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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Earned? Perhaps, thats up to you and who you enter into a dynamic with.
Appropriate? No. The use of pet names or titles is pointless if you are not in a dynamic with the other person, and anyone using them just shows their lack of understanding.
Thats my opinion anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Earned in the sense that their would have to be a level of mutual respect and understanding for each other - it’s not a term I would expect someone to use even in a ‘pet name’ sort of way "
Most people see the D/s relationship about someone deciding to Dominate another. The reality is someone CHOOSING to be submissive in what ever scenario is there kink. So you should never address someone as Sub or little till they have said they want that type of play with you its bad mannered and a lack of understanding or respect. |
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I am not a big fan of the term 'daddy' in a sexual way so if anyone drops that in their first message its instantly deleted!
Also any man who sees I'm a sub so in their first message is overly dominant which tells me they don't understand it puts me off. I only sub to someone when I trust them.
Do not use pet names with someone you don't know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
Anyone have thoughts on this?"
Totally agree  I get the opposite from subs. Wanting me to be their Domme. Telling me they will do anything for me. No limits etc. I soon put them straight. Giving away their submission is not something to be done lightly. And just to anyone cheapens it in my eyes. Why would I want that? I should earn their submission by showing them that what they have is the most precious thing they have to give. That comes from them learning they can trust me and respect me and they know I will respect what they are giving. Of course I do that by torturing the fuck out of them  But with a smile on my face and a safe word under my belt xxx |
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"Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
Anyone have thoughts on this?
Totally agree I get the opposite from subs. Wanting me to be their Domme. Telling me they will do anything for me. No limits etc. I soon put them straight. Giving away their submission is not something to be done lightly. And just to anyone cheapens it in my eyes. Why would I want that? I should earn their submission by showing them that what they have is the most precious thing they have to give. That comes from them learning they can trust me and respect me and they know I will respect what they are giving. Of course I do that by torturing the fuck out of them But with a smile on my face and a safe word under my belt xxx"
Totally agree! A d/s relationship is very special as it involves high levels of trust, knowing your dom will keep you safe and discussions about limits and boundaries - communication is key |
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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
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Totally agree! A d/s relationship is very special as it involves high levels of trust, knowing your dom will keep you safe and discussions about limits and boundaries - communication is key"
Absolutely agree with this! I think that’s why it irritates me when people use D/s terms so lightly or in a blasé way |
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Totally agree! A d/s relationship is very special as it involves high levels of trust, knowing your dom will keep you safe and discussions about limits and boundaries - communication is key
Absolutely agree with this! I think that’s why it irritates me when people use D/s terms so lightly or in a blasé way "
Like 19yr olds claiming they're experienced doms because they've watched 50 shades of grey and spanked their girlfriend's arse a couple of times!  |
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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
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Totally agree! A d/s relationship is very special as it involves high levels of trust, knowing your dom will keep you safe and discussions about limits and boundaries - communication is key
Absolutely agree with this! I think that’s why it irritates me when people use D/s terms so lightly or in a blasé way
Like 19yr olds claiming they're experienced doms because they've watched 50 shades of grey and spanked their girlfriend's arse a couple of times! "
preach!  |
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Honestly anyone that calls themselves daddy without being asked to sounds creepy imo. Also anyone over a certain age using the word sounds weird as well, saw a profile earlier of a woman in her late 50s referring to a man as daddy earlier, I mean if you like geriatrics then sure, but other than that it just sounds odd |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, I’ve had younger guys come on to me and start calling me Daddy etc, for many reasons it weirds me out, I can’t help wonder what has happened to them for that dynamic to become a desire. It couldn’t be any less sexual for me I’m afraid. I absolutely refuse to engage in it and ignore. |
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I'm a Daddy Dom.
I'm not everyone's Daddy Dom and the title is saved for a dynamic. These sad prices have watched 50 shades and think girls will melt for that
It takes a lot if time effort and trust before using the title |
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Totally agree! A d/s relationship is very special as it involves high levels of trust, knowing your dom will keep you safe and discussions about limits and boundaries - communication is key
Absolutely agree with this! I think that’s why it irritates me when people use D/s terms so lightly or in a blasé way
Like 19yr olds claiming they're experienced doms because they've watched 50 shades of grey and spanked their girlfriend's arse a couple of times! "
Exactky my point right here
See them on kik groups. Same as im 18 Master from....
Fuck offfffff youre still growing up |
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By *rouble1998 OP Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
I don’t think there is anything wrong at all with using the term ‘daddy’ in the appropriate context. I know some people in D/s relationships and it’s a really important part of their dynamic
My only issue is people who use it willy nilly as though it has no meaning |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
Anyone have thoughts on this?"
You ever earned “little girl”?
Or is it “brat”? |
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"Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
Anyone have thoughts on this?"
I can see how this would be highly off-putting and i totally agree they must be earnt.
The names of our profile are the names that naturally came to be through our inital courtship which was based around a Dom/Sub dynamic.
Babygirl asked me how she should address me and i gave her a number of option, Daddy was the one that felt right for her.
We did at time have some fun with DD/LG role play but it doesn’t really play a part in our sex life anymore, but the names stuck and feel right for us.
We removed any references to sub/dom play from our profile as guys could not seem to understand that in our dynamic, i an the Dom, she is the sub and they would just be our tool.
We would just get endless messages from guys thinking they could just step into our bedroom and play the dominant.
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A lot of guys on here don't know how to speak to women. One called Hannah a slut recently so we basically told him to get lost.
I wonder how some of these people operate in society. If a mate introduces him to a lady he has not met before, is the first thing he says to her "Hello" or does he go straight in with "I'd like to bend you over a chair and fuck you up the arse, you slut"? In real life I'm guessing it's option 1, but on here they often seem to go for option 2. Why they think that's acceptable here I really don't know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have a ddlg dynamic to our relationship. I get it's not for everyone, but it works for us. Recently had a few guys message asking if I could call them daddy. After explaining what they should already know, one chipped in with "well how about if I was an uncle"... Grossed me out. The block button has never been hit so quickly |
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"We have a ddlg dynamic to our relationship. I get it's not for everyone, but it works for us. Recently had a few guys message asking if I could call them daddy. After explaining what they should already know, one chipped in with "well how about if I was an uncle"... Grossed me out. The block button has never been hit so quickly "
Uncle??? That is really nasty and worrying |
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By *andkCouple
over a year ago
Wisbech |
Probably because almost every video on pornhub had Daddy and or step daddy in the title, I can only assume they don't realise porn is just porn and not real life so they think that women also enjoy this type of porn, where as I imagine most women would hate it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens the other way around to, we get people randomly calling him Daddy in messages *eyeroll*
We have a ddlg relationship so I always call him Daddy. I'm sure there are people it puts off but its us and there is no point hiding. We don't involve others in that so its irrelevant to how we play but don't want to shock people when I say it if they're not expecting it 
There is a big difference between people in that lifestyle and people who just use the term during sex. |
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It's not as if your age preference is inclusive of men old enough to be your father.
Am guessing that some older chaps have the assumption that if young women do have older men as a preference that these women are looking for a father figure.
In your case, I cannot fathom at all why a stranger would message you with daddy remarks.
No wonder you're narked by it!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
Couldn’t agree more! Defo earned and I only
Have one daddy x
Anyone have thoughts on this?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The misuse of the name gets me in my eyes
Daddy is referred To Daddy Dom not even in a daddy normal Context more in a dominance way. People need to read up on DD and LG or LO before they make assumptions
It’s not in the context it’s made out to be
My relationship with my Daddy Dom isn’t like anything a dad and daughter would have
Nothing at all so why is gets portrayed that way I’ll never understand people just need to be educated on the actual meaning and the actual way the relationship works it can be amazing and we have such a connection it’s unreal x |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Yep, any title for that matter, it’s very personal to the relationship. I try to avoid generic names like little & little girl too if possible because if just feels disrespectful when with someone else using another’s name. I think it should be unique and come out of the dynamic as you begin the journey together |
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"Nothing irritates me more than men who don’t know me at all messaging me and referring to themselves as ‘Daddy’ or calling me their ‘little’ and ordering me to do things.
As far as i’m concerned, those are titles that have to be earned and not how you introduce yourself to someone in the first message.
Anyone have thoughts on this?"
Tbh OP that’s just fab, and what happens on here. I’ve read your profile and you don’t make any mention of wanting to meet men so why they are contacting you who knows?? |
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