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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wonder what the feedback would be if we started a thread saying, ''White men of English origin only, come & say hi''.
Would it go down well? 
Don't take it personal, just trying to educate you a bit. First you should be aware that in this country heterosexual Caucasian men and women are the clear majority. The percentage of black ppl in this country is under 5%. Keep that figure in mind. Now let's be honest we like what is familiar, we feel a sense of security and this extends to ppl of all ethnicities.
So that's why I'm always flattered when women of different ethnicities are interested in me, be it Chinese, Indian or White women. To me dating outside your ethnicity is the chance to not just date an exotic woman or enjoy some bbc but rather to learn from their experiences, understand what it is to be an Indian person, Chinese, African, Whitw person. Learn their culture, their religions, their food, their music.
To me that's the real beauty of interracial relationships. It's one of the few things that genuinely brings us together around the world and guess what it doesn't always have to be a romantic relationship. It could just be a close friends.
Do you know how many friends I have from back home who will never date outside their race and they are Caribbean men?
Do you know some of the unfortunate stereotypes that black ppl have with regards to white ppl (and I think all stereotypesare unfortunate)? Like I stated in a previous post a few weeks ago, it's not nice, and I will not repeat it because I think it is offensive. I didn't let it colour my judgement tbh with you. I wanted to learn more about British culture, about British food, relationships etc.
Also I would like to leave you with this thought for a second. For centuries, the eurocentric view of beauty has been the world standard for quite some time. There have been. racist posters in the UK, in the USA and other countries with a majority White population. Highlighting the big lips Africans have been always known to have, the big hips Africans have been known to have. Yet do you know what I find is absolutely surprising this century young white women are spending more and more money going to the gym or doing surgery to get the bodies that most black women have been blessed with through our ancestors. Lots of white women are also getting their lips done making them fuller again departing from what was the Eurocentric view of beauty and more like other ethnicities who are known to have natural full lips.
The point I'm simply making is that we need to let ppl like who they like. I would say the majority of white women date within their race and a minority enjoy interracial relationships. Also something I wanted to mention is that when you say things like white men only or white women only, bear in mind the level of atrocities black ppl have faced, bear in mind the fact that for centuries black ppl were not even considered human beings let alone beautiful human beings.
That's why those words carry a negative meaning. As a white person you'll never truly understand what it means to be black. Black never once meant beautiful, look in a dictionary at the synonyms for black and white and you'll further understand. Your race was never meant to ever feel inferior to another.
So yes those words do hurt some black people (not me my skin is thick and I'm a proud black man) but for some yes those words will hurt them.
I hope you read this not to reply, bit to appreciate what I'm saying and deeply internalise it. (I'm not even going to talk about the other negative views ppl have for black persons) and also please note I'm not calling you a racist or anything like that, I'm simply trying to explain to you why some black ppl are offended when they see ppl say "they only like white people (men or women)"
Have a lovely evening and note I say all of this from a place of love.
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Well thanks for the reply, albeit a long one, & it's deserving of a reply, just so you understand too.
Truthfully? You don't need to 'educate' us in this regard. We're all about 'fairs, fair'.
I, (Dexter) am mixed race. Late Jamaican father & Irish mother who's still alive. So you can imagine the hate from both sides at first. I have Jamaican family & friends & know that some would never date outside their race. So I know all about that.
You put, ''Do you know some of the unfortunate stereotypes that black ppl have with regards to white ppl (and I think all stereotypesare unfortunate)?''
Of course I do.....but do you know I've faced that kind of crap from both black & white people?
''I didn't let it colour my judgement tbh with you''. & I haven't let it colour my judgement with you. I still love all people, there're just fools in every walk of life....but fantastic people too.
''The point I'm simply making is that we need to let ppl like who they like''. We agree with you there.
''Also something I wanted to mention is that when you say things like white men only or white women only, bear in mind the level of atrocities black ppl have faced, bear in mind the fact that for centuries black ppl were not even considered human beings let alone beautiful human beings''.
But you've just mentioned we need to let people like who they like. We've done this & you seem to take exception....
Look, for a lot of white couples who want black men, there's a whole load of reasons, skin contrast, more stamina, bigger cocks. That doesn't appeal to us because where we live there are plenty black men & so it's no novel thing. The skin contrast is there & I have plenty stamina, always have. I don't have bbc but Chloe has no interest in big cock, black or white. So we are looking for sensual instead.....
As a mixed race guy, I've met both sides of my family, but other mixed race people who don't can be really confused about who they are.
I know all the roots & culture so you don't need to go there with me sah!
Peace!
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