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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As you will see, I'm open about being on here with out my wife's knowledge. However why do people feel it necessary to try and slate people for this if I'm not your cup of tea say that....
Anyone else experienced that.... Some people on here clearly think that manners mean nothing.
I will also take the opportunity to thank those guys that have been polite and say thanks but no thanks rather than try and tell me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good on you for being honest about your marital status OP. Folk know where they stand then and can make the informed choice to get involved or not.
Personally i dont slate married ppl who are in your situation. I just ignore their messages and block them. No need to cause agg about it. |
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We assume most people are in relationship and prefer the honesty anyone who has had a few meets will of met someone married or in long-term relationship they just won't know the truth at least being honest you give people the option |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is my point. I get what I'm doing isn't for some people and I'm not trying to force myself on you.
If I'm not for you block me or ignore the message. You don't need to try and tell me off or slate me.
Oh well..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I've been on the receiving end of it and it's an absolute cunt thing to do to someone that you apparently care about. If you're that unhappy in your relationship then leave, then you're free to do whatever you like  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it crazy when people cheating tell me ...but at least they’re being honest with me........eh but I’m a stranger surely the honesty should be given to the partner
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my point. I get what I'm doing isn't for some people and I'm not trying to force myself on you.
If I'm not for you block me or ignore the message. You don't need to try and tell me off or slate me.
Oh well..... "
Posting in here is asking for people to give you their opinions, good and bad of what you do. I wouldn't expect someone to proactively message you to give you a hard time, but if you message someone, the gate is open for them to share their opinion.
Thick skin is vital on here, because whoever you are, someone won't like you! You just have to ignore, block and move on like you said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think any cheater deserves praise for being “honest” about cheating, because essentially you’re not being honest, if you were you wouldn’t be lying to the person who supposed to be the most important.
But I don’t agree with anyone sending abuse to others for their choice of lifestyle, it’s wrong and against the rules. Having an opinion, even a strong one is fine, but abuse is not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unhappy.. I think its more than that.
If either is not getting it they go else where it seems. Oh my
You can have a happy relationship but the sex candle went out.
You can have a relationship when both candles are not burning any more. Come what may you fall out of love.
Some men stay because of kids or just want NSA same goes for women.
Having been cheated on I know how it felt. I kicked him out. I'd do the same thing but not looking for married or cheating folk.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As you will see, I'm open about being on here with out my wife's knowledge. However why do people feel it necessary to try and slate people for this if I'm not your cup of tea say that....
Anyone else experienced that.... Some people on here clearly think that manners mean nothing.
I will also take the opportunity to thank those guys that have been polite and say thanks but no thanks rather than try and tell me off. "
Are they actually being abusive or just pointing out that betraying the person who trusts you the most in the world is a really really shitty thing to do?
That she will be devastated when she finds out (which she will) and you’re feeling guilty in response?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first thought always is if he’s willing to lie to his own wife. Is he lying about his STD status, is drama heading my way. Are his photos even accurate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My first thought always is if he’s willing to lie to his own wife. Is he lying about his STD status, is drama heading my way. Are his photos even accurate. "
This.
Not only that I personally couldn’t trust someone who lies to someone so close to them.
I’ve also been on the receiving end of cheating so I know exactly how it fucks with your head and can affect future relationships so I’d never want to participate in that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my point. I get what I'm doing isn't for some people and I'm not trying to force myself on you.
If I'm not for you block me or ignore the message. You don't need to try and tell me off or slate me.
Oh well.....
Posting in here is asking for people to give you their opinions, good and bad of what you do. I wouldn't expect someone to proactively message you to give you a hard time, but if you message someone, the gate is open for them to share their opinion.
Thick skin is vital on here, because whoever you are, someone won't like you! You just have to ignore, block and move on like you said."
I also want to be clear, I don't agree with what you're doing, and you would certainly be blocked from any contact with us. If you're not getting what you need from your relationship, give her and you the chance to be happy with other people. What's the point in staying together if you're not happy? That's not abuse, just a general observation on people in unhappy relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As you will see, I'm open about being on here with out my wife's knowledge. However why do people feel it necessary to try and slate people for this if I'm not your cup of tea say that....
Anyone else experienced that.... Some people on here clearly think that manners mean nothing.
I will also take the opportunity to thank those guys that have been polite and say thanks but no thanks rather than try and tell me off. "
Manners and respect mean an awful lot, but let's be honest now.
Why go on about manners when you don't have the good manners to be honest with your wife?
Maybe your obvious lack of respect and honesty is why people slate you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because I've been on the receiving end of it and it's an absolute cunt thing to do to someone that you apparently care about. If you're that unhappy in your relationship then leave, then you're free to do whatever you like "
Great comment from a single guy for a change! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone for popcorn? "
Not for us, but alcohol will do.
It is Sunday afternoon!!
Profile hidden, we don't think OP expected such a lack of support. He was expecting a round of applause for his 'honesty' it seems
Thing is, this is Fabswingers, not Fabcheaters. Too many people forget that!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really amazing the amount of married men that come on the forums screaming that they are playing away.......
Women never do this .........
Op just keep your relationship status to yourself and carry on swinging..,.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It really amazing the amount of married men that come on the forums screaming that they are playing away.......
Women never do this .........
Op just keep your relationship status to yourself and carry on swinging..,.."
Agree totally.
They then start squealing when they get abuse.
Stop advertising it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It really amazing the amount of married men that come on the forums screaming that they are playing away.......
Women never do this .........
Op just keep your relationship status to yourself and carry on swinging..,.."
This is so true.
It’s like they enjoy the comments or something. |
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"Anyone for popcorn?
Not for us, but alcohol will do.
It is Sunday afternoon!!
Profile hidden, we don't think OP expected such a lack of support. He was expecting a round of applause for his 'honesty' it seems
Thing is, this is Fabswingers, not Fabcheaters. Too many people forget that!!"
As with the other highly emotional topic on the forums (bareback), there's a big difference between stating an opinion on a forum and attacking someone when they send a polite message.
OP doesn't seem to be looking for that round of applause, just asking for the common decency of being ignored or blocked when messaging, rather than being attacked.
As with everything here, if not to your taste, everyone can simply ignore and more on. |
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"As you will see, I'm open about being on here with out my wife's knowledge. However why do people feel it necessary to try and slate people for this if I'm not your cup of tea say that....
Anyone else experienced that.... Some people on here clearly think that manners mean nothing.
I will also take the opportunity to thank those guys that have been polite and say thanks but no thanks rather than try and tell me off. "
If married/ involved men message then I tell them specifically why it’s a no. My profile states don’t message they ignore it and do so anyway - fair game imo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because I've been on the receiving end of it and it's an absolute cunt thing to do to someone that you apparently care about. If you're that unhappy in your relationship then leave, then you're free to do whatever you like "
We agree with you on this. We have both been cheated on with our ex's. It's not nice to be on the receiving end of this. Best thing to do is move on and be honest with yourself. Not a big fan of cheaters tbh .. Each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If married/ involved men message then I tell them specifically why it’s a no. My profile states don’t message they ignore it and do so anyway - fair game imo. "
My profile says the same, they ignore it and msg me anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People love to form opinions without knowing full facts.
We try to reserve judgement as we appreciate life is rarely black and white."
We totally agree, however the reasons to cheat are very very few and far between.
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You're not being honest, can tell anything to strangers. The internet is a funny thing. But in reality you're a snake. Only my opinion. This is an open thread so assume im entitled to express, but I wouldnt message and give you abuse. Your choice what you do. |
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"People love to form opinions without knowing full facts.
We try to reserve judgement as we appreciate life is rarely black and white.
We totally agree, however the reasons to cheat are very very few and far between.
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Agree with both statements here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Curious, what do people consider a good ‘reason’ to cheat?
There isnt a good reason surely?"
Well no I wouldn’t personally think so! I don’t understand anyone who is given something as fragile as someone’s faith and just crush it like that but that’s just me  |
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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn’t get involved with someone who was cheating on their partner. I’ve been on the receiving end and there’s is nothing more crushing than finding out someone who you trusted was betraying you.
Each to their own but not something i’m interested in |
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It doesn’t bother us if your attached or not. What we don’t understand is 1. If your unhappy leave 2. If your happy but looking for abit more why don’t you talk about it and maybe swing together or get permission. 3. Why put it on your profile, if your ‘being upfront’ about it perhaps you should do the same with your partner |
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"People love to form opinions without knowing full facts.
We try to reserve judgement as we appreciate life is rarely black and white.
We totally agree, however the reasons to cheat are very very few and far between.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think any cheater deserves praise for being “honest” about cheating, because essentially you’re not being honest, if you were you wouldn’t be lying to the person who supposed to be the most important.
But I don’t agree with anyone sending abuse to others for their choice of lifestyle, it’s wrong and against the rules. Having an opinion, even a strong one is fine, but abuse is not. "
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We don't give a fuck if someone is married or not nut we do care if we get some deranged bunny boiler knocking on the door or ringing at 3 in the morning. For this reason we won't play with attached guys. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think people have misunderstood. I'm not asking for praise for being honest.
I'm asking for people not berate me. If I'm not for you just ignore me.or block me rather than slate me.
It's my preference to do what I do and my choice. No different to someone else with a preference. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone for popcorn?
Not for us, but alcohol will do.
It is Sunday afternoon!!
Profile hidden, we don't think OP expected such a lack of support. He was expecting a round of applause for his 'honesty' it seems
Thing is, this is Fabswingers, not Fabcheaters. Too many people forget that!!
As with the other highly emotional topic on the forums (bareback), there's a big difference between stating an opinion on a forum and attacking someone when they send a polite message.
OP doesn't seem to be looking for that round of applause, just asking for the common decency of being ignored or blocked when messaging, rather than being attacked.
As with everything here, if not to your taste, everyone can simply ignore and more on."
That's exactly my point. I don't care if it's your taste..... I just don't want to be attacked and berated when I've sent you a message after reading your. Profile |
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"Because I've been on the receiving end of it and it's an absolute cunt thing to do to someone that you apparently care about. If you're that unhappy in your relationship then leave, then you're free to do whatever you like "
spot 9n but the world is full of selfish bastards that only think about themselves and not the people they're supposed to love. My motto in life is have fun but don't hurt people on your way. This is why I hardly meet off here because so many cheating people on here it's made me rethink trusting people now. Fab has definitely ruined me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone for popcorn?
Not for us, but alcohol will do.
It is Sunday afternoon!!
Profile hidden, we don't think OP expected such a lack of support. He was expecting a round of applause for his 'honesty' it seems
Thing is, this is Fabswingers, not Fabcheaters. Too many people forget that!!"
I've hidden my profile as I'm not looking for anyone at moment. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I think people have misunderstood. I'm not asking for praise for being honest.
I'm asking for people not berate me. If I'm not for you just ignore me.or block me rather than slate me.
It's my preference to do what I do and my choice. No different to someone else with a preference. "
Then perhaps you should have worded your thread lead more carefully.
How about, “honestly I cheat, only those who want to have sex with me reply”.
Might of worked.
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I’ve been cheated on, now that guy gets to see my children every day, whilst I get the weekend visits. A second hand parent that wished he’d not spent a good chunk of his life with the wrong woman.
So my empathy is with your partner, if she was cheating wouldn’t you want others to be less sympathetic to her on here ?
However I also commend those who are honest on their profiles, no matter what it is they’re being honest about. No Man or Woman on here should be in the middle of someone else’s relationship troubles unknowingly. If you know that person is in a relationship then that’s one thing, you reap what you sow. But finding out later, maybe even being confronted by that person’s partner isn’t fair.
So keep being honest about it, but it will come with a price.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been called a cheating slag even though it clearly says on my profile that I'm in an open relationship and that we both meet seperately.
Also I don't have a problem with married folk as long as they are upfront about it from the beginning |
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"I've been called a cheating slag even though it clearly says on my profile that I'm in an open relationship and that we both meet seperately.
Also I don't have a problem with married folk as long as they are upfront about it from the beginning"
Just admit you were hiding the card up your sleeve and we'll all let it go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyway OP, do what ever you want to do.
Worst case scenario is folk will block you but at least by starting this thread you can block a few yourself.
Chin up fella
Peace out |
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Cheating is cheating. Honesty is the best policy. As painfull as being honest is. because of children and other elements involved. You cant live a lie it always comes back to bite. Cheaters never prosper
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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I don't slate people for it , unless they still contact me when I have in my profile that I wouldn't meet someone playing away. Then they might get a sharp reply depending what mood I'm in.
Report any abuse you get op |
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I met a lady on here a couple of years ago, got on really well and messaged on WhatsApp about meeting again..
Then she popped up on my Facebook as a friend suggestion ..
With pics of her hubby and family..
I did question her and she says getting sex to fulfill her needs outside of her marriage was actually saving her marriage..
I backed away and we didn’t meet again..
There’s so many people to meet on here why choose attached people |
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"Good on you for being honest about your marital status OP. Folk know where they stand then and can make the informed choice to get involved or not.
Personally i dont slate married ppl who are in your situation. I just ignore their messages and block them. No need to cause agg about it. "
Yeah , massive well done for being honest .........except to his wife of course , the one person he should definitely be honest with ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you are going to get so many sanctimonious replies, they are all holier than thou, when it suits them.... statistics are 1 in 4 people in a relationship have had or will have an affair, so every 4 people that reply to you are shagging out with the marital bed.
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Nothing to do with being holier than thou.
Some of us have different morals and would never put the heartbreak and hurt onto someone else by cheating because we know how it feels and how selfish it actually is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good on you for being honest about your marital status OP. Folk know where they stand then and can make the informed choice to get involved or not.
Personally i dont slate married ppl who are in your situation. I just ignore their messages and block them. No need to cause agg about it.
Yeah , massive well done for being honest .........except to his wife of course , the one person he should definitely be honest with ! "
This is what makes me laugh.
“I’m being honest” you’re being “honest” to a bunch of people you don’t know or care for, but not being honest to the person who is supposed to be most important, the person you chose to make your life partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you are going to get so many sanctimonious replies, they are all holier than thou, when it suits them.... statistics are 1 in 4 people in a relationship have had or will have an affair, so every 4 people that reply to you are shagging out with the marital bed.
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The numbers are totally irrelevant.
How does it make it any better?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, you are going to get so many sanctimonious replies, they are all holier than thou, when it suits them.... statistics are 1 in 4 people in a relationship have had or will have an affair, so every 4 people that reply to you are shagging out with the marital bed.
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Would you by any chance be doing the same thing as the OP?? |
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