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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
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"When younger lads want to Dom me I think "ah how sweet" in a sort of lioness licking her lips kind of way.
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I show baby girl some of those kinds of messages as it gives her a giggle.
One very slender young lad had sent a quite full on messaage. Babygirl laughed and said "he would bounce off me if he tried to ram me like you did and i would snap him in half if i rode him"
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
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Of course age comes into it. Partly because how can a 22-year-old (for example) have been in the scene long enough to have the necessary experience? But mainly because how could I take seriously and submit to someone young enough that I could have given birth to them? |
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
Of course age comes into it. Partly because how can a 22-year-old (for example) have been in the scene long enough to have the necessary experience? But mainly because how could I take seriously and submit to someone young enough that I could have given birth to them?"
Ha!
The under 30 female dominatrixes with older men as their bitches on the fetish website beg to differ!  |
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Ha!
The under 30 female dominatrixes with older men as their bitches on the fetish website beg to differ! "
Not really. The OP was talking about young Men wanting to dominant her.
Older men wanting to be dominanted is slightly different. Often its about be emasculated, so it makes sense to sunmit to someone younger.
For women in the most part a Dom needs to be convincing enough to hit that mental switch for her.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ha!
The under 30 female dominatrixes with older men as their bitches on the fetish website beg to differ!
Not really. The OP was talking about young Men wanting to dominant her.
Older men wanting to be dominanted is slightly different. Often its about be emasculated, so it makes sense to sunmit to someone younger.
For women in the most part a Dom needs to be convincing enough to hit that mental switch for her.
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Well yes really as she said age comes into it.
I don’t believe it does to the extent some think it does. Dominant men don’t need to be old, just as dominant women don’t need to be.
There are no rules in kink, some submissive men simply want to submit to powerful women and powerful women come in all ages. If it doesn’t work for one person that’s fine, but there are young Dom’s out there who would put many older ones to shame. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Spot on. The mental, the mind body soul connection rarely found down to one thing- lack of years of just living. Anyway just having fun with you all. Big love
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Ha!
The under 30 female dominatrixes with older men as their bitches on the fetish website beg to differ!
Not really. The OP was talking about young Men wanting to dominant her.
Older men wanting to be dominanted is slightly different. Often its about be emasculated, so it makes sense to sunmit to someone younger.
For women in the most part a Dom needs to be convincing enough to hit that mental switch for her.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Good point. I get a lot I'd submissive men wanting me to dominate in a similar way but rarely an "alpha-match". I think because I'm 100% switch I don't want a pure sub. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree. And because I am most definitely a switch, a brat AND I have a huge ass, I'm a double as hard to handle. "
You sound like me! Although I’m not a switch. Definitely a best with a huge ass! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We should team up and squash all these boys with our asses lol. Like some kind of kink horror movie lol. Be my friend? I need girlfriends in here we are outnumbered xx
"I agree. And because I am most definitely a switch, a brat AND I have a huge ass, I'm a double as hard to handle.
You sound like me! Although I’m not a switch. Definitely a best with a huge ass! "
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
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A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour  |
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"We should team up and squash all these boys with our asses lol. Like some kind of kink horror movie lol. Be my friend? I need girlfriends in here we are outnumbered xx I agree. And because I am most definitely a switch, a brat AND I have a huge ass, I'm a double as hard to handle.
You sound like me! Although I’m not a switch. Definitely a best with a huge ass! "
Yes let’s be friends!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour "
Spot on beautiful. Taking time to unravel, get under her skin, relish riding a wild stallion knowing you could lose your grip at any wrong turn and fall. Takes a bit of dedication to rise to that challenge. With it the mutual respect increases. Mmm makes me horny picturing it but boy is it rare.
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour
Spot on beautiful. Taking time to unravel, get under her skin, relish riding a wild stallion knowing you could lose your grip at any wrong turn and fall. Takes a bit of dedication to rise to that challenge. With it the mutual respect increases. Mmm makes me horny picturing it but boy is it rare.
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From personal experience a true brat tamer is a rare bread, but they do exist and when u find one it’s the most magical thing in the world! The ability to nurture so the brat becomes more calmer and knowing how to get the best from
Her! On the flip side for when the brat just needs to tantrum he has the firmest of grips on her that he knows just to reset and calm her again. It’s a rollercoaster but the most amazing ride if a brat find the right man |
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
Of course age comes into it. Partly because how can a 22-year-old (for example) have been in the scene long enough to have the necessary experience? But mainly because how could I take seriously and submit to someone young enough that I could have given birth to them?
Ha!
The under 30 female dominatrixes with older men as their bitches on the fetish website beg to differ! "
If that works for all concerned then good for them. It wouldn’t work for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour
Spot on beautiful. Taking time to unravel, get under her skin, relish riding a wild stallion knowing you could lose your grip at any wrong turn and fall. Takes a bit of dedication to rise to that challenge. With it the mutual respect increases. Mmm makes me horny picturing it but boy is it rare.
From personal experience a true brat tamer is a rare bread, but they do exist and when u find one it’s the most magical thing in the world! The ability to nurture so the brat becomes more calmer and knowing how to get the best from
Her! On the flip side for when the brat just needs to tantrum he has the firmest of grips on her that he knows just to reset and calm her again. It’s a rollercoaster but the most amazing ride if a brat find the right man "
You sound like the cat that got her cream. I'm super happy for you! For a while I had to negotiate three gentlemen (ethically, all aware of each other) in order to get my needs met holistically. I felt like the lass from Spike Lees- she's gotta have it. Managing the fragile Egos of men is just as hard as managing a brat for the record |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour "
I think it is not a question of skills but of aptitude. Expecially as some brats are really trying to top from the bottom. However as you say further on brat tamers are a specific breed.
I am at the moment talking to a pixie. |
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"Not a fan of brats 
We don’t care. 
This is literally the most brat response possible lol
So true! Tongue in cheek response x"
God I love Brats!
Occasionally after looking at sub/Dom Twitter I’ll just look up at Kitty and yell I really want us to meet a pet brat to play with! |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour
Spot on beautiful. Taking time to unravel, get under her skin, relish riding a wild stallion knowing you could lose your grip at any wrong turn and fall. Takes a bit of dedication to rise to that challenge. With it the mutual respect increases. Mmm makes me horny picturing it but boy is it rare.
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I think I distinguished between strong submissives and brats.
I always steal a quote that I saw on FL from a domme. It goes " I don't want wimpy submissives I want lions as submissives. I am Boudicca with her warriors".
There is a distinction between ensuring the dominant has the character and skills to be worthy of a submissive and someone pushing buttons for the sake of pushing buttons.
But with all things in kink its horses for courses. |
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"The main difference between a young inexperienced Dom and an older experienced one is we Dom from the mind down, they start from the knees up "
Not always!
The “weakest” and most misinformed Dom I ever came across was in his 50s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
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but what if it is all about age to the submissive woman ? then i guess it matters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
but what if it is all about age to the submissive woman ? then i guess it matters"
or submissive man ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour
Spot on beautiful. Taking time to unravel, get under her skin, relish riding a wild stallion knowing you could lose your grip at any wrong turn and fall. Takes a bit of dedication to rise to that challenge. With it the mutual respect increases. Mmm makes me horny picturing it but boy is it rare.
From personal experience a true brat tamer is a rare bread, but they do exist and when u find one it’s the most magical thing in the world! The ability to nurture so the brat becomes more calmer and knowing how to get the best from
Her! On the flip side for when the brat just needs to tantrum he has the firmest of grips on her that he knows just to reset and calm her again. It’s a rollercoaster but the most amazing ride if a brat find the right man
You sound like the cat that got her cream. I'm super happy for you! For a while I had to negotiate three gentlemen (ethically, all aware of each other) in order to get my needs met holistically. I felt like the lass from Spike Lees- she's gotta have it. Managing the fragile Egos of men is just as hard as managing a brat for the record "
Lol unfortunately I’ve only ever found two men So far, who were my type of Dom, they had the amazing mix of daddy and master and knew my personality to a ‘T’ and both knew exactly how to get the best from me and in return I worshiped them unconditionally... have now been searching for a year to find perfect number 3 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would have to agree age does come into play as a male Dom...
In my twenties I was all about.... I’m going to do this to you and this is your safe word to all my subs...
In my thirties, I learned about the mental build up to the play scene and aftercare.....
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"The main difference between a young inexperienced Dom and an older experienced one is we Dom from the mind down, they start from the knees up
Not always!
The “weakest” and most misinformed Dom I ever came across was in his 50s. "
Obviously someone who either learnt nothing or who couldn't be bothered to learn. The worst kind of plastic Dom's. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It should not be a matter of age, it should be a matter of whether the person steps up correctly.
A strong submissive (whether a lioness or not) is a good thing, but a brat (whether a lioness or not) is a pain in the arse.
A brat is only a pain in the arse if her dominant isn’t bothered about her! Maybe her bratty behaviour says more about the dominants skills, than her behaviour
Spot on beautiful. Taking time to unravel, get under her skin, relish riding a wild stallion knowing you could lose your grip at any wrong turn and fall. Takes a bit of dedication to rise to that challenge. With it the mutual respect increases. Mmm makes me horny picturing it but boy is it rare.
I think I distinguished between strong submissives and brats.
I always steal a quote that I saw on FL from a domme. It goes " I don't want wimpy submissives I want lions as submissives. I am Boudicca with her warriors".
There is a distinction between ensuring the dominant has the character and skills to be worthy of a submissive and someone pushing buttons for the sake of pushing buttons.
But with all things in kink its horses for courses."
THIS is the quote I have been searching for all my life. And warriors are hard to find. I love it and am gonna pin it to my board of thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing! X |
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I have yet to meet a younger man that I can submit too. All have been at least 5 years older than me.
It's a personal thing though. I have to mentally connect and younger guys just don't do that for me. |
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By *aks036Man
over a year ago
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Too be honest that’s a very good point. I mean from my personal perspective as a 21 year old male. I’m only really just starting to find out my own likes/ dislikes and limits. And because of that. Even if I was interested in taking in the more dominant role. I just couldn’t see my self having the know how needed to make her experience what she wants it to be.
Personally I think It may be best if beginners like me just stick to trying to get their feet under them as a sub and learn my way around this fantastic world of kink before We even think about putting on a pair of big boy pants and taking control. |
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