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Do single fems send the first message.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do any single females on here send the first message? Just curious as it seems the same on here as it is in the real world. The man is expected to make the first move.
Had some lovely replies and meets when i was on the site previously, but can't remember getting a message off a single fem out of the blue.
Be interesting to hear others opinions on this 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x  "
^^ this.
The ones I like the look of never respond, so what's the point? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think i have done it twice and neither of my messages got a reply so i stopped sending them out first
Like i said in my earlier post waiting for guys to mail me means they have a interest so makes more sence |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had unsolicited mail from a femail a couple of times, but almost all the time it is either a time waster, or it leads to several mails a couple of calls and then no meet at the end............. Who wants to be the first to break that rule? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's fantastic found good fb through it, i find it easier in person so although ive had a few replies. I tend to get myself across better when met in person. Have a fave fb who i see regularly but not met anyone off here for a while now. Just a few messages back and forth. Does go to show if take the plunge never know what might happen :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I get messages from single gals and think I may have initiated contact with 1 or 2 too, mostly it starts on the forums though.
I've messaged loads of males, again mostly re the forums
I even winked at a man 
I will get round to perving profiles eventually but feel guilty when my inbox has unattended messages  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x "
Same here. I messaged a couple and got very nice thanks but no thanks. Hey ho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh I winked once in return and he then gave me a gob full of abuse when I said I wasn't currently looking!!!! I was just showing appreciation of a good profile and pics and he had seen my profile first which clearly said I was here for chat only and not meeting, think he may have been the fab police!!?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x "
same here, ive never messaged a guy 1st on here, a couple of yrs ago i sent a guy a message on another site.... his reply was "lol, what a whale".... so now i let me come to me |
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x
^^ this.
The ones I like the look of never respond, so what's the point?"
So does that mean you don't like any of the people you meet?
Just imagine if guys had the same attitude.... we'd all be twiddling our thumbs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x
same here, ive never messaged a guy 1st on here, a couple of yrs ago i sent a guy a message on another site.... his reply was "lol, what a whale".... so now i let me come to me "
One guy who I chatted with first asked for a fanny shot, I obliged and he asked me wtf is that and did an aliens head explode between my legs! He was blocked!!!! Twat mine is not an exploded ham packet thank u very much! Bussy comment used, just for copyright purposes lol   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x
^^ this.
The ones I like the look of never respond, so what's the point?
So does that mean you don't like any of the people you meet?
Just imagine if guys had the same attitude.... we'd all be twiddling our thumbs."
It's true - it's me who gets those "scraps" you mentioned earlier... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speaking for myself - If i have seen something, or someone i like - i go for it - i know we all here for the same thing at the end of the day - a good time - so i don't hold back xx |
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Got a wink from a stunning looking woman...who when I winked back we got to chatting... soon gave me her number..told her to call me....but alas...was the very first time I had joined both here and the scene...so made a dogs ear of the phonecall through shear nerves...humming..erring..and not knowing how to proceed....ballsed it up basically...but since then?...nope have always made the introduction (which I dont mind at all)
Oh except for a couple of timewasters but do they count? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did when I joined but soon found that i have been undated with others simply because there are not enough ladies on here.
When I have made the first move I have found it interesting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did when I joined but soon found that i have been undated with others simply because there are not enough ladies on here.
When I have made the first move I have found it interesting"
"Interesting"?? Oh, please continue...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I have had a lot of fun since joining and experienced some plastic fun which was wierd but erotic. Also been able to find a regular sub. Its opened up my eyes to more than I knew. i have even had a taster sub session which was good but not as great as being The Domme. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men who receive messages out of the blue from women usually get the following.
"Nice arse"
"Nice body"
"Nice ..." etc
The man may get a woody, go all ape shit about it and reply.
But...the reply isn't the one he wants and it fizzles out.
From my experience I dont know if they're interested because we cannot see your body language or how you'd say it to us.
If its blatantly obvious then sure we will go along but I for one dont really stay interested in women who take days to respond whilst they're online throughout.
If I were an interest to you, why ignore it? Men have lives too so time issues are not a reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found that too If someone is on here and doesnt reply then I take it that they are chatting to someone else. What I do Is Move O I get,n, plenty of fish in the sea.
I do however reply to every Message I think its only polite to return a message if someone has taaken the time to write to me even if its too say thanx but no thanx. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can only speak for myself but i dont send out the first message
Id sooner wait for guys to contact me that way i know they are interested"
So when we having a shag then  |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"I've had a few out of the blue, one girl messaged me and when I tried to replie she had blocked me, what's all that about there's nowt queer as folk!"
Lol that's more common than you think |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread"
Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod ! |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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I have has a few and have been flattered to receive them....
but i agree with polo... if men had the attitude of some of the women and waited because they had been turned down at some point... nothing would end up being done....
if you like the look of someone then why not? you never know....
its almost like a perverse set of mind games being played out... well I'll wait and wait and wait on them to make the first move........
what the...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread
Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !"
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread
Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !
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It's true lol sure she will be in to tell you herself soon |
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"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread
Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !
It's true lol sure she will be in to tell you herself soon "
ive never as yet touched anyond with a cattle prod not from want of trying |
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Yes! I do send guys messages! Often when they have posted a new pic that catches my eye I will check out the profile and wink or message. Sometimes successful, sometimes not! Worst I've had back is no thanks.
Also am not shy approaching hotties in the chatrooms. Its not all about your inbox guys!!...
Curls x |
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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago
In Your Bush |
"Only once in 13 years have i sent a first message to some one regarding a meet. I have however messaged guys first if i want to ask them something or with regards a forum thread
Or you want to abuse them with a cattle prod !
It's true lol sure she will be in to tell you herself soon ive never as yet touched anyond with a cattle prod not from want of trying"
Your just kinky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x
Same here. I messaged a couple and got very nice thanks but no thanks. Hey ho."
Susie
Long time no see honey.
Hope your good
xxx
A&J
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont ive had anyone woman or couple message me first and even when i do send a message i get nowhere so im stuck lol ive had an amzing meet on this site but its only been the 1 because no one else seems to want to meet me lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ive had a few meets from this site before, but since moving back to Bristol and starting a new account not had much luck. Maybe my profile isn't written as well (i so should have saved the text took me ages to write) i blame dyslexia for not being able to get across who i really am!
Good luck with meets in the future, youve had one, so sure you can have others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yer i hope i can get more lol just think the age puts people of sometimes even though im truly 100 percent sure of being a swinger im not a time waster yer i get nervous and shy at first but thats because i am new to this but my first meet was truly amazing :D and would love to meet more people :D now im working ill be able to go to swingers clubs as ive heard they are great for first time/new swingers :D |
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"I have done but always got a sorry ur not my type, being a bigger lady I'm not to everyone's taste so now I dont bother, no point lol x "
cant believe anyone would reply sorry your not my type to you, there loss big time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally send a wink to a lady, that way its upto her to make the decision of going any further.
However IF Im reading a thread / post whatever and someones comment etc stands out, makes me laugh, or just the profile pic is like 'Wowsers' id have to comment!!
Yes you know who you are lol. Or I hope u do?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will say this however.
A woman coming up to you and with a smile asks your name and then gets you a drink.
It has thrown me off my horse once or twice but I like it. To be hunted comes as a surprise to men.
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"If and when I message first, it is usually to say how much I enjoy the gent's forum posts, or something in that line.
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Ahhhh the subtle approach eh Pearl?
I usually just go with 'Wanna shag?'
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Be so much more simple i others went for the hard (no pun intended) sale and just said "wanna shag". I often have many a lovely message back and forth but it is just getting it to that stage of "so lets meet for the reason we joined this site" I try not to be pushy though and I'm not here just for the sex, though is a nice extra when it happens. Have a regular FB and a few meets but those were a while ago now and ready to meet some fun and interesting people (or just hot will do :P) once again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If and when I message first, it is usually to say how much I enjoy the gent's forum posts, or something in that line.
Ahhhh the subtle approach eh Pearl?
I usually just go with 'Wanna shag?'
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I am far from subtle as you well know, however, it is just not the way I operate. |
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Have sent a first message or sent a little wink a handful of times if someone has really caught my eye and I can see they are into larger women... found it a little daunting but what's the worst that can happen?? They ignore you or say no? |
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