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Dose it mean a person is now gay ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
Lay down on the couch and tell us all about it... |
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
*does... And what do you think OP?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP? "
to be honest I'm not sure , it could just be a long held fantasy that's not as nice as you had hoped for in real life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You try alcohol once, you don't like it are you now an alcoholic? No.
Youve satisfied your curiosity so why stress. You arent gay i wouldnt say so anyway. How do you feel OP?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP? to be honest I'm not sure , it could just be a long held fantasy that's not as nice as you had hoped for in real life."
Has said person previously been with the opposite sex?
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP? "
Having perfect spelling on the forum is not compulsory, please don't correct people as it puts people off from posting |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP?
Having perfect spelling on the forum is not compulsory, please don't correct people as it puts people off from posting"
if that's about my spelling of grammar , its because I'm dyslexic and yes some people's comments do put people off .
But please let's stay on topic . |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP? to be honest I'm not sure , it could just be a long held fantasy that's not as nice as you had hoped for in real life."
Fantasies can work that way. May be that particular time / person /circumstance or maybe it’s not for you. Don’t put a label on it though, but if you must then no, one time doesn’t class a person as “gay”. We both like a bit of bi fun but wouldn’t label ourselves as bisexual - or anything for that matter. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP?
Having perfect spelling on the forum is not compulsory, please don't correct people as it puts people off from postingif that's about my spelling of grammar , its because I'm dyslexic and yes some people's comments do put people off .
But please let's stay on topic ."
Sometimes mods can't stay on topic while trying to defend posters but I will bear that in mind for the future |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP? to be honest I'm not sure , it could just be a long held fantasy that's not as nice as you had hoped for in real life.
Has said person previously been with the opposite sex? Doesn't matter for this question.
Its just a topic for discussion.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP?
Having perfect spelling on the forum is not compulsory, please don't correct people as it puts people off from postingif that's about my spelling of grammar , its because I'm dyslexic and yes some people's comments do put people off .
But please let's stay on topic .
Sometimes mods can't stay on topic while trying to defend posters but I will bear that in mind for the future"
Sorry I didn't know your a mod , and thank you for defending me . |
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
I guess it depends how that person defines themselves OP, if they're naturally attracted to people of the same sex (rather than it being a fetish activity), then maybe they are.
If they've had an experience as an experiment then they're probably not, but I do believe people should be able to define themselves however they want to  |
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
Of course not.
If you tried being a vegetarian but went back to eating meat because you didn’t like just eating vegetables, you’re not a vegetarian.
Don’t stress about it OP, as long as you’re not hurting anyone, what does it matter anyway? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
Of course not.
If you tried being a vegetarian but went back to eating meat because you didn’t like just eating vegetables, you’re not a vegetarian.
Don’t stress about it OP, as long as you’re not hurting anyone, what does it matter anyway?"
lol I'm not talking about me here , I'm just putting a topic out there to discuss that's all ( and for other coments I'm not putting lables on people either ) |
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Hi Op, it’s Thursday not yet the weekend so people can be grumpy on here. 
You decide your sexuality nobody else, plenty of people go through phases in their lives and experiment with their sexuality or desires.
If you actively desire a long term commitment to another person of the same sex then you’re in a homosexual relationship. If you fancy men as much as women you’re most likely to be bisexual.
Homosexuality and bisexuality is about relationships more than sex in my opinion.
So a sex act is just that, it’s an act, something you try and if you like it, do it again if not that’s fine as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What is the constant need to label? How do you ever explore anything if you have to know in advance you'll like it.
If you didn't like it, its an 'activity' you are unlikely to try again ... But never say never, as it may just have been that the moon and stars were not aligned that time
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hi Op, it’s Thursday not yet the weekend so people can be grumpy on here.
You decide your sexuality nobody else, plenty of people go through phases in their lives and experiment with their sexuality or desires.
If you actively desire a long term commitment to another person of the same sex then you’re in a homosexual relationship. If you fancy men as much as women you’re most likely to be bisexual.
Homosexuality and bisexuality is about relationships more than sex in my opinion.
So a sex act is just that, it’s an act, something you try and if you like it, do it again if not that’s fine as well "
well said. |
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"Hi Op, it’s Thursday not yet the weekend so people can be grumpy on here.
You decide your sexuality nobody else, plenty of people go through phases in their lives and experiment with their sexuality or desires.
If you actively desire a long term commitment to another person of the same sex then you’re in a homosexual relationship. If you fancy men as much as women you’re most likely to be bisexual.
Homosexuality and bisexuality is about relationships more than sex in my opinion.
So a sex act is just that, it’s an act, something you try and if you like it, do it again if not that’s fine as well "
Too right!
I'd add that I'd hope that we all have the right to define ourselves in the way we choose (although others don't always accept this).
As a self defined bi man (genuinly more or less 50/50 attraction) I'm not happy when people assume that I'm either a closeted gay man or a straight man experimenting.
Point is I define my sexuality not others (and if I wanna change how I define, that's cool too) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have I missed something as there are some sneering answers on here
To the OP, the person tried it, didn't like it so no, it doesn't make you gay."
Was “no, it doesn’t make YOU gay” a Freudian slip? |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"Have I missed something as there are some sneering answers on here
To the OP, the person tried it, didn't like it so no, it doesn't make you gay."
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You are and were correct.
PEOPLE ffs Just be nice unless someone is rued to you.
Even then be nice as it makes them look really silly
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?
*does... And what do you think OP?
Having perfect spelling on the forum is not compulsory, please don't correct people as it puts people off from posting"
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100% agreed with you..
Grow up peps.
We are not all *PRIVITE* SKOOL "A" class students on here lol.
If you understand it except it and be nice and comment.
If you dont understand the O.P message, then ask politely,or don't comment and hit next post IMPO.
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Wow so much barking at a guy asking a question Wow!
OP you can be gay one day bi the nest and straight on the 3rd and back and forth. If you start as heterosexual like most you are not heterosexual for ever you can change your orientation and become gay or bi and you can change your mind back its all what you feel in your head not what someone else who doesn't know you says you are.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Op , are you asking for a friend ?"
no I'm not asking for a friend OR MYSELF, I just asked a question as a topic on the forum , but for some reason some people have gone off on 1 lol.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wow so much barking at a guy asking a question Wow!
OP you can be gay one day bi the nest and straight on the 3rd and back and forth. If you start as heterosexual like most you are not heterosexual for ever you can change your orientation and become gay or bi and you can change your mind back its all what you feel in your head not what someone else who doesn't know you says you are.yes I just asked a question that alls, and for some reason people cant understand or just want to have a go at me .
I dont think I will post again .
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I’m not sure if I should be adding fuel to the fire, but here goes...
No it doesn’t.
Apparently nearly half of under 25s now consider themselves non-binary in their sexual persuasion and reject labels like gay/straight/bi.
For the most part I consider myself a largely straight man who has a very specific type of men that I will play with from time to time. Those being either black tops or cute/effeminate twink bottoms.
I like variety and would never think of a relationship with a person of the same gender, but why deny myself what has in the past been a very pleasurable experience. Particularly with young effeminate twinks who live the idea of a ‘straight’ daddy.
I don’t care what label anyone appends to me. I’m safe and sane and keep my partners safe too. I’d say that of the people I’ve had sex with, 85% have been female.
I’m not gay and bi seems not to effectively describe me. I have a largely gay female friend who enjoys cock occasionally and I am one of her regular gentlemen when she has the urge.
She calls herself queer and says I am too. I personally don’t care about labels at all.
I could never fall in love with a man, but the odd bit of play is fun. |
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"I’m not sure if I should be adding fuel to the fire, but here goes...
No it doesn’t.
Apparently nearly half of under 25s now consider themselves non-binary in their sexual persuasion and reject labels like gay/straight/bi.
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Nearly half?! I'll call bullshit that. Let's see some data... |
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"I’m not sure if I should be adding fuel to the fire, but here goes...
No it doesn’t.
Apparently nearly half of under 25s now consider themselves non-binary in their sexual persuasion and reject labels like gay/straight/bi.
Nearly half?! I'll call bullshit that. Let's see some data... "
Here you go. The source is YouGov, so pretty robust...
https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/2015/08/16/half-young-not-heterosexual |
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"I’m not sure if I should be adding fuel to the fire, but here goes...
No it doesn’t.
Apparently nearly half of under 25s now consider themselves non-binary in their sexual persuasion and reject labels like gay/straight/bi.
Nearly half?! I'll call bullshit that. Let's see some data...
Here you go. The source is YouGov, so pretty robust...
https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/2015/08/16/half-young-not-heterosexual"
So no, it doesn't support what you said then. Picking 1 on the kinsey scale doesn't relate to formally rejecting labels of sexuality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For myself I don't mind what anyone wants to try or how they view or label themselves, it's their choice in life & hopefully they have the freedom to do so without grief & too much question. I also see no harm in dipping your foot in the water so to speak, after all you don't know unless you try & if it causes no harm or distress then why not?
I personally don't enjoy the MMF experience or one on one with another man but I've had experiences & a lot of fun with a TV/CD who was a friend of my girlfriend at the time & she was present, joining in.
I don't consider myself as gay because of it but I do have thoughts about the possibilities of some fun with another TV/CD if they appeal to me! Is this considered as gay? |
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"I’m not sure if I should be adding fuel to the fire, but here goes...
No it doesn’t.
Apparently nearly half of under 25s now consider themselves non-binary in their sexual persuasion and reject labels like gay/straight/bi.
Nearly half?! I'll call bullshit that. Let's see some data...
Here you go. The source is YouGov, so pretty robust...
https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/2015/08/16/half-young-not-heterosexual
So no, it doesn't support what you said then. Picking 1 on the kinsey scale doesn't relate to formally rejecting labels of sexuality. "
Well I’m not on here to win arguments, but the report does say 49% of under 24s reject the label of heterosexual. That much is clear.
I’m happy to let this go. We are unlikely to agree, so I suggest that we acknowledge out differences and keep this thread friction free. |
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"I’m not sure if I should be adding fuel to the fire, but here goes...
No it doesn’t.
Apparently nearly half of under 25s now consider themselves non-binary in their sexual persuasion and reject labels like gay/straight/bi.
Nearly half?! I'll call bullshit that. Let's see some data...
Here you go. The source is YouGov, so pretty robust...
https://yougov.co.uk/topics/lifestyle/articles-reports/2015/08/16/half-young-not-heterosexual
So no, it doesn't support what you said then. Picking 1 on the kinsey scale doesn't relate to formally rejecting labels of sexuality.
Well I’m not on here to win arguments, but the report does say 49% of under 24s reject the label of heterosexual. That much is clear.
I’m happy to let this go. We are unlikely to agree, so I suggest that we acknowledge out differences and keep this thread friction free."
Again, no it doesn't say that. The word "label" doesn't appear once in the entire thing. The change of language takes some reasonably predictable data and frames it as some explicit activist stance. Again, choosing a "1" doesn't equate any specific engagement in gender politics etc.
But that's just me liking to dig into data and how it's interpreted rather than any particular position. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
not just gay proper alice in wonderland gay you are automatically legaly obliged to attend which ever your closest pride is hope this clears things up op.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t get why people are so happy to judge others , how do you know what you like or dislike until you try things , "
I think you definitely know if a man don’t turn you on like a women does. When I walk past a man in the street I don’t think of him sexually in any shape or form. A women on the other hand  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t get why people are so happy to judge others , how do you know what you like or dislike until you try things , "
That's not really the question I asked. |
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"I don’t get why people are so happy to judge others , how do you know what you like or dislike until you try things ,
That's not really the question I asked."
Haven't we long dealt with what you asked?
And it is about what you asked, it's absurd to suggest applying a label like homosexual for one thing you didn't know if you'd enjoy or not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don’t get why people are so happy to judge others , how do you know what you like or dislike until you try things ,
That's not really the question I asked.
Haven't we long dealt with what you asked?
Who has given a label to anyone? Certainly not me and just for the record it's not only you opinion that counts ,theres other people who haven't seen the post yet may and give there point of view as well.
If you dont like the topic you don't have to join in .
And it is about what you asked, it's absurd to suggest applying a label like homosexual for one thing you didn't know if you'd enjoy or not."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not,the person was obviously curious ,so went with the same sex,realised it wasn't for them,so just put it behind you"
This is just a question I put up for discussion and is not _ased on my own or the experience of anyone else I know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not,the person was obviously curious ,so went with the same sex,realised it wasn't for them,so just put it behind you
This is just a question I put up for discussion and is not _ased on my own or the experience of anyone else I know."
I didn't say it was ,I was only replying to your question |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
Asking for a friend? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
No way ...,,, it’s like trying anything in life.
That’s like saying if you eat at a Vegan restaurant, you’re now Vegan.... |
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i genuinely think people who ask these questions are trying to feel less guilty about their tendencies.....if you don't know what basic meanings of words are at 58 years of age then you have a problem...as for "experimenting"...never heard as much bollocks in my life,a straight guy would never be interested in someone of the same sex,wtf do you think the word 'straight' actually means...again it makes them feel less guilty using idiotic terms like that.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you are no longer attracted to someone of the same sex, no.
If you want to try again for a better experience, maybes."
I disagree. I enjoy sex with another woman but i do not want a relationship with one as i prefer cock more  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i genuinely think people who ask these questions are trying to feel less guilty about their tendencies.....if you don't know what basic meanings of words are at 58 years of age then you have a problem...as for "experimenting"...never heard as much bollocks in my life,a straight guy would never be interested in someone of the same sex,wtf do you think the word 'straight' actually means...again it makes them feel less guilty using idiotic terms like that...."
You are so lo wrong on so many levels with your coments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are there anymore thoughts on this topic?
There's not really anything to think. It's not something that needs to be thought about as the answer is no, it doesn't make them gay."
you don't think it would make em happy! Or is that not wot they ment |
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"Well that person won’t know until they try.
And it’s generally true that most people tend to regret what they didn’t do in life, rather than what they did. "
I like this piece of philosophy I think I will steal it if you don't mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a man or woman goes with a person of the same sex and didn't enjoy it and never wants to repeat it dose that now mean they are gay ?"
Probably. If a man touched another man's cock then he almost certainly will have contracted Gay-19. |
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By *av501TV/TS
over a year ago
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I hate labels like gay or lesbian etc...... they are so TOO often used as a POSITIVE discrimination tool or lever whatever to prove a point by those who use that label for themselves ...WTF has a label got to do with sharing and experiencing joy fun laughter lust desire release relief......if consenting adults of legal capacity share sexual experiences together with whomever they choose. Im full ALPHA male but enjoy sexual experiences with men too..... this site and its patrons ......many of whom have narrow minds and beliefs ...creates labels and discrimination ....believe me. Eg... a couple who state they are both Bi block guys who CD.... ???? however most cd guys look and probs perform better than the female of that couple and are wearing the same attire. OR they have a hang up about guys who give anal ....but have a string of photos on their profile.. getting bummed by numurous diff guys bareback.... excuse me when did a sphincter become different between the sexes ????? NO IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU ANYTHING UNLESS YOU GROW EXTRA FINGERS AND TOES COS YOU TOUCHED ANOTHER MANS WILLY....... OR YOU WISH TO PLACE A LABEL ON YOURSELF !!!!! HALF THE POEPLE ON HERE SHOULD NOT BE ON HERE AS THEY ARE PURE BIGOTS. |
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"I hate labels like gay or lesbian etc...... they are so TOO often used as a POSITIVE discrimination tool or lever whatever to prove a point by those who use that label for themselves ...WTF has a label got to do with sharing and experiencing joy fun laughter lust desire release relief......if consenting adults of legal capacity share sexual experiences together with whomever they choose. Im full ALPHA male but enjoy sexual experiences with men too..... this site and its patrons ......many of whom have narrow minds and beliefs ...creates labels and discrimination ....believe me. Eg... a couple who state they are both Bi block guys who CD.... ???? however most cd guys look and probs perform better than the female of that couple and are wearing the same attire. OR they have a hang up about guys who give anal ....but have a string of photos on their profile.. getting bummed by numurous diff guys bareback.... excuse me when did a sphincter become different between the sexes ????? NO IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU ANYTHING UNLESS YOU GROW EXTRA FINGERS AND TOES COS YOU TOUCHED ANOTHER MANS WILLY....... OR YOU WISH TO PLACE A LABEL ON YOURSELF !!!!! HALF THE POEPLE ON HERE SHOULD NOT BE ON HERE AS THEY ARE PURE BIGOTS."
where do you think the world would be if words didn't have meanings?
you are living in a dream world...have you shared your view with any non fab members(people in the real world) & if so what did they make of them?
that 'label' nonsense is just a cop out |
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By *av501TV/TS
over a year ago
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you are living in a dream world...have you shared your view with any non fab members(people in the real world) & if so what did they make of them?
that 'label' nonsense is just a cop out
Sorry is somone suffering from lockdown opinion stress......
Is you last sentence not what ive just pointed out ?? Sorry to of given a VIEW on a public forum .....my whole point is the world has gone LABEL and PIGEONHOLING mad ........just do as you feel free to do enjoy life, be kind, dknt hurt no one and dont worry about whether or not you have crossed into the Dark Side and become a LABEL ...bigger fish to fry |
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