappear from our inbox. It saves deleting and upsetting anyone. |
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"I know ladies get loads of messages, I currently have 49 unread ones I've sent,Does this mean their not interested or just had mass delete ? Asking for a friend, lol"
Horrible though it does feel OP, shrug your shoulders and more on.
Once had over 60 unread messages so rather than feeling tortured by them every time I checked my sent box I deleted them all. |
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I take unread as unseen, read but not deleted as either pondering or not interested, and deleted as totally not interested.
If a message I’ve sent hasn’t been read, I will always risk one more to see if I can get there attention, but give up after that. This has worked for me in the past. |
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This is the second thread about this today - you're torturing yourself looking at sent items. If they want to reply, they will, if they don't want to, they won't.
Also, they might be busy, you might have sunk down their inbox, or they might not like the look of you, whichever it is, move on to the next profile. Harsh but fair. |
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"I know ladies get loads of messages, I currently have 49 unread ones I've sent,Does this mean their not interested or just had mass delete ? Asking for a friend, lol"
I delete messages because I am not interested. If I read it and reply, what ever I say, most men think I'm just playing hard to get and carry on messaging me so it's so much easier to delete. Plus I get too many to read so I usually read 1 out of 20. The message needs to be interesting and polite for me to read, the guy needs to meet my criteria. Hope this babble of info helped you to understand  |
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"This is the second thread about this today - you're torturing yourself looking at sent items. If they want to reply, they will, if they don't want to, they won't.
Also, they might be busy, you might have sunk down their inbox, or they might not like the look of you, whichever it is, move on to the next profile. Harsh but fair."
yeah I rarely check if my messages been read |
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"This is the second thread about this today - you're torturing yourself looking at sent items. If they want to reply, they will, if they don't want to, they won't.
Also, they might be busy, you might have sunk down their inbox, or they might not like the look of you, whichever it is, move on to the next profile. Harsh but fair.
yeah I rarely check if my messages been read"
It seems to be a guy thing on here more than anyone else - I guess because they're often the ones doing the chasing. |
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I sometimes hate the load that dealing with messages gets me feeling, so I deal with them a bit randomly. If we were meeting and they could relate to appointments, I'd take them as potentially urgent but that's not the case.
Even if you are getting replies, it's still better to accept that most people you speak with will not ultimately be compatible and result in a meet when it's possible. For this reason, continue to speak with many people and forget those who you have messaged until and if they reply.
Don't obsess about what read, unread etc means, just take those replies in your inbox as the relevant ones |
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