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over a year ago
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So, I’m flattered to get the odd ‘wink’ now and again. It’s great to know someone might be interested.
However, I diligently reply to the ‘winker’ and then silence, nothing ... nada!
What’s that all about? Do people wink for the sake of it, which seems fairly pointless.
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"We use winks as: "we'd quite like to message but want to check to see if you like us first". So if we wink first and the other winks back then we'll message."
Same here, that for me make sense.
Maybe someone like profile and using that like a like ?  |
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"We use winks as: "we'd quite like to message but want to check to see if you like us first". So if we wink first and the other winks back then we'll message."
That makes sense. And you’d expect a message back right?
Wink away x |
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"We use winks as: "we'd quite like to message but want to check to see if you like us first". So if we wink first and the other winks back then we'll message.
Same here, that for me make sense.
Maybe someone like profile and using that like a like ? "
Like a FB like? I just wish people would reply to a message after a wink. Maybe I’m overthinking it!!!  |
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"We use winks as: "we'd quite like to message but want to check to see if you like us first". So if we wink first and the other winks back then we'll message.
Same here, that for me make sense.
Maybe someone like profile and using that like a like ?
Like a FB like? I just wish people would reply to a message after a wink. Maybe I’m overthinking it!!! "
I think the general rule here is ‘expect nothing’.
I had someone send me a friend request yesterday; a well-established couple on here who post pics regularly and for whom I’m a match on preferences.
Sent them a message acknowledging their request and it was deleted without being read.
Standard Fab. |
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Umm, I used to wink. The idea being a ‘Hi, would you like to chat?’. Never heard anything back from them though. I think it is seen as being lazy like a PM that is just Hi or a one liner. What I do see these days is if I get one it is basically a fake profile advertising a website in the status, a fab phishing attack if you will. Sadly I think winks are a nice idea but not much use. |
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over a year ago
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"We use winks as: "we'd quite like to message but want to check to see if you like us first". So if we wink first and the other winks back then we'll message.
Same here, that for me make sense.
Maybe someone like profile and using that like a like ?
Like a FB like? I just wish people would reply to a message after a wink. Maybe I’m overthinking it!!!
I think the general rule here is ‘expect nothing’.
I had someone send me a friend request yesterday; a well-established couple on here who post pics regularly and for whom I’m a match on preferences.
Sent them a message acknowledging their request and it was deleted without being read.
Standard Fab."
Which is just plain rude don’t you think? But as you say. Standard fab!! |
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Interesting to hear about a return wink being the cue to message. We'd taken the view that if you like a winker then just message right off the bat.
Same with messaging, get a reply then nothing for ages, message unread. Must be busy or not bothered  |
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"Umm, I used to wink. The idea being a ‘Hi, would you like to chat?’. Never heard anything back from them though. I think it is seen as being lazy like a PM that is just Hi or a one liner. What I do see these days is if I get one it is basically a fake profile advertising a website in the status, a fab phishing attack if you will. Sadly I think winks are a nice idea but not much use."
But, if someone winked you.... you’d reply wouldn’t you? And then expect a reply back from the winker. Just seems good manners to me. If you don’t want to chat, don’t wink! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Umm, I used to wink. The idea being a ‘Hi, would you like to chat?’. Never heard anything back from them though. I think it is seen as being lazy like a PM that is just Hi or a one liner. What I do see these days is if I get one it is basically a fake profile advertising a website in the status, a fab phishing attack if you will. Sadly I think winks are a nice idea but not much use.
But, if someone winked you.... you’d reply wouldn’t you? And then expect a reply back from the winker. Just seems good manners to me. If you don’t want to chat, don’t wink! "
You would think so, but it maybe the original winker is just ‘carpet bombing’ the search function with winks and is just playing the numbers game. When I started I used the chat function, General is a good one. You don’t get the ‘fab hits’ you get on the forum, but you get to meet a friendly bunch in there and talk in real time. I would think about using that rather than worry about winks |
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I do use it as more of a tester
It’s not that I can’t be bothered to type a nice individual message but some ladies/couples must get bombarded with them and just rip through them.
I don’t want to waste their time as well as I do my own.
But like everything, you only get out what you put in |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We use winks as: "we'd quite like to message but want to check to see if you like us first". So if we wink first and the other winks back then we'll message.
Same here, that for me make sense.
Maybe someone like profile and using that like a like ?
Like a FB like? I just wish people would reply to a message after a wink. Maybe I’m overthinking it!!!
I think the general rule here is ‘expect nothing’.
I had someone send me a friend request yesterday; a well-established couple on here who post pics regularly and for whom I’m a match on preferences.
Sent them a message acknowledging their request and it was deleted without being read.
Standard Fab.
Which is just plain rude don’t you think? But as you say. Standard fab!! "
Just normal differences in personality, I suspect.
They may have had a hundred messages and bulk deleted the lot. Not receiving contact from someone they’d reached out to might not be a problem for them.
If it were me, I’d have looked for anyone I’d purposely approached before deleting the unrequested stuff. But that’s me, not them. |
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Wink from our couples profile as a tentative 'might we be your type'.
But from my singles profile, it's pretty damn pointless and unless your profile pic is an Adonis you should just message and take the time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get winks but then when I respond whether it be a returned wink or message 90% the time you don't get a response. Dont understand it myself but then again things on here are never straightforward |
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I gave up trying to fathom how some peoples brains work a long time ago.
To me winks are saying that they are interested but aren't sure you would be.
Yes, you would expect a message sent in response to a wink would get a response but it doesn't always.
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I wink to indicate that there is something of interest in the recipients profile. Or even if the profile is very short that I want to know more.
If they reply, then its time to be a little more forthcoming in my message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If we are winked at and there's any sort of attraction, we wink back. It's then in the court of the other person to respond with a message. The opposite is also true. If we wink first and get winked back then we respond with a message and take it from there. A lot of the time it just fizzles out. But we have made a few good friends on here now |
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and then get told not our type lol 
