FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Paid a compliment and got blocked.
Paid a compliment and got blocked.
Jump to: Newest in thread
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
That is just bad manners and shows what a nasty person/people they are. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Damage limitation
If she ignores you, you could be one of these who gets the hump and messages back something spiteful
If she replies, this gives you false hope
Just something to get used to |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"But why block! ?"
Because blocked people don't appear in search results.
If you do a "browse" search, you get 300 "finds". Some of those won't be to your liking, and there's sometimes nothing you can do to refine your filters. So the only thing you can do to prevent unwanted people from appearing in your search results is to block them as you find them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Maybe she/they read your profile and thought not for them!!!
It happens just block them back and move on.
Tony |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Totally agree with OP I have recently been corresponding with woman that initiated contact and exchanged what ap messages then promptly blocked me.Bad manners or what."
No disrespect, but we only have your version of events. She may tell a different story. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'm very polite and important you know. I have expectations that you must live up to. I don't care about you, your excuses or your reasoning, but I still insist on you telling me. When I see you are wrong I demand the right to tell you.
Delete. Block.
This is the way. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If someone messaged or fabbed me (unlikely & also no pics) I'd say Thanks. For me it's just good manners, courtesy & politeness towards others sharing this site.
Understandable that some may regard a reply as an invite but all a member has to do is say 'Thanks but no thanks', if they persist then block them. Not everyone can be bothered, it's same with intro messages. Many people are just too lazy or use the same old excuse of 'too many others to answer', even though it takes seconds to send a quick reply!
If it's important to you & you don't get a thank-you reply or such, are they really the type of person you want to connect or communicate with? Probably not & you'll probably wish you hadn't fabbed their picture in the first place! Consider the profile before fabbing the next picture.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
Damage limitation
I agree with this..... not that I have done it.
If she ignores you, you could be one of these who gets the hump and messages back something spiteful
If she replies, this gives you false hope
Just something to get used to"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Ignore. Her loss and she'll probably be the first to complain about the rude people on here. Plenty of decent people on here, it's just that they seem hard to find but keep on trying, it'll be worth it to find some good friends. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"But why block! ?
Because blocked people don't appear in search results.
If you do a "browse" search, you get 300 "finds". Some of those won't be to your liking, and there's sometimes nothing you can do to refine your filters. So the only thing you can do to prevent unwanted people from appearing in your search results is to block them as you find them."
I've started doing this and to be fair it works and filters out all the women that I am not suitable for as in I'm not there cup of tea so saves a lot hassle...its also good for when you don't want to see the same people on updates that your not interested in  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Had you correspondence with her before? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Ignore. Her loss and she'll probably be the first to complain about the rude people on here. Plenty of decent people on here, it's just that they seem hard to find but keep on trying, it'll be worth it to find some good friends."
That’s an awful lot of supposition going on!
If someone blocks someone for their own reasons it is because it’s their choice and that’s what they decided to do, it doesn’t consequently mean that person isn’t good, decent, a hypocrite or is going to suffer any loss. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Some cpls will block if not interested in meeting whoever sent the message, saves on viewing the same profiles. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When you say thanks but no thanks to a bloke you then have to go through all the msgs of him trying to convince you of why he is worth your time -or- you get abuse back saying you are ugly and he wouldn’t want to fuck you anyway.
Very rarely do I get a “ok thanks” msg back. For every one ‘nice guy’ on here there are about 50 being absolutely rotten to the women on here.
Being blocked is nothing personal, we are just defending ourselves 
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If they are polite we try and thank everyone. Otherwise we will delete the message without replying. We only reserve a block for the really irritating abusive or those that have let us down |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *arkbaneMan
over a year ago
East leeds |
"If someone messaged or fabbed me (unlikely & also no pics) I'd say Thanks. For me it's just good manners, courtesy & politeness towards others sharing this site.
Understandable that some may regard a reply as an invite but all a member has to do is say 'Thanks but no thanks', if they persist then block them. Not everyone can be bothered, it's same with intro messages. Many people are just too lazy or use the same old excuse of 'too many others to answer', even though it takes seconds to send a quick reply!
If it's important to you & you don't get a thank-you reply or such, are they really the type of person you want to connect or communicate with? Probably not & you'll probably wish you hadn't fabbed their picture in the first place! Consider the profile before fabbing the next picture.
"
Well said |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Man... I know you aren't meeting/I'm not what you are looking for but just wanted to tell you how great your pictures are
Woman... Thank you, that's very nice of you to say
Man... You are welcome
Woman assumes this is the end of conversation
Man... Either... So, what is it you are looking for?
Or
Man... I would love to meet you and do xyz... Especially after seeing the picture of you wearing blah blah blah
Too many men see a reply as an invitation to "chat" even if they know they couldn't be further from what you are looking for, if you are even looking at all. This is why most women ignore messages that are apparently only to compliment. Saying that, I only block if needed tho. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really"
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message 
Jesus |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When you say thanks but no thanks to a bloke you then have to go through all the msgs of him trying to convince you of why he is worth your time -or- you get abuse back saying you are ugly and he wouldn’t want to fuck you anyway.
Very rarely do I get a “ok thanks” msg back. For every one ‘nice guy’ on here there are about 50 being absolutely rotten to the women on here.
Being blocked is nothing personal, we are just defending ourselves
"
Never done this ever...i either dont reply or just say fair enough have a good day |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message
Jesus"
why is it different, i didnt ask for the flyer, i didnt ask for the message, both are trying to interest me in something i may not like |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message
Jesus
why is it different, i didnt ask for the flyer, i didnt ask for the message, both are trying to interest me in something i may not like"
Mmmm ok |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message
Jesus
why is it different, i didnt ask for the flyer, i didnt ask for the message, both are trying to interest me in something i may not like
Mmmm ok "
so do you send your takeaway a nice letter back then??? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message
Jesus
why is it different, i didnt ask for the flyer, i didnt ask for the message, both are trying to interest me in something i may not like
Mmmm ok so do you send your takeaway a nice letter back then???"
Do you own a takeaway or something haha weird analogy
Each to their own...you have an opinion and so do I
You've got me wanting a takeaway now thanks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Man... I know you aren't meeting/I'm not what you are looking for but just wanted to tell you how great your pictures are
Woman... Thank you, that's very nice of you to say
Man... You are welcome
Woman assumes this is the end of conversation
Man... Either... So, what is it you are looking for?
Or
Man... I would love to meet you and do xyz... Especially after seeing the picture of you wearing blah blah blah
Too many men see a reply as an invitation to "chat" even if they know they couldn't be further from what you are looking for, if you are even looking at all. This is why most women ignore messages that are apparently only to compliment. Saying that, I only block if needed tho. "
Exactly this. A lot of guys seem to think a compliment will force us to reply out of politeness when we wouldn’t otherwise. I wouldn’t block, but I wouldn’t reply either. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"That’s an awful lot of supposition going on!
If someone blocks someone for their own reasons it is because it’s their choice and that’s what they decided to do, it doesn’t consequently mean that person isn’t good, decent, a hypocrite or is going to suffer any loss."
This is absolutely correct, reasonable and sensible. Sadly some folks prefer to judge others rather than listen to reason. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really"
I've replied to a lovely flier called friesb4guys mainly for the pun. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Ignore. Her loss and she'll probably be the first to complain about the rude people on here. Plenty of decent people on here, it's just that they seem hard to find but keep on trying, it'll be worth it to find some good friends."
Just curious how you calculated that "it's her loss" ?
I'm quite sure you had an angle and she would think so too
Sending so called complements on this site are pretty much annoying vacuous trite platitudes and many ladies are not naive
Odd as it may seem ladies who receive a lot of compliments dont feel especially special when a man who feels it his mission to tell every lady he finds her beautiful |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message
Jesus"
Yeah, totally unfair. The takeaway will actually deliver unlike most men here... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
When someone isn't to your liking that's what the block button is for. Move on and forget! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"You weren't what she was looking for. Take the hit and move on. I've had it before as well, deleted the sent message and put it out of my mind. "
Not really my point. Im not bothered that she blocked me, just concerned its offensive so i dont do it to others. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
Damage limitation
If she ignores you, you could be one of these who gets the hump and messages back something spiteful
If she replies, this gives you false hope
Just something to get used to"
That makes more sense. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Did she ask you to message her, did her profile state she will find guys and not to message.
We get bombarded with messages from guys, we have stated Guys don't message."
No she didnt ask me to message her and no mention on profile about not messaging her. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
I love messages complimenting us on vids and pics we have posted. It demonstrates appreciation and manners. I always try and reply back thanking them for taking the time looking, fabbing and messaging. Xxxx Suzi  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"You weren't what she was looking for. Take the hit and move on. I've had it before as well, deleted the sent message and put it out of my mind.
Not really my point. Im not bothered that she blocked me, just concerned its offensive so i dont do it to others."
Unwanted maybe but definitely not offensive. Spreading positivity can only be a good thing ... right? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
I love messages complimenting us on vids and pics we have posted. It demonstrates appreciation and manners. I always try and reply back thanking them for taking the time looking, fabbing and messaging. Xxxx Suzi "
Well they are bloody worthy of a compliment. Great stuff. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly) |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
I love messages complimenting us on vids and pics we have posted. It demonstrates appreciation and manners. I always try and reply back thanking them for taking the time looking, fabbing and messaging. Xxxx Suzi
Well they are bloody worthy of a compliment. Great stuff."
Awww thank you so much. I was frozen to my bones doing our profile pic on the summit yesterday brrrrr  xxxx |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Someone has probably asked before but if you block someone won't it also block you from seeing them in forums?
I'm just starting to use this part of fab' so I dont want to miss people's replies/posts just because we aren't what we are looking for from a sexual viewpoint.
We can get along without being what we are looking for  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"No it won't block you seeing them on the forums
Thank you ??
Always good to know...I'm a nosey fecker and don't want to feel I'm missing anything
Bollocks! Forgot my emojis don't work!"
Haha |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"No it won't block you seeing them on the forums "
That’s true. There’s people on the forum who I’ve had no interaction with and never previously looked at who I’ve thought I’d have a nosey at and have already been blocked for some reason or other |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Were the videos and pics kinky / sexy? Maybe initial contact commenting on videos and pics isn’t what she wanted. It’s best to start a normal conversation first before going into talk of her pics and videos on here which can seem pervy! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
Never done this ever...i either dont reply or just say fair enough have a good day
Cool. There’s 50 guys who do though so .... yeah. "
Cool...well the only thing I have in common with them 50 guys is that I'm a male so please don't compare me to them ....yeah...thanks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"the way we look at it, do you reply to the nice flyer you get from the local pizza place, i bet you dont, same thing really
Comparing men to a takeaway with the flyer being the message
Jesus
Yeah, totally unfair. The takeaway will actually deliver unlike most men here..."
Luckily you said most |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Same as OP Isent a complimentary note to a couple. Not even asking for details or anything else. Just a simple compliment. I got told to fuck off and was called a c**t and blocked.
My reaction? Moved on. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Totally agree with OP I have recently been corresponding with woman that initiated contact and exchanged what ap messages then promptly blocked me.Bad manners or what."
The instant unexpected ghost for me is cruel it leaves u to wonder why, question all
Ur actions that may have caused it when 99% of the time THEY were the problem. It’s lazy and insensitive to just block after spending time engaging in texts and on here, but a simple block for looking really probably isn’t personal, x sometimes the person may think block is an easier way than explaining a reason that could hurt ur feelings? Either way let it go over ur head and carry on as u were, u definitely need thick skin for this place x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Oh what a dilemma! Like some other posts of this type, the staff meeting, discussing the same issues continuously, knowing it's not going to change, it'll always happen & is this really going to make a difference?
So many keep on about how they suffer because once they've replied with just a thank you & nothing more they then get non-stop messages!
OK 1/ You're on here for whatever reason but it's something to do with sex, so you're going to get numerous messages, winks & if you post pictures then fabbing. It's to be expected.
2/ Regardless of profile some will still try. They hope to sway you, change your mind, maybe tempt you with a picture of their cock, muscles, tattoos, beard or whatever. They're going to try!
3/ It's your choice & always will be. If you want to block them immediately then do so, it's not a crime & no-one should make you wrong for it.
4/ However some consider out of good old fashion manners & courtesy a 'Thank you' would be nice. Even if you do supposedly get so many replies!
So why not add to your thank you.... 'but sorry, seen the profile & you're not my type'.
Then if they persist block them.
Really don't know why people get so caught up in all this (yes me as well to some degree!).
I've fabbed a few pictures & sent messages that show as unread, it happens but I don't keep messaging & if I send a 2nd at a later date it's usually by mistake.
As much as I do value manners & courtesy I don't get upset by a no reply & I don't think any less of said contact.
Maybe they don't consider it as a case of manners & courtesy?
It's the way they are & their choice. Lets move on!
When's the next staff meeting?
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Well I block if your too far away no point in all that messaging as we won’t ever meet so it stops me coming up in search’s
And your profile pic is nothing or a cock pic .... please make more of an effort with the profile pic ....
If you’ve messaged me with an opening message of hi or oi or some other stupid mundane opening line your blocked
It really cuts down on the unnecessary waste |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Totally agree with OP I have recently been corresponding with woman that initiated contact and exchanged what ap messages then promptly blocked me.Bad manners or what.
The instant unexpected ghost for me is cruel it leaves u to wonder why, question all
Ur actions that may have caused it when 99% of the time THEY were the problem. It’s lazy and insensitive to just block after spending time engaging in texts and on here, but a simple block for looking really probably isn’t personal, x sometimes the person may think block is an easier way than explaining a reason that could hurt ur feelings? Either way let it go over ur head and carry on as u were, u definitely need thick skin for this place x "
thanks for the reply, it hasnt bothered me tho, just taking note if its not acceptable. Thats all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Maybe they didn't like a complement? Maybe they didn't see it as a complement? People can be strange. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
OP, I dont doubt that this appears rude, but honestly it's much 'cleaner' than replying and then getting abuse.
In response to a compliment about my figure, I replied a generic thanks but you're not for me. I got a torrent of fat-shaming insults in the reply. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"OP, I dont doubt that this appears rude, but honestly it's much 'cleaner' than replying and then getting abuse.
In response to a compliment about my figure, I replied a generic thanks but you're not for me. I got a torrent of fat-shaming insults in the reply. "
Maybe the site could develop standard reply buttons ... thanks but you're not for me (and block) ... thanks, you're not too shabby. I may be in touch .... and wow! 6.30 at 101 Acacia Ave. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Wow...All interesting comments & opinions & although it may not belong on in this conversation, just to add, on the subject of a fab.
Just because you fab a picture doesn't necessary mean you want relations with them!
I mean how many times have you paid compliment on how nice someone looks such as your mother/father, daughter/son, work colleague, friend & so forth.
Maybe there's the artistic side of the picture, or the fact in certain attire someone does look nice, there's enough of them here, it's not all nudity & flesh on offer.
I've seen some great pictures, some creative ones, I've seen some sexy CD/TVs, cos-players, mistresses & lots of other lovely people on here. I don't want relations with them but I can still admire & appreciate their pictures & the effort they've made. Some of them have even made me think differently & provoked a thought or two & I do say that in a positive way.
If I fab them or send a message to say great profile or picture it doesn't mean I want to bonk em' senseless!
I think at times people do forget there's the complimentary side of things as well. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I swapped a few messages with a woman then she asked for face pic, i duly sent it over and bingo i was blocked. Fair enough i may not have been her type but I thought that was a bit harsh as we had conversed. No point worrying too much about it though. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I swapped a few messages with a woman then she asked for face pic, i duly sent it over and bingo i was blocked. Fair enough i may not have been her type but I thought that was a bit harsh as we had conversed. No point worrying too much about it though. "
She could be your neighbour ... or sister  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I swapped a few messages with a woman then she asked for face pic, i duly sent it over and bingo i was blocked. Fair enough i may not have been her type but I thought that was a bit harsh as we had conversed. No point worrying too much about it though.
She could be your neighbour ... or sister "
Sister not possible, neighbour yes please lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"OP, I dont doubt that this appears rude, but honestly it's much 'cleaner' than replying and then getting abuse.
In response to a compliment about my figure, I replied a generic thanks but you're not for me. I got a torrent of fat-shaming insults in the reply. "
sorry to hear that. Some nasty people on here. I have nothing against blocking just wanted to make sure paying a compliment to someones content is offensive. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Wow...All interesting comments & opinions & although it may not belong on in this conversation, just to add, on the subject of a fab.
Just because you fab a picture doesn't necessary mean you want relations with them!
I mean how many times have you paid compliment on how nice someone looks such as your mother/father, daughter/son, work colleague, friend & so forth.
Maybe there's the artistic side of the picture, or the fact in certain attire someone does look nice, there's enough of them here, it's not all nudity & flesh on offer.
I've seen some great pictures, some creative ones, I've seen some sexy CD/TVs, cos-players, mistresses & lots of other lovely people on here. I don't want relations with them but I can still admire & appreciate their pictures & the effort they've made. Some of them have even made me think differently & provoked a thought or two & I do say that in a positive way.
If I fab them or send a message to say great profile or picture it doesn't mean I want to bonk em' senseless!
I think at times people do forget there's the complimentary side of things as well."
The VAST majority of men here send compliments in the hope of getting a wet cock. I've learned my lesson in the ten years I've been here never to reply to any message unless the sender is someone I want to get to know because whenever I send a thanks but no thanks, it will result in a moody, nasty, dummy spitting answer and theres no way to find out who will do that and who won't.
Women spend their entire lives assessing and checking their responses to men for fear of retribution. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
It’s because people use a compliment to try & fit where they don’t. For instance a daily occurrence for us is that a guy will fab every single one of our pics, I could probably put a pic up of me curling one out & they’d still Fab it!
One or two pics, yeah fine you like the pic. Fabbing all of them smacks of “Please notice & message me to say thanks for the fabs then I’m past your filters”.
On here paying compliments doesn’t go far, too many ulterior motives by many.
To some it’s also a lazy first message opener.
S |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
i answer no one unless i feel there could be a connection or an attraction or already know them otherwise its deleted or blocked ..been on fab since it started and other sites before fab and you learn quickly how to do things mass blocking works for me i rarely get an abusive message anymore or the aw come on give me a chance.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have lots of people on my hotlist who's content I love. I find some people block if they aren't interested to stop repeat messages... so some I don't risk messaging! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Mate don’t take it personally there some crazy people on this site , just laugh it off |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Probably my final comment on this subject! It's been entertaining.
Having read all the feed back though, it could kinda scare you off the idea of ever messaging anyone. All the preferences, what works & what doesn't, will it even get read, is it worth it? Might be more constructive using time for other stuff!
It's been a rough year health wise but well down the road to recovery now, so although it's missed a bit I'm not desperate for sex, had more than my fair share over the years & happy to wait a while longer.
I think once things get back to normal & gigs start happening again I'll probably pack the account in & go back to the old ways & let the women chat me up, in the flesh so to speak, face to face!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
The block button is mearly a tool to be used as the individual wishes . Using it has no reflection on the user ,it just conveys they have absolutely no interest in the person or wasting time in pointless conversation with them and then being accused of time wasting/leading person on.
The sites clear no reply is no interest . If they don't reply and block you to stop wasting each others time what on earth wrong with that?? Just take it for what it is just a simple no . End of the day reply or not the end result is exactly the same you just not for them . Means you can just move on and talk to folks who are.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Manners cost nothing providing said manners work both ways 
Unfortunately the self entitled on this site expect these so called manners from others without showing respect and manners themselves
So you paid a compliment to a complete stranger?
So fkn what?
They owe you nothing.
They never asked for your compliment
If they don't acknowledge your compliment you are most likely someone they want no correspondence from.
Get over yourself
The site owes you nothing
Strangers you might contact owe you nothing.
Pull on your big boy/big girl pants and grow up.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
First off all and this is to the men; don’t look at sent messages
If I message someone, and get a response either within a couple of days or the same day and it’s a good to go message then I will reply . Depending on tone of reply
If I haven’t heard anything from them after say a week from first message maybe send am I am not sure if you read my message from last week etc. So may have not , some may have forgotten to reply but make it clear that you are following up and if your not interested that’s understandable. If no response then don’t email in future and use notes to say not intreasted
I find my messages have reduced by 90% since clubs have closed and that’s fine. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
That is just bad manners and shows what a nasty person/people they are."
I agree ,but it depends on other people's moods at the time ,and could be as simple as ,they were having a bad day ,(we all have them lol),dont worry ,theres loads more for you to compliment |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Profile as dick pick usually gets blocked |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Manners cost nothing providing said manners work both ways
Unfortunately the self entitled on this site expect these so called manners from others without showing respect and manners themselves
So you paid a compliment to a complete stranger?
So fkn what?
They owe you nothing.
They never asked for your compliment
If they don't acknowledge your compliment you are most likely someone they want no correspondence from.
Get over yourself
The site owes you nothing
Strangers you might contact owe you nothing.
Pull on your big boy/big girl pants and grow up.
"
I think it is more the etiquette of complimenting photos in a first message that is the query being made, as opposed to just sulking over being blocked.
You are undoubtedly correct in that manners cost nothing and go both ways though. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Manners cost nothing providing said manners work both ways
Unfortunately the self entitled on this site expect these so called manners from others without showing respect and manners themselves
So you paid a compliment to a complete stranger?
So fkn what?
They owe you nothing.
They never asked for your compliment
If they don't acknowledge your compliment you are most likely someone they want no correspondence from.
Get over yourself
The site owes you nothing
Strangers you might contact owe you nothing.
Pull on your big boy/big girl pants and grow up.
"
Jesus, talk about completely missing the point of the post. Where have i said i expect a reply or im owed somthing???
I was asking if its basically frowned upon to pay a compliment on someones content, nothing more nothing else. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Manners cost nothing providing said manners work both ways
Unfortunately the self entitled on this site expect these so called manners from others without showing respect and manners themselves
So you paid a compliment to a complete stranger?
So fkn what?
They owe you nothing.
They never asked for your compliment
If they don't acknowledge your compliment you are most likely someone they want no correspondence from.
Get over yourself
The site owes you nothing
Strangers you might contact owe you nothing.
Pull on your big boy/big girl pants and grow up.
I think it is more the etiquette of complimenting photos in a first message that is the query being made, as opposed to just sulking over being blocked.
You are undoubtedly correct in that manners cost nothing and go both ways though."
Exactly this. Why is it so difficult to understand. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Maye dont worry about it fab has loads of ignorant ppl who cant say no thanks"
And loads of ignorant people who send abuse and pester with why not when we say no thanks. Faq stars no reply, no interest. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Back in the 'good old days' on here I'd try and spend a while writing a nice and decent message with lots of info and focusing on the profile and their likes and dislikes etc...... only to get deleted and blocked all the time.......
These days if I ever write the odd message it'll be much shorter.....Having tried the proper message approach.... The end result is still the same but I've saved loads of time that I can spend drinking beer or eating cake..... Result  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
People use the block button for a variety of reasons wouldn't take it personally its not like Facebook looking to make thousands of friends if someone contacts you that you would never be interested in meeting easier for both to just block so you not wasting each others time in future |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *efthandMan
over a year ago
Halton, Cheshire |
There could be time elements involved as well?
I might have a couple of hours to spend on Fab, so makes it easy for me to read and reply to whatever messages I have.
**Following the typical patterns that as a single man, my volume of messages with be considerably less than for a couple or single lady.
Just because you've read through a profile and sent a complimentary message about their profile / photos sadly doesn't mean much if they don't have time to read them all.
I've seen it where I've sent a message (it's stayed unread) and they have viewed my profile.
Following that... I might be blocked or message deleted.
If you attach photos? The person receiving the message might just check them out first and if you don't appear to be what they are looking for? It's just easier for their sanity and control to block and focus on people they might be interested in.
Yes, at times it might feel slightly frustrating!!
Knowing you've constructed a complimentary message around their profile (As you've seen something in a profile that's driven a curiosity to message them). Just to see it deleted / blocked or read and no reply.
In an ideal world, it could be seen as slightly 'rude' not to reply.
But for most, Fab isn't an ideal world.
It's a male skewed site and an escapism platform from 'day-to-day' activities for a lot of people.
We are all here for our own reasons and desires/pleasures.
The simple reality is that we just accept the fact that messages are sent and deleted and sometimes you'll be blocked.
It just means that from my selected 'profile sparks curiosity tailored to person' sent messages. Whenever you do receive a reply it makes it all worthwhile.
Give yourself a brief sigh of slight disappointment, that for whatever reason? It didn't warrant a reply.
Take a new breath in and just carry on with life.
There are plenty of other amazing people on here that you can send out message complements to.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
That is just bad manners and shows what a nasty person/people they are."
i disagree tbh if she had replied then he thinks his in like flynn. Most ladies on here get this as first message. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Some people can be rude and nasty by blocking straight away for a complimentary message . . Just be thankful that you didn't end up meeting such obnoxious person.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Totally agree with OP I have recently been corresponding with woman that initiated contact and exchanged what ap messages then promptly blocked me.Bad manners or what.
No disrespect, but we only have your version of events. She may tell a different story. "
Indeed, she may not have been seeking gratuitous compliments, after all most women here are bombarded by them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Manners cost nothing, I personally try my best to treat people as I'd like to be treated, with kindness and consideration. Xxx"
Why is blocking considered so negatively?
We don't know what the subject of the compliment was looking for here or how the compliment was framed.
Some may find this surprising but there are women who aren't seeking compliments from total strangers. Mine are posted so the people I might want to meet have an idea about me.
Often a compliment is a pre cursor to an expectation of dialogue with people who aren't suitable, personally I wouldn't block but some do because it avoids that awkward conversation, it's not necessarily a negative observation on the complimenter. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Manners cost nothing, I personally try my best to treat people as I'd like to be treated, with kindness and consideration. Xxx
Why is blocking considered so negatively?
We don't know what the subject of the compliment was looking for here or how the compliment was framed.
Some may find this surprising but there are women who aren't seeking compliments from total strangers. Mine are posted so the people I might want to meet have an idea about me.
Often a compliment is a pre cursor to an expectation of dialogue with people who aren't suitable, personally I wouldn't block but some do because it avoids that awkward conversation, it's not necessarily a negative observation on the complimenter."
Thank you. A genuine insight. Makes sense. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Seeing loads of people mentioning in one rude way or another, “move on”.
Some people, like myself are actually interested in the psychology of the situation, whether the reaction is a normal one etc.
I’ve asked loads of questions on here that some lovely people have responded to by telling me, with varying levels of literacy and swearing, to not let it bother me and move on (as they should have with my question). I’ve not let it bother me and I had moved on, just curious to see how people tick. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Manners cost nothing, I personally try my best to treat people as I'd like to be treated, with kindness and consideration. Xxx
Why is blocking considered so negatively?
We don't know what the subject of the compliment was looking for here or how the compliment was framed.
Some may find this surprising but there are women who aren't seeking compliments from total strangers. Mine are posted so the people I might want to meet have an idea about me.
Often a compliment is a pre cursor to an expectation of dialogue with people who aren't suitable, personally I wouldn't block but some do because it avoids that awkward conversation, it's not necessarily a negative observation on the complimenter.
Thank you. A genuine insight. Makes sense."
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *arkbaneMan
over a year ago
East leeds |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
That is just bad manners and shows what a nasty person/people they are."
Whoop whoop hooray. Acknowledgment at last from the fair sex , that it is bad manners
Thanks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Why block ... because she don't want you or chat about it and you push to find out why and still not get it ..
Guys make a joke on here hoping to secretly get the cock in .
Pusseh & Views that's what 99% of this place is |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
That is just bad manners and shows what a nasty person/people they are.
Whoop whoop hooray. Acknowledgment at last from the fair sex , that it is bad manners
Thanks"
Why is it bad manners? Truly I'm baffled! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
That is just bad manners and shows what a nasty person/people they are.
Whoop whoop hooray. Acknowledgment at last from the fair sex , that it is bad manners
Thanks"
Why is it bad manners? Truly I'm baffled!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Just fab the picture. I think messaging someone you've got to see if you match their criteria first. If I have male filters off I instantly get loads of msgs from guys, I do not respond because they don't fit my criteria. Ladies get 500 messages a day if they didn't brutally filter them they'd never get time to respond to the ones that did interest them. Simples squeak. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think OP you have just got a be a big boy and get over it! The woman has done nothing wrong blocking you nor does she owe you anything it's her freedom to do whatever she wants. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think OP you have just got a be a big boy and get over it! The woman has done nothing wrong blocking you nor does she owe you anything it's her freedom to do whatever she wants. "
Again, completely mis read the original post. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
What I've learnt from the forums is.....
Dont be upset if it doesn't go your way...ive been deleted, blocked by people I've not messaged, ive been blocked by people ive had long conversations with....but yesterday I had 8 people look at my profile and the best bit was 6 were couples so thats 12 + 2 = 14 people looked at my profile.....wow thanks |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Happens loads. Send a msg meeting all their requests of pics etc. Then blocked. It’s just rude "
I've learned this the hard way on the forums...you just have to accept it |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Why is blocking rude? It's just a filter... Isn't looking at someone and lusting after them, usually repeatedly, but never being able to contact them worse? You blokes do like to torture yourselves! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"But why block! ? So frustrating when you are polite..."
So they can’t message again? There are so many messages from the same people over and over a block would stop any time wasting surely. Does the op know that it’s the first time he’s messaged? I don’t think you can tell unless you’re a supporter: if someone messages me again after I’ve said no thanks I’ll block, |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?"
Yeah that happens. Don't let it bother you mate. You'll get allsorts here. Everyone has their own way of managing their workload. And especially women who get hundreds of messages and winks in a day. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think the very act of coming on here asking why? suggests you might not be in the right mindset for this site. You have to have thick skin and not take things to heart. If they are reading this forum post, they will be thinking 'phew! We judged it right'.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"So i paid a lady a compliment nothing seedy or pervy. on how great her videos were and got blocked.
Is it odd to compliment on someones photos or videos?
Damage limitation
If she ignores you, you could be one of these who gets the hump and messages back something spiteful
If she replies, this gives you false hope
Just something to get used to"
Good answer x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Did she ask you to message her, did her profile state she will find guys and not to message.
We get bombarded with messages from guys, we have stated Guys don't message."
We had the same. Even had one guy create a cpl profile to chat to me. We blocked single guys for a reason as it is not what we are looking for. But some guys will not take no for an answer. It's a shame some guys spoil it for the nice guys in here. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think OP you have just got a be a big boy and get over it! The woman has done nothing wrong blocking you nor does she owe you anything it's her freedom to do whatever she wants.
Again, completely mis read the original post. "
No I read the post correctly! One meet in a year of being on the site speak for itself. Think you need to grow up |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think OP you have just got a be a big boy and get over it! The woman has done nothing wrong blocking you nor does she owe you anything it's her freedom to do whatever she wants.
Again, completely mis read the original post.
No I read the post correctly! One meet in a year of being on the site speak for itself. Think you need to grow up "
Obviously not.
And what on earth has that got to do with anything. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
