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over a year ago
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To all the ladies, couples and tv/ts what would call or say a pushy guy on fab?
Just your opinions basically on who pr what constitutes a push guy on this site? |
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A guy who messages repeatedly even though every previous message has been deleted. Sometimes 5 or more times in a few hours.
A guy who, when told I’m not interested, bombards me with messages trying to convince me. One even told me once “you don’t have to fancy me, just give me a chance”.
Someone who if you start talking to them because you’re initially interested, starts making demands and nagging for pics or video chats or constantly talking about how he wants to do things to you that you’ve already said you’re not into.
The worst of all though, was a man who’d hosted a party I was at and behaved inappropriately towards me on the day, who afterwards messaged me several times with offers and invitations, each of which I politely declined. This continued for some time until he got someone else (who I would have been willing to meet up until then) to try to arrange a meet and when I replied, I was told “it’ll be at X’s house, it’ll just be the three of us”. After that I blocked the first guy. Who then started pestering me off his couple profile instead, so I blocked that too. And then I started getting messages from random men saying “X says you’re organising a gangbang and I should contact you for an invite”. That took “pushy” to a horrendous new level for me. |
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"A guy who messages repeatedly even though every previous message has been deleted. Sometimes 5 or more times in a few hours.
A guy who, when told I’m not interested, bombards me with messages trying to convince me. One even told me once “you don’t have to fancy me, just give me a chance”.
Someone who if you start talking to them because you’re initially interested, starts making demands and nagging for pics or video chats or constantly talking about how he wants to do things to you that you’ve already said you’re not into.
The worst of all though, was a man who’d hosted a party I was at and behaved inappropriately towards me on the day, who afterwards messaged me several times with offers and invitations, each of which I politely declined. This continued for some time until he got someone else (who I would have been willing to meet up until then) to try to arrange a meet and when I replied, I was told “it’ll be at X’s house, it’ll just be the three of us”. After that I blocked the first guy. Who then started pestering me off his couple profile instead, so I blocked that too. And then I started getting messages from random men saying “X says you’re organising a gangbang and I should contact you for an invite”. That took “pushy” to a horrendous new level for me."
Wow, first and foremost thanks for the detailed answer and sorry you had to go through that. Some guys I think on some level trying to convince a woman who's not initially into them to liking them is an accomplishment to some. As for me, I'm pretty intelligent, very polite and kind and I'm blessed with some wonderful Gene's, so chasing after a woman is a no no for me, a gym too hard, have hair down my back that's stress to take care of (like over 2 hours or wash, dry and twist) to be harassing women on amy site, even via WhatsApp if I sense for a minute I'm the one who is always initiating contact, I'll simply stop.
There are way too many ppl in the world to be stuck chasing after one. |
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Yes I'm very confident (I try not to be cocky) I was a nerd in school and I worked really hard on my image (gym, locs, beard) and I really grew into my looks, I've always treated women with respect (even if they haven't treated me respectfully) so I'm cool and again I don't see the need to chase.
I always joke with my friends (male or female) "chase you, please I don't even chase my liquor" haha |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What are your thoughts OP?"
To me a pushy guy msgs a woman even after she ignores the first message, worse yet if she deletes it (even though sometimes this is because she mass deletes messages)
Also he seems to try to get a meet right away and keeps on harassing women for naked pics/vids and tries to impose his will on them, try to talk them to doing things that will please him and not her and sometimes resorts to inappropriate language when he doesn't get his way. |
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For me on this site, I have a standard way I operate.
Send a greeting with a few face pics, I do mention my height and my cock size as well as a brief intro about myself.
If she's interested I'll ask her a bit about herself and also a face pic (if she hasn't sent one already) and flirt, sex talk etc.
I don't msg a woman if she has deleted to first msg
Most if not all times if she hasn't read the msg as yet I wouldn't message her again
I have never used derogatory or obscene language on a woman in my life (not in person nor in text) exceptions being when we're talking dirty (and/or when we're having sex)
I personally try to keep to high standards
On all my meets thus far I've brought flowers (some even got more than that) and yea (except for one was and I was running a but late so I couldn't get flowers) |
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"there are pushy women and couples too not just guys but guys stand oiut due to the % game"
I agree, I've gotten countless meet now or meet tonight and at some crazy hours like 1 or 2 am lol. And then they get upset and block you when you politely decline lol. |
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Also I might add, despite being stood up a few times for meets, I've never msged the person afterwards anything inappropriate, most times I haven't msged the person back at all tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Also I might add, despite being stood up a few times for meets, I've never msged the person afterwards anything inappropriate, most times I haven't msged the person back at all tbh"
Best way. If they can't be respectful and let you know what happened they're not worth your time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To all the ladies, couples and tv/ts what would call or say a pushy guy on fab?
Just your opinions basically on who pr what constitutes a push guy on this site?"
I wouldn't say someone was pushy if I said no and they replied why not/ please meet me/ etc.
I'd say they were pushy if I'd said no 3 times and they kept asking. |
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"Hey OP have a look at this thread. Lots of women saying they would be happy with flowers on a first meet. 
www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1079590
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thanks will check it out, can you tell me the name of the thread, much thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey OP have a look at this thread. Lots of women saying they would be happy with flowers on a first meet.
www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1079590
thanks will check it out, can you tell me the name of the thread, much thanks."
It's called "So what do YOU want as a gift on a first fab meet"
In the Lounge. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Hey OP have a look at this thread. Lots of women saying they would be happy with flowers on a first meet.
www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1079590
thanks will check it out, can you tell me the name of the thread, much thanks.
It's called "So what do YOU want as a gift on a first fab meet"
In the Lounge. "
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