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Why is it so hard to plan a threesome ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I feel your pain with both MFF and MFM, it seems mission impossible

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I feel your pain with both MFF and MFM, it seems mission impossible "

I know or they will act like there up for it but cancel last minute

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By *ardyBumMan over a year ago

Leeds

Who on earth is saying no to the both of you?! Do they just not show up? x

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By *inky chapMan over a year ago

London

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I feel your pain with both MFF and MFM, it seems mission impossible

I know or they will act like there up for it but cancel last minute "

I went to a few small events and the guy organising It said he had to invite 12 to have 8 turn up, it’s crazy but I guess some people like the idea of it but aren’t bothered to go through/get embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Been lucky to have two mff. The first was at a club (townhouse). I agreed to meet a girl and she brought her mate along which was fun.

The second was arranged on her. Had to drive north of Blackpool for it but we'll worth it.

Based on my current rate of interactions and covid I fear these won't get repeated any time soon

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By *inky chapMan over a year ago

London

Must say I prefer the mmf ones and having a good buddy to call on when the chance arises is invaluable!

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Clubs are the answer, had more Mff in clubs than on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I feel your pain with both MFF and MFM, it seems mission impossible

I know or they will act like there up for it but cancel last minute "

Maybe your asking the wrong guys

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By *rivextrMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely asking the wrong guys...

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does it? I love MMF with couples... always struggle to find them as a single guy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

As opposed to fat and attractive

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By *rHornyGentMan over a year ago

South East London

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid seems like no guys want to share. And a mff well that's just a myth

I’ve been to several MMF, FFM parties over the years. Have a look at your profile as that could do with some work to attract the right type of playmate(s).

Good luck

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

It’s that or just you live in Bristol.

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By *onyMad123Couple over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

I must be lucky in finding my fwb x 2, and a female freind, mmf is my fave and mmmf fun, but mmmf with extra light female participation instruction, is just spesh, i suppose its getting the right mix of people and personalities which our small group has, its great. X

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By *pice-meWoman over a year ago

Home

I'm still searching for a f for my fun or mf as a couple and it seems very difficult.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Some people enjoy the chase, the flirtation but have no intention of meeting.

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By *rcadian110Couple over a year ago

Barnsley

We have had lot of fun in a couple of mmf in club . It's easier there. We really.miss the who social and fun atmosphere. But there are good guys out there. They are just buried in the vast ocean of idiots. T0mT2 is a really good guy. Met him a few times but havnt had the chance to have him join us. Yet.

he was always respectful and friendly and the couples he's played with speak very highly of him

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Think to me it is the planning bit.

In clubs it is spontaneous, then after planning is no problem.

Think letting the relationship evolve naturally and not cerebral is the answer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its because of the number of fake profile an that on here that most of the genuine single male profiles on here never get a chance possible thw same with the genuine females too that would actually take part

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I think its because of the number of fake profile an that on here that most of the genuine single male profiles on here never get a chance possible thw same with the genuine females too that would actually take part "

Been to a club?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

Just... who the hell have you been talking to? MFF sounds like an absolute bladt for me.m maybe they freaked out thinking 2 women is double the judging if they couldnt perform at peak lol

As for me.. ive recently been chatting with a girl and her male gay friend.. both wanna get it on with me and im up for it. Im not really one who likes to share with other guys... nothing wrong with being the center of attention. But when it comes to women... the more the merrier

idk its just a different vibe when theres more than one guy sharing a woman or more.. at least thats how it seems to me

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By *pl83mfCouple over a year ago

Montreal

Its been said before, but that is bonkers. We have been looking for an F to joint but no luck so far. We have had luck finding another M..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't say I've ever had an issue when approached.... There's only couple I turned down due to personal preference, other than that always happy to oblige

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mff is definitely easier when a woman joins a couple, there are lots of couples looking for a woman. X

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I feel your pain with both MFF and MFM, it seems mission impossible "

Clubs are probably your best bet (well pre and post covid)

Both our mff’s have been through clubs. We find single girls see our dynamic and work out that it is both of us driving this. Not just one partner pushing the other!

As for mfm mmf etc I think a lot of guys are doing this secretively, and that impacts on their ability to get away.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I find a lot of men in here just want 1-1 and don't want to share, but they can do what they like with others, expecting exclusivity. I actively avoid the whole fwb thing now, as it only seems to revolve around the b part.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

Also they sometimes can’t see the wood fro the trees and are waiting on something’better’.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Also they sometimes can’t see the wood fro the trees and are waiting on something’better’. "

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’ve decided my new approach is to find a single lady then a man after that.

I’m not down for mff after some rubbish experiences with couples but gonna try again and try love them

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"I’ve decided my new approach is to find a single lady then a man after that.

I’m not down for mff after some rubbish experiences with couples but gonna try again and try love them "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m surprised to read this thread and would expect most guys to jump at the chance. I’ve been searching for a MFF for years to no avail.

A couple I know tend to use a provider and have had good experiences that way. So, that could be the way forward OP.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"I’m surprised to read this thread and would expect most guys to jump at the chance. I’ve been searching for a MFF for years to no avail.

A couple I know tend to use a provider and have had good experiences that way. So, that could be the way forward OP."

With single guys we’ve started a Kik or WhatsApp chat and it seems the guy gets bored or just wants to send us pics of his cock. Which we’re not interested in. It’s just hassle with logistics.

Clubs are definitely the best bet. Cos it’s like “we’re here, you’re here. Do we like each other? Let’s fuck.”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Echoing what's already been said, I've found clubs easier for threesomes.

I think the thing for males here is that firstly I'd say most couples profiles on here are after other couples or females. Certainly unless a couple say they are actively looking for a male I wouldn't think of messaging them. And many couples profiles have bi men so unless they are saying they will play straight then straight men won't want to get involved. It is also very rare to find a ff profile, especially looking for a male.

The easiest way for a lady to get a mmf is to post it as a status update saying she wants two guys. Granted they may not show up but if you are able to pick two you have played with before then it is more likely to happen. For an MFF I'm sure a similar approach would work, though it may be easier to ask for and find the F first.

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By *ev_1Couple over a year ago

Bickliegh

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

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pity your so far away x

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By *ev_1Couple over a year ago

Bickliegh

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I feel your pain with both MFF and MFM, it seems mission impossible "
getting closer we are in the south west take a look x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bring it on that's what we say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You can put my name down for the m in a mff

I can promise I won’t pull out last minute

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By *ornsMan over a year ago

west Midlands

Many of us would love to be asked, so i have agree that you are asking the wrong guys

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By *av_55Man over a year ago

Like most men I find this a little strange as most men would jump at the chance

Clubs and private parties are the answer in my humble opinion

More relaxed atmosphere and single fems feel safer there

But may be a while before we can all go and play in them again

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By *intteaMan over a year ago

Bristol

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

I’m committing publicity. Here and now. (If You you fancy it). To meet for a social in Bristol. Boston Tea Party?

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple over a year ago

norwich

Many guys on thi thread saying "You must be asking the wrong guys because I'd jump at it"

And yes I'm sure you guys would but its not as simple as just finding a guy.

It's finding a guy who

A. Has the right attitude

B. Has the right look

C. Lives in the right location

D. Has enough patience to understand many couples have kids and can not meet at the drop of a hat

E. Is fully able to understand and work within the boundaries and the dynamic of that couple.

D. Doesn't get scared last minute and blank us, or perhaps was not single and gets an attack of guilt.

We have had many messages and filtered through so many guys and tried to meet 2. Both have been let down.

We think we finally have a good one at the ready nut currently our jobs and children are making it impossible to meet.

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By *ustyshowoffCouple over a year ago

Cyprus

We find it easier to arrange meets with guys than we do couples. In our case though that’s largely due to our location.

That said there have been a number of guys that say they are keen but come up with loads of excuses when it comes to actually getting together

Mark

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By *aomilatteCouple over a year ago

Midlands

When allowed to play, joining a swinging site would be ideal for this.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have the same issues as a couple. We have spent hundreds of hours over the last couple of years talking to ladies.

And we find most of them like the fantasy but not the reality. A lot or talk and no action when it comes to more than just a one on one meet. Also we have had 20/30 ladies contact us saying coming to Manchester on business never to show up.

With guys we try every now and again but just get sick of wading though all the unsuitable profiles to find that diamond in the rough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve decided my new approach is to find a single lady then a man after that.

I’m not down for mff after some rubbish experiences with couples but gonna try again and try love them "

Is that because the ladies get jealous as you are a beauty?

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By *uHorny1Man over a year ago

Cannock

Had a few 3 some.

Now have a reliable friend who is able to join with me andca lady for mfm/mmf, call it what you will...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I’ve decided my new approach is to find a single lady then a man after that.

I’m not down for mff after some rubbish experiences with couples but gonna try again and try love them

Is that because the ladies get jealous as you are a beauty?

I hope not! I’d be flattered to be asked into their bed xx

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

Never done it with strangers / couples like that but always as 3 individuals that have gotten to know on here individually then introduced them. Couples over complicates threesomes

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"I’ve decided my new approach is to find a single lady then a man after that.

I’m not down for mff after some rubbish experiences with couples but gonna try again and try love them

Is that because the ladies get jealous as you are a beauty?

I hope not! I’d be flattered to be asked into their bed xx"

To be fair it’s probably the problem arranging stuff through here. You never know who is typing. In a club you can see body language and any jealousy that may be a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Three way attraction is more difficult to find than just two people, that and there are plenty of dreamers and fake profiles on Fab

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By *ast_jjMan over a year ago

Dublin and London

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

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I would say it's particularly difficult for you to find two well hung bbc. Your odds are lower than most. Plus your profile doesn't tell potential bbc or couples much about you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When we used to have 3sums we brought in a friend we could both trust.

Had some great fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some stunning ladies on here what would men or women not join them for a 3some

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"We have had lot of fun in a couple of mmf in club . It's easier there. We really.miss the who social and fun atmosphere. But there are good guys out there. They are just buried in the vast ocean of idiots. T0mT2 is a really good guy. Met him a few times but havnt had the chance to have him join us. Yet.

he was always respectful and friendly and the couples he's played with speak very highly of him"

Thanks for the shout out for single guys, some of us take our wife fucking very serious

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By *entlecaressMan over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Threesomes happen to me but you have to be patient and make sure all are happy. I'm just there to supply the couples needs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

I would say it's particularly difficult for you to find two well hung bbc. Your odds are lower than most. Plus your profile doesn't tell potential bbc or couples much about you. "

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By *lixir of lifeMan over a year ago

knob Creek

People suggesting clubs ..

Do you honestly think sexual interaction In a club will ever be allowed in the next year or so ?

I think not

Private parties are probably the future of swinging x

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By *ornado69Man over a year ago

Princess Risborough

I cant understand why people dont like sharing. I love mfm especially when the other guy is bi it makes it much more fun. Its just difficult to find a couoke with a bi male

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We have the same issues as a couple. We have spent hundreds of hours over the last couple of years talking to ladies.

With guys we try every now and again but just get sick of wading though all the unsuitable profiles to find that diamond in the rough.

People are allowed to change their minds right up to the last minute, though it would be polite to send a message saying so.

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By *t8880Couple over a year ago

Staffs

We were hoping for a threesome but with clubs shutting we think it’s ruined our chances. We get the odd “fancy a fuck” “wot u doing” or cock pics on here off single men. Or are we looking at it wrong? Atleast that’s something!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

We’ve managed five MFF meets over the years we have been here & none were via clubs. Three in the last year or sowere not via Fab at all as we gave up on here.

We did burn an awful lot of time trying to find someone who will even message on here & as others have said for a few the chase is why they are here not the meet, we’ve had video & message chats with people for weeks on end, in one case months so both parties have invested a lot of time & you get to the where & when & booking babysitters & it goes south.

So we’ve stopped with first contact now as the effort to get an mmf through here is vastly inferior way than just being yourselves & going out. We have found people we can do the more everyday things with that way too if they/we are happy to, a meet up doesn’t always mean we end up in a bed.

With regard to the female jealousy comment H is more than happy to converse/play with younger in fact all our mff’s have been with younger ladies than her & it’s always a joint yay or neigh with us, we either both like you or it’s not happening.

We were initially surprised by a few things when joining but a big one was the lack of first contact made by ladies. Very few do it which we still find slightly hard to fathom giving the anonymity this place offers.

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By *rSuave88Man over a year ago

Mirfield

'Hung bbc only' will only be limiting your field of opportunity..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We’ve managed five MFF meets over the years we have been here & none were via clubs. Three in the last year or sowere not via Fab at all as we gave up on here.

"We were initially surprised by a few things when joining but a big one was the lack of first contact made by ladies. Very few do it which we still find slightly hard to fathom giving the anonymity this place offers."

I don't think the anonymity is the issue. Perhaps they had no interest in contacting people who weren't what they were looking for?

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan over a year ago

stockport wasteland

You defo asking the wrong guys i had my first mff before i joined fab and had some mfms since ive been on here and had plenty of fun with both

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

" Also we have had 20/30 ladies contact us saying coming to Manchester on business never to show up.

Do you think they were really all women contacting you ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

" Also we have had 20/30 ladies contact us saying coming to Manchester on business never to show up.

Do you think they were really all women contacting you ?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happy to lend a hand in Nottingham or surrounding areas if anyone is short of a single male

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By *inballs99Man over a year ago

Blackheath

I am in Greenwich ,Happy to join in !

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple over a year ago

Newcastle

We have found no shortage in guys asking to join us but it's about finding the right ones. We have been lucky enough to make a few good single male friends though.

We would love to find a female to join us but know how difficult that would be so we don't really try. Hoping it will happen someday in a club x

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"We’ve managed five MFF meets over the years we have been here & none were via clubs. Three in the last year or sowere not via Fab at all as we gave up on here.

I don't think the anonymity is the issue. Perhaps they had no interest in contacting people who weren't what they were looking for? "

I’m going by the number of times it comes up in the forums not by how many message us. I agree logic says people message who they fancy but forum chats on the subject come up & are pretty much full of “I would never send a first message” type responses.

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By *ornyforit5Man over a year ago

On the Beach

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

You have clearly been inviting the wrong people!!.....its a definite yes from me and i would certainly turn up......post covid

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By *cotty MancMan over a year ago

warrington

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

Maybe because your profile states ‘not looking for single guys’ I’d jump at the chance if I lived in Bristol

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Many guys on thi thread saying "You must be asking the wrong guys because I'd jump at it"

And yes I'm sure you guys would but its not as simple as just finding a guy.

It's finding a guy who

A. Has the right attitude

B. Has the right look

C. Lives in the right location

D. Has enough patience to understand many couples have kids and can not meet at the drop of a hat

E. Is fully able to understand and work within the boundaries and the dynamic of that couple.

D. Doesn't get scared last minute and blank us, or perhaps was not single and gets an attack of guilt.

We have had many messages and filtered through so many guys and tried to meet 2. Both have been let down.

We think we finally have a good one at the ready nut currently our jobs and children are making it impossible to meet."

This,

Many talk the talk.

I suspect that one of the reasons that it is easier in a club is that you have already filtered out the dreamers. The guys at clubs have at least had the balls to turn up.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman over a year ago

Cambs

"I'm still searching for a f for my fun or mf as a couple and it seems very difficult."

Aww, I'm out of your age bracket xx

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By *reativecouplederbyCouple over a year ago

Derby

Genuine couple here looking for the right match for MFF - so many women get in touch and seem up for it but then have a reason not to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have found its not just dreamers that are an issue.

We make it clear we expect a social first in a public place like a coffee shop or pub. So many then ask if we will be going back to our place after to play and we say, no because its a social first with no expectations so we can decide if you are for us or not and vice versa. Then they bail and say its not worth coming if they won't get play.

In our view...if they cant understand that we need to be comfortable with who we invite they arent for us and if they won't put in effort to be sociable why would they put in any effort in the bedroom.

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple over a year ago

Sunderland

We've had similar experiences as a couple. We have a had a fair few women approach us to chat about a threesome but when it comes to arranging a time and place they ghost us. We were surprised to begin with because we've had some really good conversations/photos exchanges/cams but it is quickly becoming the norm.

They seem to enjoy the chat and fantasy.

Its good to know that private parties and clubs might be easier for these kind of things.

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By *rumpet and ScouseCouple over a year ago

Chorley

We would love to find a female or two that can join us for a mff and hopefully someone that I crumpet (female) can go shopping with occasionally or nights out

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"We have found its not just dreamers that are an issue.

We find this as well. We might be up for play on the night if we are both happy but there is no way we will guarantee that before meeting. We also don't want to be having the "Why don't you want to play" conversation sat in a pub somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"'Hung bbc only' will only be limiting your field of opportunity.."

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By *icknHMan over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

Hi, I’m very happy to share, it’s fun.

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By *icknHMan over a year ago

Ilfracombe

"Clubs are the answer, had more Mff in clubs than on here."

Yes totally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never seem to have any problem with mff or mfm meets especially as a couple ..lots of fun but agree finding the right people can be tricky after all there has to be chemistry..

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By *kyblue1878Couple over a year ago

Southport

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

It's not difficult at all to arrange a threesome but you are narrowing the field somewhat when your bio states hung BBC only

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By *ustyshowoffCouple over a year ago

Cyprus

We’ve had six in past eight weeks but four others were time wasters

Mark

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By *ikilovesCCouple over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"We have found its not just dreamers that are an issue.

Great couple of posts there and we would say the same as others have said about clubs being your best bet Op

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

OP seems like you need to go to Cyprus !

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By *oriarty99Man over a year ago

London

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

You’re clearly and objectively attractive, that’s clear from your pics (if that is you). So either your standards or very high and nobody meets your criteria, you’ve not searched far enough to find people who fit your criteria, or you could find a threesome to fill every day for the next three months from Fabswingers if criteria isn’t an issue.

Or I could say that this post is designed only to draw attention to you but that would be cynical of me.

post is designed to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

MMf or ffm we up for any

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

Omg!! Seriously?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me and the ex had a mff

God it was amazing

But it was hard to find the elusive lady who we could share

Ended up meeting her on pof

Introduced her to fab then

I do sometimes wonder what happened to her she was so lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me and the ex had a mff

God it was amazing

But it was hard to find the elusive lady who we could share

Ended up meeting her on pof

Introduced her to fab then

I do sometimes wonder what happened to her she was so lovely

"
sounds amazing

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By *d4fun73Man over a year ago

Shipley

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

You should come up north! Had loads of 3sums ffm not a myth lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP seems like you need to go to Cyprus !"
why Cyprus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well we havent found mmf a problem at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Then there's finding a man that has stamina for 2

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We would love to find a female or two that can join us for a mff and hopefully someone that I crumpet (female) can go shopping with occasionally or nights out "

It would be nice if more couples were like you and offered a more social side too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We have found its not just dreamers that are an issue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's lots of choice were very select and have to tick the majority of our boxes lol..

We have most joy through clubs and kept in touch away from here tends to work that way for us and now have a few female friends couples nd single males to meet when were all free x

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple over a year ago

Sunderland

"We would love to find a female or two that can join us for a mff and hopefully someone that I crumpet (female) can go shopping with occasionally or nights out

It would be nice if more couples were like you and offered a more social side too.

I must say we've been keen to meet socially as well but that seems yo have put some women off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's lots of choice were very select and have to tick the majority of our boxes lol..

We have most joy through clubs and kept in touch away from here tends to work that way for us and now have a few female friends couples nd single males to meet when were all free x"
This is what we are hoping for, we have a couple that we meet regularly but would like a single male and female that could also meet us for threesums

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Before the wife had a lot of family commitments we had a good few ffm meets but since it’s now only me I have accepted that I won’t get an offer to join a mmf even though my other half is fine with the idea

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

A year or three too old for you it seems

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By *harAndBryCouple over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We find we get a LOT of interest from single guys for MMF meets and reckon 50% of them follow up on their initial interest and turn up. We've managed one MMMF meet and both of those Ms we're from previous meets.

We can't manage to get any couples to commit - plenty of "we must meet up", etc, but no actual setting of dates and more than a few ended up ghosting us.

And Char can't get any single girls interest even though she's clear that I (Bry) won't be there unless invited.

Fab IS hard work sometimes.

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By *d4fun73Man over a year ago

Shipley

Clubs are good places for this to happen. Many times I've met outside of this env, you have to be social and meet people. As for people getting scared I guess many of those guys are fantasists anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've found the way way to find two guys is to look for those who have played as a team before. There are plenty out there, it just needs a bit of research.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Find most the time the hardest bit is getting the initial message back from a couple. Usually left on unread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a MFM threesome from here, and found it was pretty easy to plan

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"We would love to find a female or two that can join us for a mff and hopefully someone that I crumpet (female) can go shopping with occasionally or nights out

It would be nice if more couples were like you and offered a more social side too.

I must say we've been keen to meet socially as well but that seems yo have put some women off

Definately not off putting for me.

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By *d4fun73Man over a year ago

Shipley

"We would love to find a female or two that can join us for a mff and hopefully someone that I crumpet (female) can go shopping with occasionally or nights out

It would be nice if more couples were like you and offered a more social side too.

I must say we've been keen to meet socially as well but that seems yo have put some women off

Definately not off putting for me.

Why would a social put people off! Surely that's the point of it to see if everyone is happy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had absolutely zero luck in arranging a threesome where everyone’s single.

Just seems like there’s too many opportunities for it all to fall apart and someone will always get cold feet.

From my experience I’d say that if you are single yourself, arranging something with an existing couple tends to be a bit easier.

Good luck

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

I think i could plan one quite easily although never tried. Threesomes usually happen when unplanned at a party or club.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

It’s the hardest thing to find ever....fact!

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By *odgerNbadgerCouple over a year ago

Chepstow

We've had a few MFM, but some single guys do seem a bit flakey, and we've swerved plenty who just came off like bulls when that was most definitely not on the table. We also can't just drop everything because someone else has the horn...

Had FFM at a club although her hubby was watching as well. Would love to do it again

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By *rBBCMan over a year ago

Croydon

I have planned for myself and a lady friend before both MMF and FFM. I must say there are a lot of people who let you down when it comes to threesomes. It is easier to arrange at party or club. But don't give up looking or give me a shout ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a few but always unplanned and at clubs or in the hotel afterwards.

I find if I try to plan anything, it never materialises. A lot of people seem to enjoy messaging/talking about meeting but then find an excuse when it comes down to it.

Clubs and parties have always been the best environments for me to engage in threesomes

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

I've done plenty of FFM, plus FFFM, MFM, FMMMMF, and even FMMMMMMFF.

People are flaky as fuck. There are always on-the-day dropouts of all genders, due to external factors and people suddenly manifesting Feelings-with-a-capital-F. Best thing to do is overbook the number of participants, especially where men are concerned. Performance anxiety and all that.

This website came into play precisely once. Clubs are the way to go, once it's safe again.

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By *ullpa72Man over a year ago

Isle of Arran

Its the fakes and flakes that spoil things for the genuine single guys .personally I have only skipped on one meet and that was because the ferry was cancelled ,so could not get off the island .But I have been let down by a few both singles and couples ,its all part of the game however frustrating it is .

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By *ornado69Man over a year ago

Princess Risborough

I have never let down a couple for mfm. Its especially erotic when the m of the couple is also bi.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

A lot of people like the idea but bottle it at the last minute. We stopped looking really before Covid, obviously not looking just now anyway, but decided just to play ourselves at clubs, make friends and approach things that way. We'd like to try both MFM and FFM 3somes eventually

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple over a year ago

norwich

"Its the fakes and flakes that spoil things for the genuine single guys .personally I have only skipped on one meet and that was because the ferry was cancelled ,so could not get off the island .But I have been let down by a few both singles and couples ,its all part of the game however frustrating it is ."

Not really, even without all the fakes, if your not a couples type they are not going to meet you. If you have what they are looking for it would shine through all the fakes

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By *latinumkittenWoman over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I don't know if it's been good fortune, or the way I go about things, but I've not had any bother with fakes or flakes, only really lovely, genuine people.

I've found both MFF and MFM straight forward to arrange, although as a single lady, it's a slightly different (easier) undertaking to that of a couple, which as I've found myself, is harder.

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By *m3232Man over a year ago

maidenhead

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

Your profile says not looking for single guys.

I am ready willing and able lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well from experience i think its all about the thrill of the chase all very brave but when it comes to the actual day of the meet they do a runner faster than a rat down a sewer !! had plenty of socials , photo exchanges , messages , chats then the actual day of fun .....nowhere to be seen either blocked or hidden . i call them fantasists !!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never had any problems organising MMF or MFF meets to be honest. Never had to go to a club to organise either. When I had a couple account on here several years ago we would have MMF or MFF meets weekly pretty much. We found some very reliable single women and fellas who we knew we could count on. We also had a gangbang for her twice and MFFF.

Now, as a single guy on here its admittedly harder sorting threesomes but not that hard to sort, especially if joining couples.

PS - If any couples would like MMF I'm happy to travel

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By *andboyMan over a year ago

Calne

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something. "

How many would you like? I arranged a MMMF and everyone turned up. A good time was had by all.

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple over a year ago

norwich

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something.

How many would you like? I arranged a MMMF and everyone turned up. A good time was had by all."

Well she's looking for guys up to an age of 43 with great personalities and looks and in good shape. Do you have that and can you provide it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m always happy to help... would I get lips or hips?

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By *osineCouple over a year ago

Weston-Super-Mare

Ive had loads, mfm, ffm... Maybe im just super slutty and super open about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my case, it's just statistically improbable to find two ladies that want me, at the same time, and that all 3 of us are actually free and able to meet.

It will stay as a dream.

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Ive had loads, mfm, ffm... Maybe im just super slutty and super open about it.

Xx"

Same

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By *osineCouple over a year ago

Weston-Super-Mare

"Ive had loads, mfm, ffm... Maybe im just super slutty and super open about it.

Same

I am bad sober, d*unk 1000 times worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we are always up for ffm

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Ive had loads, mfm, ffm... Maybe im just super slutty and super open about it.

Same

I am bad sober, d*unk 1000 times worse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had a few ffm meets but would love to try and mmf

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By *enuine MikeMan over a year ago

Guildford

Its got to be geographic or its your profile.

I dont mean that in a bad way by the way.

You looking and struggling for a FFM is the same as most single guys, me including trying to get a regular meet.

I've sent plenty of polite and well addressed messages and often always with a face and body pic. Most of my messages get read and most go without a reply.

You just have to be persistent and hope one day something turns up.

Some people, women, couples and single men im sure don't have an issue with meets. Some probably have enough interest that they can fuck someone new every day if they chose to.

The majority however aren't as fortunate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mmf has been on my wishlist for years and I genuinely don't think it will ever happen.

I'm fussy about who, I'm fussy about where, I'm fussy about how and when. Then I need to try and find 2 men that get along who both fancy me and each other. Then we all have to be available and for it to not feel clinical or staged. Oh and then there's all the nagging self doubt that makes me absolutely convinced, I'd be a complete let down.

How people manage groups is beyond me!

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple over a year ago

midlands

"OP seems like you need to go to Cyprus !"

There are worse reasons to go

Clubs, all the way

You can see each person and if all personalities/enthusiasm match then find a space and play

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple over a year ago

Broadstairs

We have found threesomes the Easiest to arrange

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By *nliveneTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"Mmf has been on my wishlist for years and I genuinely don't think it will ever happen.

How people manage groups is beyond me! "

Is not big science

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By *j48Man over a year ago

Wigan

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

Looking and approaching the wrong profiles

Simple as that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We managed a MFFF 2 years ago for the Mr 40th. It took months and months of planning. It was suppose to be a MFFFF but there was severe snow that night and one had to cancel.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We managed a MFFF 2 years ago for the Mr 40th. It took months and months of planning. It was suppose to be a MFFFF but there was severe snow that night and one had to cancel. "

Let me know if you want to arrange another, I’m just down the road

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By *iddle ManMan over a year ago

Walsall

Surely this is just clickbait. Yeah you may get the odd no show or the fantasy guy, or a genuine reason for missing, but by enlarge I'm sure most guys would jump at the chance of a meet, in normal time anyway. Or people are just choosing the wrong guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

We have had a few, but sharing is a problem for some x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We have found threesomes the Easiest to arrange "

Same x

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By *eachesAndCream99Couple over a year ago

Outskirts of Cardiff just off the M4

We would love to find more lovely ladies out there as I love to share the Mr but it’s been quite difficult in Wales

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve met a few lovely couples over the years and found it easy to arrange, you just know when you get that good vibe with people that it’ll work and lots of fun can be had

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By *stbury DavenportMan over a year ago

Nottingham

"its all about the thrill of the chase"

The whole "chase is better than the catch" thing has always baffled me. It's like saying the job interview is better than the pay cheque. Bizarre.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Me and my female friend. Both slim and attractive cannot get any guy too commit. It seems like men are scared or something.

As opposed to fat and attractive

Fucking impossible if you’re fat and ugly.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have been lucky at a club for a female that approached us and 30 minutes later we where all have some fantastic fun.

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By *uenevereWoman over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I imagine organising threesomes on here is not easy.

Every group sex session I have taken part in has been at a club, or with people I originally met in a club.

Basically, clubs are the ways to go when they open again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been lucky enough to have had a fair few 3sums and they were all great. The trick is to be open and honest about what you are looking for in advance and to make sure that all parties are happy, so we all leave wanting more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very much agree. I haven't been looking for a while now but pre covid I really wanted a mfm and it's actually really hard to find! Especially as a single girl, as I've got to give not just one guy I fancy, but two! And they've both got to be ok with each other too. Eurgh, one day!

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By *candiumWoman over a year ago

oban

I agree organising mmf is like herding cats.

Clubs are not my thing either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've been trying to arrange a mff for ever... Mfm? Oh no problem.. Even mmf are difficult (pre covid)

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By *iaisonseekerMan over a year ago

Liverpool

Sounds like your standards are too high. All of you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

If you or kinkylips are struggling and being at lovely as you both are I might as well close the account - I'll have no chance!

Just so surprised you have trouble!

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By *abble-onMan over a year ago

Minehead

I would love to find people for mmf and mff. I don't understand why you would back out if the opportunity arose

I know I certainly wouldn't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's easier to get a mmf .ffm are getting hard to find. They are like trying to find hens teeth

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By *oirinMarkusCouple over a year ago

West Midlands and West London

So difficult! There are often two huge problems...

ffm =I get along with the man of the couple but the lady doesn't seem to be as keen.

Mfm =one of the men in interested in doesn't want to share!

Why have threesomes always been so difficult?! I've only had one of each but I'd love more in the future x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s not hard at all x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I feel you on this one lol

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple over a year ago

Birmingham

"It’s not hard at all x"

Seems to depend on if you have standards or not!

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By *d4fun73Man over a year ago

Shipley

"It’s not hard at all x"

It would be!! Lol

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By *inkybabe1109Couple over a year ago

Barnsley

Mff or MMF or ff is so hard to find.

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By *red010171Man over a year ago

South West ish

I'll never understand men who mess couples around when they are asked if they'd join. Just be honest upfront and don't mess people around, doesn't seem that difficult just like you would in the rest of your life.

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By *ampolCouple over a year ago

Stevenage

We have tried to plan this so so many times... even this week trying to organise something for when we can.. But it soon becomes apparent people ain’t all they seem to be..

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By *d4fun73Man over a year ago

Shipley

"Mff or MMF or ff is so hard to find. "

Not in clubs or from going to socials, I've partaken in quite a few!!!

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By *eenawMan over a year ago

anywhere and everywhere

"I'm not just talking about now but pre covid

seems like no guys want to share

And a mff well that's just a myth

Sharing is favourite thing! I love watching my partner be pleasures by at least 2 people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As long as all parties are on the same level and understand it’s about everyone’s pleasure, it can be great fun.

I’ve had a fair few messages from couples whos profile/message are just geered towards the woman doing it for the man, or one couple who messaged who’s profile was all about a single woman just pleasing her.

Not my thing at all.

Three some is exactly that - the three of you having equal fun and pleasure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As long as all parties are on the same level and understand it’s about everyone’s pleasure, it can be great fun.

Not my thing at all.

Three some is exactly that - the three of you having equal fun and pleasure

Amazing boobs! Damn I can’t message now my supporter has run out....payday can’t come soon enough lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been lucky in having both a ffm and a mfm . I would love a regular couple for mfm and possibly cuckold play as as much as I like the mfm idea it's far better for me to regard it more as an arrangement than just a one off.

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