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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What's the protocol on seeing people you've not spoken to on here in the real world?
I've asked in private conversations and had a few different responses, so looking for opinions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd a message last week saying he'd seen me in town or was sure was me.... He hadn't as I'd not been out but it creeped me out, the lack of discretion wasn't good either, no idea what he'd hoped to achieve tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd a message last week saying he'd seen me in town or was sure was me.... He hadn't as I'd not been out but it creeped me out, the lack of discretion wasn't good either, no idea what he'd hoped to achieve tbh"
That would have freaked anyone out x total disrespectful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most people don't seem to like it so I wouldn't say anything to them on Fab and definitely not in the real world.
I've been spotted out and then messaged on here. I don't mind it if it's just a polite hello, but others seem creeped out by it. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My opinion on it would be based on the person: if they seem like an outgoing confident person & are on their own, I'd like to think I could approach them.
If I was me in this situation, feel free to come say hi lol |
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"My opinion on it would be based on the person: if they seem like an outgoing confident person & are on their own, I'd like to think I could approach them.
If I was me in this situation, feel free to come say hi lol "
I'm a very outgoing and confident person, I don't want to be approached in public by unknown people who've seen me on the net.
If someone has recognised me I appreciate discretion. A polite message accompanied by a face picture saying who they are and explaining that they'd seen me and would it be ok next time to speak is different. It gives me the choice |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My opinion on it would be based on the person: if they seem like an outgoing confident person & are on their own, I'd like to think I could approach them.
If I was me in this situation, feel free to come say hi lol
I'm a very outgoing and confident person, I don't want to be approached in public by unknown people who've seen me on the net.
If someone has recognised me I appreciate discretion. A polite message accompanied by a face picture saying who they are and explaining that they'd seen me and would it be ok next time to speak is different. It gives me the choice"
Yeah, I guess that makes sence actually |
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"I'd a message last week saying he'd seen me in town or was sure was me.... He hadn't as I'd not been out but it creeped me out, the lack of discretion wasn't good either, no idea what he'd hoped to achieve tbh"
How is that a lack of discretion if he messaged you on here ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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First off, it wasn't me.
Second I don't know him nor him me, it was a first contact from him
Third he gave no indication who he was as mentioned above he could sent a face pic if his contacting me was benign.
Also, I'd be disinclined to meet anyone who randomly contacts women here claiming he saw them, may not trouble you but it does me and says his discretion is unreliable. |
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"First off, it wasn't me.
Second I don't know him nor him me, it was a first contact from him
Third he gave no indication who he was as mentioned above he could sent a face pic if his contacting me was benign.
Also, I'd be disinclined to meet anyone who randomly contacts women here claiming he saw them, may not trouble you but it does me and says his discretion is unreliable. "
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I would rather not be contacted if someone saw me. Once i got a message asking if i had been swimming at the Hilton that afternoon. I denied it but yes it was me. I was unsure if the man who messaged was an employee or just a member of the public but i never went back. |
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over a year ago
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"I dont notice everyday people so you re all safe...you could wear a hi vis fab jacket and I still wouldn t notice..lol..
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Is fab doing merch now? I'd buy 1  |
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"I dont notice everyday people so you re all safe...you could wear a hi vis fab jacket and I still wouldn t notice..lol..
Is fab doing merch now? I'd buy 1 "
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As you can see from the responses, this is a personal thing and there is no single answer.
In general, treat fab like fight club: 'The first rule about fight club is you don't talk about ...'
That said, I've acknowledged fab meets in public if they are alone. If they are with others, I wait for them to make the first move. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As you can see from the responses, this is a personal thing and there is no single answer.
In general, treat fab like fight club: 'The first rule about fight club is you don't talk about ...'
That said, I've acknowledged fab meets in public if they are alone. If they are with others, I wait for them to make the first move. "
Yeah I agree with that, if they're in a group may be they're friends, much like most of mine, don't know about fab so wouldn't be fair to put them on the spot. But I'd like to think I could approach someone on their own, much like I probably would have before fab and try to spark a conversation. The art of real world pulling has died in the digital age lol |
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