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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've noticed that some couples especially set extremely high standards for those they are seeking when they themselves are less than mediocre in looks & specs. Clearly out of sync with what they feel is the high benchmark needed to meet their approval. Perhaps I'm alone in this observation.. but still can't help noticing the peculiarity. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Its a buyers market, if you aren't selling what they want its tough.
No point getting sour grapes over what you may perceive as someone aiming too high. I am sure if they cant find what they want they may settle for “less”. Their body, their call after all. |
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Certainly a possibility but a couple of things. People can be picky if they want, everyone’s got the choice. Also maybe it’s what they want? There success may vary but again it’s personal preference. Another thing of note is that people prefer different things, what may be out of “their league” to someone’s opinion may also be what someone else seeks (that may not of made sense) e.g A might be looking for B but C believes A does not even begin to compare with B however B may be looking for A.
Just my opinion, hope you find it insightful |
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No one should be on here to look for crumbs of whatever they can get. People set out looking for what they want, to live out fantasies. You may think these couples are mediocre, others may think they’re great. It’s always nice to be nice about people, it’s much more attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you saying these couples should humble themselves and lower their standards as theyre not all that themselves?
Exactly this 
exactly"
Standards and sexual preferences are two different things.
What's to say it's not the latter? |
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This attitude is prevalent on fab and elsewhere in society, the idea that people should stick to those that are like them in terms of physical appearance. It's often expressed in the form of the "out of my league" threads.
I try not to over think it, that way lies madness but surely to goodness we can all dream. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stop thinking about leagues it's a puzzle, some pieces fit together some don't. People's descriptions of what they are seeking, though apparently detailed, can't describe everything. If you fit the basics ie height, age, location, then don't rule yourself out they'll do that for you. Hence people asking for face pics in first messages, you don't know what their "must be good looking" is.
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"I'd rather meet up once a year with someone who is exactly what I'm looking for than meet up every night with someone who isn't.
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This totally
People can ask for whatever they want on here, we come here to satisfy ourselves too
Why just settle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get
In what way put of your league? Be
cause of how they look? "
Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive |
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"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get
In what way put of your league? Be
cause of how they look?
Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive "
No, I agree I wouldn't meet someone I considered unattractive. I just wonder why so many people think they aren't worthy of meeting attractive people. It's a bit like choosing a rich tea instead of a chocolate digestive because the chocolate one looks too good for you. |
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Funny thread is funny
As I’ve said a few times, I, Chris, first chatted up Julia over the inter web by saying “I see your expectations are pretty low.... I’m sure I can meet them”
She was so confused by that we’ve been together ever since |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've noticed that some couples especially set extremely high standards for those they are seeking when they themselves are less than mediocre in looks & specs. Clearly out of sync with what they feel is the high benchmark needed to meet their approval. Perhaps I'm alone in this observation.. but still can't help noticing the peculiarity."
Are you feeling a little put out by this perceived disparity OP?
I can only speak for ourselves but it's like this. We have each other and we're more than happy to hold out for those that
a) fit what we're looking for
b) we fit what they're looking for
We want to find attractive anyone we share our sex life and we want them to find us equally attractive.
So OP, I'd suggest that if there are people you find "less than mediocre in looks and spec" then you're not going to want to meet those people are you?Ergo why worry yourself about what they're looking for to fulfil their fantasies? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get
In what way put of your league? Be
cause of how they look?
Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive
No, I agree I wouldn't meet someone I considered unattractive. I just wonder why so many people think they aren't worthy of meeting attractive people. It's a bit like choosing a rich tea instead of a chocolate digestive because the chocolate one looks too good for you. "
But attraction has to work for both parties....I know my limits and thats not putting myself down |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"I've noticed that some couples especially set extremely high standards for those they are seeking when they themselves are less than mediocre in looks & specs. Clearly out of sync with what they feel is the high benchmark needed to meet their approval. Perhaps I'm alone in this observation.. but still can't help noticing the peculiarity."
Some things never change.
In all the years I've been on Fab there's been 'demanding' couples outrageously wanting certain criteria to be met by those they're looking to meet and 'confused' single men wondering how they can possibly be that way.
Almost as if single people themselves can't have preferences, tastes and wants too.
Some things never change. And never will.
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"Lol I message women on here that are way out of my league...dont ask dont get
In what way put of your league? Be
cause of how they look?
Sorry but yes...nothing wrong in knowing what I think is attractive
No, I agree I wouldn't meet someone I considered unattractive. I just wonder why so many people think they aren't worthy of meeting attractive people. It's a bit like choosing a rich tea instead of a chocolate digestive because the chocolate one looks too good for you.
But attraction has to work for both parties....I know my limits and thats not putting myself down"
but how do you know someone else's mind and what they're attracted to just by looking at them? |
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You say it's "setting the bar to high" others will say they are sticking to there preferences if they are how you say "mediocre" themselves then it's only them that my lose out by doing so. I don't really see any issue with people being attracted to a certain type of person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hardly think it's a case of excessive standards. Our (only) real requirement, as a couple is we both have to be attracted to someone. Not just one of us. Not just physically but mentally. We arent gonna (take a hit for the team.) And if that was the case we would rather never meet anyone than just fuck someone for the sake of it. I'm sure that is probably the attitude of the less than perfect, like us, other couples you've commented on.
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It's a site for sexual indulgence and exploration I think.... If you're gonna have fun surely you can't have critism for being picky about who you do it with?
You have to be a super hot, funny, well spoken, nicely geoomed, hung guy on here to dictate what women/couple want lol
Think Brad Pitt- I assume he's hung  |
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