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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " Bit rude, bit racist, yep. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " What would you suggest then? If the site let you use other criteria when blocking who you want messages from then fair enough but it doesn’t you can only block on gender, couple etc.. M | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion What would you suggest then? If the site let you use other criteria when blocking who you want messages from then fair enough but it doesn’t you can only block on gender, couple etc.. M" Just have the decency to treat them as individuals, however brief. | |||
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"Honestly it's just a preference. Some women say "no white guys" and I've seen it from not just white women on this site hut black women as well. If they said something insulting and derogatory then yes be upset. But as a fellow black guy, everyone has a right tone preference. Just respectfully disagreeing with you on this, take care." Ignorant racism isn't "just" anything. | |||
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"no matter what someone put on a profile you will always get people who have trouble with it. simple answer is. its not your profile so bugger all to do with you. if you dont like it block them. you dont get to tell others what to do. " Just like in real life, right? They don't want to wear a mask? Bugger all to do with you. EDL are marching through London? Bugger all to do with you. A women being beaten her her abusive husband? Bugger all to do with you. | |||
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"We have seen profiles saying no Asians , I don’t look at it as racist , just a preference " | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " I see BBC/mixed race more than I see white guys only! So I think it's in equilibrium | |||
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"I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases). There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc. I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply. " | |||
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"Honestly it's just a preference. Some women say "no white guys" and I've seen it from not just white women on this site hut black women as well. If they said something insulting and derogatory then yes be upset. But as a fellow black guy, everyone has a right tone preference. Just respectfully disagreeing with you on this, take care. Ignorant racism isn't "just" anything." I honestly don't see it like that, for me it could just be features on white guys that black guys may not have, like blue or green eyes or blonde hair. Yes it might seem harsh but I always strive for equality and like I said there are several mixed race and black women here who say "no white guys" do we call that racist?? If your answer no then you can't call this racist. I will always defend someone's right to their own preference as long as they are not being derogatory about it. As long as they are not being stereotypical etc. But if they say sorry no black guys, not my/our preference then ok and move on. We all have ethnic preferences which we should be ok with it. Now balancing the argument a bit, can someone who says no black guys be racist? Of course but the act of saying that their preference isn't for black guys doesn't make them a racist. I hope you guys understand. Personally I tend to block women and couples who don't prefer black guys so that I don't make a mistake and contact them or fab their photos or wink them by accident. Hope I've added something constructive to the overall discourse on this subject matter. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember " | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion Bit rude, bit racist, yep." Is it racist really? Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour? I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences. It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember "It depends though, if a white person is saying it, no racism but if a black woman says it, I can see ppl taking it as being racist. But I'm supportive of your views that it's just a preference, to each their own. But was just drawing a distinction,  | |||
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"I say get over it snowflake Hardly racism is it just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it? Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black? Don't like it just move on not your issue is it! Zzzzzzzz" What she said! lol | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
It depends though, if a white person is saying it, no racism but if a black woman says it, I can see ppl taking it as being racist. But I'm supportive of your views that it's just a preference, to each their own. But was just drawing a distinction, "I maybe misunderstanding you here but why would it be deemed racist if a black lady says she only likes black men? | |||
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"I say get over it snowflake Hardly racism is it just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it? Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black? Don't like it just move on not your issue is it! Zzzzzzzz" Wow, all the clichéd buzz words. Oh no, you forgot "jog on". | |||
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"I'll just add this again, while we may not agree with the OP poont of view. We can respect it. I can understand where he is coming from and so can other black ppl as well. I always say this, unless if you are a black person you will never understand what we went through nor will you ever understand what we go through on a daily basis. While I don't think it is racist to say "no black guys, our preference" do understand that as black ppl we've seen signs "no black ppl welcome" "toilets for black persons only" etc. So I'm just saying, don't call him a snowflake or try to insult him, because we may share different opinions on this bit at least you can be respectful to the OP and his views." Sorry, when have you ever seen signs like that? You're talking about USA in Jim Crow era. | |||
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"I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases). There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc. I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply. " It's not the same as those examples aren't attributes that manifestly influence your entire life, frequently to your significant detriment, from birth to death. A positive phrasing still feels dubious, but I presume is preferable. | |||
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"I'll just add this again, while we may not agree with the OP poont of view. We can respect it. I can understand where he is coming from and so can other black ppl as well. I always say this, unless if you are a black person you will never understand what we went through nor will you ever understand what we go through on a daily basis. While I don't think it is racist to say "no black guys, our preference" do understand that as black ppl we've seen signs "no black ppl welcome" "toilets for black persons only" etc. So I'm just saying, don't call him a snowflake or try to insult him, because we may share different opinions on this bit at least you can be respectful to the OP and his views. Sorry, when have you ever seen signs like that? You're talking about USA in Jim Crow era. " There were signs like that in Britain. I'm not saying there are those signs now, but we do have ancestors who one they've lived in countries where they were the minority, have seen signs like that. One of close friends from Secondary school, 2 years ago was put out of a French restaurant because he was black and he was with his white wife. She wrote about the experience in a blog post. Imagine being married to a black person and still not being able to understand what we go through. Do you think I haven't faced racism since coming to the UK? One of my mother's friends who lives in London told me to be very careful when O visit Scotland because there are lots of racists. As a white person you will never experience having to travel to a place and research how racist that place is before travelling. As a white person you've never had society tell you or stereotype you as being less than human or being compared to monkeys etc. Sorry if I'm going a little of course but the point I'm trying to make is racism is still here, and sometimes black persons are triggered when they see things like "no black guys, just our preference" as a white person you wouldn't understand why a black person might take offence to that. I'm hoping that when you read this you don't read to reply but read to comprehend and understand the valid points I'm making. Again I'll reiterate, that while I think everyone is entitled to their preferences, I can understand (not agree with) but understand why a black guy will be offended by this. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion Bit rude, bit racist, yep. Is it racist really? Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour? I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences. It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time. " It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned. That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion Bit rude, bit racist, yep. Is it racist really? Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour? I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences. It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time. It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned. That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. " Exactly, don't dismiss the guy because you may not share his experience. Suppose he was bullied because of his race growing up, supposed a woman insulted him because of his race and woman or girl who he liked. That's why I said, ppl can be triggered by certain things based on their life experiences. I grew up in a country where white people make up maybe less than 3 percent of the population and that's different than growing up in a country where black people make up about 3 percent of the population. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. " Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. | |||
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"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more "Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion Bit rude, bit racist, yep. Is it racist really? Some people have preferences for tall people, people with red hair, people with hairy chests. They are allowed to air those, so why not skin colour? I mean do you sleep with everyone who asks? If not, why not? Probably because they don't meet your preferences. It's just a preference and stating it stops people wasting their time. It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned. That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. " I'm not saying it is 'not' about being racist, as it might be. But not all cases 'will' be racist either, and to say 'that' is also being overly simplistic. Personally I agree with the OP that it can come across as a little rude (note 'he' didn't say racist). Either way, would you prefer the racists to not state there preference and have black people approach them? I think it's a good thing they raise their preference so they can be avoided. | |||
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"It can certainly be innocent to *some* extent. I still don't feel that changes what it is though. I absolutely am guilty of some deep down ingrained prejudices in many ways. I'm interested in thinking about these prejudices though, justifying them, and maybe trying to change them when I feel I've explored my motivations for them if appropriate. It's "just our preference" makes no sense, and to me often feels like a warning flag in itself. Pick another subject about which people will have preferences, and they'll almost always be able to give a reason for that preference. Why don't you like Marmite? Why do you support Chelsea? Do you like being hit with a cricket bat? Daddy or Chips? Why do you wear so much purple? None of these end in "It's just my preference, shut up". No one puts up that wall when questioned about these things. Yet when questions on here arise are race of sexuality, suddenly people fall back to, inexplicably, saying there's "no reason" for their preferences... so they just poofed into their head one day for NO reason at all..?!"
Agreed, 'preference' is just a cop out, it depends on the reasons behind that preference.
"I prefer not to sleep with people of X ethnicity, because I think they're all stupid and ugly"
"well that sounds racist but you said it was your preference so I guess it can't be" | |||
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"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more
Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.
"that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong | |||
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"I actually saw one profile also where the lady says sorry, no black guys, im married to one, so want something different. Is she racist" Interesting concept! | |||
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"It can certainly be innocent to *some* extent. I still don't feel that changes what it is though. I absolutely am guilty of some deep down ingrained prejudices in many ways. I'm interested in thinking about these prejudices though, justifying them, and maybe trying to change them when I feel I've explored my motivations for them if appropriate. It's "just our preference" makes no sense, and to me often feels like a warning flag in itself. Pick another subject about which people will have preferences, and they'll almost always be able to give a reason for that preference. Why don't you like Marmite? Why do you support Chelsea? Do you like being hit with a cricket bat? Daddy or Chips? Why do you wear so much purple? None of these end in "It's just my preference, shut up". No one puts up that wall when questioned about these things. Yet when questions on here arise are race of sexuality, suddenly people fall back to, inexplicably, saying there's "no reason" for their preferences... so they just poofed into their head one day for NO reason at all..?!" I think the reason people fall back to "No reason" is they know people like you will attack them if they give a reason. Some people just don't find black skin attractive. That doesn't have to come from a place of racism, in the same way that some don't find red hair attractive, some don't find sorry people attractive and some don't find hairy chests attractive. It doesn't mean they wouldn't want a black person to be there best friend, just means they don't want to fuck them. | |||
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"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more
Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.
that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong " | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " I cannot believe someone could say that I find it disgusting... Love black peoples they’re lovely sexy and I want to see more on here | |||
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"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more
Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.
that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong "Simply a preference... blimey. Such a daft example, yes it's the same as BBC to some extent. Not seeing how that's a positive... | |||
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"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess. I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why. I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc. When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time. It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed. " Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe? | |||
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"I mean - it's racist to dismiss someone based on their skin colour, full stop. Like, there's no question that's racist - just as it's racist to seek out and fetishise someone for their skin colour. People get to decide who they have sex with, and if they use racist criteria when deciding then.. I mean, fine? It's not like we can/should do anything about it. But we don't need to live in a society where it's acceptable to say it. Maybe if the racists just quietly get old and die off then we'll be in a better place than if they're allowed to wear it on their sleeves?" Your profile dismisses gay men, so I guess by your logic that is homophobic? Are you homophobic or is it just a sexual preference? | |||
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"Your profile dismisses gay men, so I guess by your logic that is homophobic? Are you homophobic or is it just a sexual preference? " You're getting dangerously close to claiming that being gay is a choice there buddy. Maybe wind it in with the ignorant comments? | |||
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 perhaps fab should explain that it’s not racist or if it is in their eyes ban them | |||
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"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess. I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why. I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc. When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time. It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed. Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe? " Why do you want to know if I would? | |||
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"I think the reason people fall back to "No reason" is they know people like you will attack them if they give a reason. Some people just don't find black skin attractive. That doesn't have to come from a place of racism, in the same way that some don't find red hair attractive, some don't find sorry people attractive and some don't find hairy chests attractive. It doesn't mean they wouldn't want a black person to be there best friend, just means they don't want to fuck them." Like I said, I DO have some similar prejudices. I think about why, but ultimately it's some broadly intangible feeling that I can't define. A feeling like I lack a bond of connection or something. These reasons aren't necessarily bad, even though the outcome is a negative. People are a product of their society, their culture and these things are hard to shift. I'm far more likely to have a pop at someone putting up a bullshit wall of lies rather than being honest. | |||
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"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess. I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why. I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc. When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time. It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed. Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe? Why do you want to know if I would? " If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out! | |||
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"I’ve long thought it sounds racist, but thinking more about it in the context of why we are all here, I think it’s just a little thoughtless wording (in most cases). There are racists of course, but I think in most cases it’s like saying “no beer bellies”, “no oldies” or “teenies” etc. I’d rather they just said what they like rather than dislike. I.e. “our preference is x, y & z” - then if you don’t see yourself in the list then don’t stress if you don’t get a reply. " | |||
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"I see where you’re coming from OP about this, it’s down to their preferences I guess. I’m sure they have their reasons, not that I’d want to know why. I’ve seen & heard all sorts of ignorant comments about this topics made on here, in clubs etc. When I see singles & couples who arent into black men I just write private notes or just block them as it saves a lot of time. It doesn’t make you a “sNoWfLaKe” if it offends you, because for all we know it you could be offended because of personal experiences, so your feelings shouldn’t be dismissed. Would you meet a trans woman? If not, does that make you a transphobe? Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!" Im not your mate, so don’t. You’re telling me that I comment on issues like this? Man put your privilege away. | |||
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"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out!" Can you explain it? | |||
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"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out! Can you explain it?" Same point that was made to you about not having a preference for men, it doesn't make you a homophobe. Same for white, black or trans people. Just because you're not attracted to them, doesn't mean you are racist, prejudice or bigoty! | |||
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"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out! Can you explain it? Same point that was made to you about not having a preference for men, it doesn't make you a homophobe. Same for white, black or trans people. Just because you're not attracted to them, doesn't mean you are racist, prejudice or bigoty!" Sexual orientation isn't a choice though, is it. | |||
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"Why do you want to know if I would? If you can't work that out, maybe shouldn't be commenting on issues like this mate. Work it out! Can you explain it? Same point that was made to you about not having a preference for men, it doesn't make you a homophobe. Same for white, black or trans people. Just because you're not attracted to them, doesn't mean you are racist, prejudice or bigoty! Sexual orientation isn't a choice though, is it." So what? it's still a preference, whether a choice or not. What's your point? | |||
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"Your profile dismisses gay men, so I guess by your logic that is homophobic? Are you homophobic or is it just a sexual preference? You're getting dangerously close to claiming that being gay is a choice there buddy. Maybe wind it in with the ignorant comments?" No, but I am saying what you find attractive is also not a choice. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. " I think you always come across really well. | |||
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Anyway OP just move on from them, to flip those singles & couples who like black men only, just make sure they like you for you. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " I prefer them to write things like that as it puts me off them. Saves time chatting. | |||
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"To be honest, as a white fella, i love seeing BBC only or 'looking for mix/black only' etc in a profile It saves me time and energy. I cannot thank these people enough. To those who do have this preference but don't bother typing it up, please do. Its not rude at all, a preference is a preference, a fantasy is a fantasy. Respect to everyones desires." RT can everyone just stop judging everyone. It is possible that people have race fantasies as well as specific exclusion of a race because they don't feel comfortable for example with their own body or body part. It really shouldn't be that deep. | |||
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"Not being attracted to someone because of their skin colour is a bit odd but bot racist and of course people have preferences. Whats weird is having such a specific blanket ban. I mean, i dont get how someone would turn down Anthony Joshua or Bruno Mars etc... the same way I wouldn't turn down Beyonce or Ariana Grande "Ariana Grande. Don't like her music, but  | |||
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"Not racist in my opinion, simply just stating a preference. Just like if someone is only looking for BBC or 'black/asian guys only'. It's simply a preference to me nothing more
Sure are a lot of mind readers on Fabs.
that's my perception of it when I read such things, you are more than entitled to your opinion, just because others may differ that doesn't make them wrong
Simply a preference... blimey. Such a daft example, yes it's the same as BBC to some extent. Not seeing how that's a positive..."again we have our opinion on how we perceive what we read on someone's bio and you guys have yours we understand that some people won't like people writing certain things and that's cool but we don't look that much into things | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember ""Playing the racist card", classic minimisation. A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism."Totally baffles me how some people think chucking "BBC" out there somehow proves their point, rather than confirming mine. In my opinion at least! Indeed the more you talk about the imagery of a "BBC" scenario I find it painfully easy to see the explicitly racial overtones to it amazingly quickly. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism."So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?  | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist? "Why is that so hard to understand? | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. " Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist? "People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist. C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist? "Oh lord. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. " Really I thought it was just anecdotal claptrap, but each to their own. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?
Oh lord."My thoughts exactly | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?
People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.
C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff."I don’t understand how some people can’t understand this either pal. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Really I thought it was just anecdotal claptrap, but each to their own. " Isn't that what I'm saying if you're reading between lines. Of course it's claptrap hence the salt and pinches comment  | |||
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"So if i leave a message no milk today, will it upset anyone ?" No, milk is not a protected characteristic under the Equality Act 2010. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?
People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.
C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff."He’s either messing around to get a reaction or he’s being 100% serous. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?
People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.
C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff.
I don’t understand how some people can’t understand this either pal."So, that's a lot of people in general, certainly on a sex site, based mainly on preference/attraction. All them people are racist? I don't think so, sorry. Come on man! This is common sense stuff! | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember
"Playing the racist card", classic minimisation.
A preference is a preference but still so often steeped in racism. Wanting black only doesn't make you "the complete opposite of racist" as some fragile while people declare - fetishising an entire race is dehumanising and a form of racism. So let me get this right. Peope who want Black people are racist, however, people who don't are also racist?
People that seek/reject other people based purely on their skin colour are racist.
C'mon, man. This is primary school stuff.
I don’t understand how some people can’t understand this either pal. So, that's a lot of people in general, certainly on a sex site, based mainly on preference/attraction. All them people are racist? I don't think so, sorry. Come on man! This is common sense stuff!"Have a look at the dictionary definition of racism buddy, you might be surprised. | |||
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"Bloody hell it's just a preference no need to get all racist chant about it ...we all have a preference ...i am pretty open but I am a big girl and I know some folk aren't into chubby do I perfectly understand if they're not interested, I don't take offence or get all sizist about it ...this is a fun site , for fun and we can put what we prefer on our profiles ... personally I prefer to not see profiles full of dick pics nor get messages that are dick pics ...what does that make me ...dickist ?? It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ... So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference... "Their point is that to have that preference is racist. However, if they don't want to be with a guy, that is not homophobic. Come on man! | |||
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"Bloody hell it's just a preference no need to get all racist chant about it ...we all have a preference ...i am pretty open but I am a big girl and I know some folk aren't into chubby do I perfectly understand if they're not interested, I don't take offence or get all sizist about it ...this is a fun site , for fun and we can put what we prefer on our profiles ... personally I prefer to not see profiles full of dick pics nor get messages that are dick pics ...what does that make me ...dickist ?? It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ... So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference... "You could go on, but can't be arsed to read the pretty decent discussion we've been having beforehand? | |||
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"I'm half black but won't meet black guys. Some people won't meet me cuz I'm disabled. Who cares? People are allowed preferences. " Exactly! | |||
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"Bloody hell it's just a preference no need to get all racist chant about it ...we all have a preference ...i am pretty open but I am a big girl and I know some folk aren't into chubby do I perfectly understand if they're not interested, I don't take offence or get all sizist about it ...this is a fun site , for fun and we can put what we prefer on our profiles ... personally I prefer to not see profiles full of dick pics nor get messages that are dick pics ...what does that make me ...dickist ?? It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ... So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference... "No ‘sizist’ and ‘dickist’ are not classed as protected characteristics under the 2010 act. So you’re ok on that one. Enjoy Netflix. | |||
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"I'm half black but won't meet black guys. Some people won't meet me cuz I'm disabled. Who cares? People are allowed preferences. " Who cares? Lots of people. What a ridiculous thing to say. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? | |||
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"Bloody hell it's just a preference no need to get all racist chant about it ...we all have a preference ...i am pretty open but I am a big girl and I know some folk aren't into chubby do I perfectly understand if they're not interested, I don't take offence or get all sizist about it ...this is a fun site , for fun and we can put what we prefer on our profiles ... personally I prefer to not see profiles full of dick pics nor get messages that are dick pics ...what does that make me ...dickist ?? It can go on and in ad infinitum ,but , at the end of the day ,it's a preference as to who they want to have fun with ... So chill out , make yourself a brew and watch something wholesome on Netflix cos you're in the wrong place here if you take offence at a preference... "NOT the same. This sounds reminiscent of the All Lives Matter brigade saying they're victims too because of being bullied for being ginger, having buck teeth or being older. I cannot face palm hard enough. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? " Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. I think you always come across really well. "Thanks I appreciate that. I really do try my best in that even if I disagree with them, it's not based on emotion but rather logic and that I can say this with personally attacking the other person. Hope you have a lovely evening xx | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with." Very well said, you can't compare instance being gay/bi and race with someone who is overweight or underweight, one is something you're born with, the other is something you can change. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with." Is still a case of preference tho, and I believe we are all entitled to have them. | |||
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"Why don't the Mods put racial preference on the search list. As it's OK to filter out sex, smoking, age etc?" If only you knew how many times that question has been requested. A tick box would do, ' are you open to interracial sex?' Sorted, no need for crap in profiles then. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. " Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with. Is still a case of preference tho, and I believe we are all entitled to have them. " We’ve all agreed that, it’s more how it’s put. Remember you have freedom of speech, but you also have responsibilities for what you say. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with. Is still a case of preference tho, and I believe we are all entitled to have them. " Yes, but as elsewhere, declaring "preference" should be the *start* of a discussion, not the end. It in itself means nothing. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion How would you like people to express their preferences? I'd like to say on my profile fat lads only, it's a must for me not a preference! Would that be classed as rude? Not at all comparable as someones weight is something they can change, not something they were born with." Exactly! | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply " There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply "
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"Why don't the Mods put racial preference on the search list. As it's OK to filter out sex, smoking, age etc? If only you knew how many times that question has been requested. A tick box would do, ' are you open to interracial sex?' Sorted, no need for crap in profiles then." Exactly it makes searching for ppl so much easier. Honestly for black guys it's really tricky at times because of you don't see a profile that says they're into black guys or bbc, you really don't know if you'll be successful or not. And when I say that I don't mean ONLY black guys or bbc, but just if they also are into black guys or bbc. That's why some black guys post threads to find out if women are into black guys or bbc, because sometimes we honestly don't know when we send a message to a white couple or lady if they'll accept and that if they do reject us if it is because they're not attracted or if it's because they don't have like black guys. That's why personally I don't mind if a couple or a white lady says on her profile not interested in black guys, because when they have that up there, I block them immediately and like I said the reason is because I don't want to like their photos, contact them accidentally, wink them and waste both of our times. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " We would avoid anyone with this type of statement, BUT at least you know not to waste your time on them. If that's how they feel, how would you want them to express it? Cal | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed. " I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. " No, start of. | |||
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"Aww guys, this feels so positive... GROUP HUG! "They only way to tackle problems are by having a respectful, open and honest dialogue about it. That's the only way we can make the world a better place, make it fair for those who feel marginalised and leave a better world for the generations to come. Sending a hug right back at you. | |||
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"Each to their own but cmon at least be a thoughtful on how you say things , I wouldn’t write “no white women” abit rude in my opinion " I wouldn’t be offended.. Infact would be useful to know not to waste the time in messaging.. There’s a few sensitive folk here on fab that don’t like rejection..To see a ‘No ...’ would save a lot of egos | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed. I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv "Thank you brother man, likewise. I tend to cringe with topics like this because it tends to go left in the comments but it’s been refreshing to see some sensible contributions. | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. " No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race. | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race." Careful there, they'll say that black isn't a race either, and neither are Muslims... :-/ | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. " White teeth? Don’t see the correlation but okay. Being ginger isn’t a race but okay. | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race. Careful there, they'll say that black isn't a race either, and neither are Muslims... :-/" I think a few people on this thread would do well to have a look at the nine protected characteristics and perhaps realise what’s being discussed? | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. No it’s not racist to not to want to meet gingers because gingers are not a race. Careful there, they'll say that black isn't a race either, and neither are Muslims... :-/ I think a few people on this thread would do well to have a look at the nine protected characteristics and perhaps realise what’s being discussed?" Yep, you can lead a horse to water... Keep fighting the good fight. As others have said, it's been great to see. | |||
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"I say get over it snowflake Hardly racism is it just someone's preference not like they dropped the N bomb is it? Bores me! If someone's profile says they like black cock they aren't labeled as a racist are they?? Still used the word black? Don't like it just move on not your issue is it! Zzzzzzzz" We’d make great best friends | |||
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"Yes I have to agree with op , it's very racist cloaked and veiled in a play on words "It's not tactful but it's not racist | |||
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"So if i leave a message no milk today, will it upset anyone ?" the milk delivery person and the cow might be a little disappointed | |||
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"Where I live(se London) every other single womans profile has bbc only/black or mixed only/no white guys or some variation of that. I don't get upset or pissed off I understand that I'm definitely not what they are looking for and move on. Being short and white in South London you have to grow a thick skin" It's not exactly the same though when that same attitude is still there after you close your browser and you live your everyday life. | |||
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"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC?" Who's that question for | |||
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"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC? Who's that question for " Not sure it matters! As to your point though, if you think these statements are insensitive, why are they so if not for racial reasons? | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed. I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv
Thank you brother man, likewise.
I tend to cringe with topics like this because it tends to go left in the comments but it’s been refreshing to see some sensible contributions. "Yup and like I said while I don't think it's racist to have a preference (once it's not for a stereotypical or derogatory reason) I fully understand why the OP would feel the way he felt. I've been in this country for a little over a year and I've faced a lot of racism, some subtle, some overt. I only spoke about it to my white friends and classmates when there was the George Floyd protests and they were shocked because some of them thought that racism was in the past. And I'll say to all the white persons who are reading this contribution to this discussion. And I'll put it in all caps EVERY SINGLE BLACK PERSON HAS EXPERIENCED RACISM IN THIS COUNTRY!!! And until people understand that, then we can try and start addressing these pproblems.But nothing happens of we stay in our echo chambers and our bubbles and hold on to our prejudices and stereotypes instead of opening in our minds and then our hearts. Again that is the only way for this entire world and humanity to fulfill it's true potential. | |||
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"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC? Who's that question for Not sure it matters! As to your point though, if you think these statements are insensitive, why are they so if not for racial reasons? " Beacause its rude ok | |||
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"Do ypu find it offensive when someone is looking for BBC? Who's that question for Not sure it matters! As to your point though, if you think these statements are insensitive, why are they so if not for racial reasons? Beacause its rude ok" But why?? You can't seriously just leave it at that. There has to be a reason. | |||
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"That's some really intelligent thoughts there Mr. H Vibrator. Very well said. Thanks I like to think I've acquired knowledge from different fields over my 3 decade long experience on this earth so as to respond to topics in an articulate and intelligent manner. Like so many here. Degrees and knowledge via life experiences are plenty amongst the fabbers but articulate and intelligence is wasted on so many, a lost course at times. Salt n pinches approach works well in here. Yup I personally find it hard to have intelligent discussions in the forums tbh, it devolves so quickly and it reminds me that there are 2 ppl in the world A) ppl who listen to understand, comprehend before offering a reply And B) ppl who listen just to give a reply There certainly a lot of ‘B’s especially with topics like these being addressed. I agree with you and I concur with you regarding what you've posted in this thread thus far bruv
Thank you brother man, likewise.
I tend to cringe with topics like this because it tends to go left in the comments but it’s been refreshing to see some sensible contributions.
Yup and like I said while I don't think it's racist to have a preference (once it's not for a stereotypical or derogatory reason) I fully understand why the OP would feel the way he felt.
I've been in this country for a little over a year and I've faced a lot of racism, some subtle, some overt. I only spoke about it to my white friends and classmates when there was the George Floyd protests and they were shocked because some of them thought that racism was in the past.
And I'll say to all the white persons who are reading this contribution to this discussion. And I'll put it in all caps
EVERY SINGLE BLACK PERSON HAS EXPERIENCED RACISM IN THIS COUNTRY!!!
And until people understand that, then we can try and start addressing these pproblems.But nothing happens of we stay in our echo chambers and our bubbles and hold on to our prejudices and stereotypes instead of opening in our minds and then our hearts.
Again that is the only way for this entire world and humanity to fulfill it's true potential. " | |||
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"Honestly a bit confused by this post. In what way is it racist to not want to meet black guys? Is it racist to not want to meet gingers? Is a couple not wanting to meet guys being offensive too? There is absolutely nothing derogatory or racist about who you are sexually attracted to. It has nothing to do with who the person is or what their background is. People just find different features attractive, like blue eyes or white teeth. That does not make them racist. In the same way, those looking for BBC aren’t being racist to any other ethnicity. It’s a personal preference. End of. White teeth? Don’t see the correlation but okay. Being ginger isn’t a race but okay." That is exactly the point! Ginger isn’t a race. It’s something people are or are not attracted to. Some people like nice white teeth, some don’t care. Some people like black guys or girls. Some don’t. Some people like Asians, or whites or any shape or size. Just because someone has any of these preferences in a sexual partner, does not make them racist. Different if they said they don’t want to be friends with a particular race yes. But it is a site for people to meet sexual partners. Attraction is probably the most important thing. Physical attraction is arguably in many cases on here more important than anything else too. It just seems pretty unfair to call everyone out as a racist for being attracted to various things, especially when the preference has absolutely nothing to do with race. | |||
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"It may just be an innocent preference, or it may be indicative of racist views. It will depend on the person concerned. That so many (white) people want to insist there is a blanket rule that it can never be racist is incredibly naive and simplistic. " There's no clap emoji
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"It just seems pretty unfair to call everyone out as a racist for being attracted to various things, especially when the preference has absolutely nothing to do with race. " So many people seem to ignore the difference between a personal preference, when of course everyone has the right to decide who they fuck, and how that choice is broadcast. There's a gulf between the two. | |||
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Racism: the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to dominate others or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.
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"How is that any different from when people say "black guys only so if you message and you are white, you will be blocked" Same thing isn't it? Its getting straight to the point. Its not racist, its preference to what the individual is looking for .
Thats how I see it anyway "No one is saying it's not different at most levels. We are generally still saying it's racist to broadcast that position. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember "never said it was racist everyone started getting ahead of them selves lol I’m not fussed I’m just stating something | |||
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"I didn’t say it was racist , nor did I say you can’t have preferences , be better that that lol , I said EACH TO THEIR OWN" Yup. But I think a lot of ppl draw their own conclusions at time. I may have been guilty of this to some extent as well. But keep your chin bruv, keep it moving and ignore who and what needs ignoring, stay blessed bruv. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember never said it was racist everyone started getting ahead of them selves lol I’m not fussed I’m just stating something "It happens all the time, I knew what you meant because I read it & understood what you posted. | |||
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"Nobody playing the racist card when theres profiles stating .... BBC only ... Racism works both ways remember never said it was racist everyone started getting ahead of them selves lol I’m not fussed I’m just stating something "Hedge those bets! | |||
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"Ive seen profiles saying none of pretty much everything. No black guys No white guys No single guys No skinny guys No fat guy No bold guys No hairy guys Sounds about right just people having choice. No w.e guys No small cock guys And many more. Its called a preference, and what people are not into. It saves folk wasting time messaging other folk who wont be interested" | |||
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"Stating no this, no that, whichever criterion, be it race, height, weight, etc. is tactless. The elegant way is to state what you like. Also, staying what you like means you leave the door open should you change your mind. Win-win." Personally I think wasting other people’s time is tactless. Define your parameters, everyone knows where they stand. Other people’s psychological projects (google is your friend) should not impact on your sexuality. There problem, not yours. We are here for fun. Perhaps others aren’t. Have a good one. | |||
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