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Punching above your weight..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many of you men fantasise about that meet where all your numbers have come up and you are clearly punching way above your weight? Or maybe you are a drop dead gorgeous lady who is bored of meeting one hung adonis after another, and just wants to put a huge smile on a very appreciative Mr average's face. Love to hear form you if you are that lady  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many of you men fantasise about that meet where all your numbers have come up and you are clearly punching way above your weight? Or maybe you are a drop dead gorgeous lady who is bored of meeting one hung adonis after another, and just wants to put a huge smile on a very appreciative Mr average's face. Love to hear form you if you are that lady "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"How many of you men fantasise about that meet where all your numbers have come up and you are clearly punching way above your weight? Or maybe you are a drop dead gorgeous lady who is bored of meeting one hung adonis after another, and just wants to put a huge smile on a very appreciative Mr average's face. Love to hear form you if you are that lady I see what you did there "
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I really don't get this punching thing. When our daughter got married her husbands friends all kept saying he was punching.  . They meant it as a compliment of course but the wider implications are insulting to them both.
I don't feel superior (lol as if) or inferior to anyone because of how I look. Why would anybody else? |
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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago
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I’ve never thought I was ever punching with anyone I’ve met likewise I’d hope no one would think they were punching if they met me
No need for leagues
We are all pretty unique and attractive to someone |
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My first ever meet in front of a camera was with a stunning, leggy blonde wife who was an ex-model...
....even 25 years ago I was no Adonis (hard to believe, I know!) - I was certainly 'punching above my weight' that afternoon! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve never thought I was ever punching with anyone I’ve met likewise I’d hope no one would think they were punching if they met me
No need for leagues
We are all pretty unique and attractive to someone "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I don't believe anyone is "punching above their weight". We all find different things attractive.
I'm sure a lot of people would take one look at us and think I'm punching...Jeff is a gorgeous, gym fit, tattooed hunk of a man...I'm a fat, slightly odd woman with bright purple hair. By society's standards, I am.
But to him, I'm not. Because he finds me attractive. That's what matters.
No one person is more attractive than another, they simply appeal to different people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the issue here is not appreciating what you have to offer. Sometimes, we cannot see in ourselves what others can. I know as i'm speaking from experience.
Whether its modesty, humility or lack of self awareness, I'm very guilty of this. Really should just accept that somebody does appreciate you. |
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I'm not convinced by the "everyone is beautiful in their own unique and special way" argument.
There have been quite a few studies showing that people of similar levels of attractiveness end up together.
Obviously there are the anomalies, usually because the bloke is disgustingly wealthy!
;-)
But there are certainly subconscious leagues of attractiveness, we put our selves in them, then others, and make comparisons to see if it is viable to approach that person.
Obviously outside of the dating, first glimpse environment, some of that league membership gets broken down, or people are promoted/demoted by other factors (being a total arse for example).
I'd hazard that many that claim not to notice these things, still have preferences listed on their profiles, and given a choice would select someone who fitted those preferences.
Sorry for going on a bit, just find it interesting. |
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"I'm not convinced by the "everyone is beautiful in their own unique and special way" argument.
There have been quite a few studies showing that people of similar levels of attractiveness end up together.
Obviously there are the anomalies, usually because the bloke is disgustingly wealthy!
;-)
But there are certainly subconscious leagues of attractiveness, we put our selves in them, then others, and make comparisons to see if it is viable to approach that person.
Obviously outside of the dating, first glimpse environment, some of that league membership gets broken down, or people are promoted/demoted by other factors (being a total arse for example).
I'd hazard that many that claim not to notice these things, still have preferences listed on their profiles, and given a choice would select someone who fitted those preferences.
Sorry for going on a bit, just find it interesting."
Oh I definitely have preferences but describing someone as out of my league because they don't fit them would be unkind I think. Similarly I'm not prepared to put myself down by suggesting that I'd be punching above my weight if I happen to be what a very good looking man finds attractive. People are people. Leagues are for football and punching is for boxing. |
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"I'm not convinced by the "everyone is beautiful in their own unique and special way" argument.
There have been quite a few studies showing that people of similar levels of attractiveness end up together.
Obviously there are the anomalies, usually because the bloke is disgustingly wealthy!
;-)
But there are certainly subconscious leagues of attractiveness, we put our selves in them, then others, and make comparisons to see if it is viable to approach that person.
Obviously outside of the dating, first glimpse environment, some of that league membership gets broken down, or people are promoted/demoted by other factors (being a total arse for example).
I'd hazard that many that claim not to notice these things, still have preferences listed on their profiles, and given a choice would select someone who fitted those preferences.
Sorry for going on a bit, just find it interesting."
I've always said this.
Yes, we're all unique, and I believe that everyone is attractive to someone. But I also believe that we place ourselves (consciously or subconsciously) on a scale of attractiveness (for the sake of argument let's say that this is against societies general consensus of beauty). Where you perceive your self to be will vary due to things like your levels of self esteem etc., but I think we're all drawn towards people that match our self-percceived level of attractiveness.
So not leagues as such, but people that we perceive to be of similar attractiveness to ourselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think about this ....even the Queen sits on the bog and snips off a loaf and then takes a wad of paper and wipes her own arse, for all the pomp she's not any better than me....... her toilet might be better than mine |
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"Think about this ....even the Queen sits on the bog and snips off a loaf and then takes a wad of paper and wipes her own arse, for all the pomp she's not any better than me....... her toilet might be better than mine
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But we are talking about relative attractiveness. She's never been much of a looker, a 7 at best when she was young!
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"I'm not convinced by the "everyone is beautiful in their own unique and special way" argument.
There have been quite a few studies showing that people of similar levels of attractiveness end up together.
Obviously there are the anomalies, usually because the bloke is disgustingly wealthy!
;-)
But there are certainly subconscious leagues of attractiveness, we put our selves in them, then others, and make comparisons to see if it is viable to approach that person.
Obviously outside of the dating, first glimpse environment, some of that league membership gets broken down, or people are promoted/demoted by other factors (being a total arse for example).
I'd hazard that many that claim not to notice these things, still have preferences listed on their profiles, and given a choice would select someone who fitted those preferences.
Sorry for going on a bit, just find it interesting.
I've always said this.
Yes, we're all unique, and I believe that everyone is attractive to someone. But I also believe that we place ourselves (consciously or subconsciously) on a scale of attractiveness (for the sake of argument let's say that this is against societies general consensus of beauty). Where you perceive your self to be will vary due to things like your levels of self esteem etc., but I think we're all drawn towards people that match our self-percceived level of attractiveness.
So not leagues as such, but people that we perceive to be of similar attractiveness to ourselves. "
I agree nearly all the couples I see look like they would go together! Me and my husband are both what people would call attractiveish but could both do to start the gym haha we just look right together if you know what I mean. X |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I struggle to understand how two people who are attracted to each other can be considered "punching" or in different leagues - if they're attracted they're attracted plain and simple.
I get Lily's comment about "levels" but even then the above still applies and kind of undermines the idea.
The only time the notion of "punching" might apply is when the attraction is only one way surely? And in that instance it would be irrelevant |
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"I struggle to understand how two people who are attracted to each other can be considered "punching" or in different leagues - if they're attracted they're attracted plain and simple.
I get Lily's comment about "levels" but even then the above still applies and kind of undermines the idea.
The only time the notion of "punching" might apply is when the attraction is only one way surely? And in that instance it would be irrelevant "
I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always thought that about my ex hubby he was drop dead gorgeous,6,2 killer smile,charm the full works just like my son,a comment off one of his friends made me re think it,and now I believe what you may lack in the looks department you make up for it in personality,humour or whatever |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always thought that about my ex hubby he was drop dead gorgeous,6,2 killer smile,charm the full works just like my son,a comment off one of his friends made me re think it,and now I believe what you may lack in the looks department you make up for it in personality,humour or whatever"
I agree. How many couples get together based purely on looks only to find there's only air between the ears and no personality |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is no such thing as punching above your weight... We are all either attractive to someone or we're not... It is bugger all to do with our own opinion on how attractive we consider ourselves to be. We shouldn't make up someone elses mind for them nor assume ANYTHING! |
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"I always thought that about my ex hubby he was drop dead gorgeous,6,2 killer smile,charm the full works just like my son,a comment off one of his friends made me re think it,and now I believe what you may lack in the looks department you make up for it in personality,humour or whatever
I agree. How many couples get together based purely on looks only to find there's only air between the ears and no personality"
There's air between the ears of good looking and less good looking people. If it's not about looks, it's not about *any* looks. |
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