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SINGLE S ACCOMODATING OR NOT
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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JUST ABIT OF FUN HERES SOME REASON'S IVE
CAME UP AGAINST..NO HERE 2 OFFEND
1)STILL STAY WITH THE EX TILL WE SELL THE HOUSE
2)IM BCK STAYING WITH MY MUM
3)PLACE IS A MESS
4)I CAN COME 2 U AFTER MY WORK
5)GOT FAMILY STAYING WITH ME
6)DECORATING
7)GOT FLAT MATES
8)ILL BE OUT AN ABOUT ANYWAY
9)NEIGHBOURS ARE NOSY
10)DONT LIKE WERE I LIVE
SO WAT REASONS HAVE U GOT IN THE PASS |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only accomidate when my housemates are both out, simply out of respect for them. I don't want to be bringing random people into their space, especially random men.
I also like to keep my internet dating life seperate from my social life, and as my housemates are also my closest friends I don't want them asking who that person was, if they can come round for dinner so they can meet them etc.
They know I'm much more into casual sex than either of them are, but I'm happy for their knowledge of that part of my life to stay at that level! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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think different for females versus males for obvious security...
add to that .... kids at home for both male and female single parents...
apart from that.... cant think of any reason why a single guy cant accomodate.
apart from he doesn't want to and thats cool....
but flatmates in... ffs, dont they know each other has sex .. lol
living in same house as ex... ok, but nothing surely stopping him from staying out all night lol ...
in my humble opinion, the rest is pish lol .......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had the following all off the same guy:
Grandma staying over as her room is being decorated as she lives with his parents normally.
Cousin staying over as has interview in the area.
Other cousin staying as here to visit family
Other cousin staying for another interview
he didnt last long lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All sound like they have something to hide.
But of course some just maybe true, sometimes...
I don't want people I don't know very well staying over, but happy for them to play and go |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just reading another thread and I forgot to include the nan that he had staying over while her room was being decorated had now died, thing is he then forgot he had told me that lie as he then went on to stay she was still there!
yes definately things to hide for sure, mind you, the fact that when I was there I was on a timer and he kept jumping up at every car light pulling into the street gave it away lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like having people here as my fatmate doesn't approve of me having random people over and I totally respect that. Also some people don' leave so easily and that's a horrid situation! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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stunna he was classic, he once told me he had a new car, an audi, he forgot that lie too and turned up in his megane!! eeee nose like pinocchio that one had
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"Don't have swingers back here - don't shit on my own doorstep" 
(from a single to a single) "I have nosey neighbours"... I could understand if it was about hearding couples in and out all night 
Oh and as I have that I don't accom on my profile I guess I should include the reason I most commonly give... "because I don't" |
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"All sound like they have something to hide.
But of course some just maybe true, sometimes...
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Having read the post(s) from single ladies who've been badly misled by guys claiming to be single and turning out to be attached the answer is simple. Don't take the risk.
If a single guys can't/ won't accommodate it's for one reason. He doesn't want you in his house. Ask yourself why. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
I don't get it -
I can accommodate - am HAPPY to accommodate, work dates to convenience.. but do people wanna come over?
I actually got "You sound too good to be true, and as things usually aren't, am gonna say no".
What else do I have to do? pmsl. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get it -
I can accommodate - am HAPPY to accommodate, work dates to convenience.. but do people wanna come over?
I actually got "You sound too good to be true, and as things usually aren't, am gonna say no".
What else do I have to do? pmsl."
Been there and bought the same t-shirt lol |
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
i'm single and i can accomadate, and will always do so,as for the nieghbour's lol sod them, do i ask who was that you had stop over last night ,,,,, no i don't, what they do is their buisness and what i do is mine, simples as, and theres always a breakfast if the lady stops over or couple come to that even if it is just toast and coffee |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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how quick dave! that so made me chuckle!! I was however referring to the fact that he was getting me choccie croissants, how is a girl to resist those!!
(not that im saying im easy pleased mind)
lol x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ive had the following all off the same guy:
Grandma staying over as her room is being decorated as she lives with his parents normally.
Cousin staying over as has interview in the area.
Other cousin staying as here to visit family
Other cousin staying for another interview
he didnt last long lol x"
lol fs id do away with him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a single guy and have nothing to hide but the simple fact is, I won;t have people over, I prefer to do the travelling. I met a couple from another site a couple of years ago at mine and had a great night but the next day, I noticed a few of my things were missing....nothing big, some dvd's, cd's etc. I never had any proof it was them but I hadn't had anyone else round so I decided I wouldn't have people round after that and I would do all the travelling. If people think I'm hiding something, thats up to them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm a single guy and have nothing to hide but the simple fact is, I won;t have people over, I prefer to do the travelling. I met a couple from another site a couple of years ago at mine and had a great night but the next day, I noticed a few of my things were missing....nothing big, some dvd's, cd's etc. I never had any proof it was them but I hadn't had anyone else round so I decided I wouldn't have people round after that and I would do all the travelling. If people think I'm hiding something, thats up to them."
omg thats bad i once got accused of
stealing out a cpls house cause i didnt
want 2 meet them again they were d*unks
an very pushy..an im glad it happen
cause she was caught out by falling
over her own lies..ive never stolen
a thing in my life but wat i say is
wat go's around..come's around |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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had most of the excuses in the list !! had a few take cream puff when i wont accomodate! i only do for a select few and usually after iv sussed them out a few times to make sure they not some fruit loop thats goin to appear at random times on my door step! no offence to all the single guys before u start calling me for everythin but im sure u understand safety and reasons why! as for some of the reasons u get for people not accomodatin they do give u a laugh! personal fav " i got a dog it might not like u" the dog was possibly his wife/partner who didnt know his little swingin secret lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you start with the premise that single person cant accom = married person playing away then quite frankly you are almost 100% guaranteed to avoid disappointment.
There are 100's of genuine single folk who can accom so why fuck about with potential cheats.
This life style is really really easy so why complicate things |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
okay... the decorating one i have a bone with....
I am in the middle of having my whole house done.... I didn't really fancy accomodating with the builders in, if you want to shag in a house half finished then cool... I just don't people to complain about it afterwards... lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im single and i dont accommodate simply because i have children and i dont think its safe to be giving out my address to men on sex sites, ok i know most guys on here are ok but not all of them are and my childrens safty comes first |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5 |
PS Its only an excuse if its a lie I suppose.
Anyone who cannot offer to accomodate me the same, I suggest he books and pays for a hotel, after all, he is the one who has difficulties, not me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i actually have a theory on paying for hotel rooms, if i contacted a guy and it was me who asked him to met id ecpect to pay for the room, if he contacted me first then he should pay lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"im single and i dont accommodate simply because i have children and i dont think its safe to be giving out my address to men on sex sites, ok i know most guys on here are ok but not all of them are and my childrens safty comes first"
I'd never expect anyone with children to accomodate, even if they knew me well, and its not just your children's safety, but also the fact that ideally you don't want them finding out. |
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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago
Back of Beyond |
Like others we cannot accomodate at home cos of teenager it's a hazard of being married so its something we expect to see.
However with single guys its different, you really have to think, if they cannot accomodate why? Especially the older guys, they cannot surely still be at home with parents into their 40's? So there is a good chance that if they cannot accomodate they may be cheating on a wife. Its surprising how many single guys have this opinion also. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Like others we cannot accomodate at home cos of teenager it's a hazard of being married so its something we expect to see.
However with single guys its different, you really have to think, if they cannot accomodate why? Especially the older guys, they cannot surely still be at home with parents into their 40's? So there is a good chance that if they cannot accomodate they may be cheating on a wife. Its surprising how many single guys have this opinion also."
Maybe divorced or going through one and until any settlement is reached or kids grown up and left hasn't enough money to pay for two houses?
Sometimes living with someone else, ie the mother is true. My other half did when he was going through his divorce.  |
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"i'm single and i can accomadate, and will always do so,as for the nieghbour's lol sod them, do i ask who was that you had stop over last night ,,,,, no i don't, what they do is their buisness and what i do is mine, simples as, and theres always a breakfast if the lady stops over or couple come to that even if it is just toast and coffee "
You took the words right out of my mouth.What we do in the privacy of our own home has nothing to do with the neighbours so ive never worried about what they think. |
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
i've seen some single guy's who have genuine reason's for not accomadating.
1) they are seperated and don't want to be seen with other women because the divorce could get nasty.
2) they house flat share.
3)they have the kid's(some men are single parents too)
4)some live in accomadation thats on the lower end of the housing scale and are just to embarrased to take someone back there.
so just because it say's in their profile that they cannot accomadate, it don't always mean they are married and playing away,
there are almost equal amounts of women/couples who state the can't also and their reason's seem to be excepted without question.
though i do wonder myself sometime's,specially a single female who is willing to stop over night yet can't accomadate.
so before we jump to conclusion's and paint each single with the same brush, wouldn't it be a wise thing to at least question the individual and find out why he/she can't accomadate, then if you think the reason's aren't good enough walk away, with a polite sorry but after chatting i'm not sure that we are compatable.
let's stop all this poking finger's and judgementalness and get back to the fun side of what this site was set up to achive.and remember we were all single once and if we were again think on how it might effect your ability to play freely at any given time, and how other's might inturpret your reason's .
witha little tollerance this whole senario could and should go away.
Ok you will always get the odd one or two who will try and pull the wool, but hell's bell's thats the nature of the beast, it's down to each of us to ask the right question's in the first place surly. |
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
"slightly off topic but when a 'single' guy send you a pic showing hus wedding ring it's a bit of a give away "
when i first left my X and for about two years therafter i still wore my wedding ring,it wasn't till right after the divorce was made final that i took mine off, i may be old fashioned but to me untill the day the paper's are rubber stamped you are still technically part of a couple, and who in their right mind would supply ammunition to a partner to allow them t use against you in a divorce, also i've seen loads of "single" women not only on here but in the soical world away from swinging how still have wedding/engagementrings on their fingers.
and as a by-line i had to have mine cut off after 27 years of wearing it so that had to wait till i could find/afford to have it done |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"i've seen some single guy's who have genuine reason's for not accomadating.
1) they are seperated and don't want to be seen with other women because the divorce could get nasty.
2) they house flat share.
3)they have the kid's(some men are single parents too)
4)some live in accomadation thats on the lower end of the housing scale and are just to embarrased to take someone back there.
so just because it say's in their profile that they cannot accomadate, it don't always mean they are married and playing away,
there are almost equal amounts of women/couples who state the can't also and their reason's seem to be excepted without question.
though i do wonder myself sometime's,specially a single female who is willing to stop over night yet can't accomadate.
so before we jump to conclusion's and paint each single with the same brush, wouldn't it be a wise thing to at least question the individual and find out why he/she can't accomadate, then if you think the reason's aren't good enough walk away, with a polite sorry but after chatting i'm not sure that we are compatable.
let's stop all this poking finger's and judgementalness and get back to the fun side of what this site was set up to achive.and remember we were all single once and if we were again think on how it might effect your ability to play freely at any given time, and how other's might inturpret your reason's .
witha little tollerance this whole senario could and should go away.
Ok you will always get the odd one or two who will try and pull the wool, but hell's bell's thats the nature of the beast, it's down to each of us to ask the right question's in the first place surly. "
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
"i've seen some single guy's who have genuine reason's for not accomadating.
1) they are seperated and don't want to be seen with other women because the divorce could get nasty.
2) they house flat share.
3)they have the kid's(some men are single parents too)
4)some live in accomadation thats on the lower end of the housing scale and are just to embarrased to take someone back there.
so just because it say's in their profile that they cannot accomadate, it don't always mean they are married and playing away,
there are almost equal amounts of women/couples who state the can't also and their reason's seem to be excepted without question.
though i do wonder myself sometime's,specially a single female who is willing to stop over night yet can't accomadate.
so before we jump to conclusion's and paint each single with the same brush, wouldn't it be a wise thing to at least question the individual and find out why he/she can't accomadate, then if you think the reason's aren't good enough walk away, with a polite sorry but after chatting i'm not sure that we are compatable.
let's stop all this poking finger's and judgementalness and get back to the fun side of what this site was set up to achive.and remember we were all single once and if we were again think on how it might effect your ability to play freely at any given time, and how other's might inturpret your reason's .
witha little tollerance this whole senario could and should go away.
Ok you will always get the odd one or two who will try and pull the wool, but hell's bell's thats the nature of the beast, it's down to each of us to ask the right question's in the first place surly.
Wise words "
thank you. just logical when you look at what we are all looking for,some intamate fun with like minded people who want the same as each and every one of us,privacy is a by-word we all respect so if someone wants to keep what they are doing away from their normal life style we should respect that need not accuse them of being underhanded, and there's that word that pop's up in almost every profile on this site " RESPECT" if you want it earn it, it's a two way street |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Touvak, just to pick up on one of your wonderful points, the one about single guys maybe living in the lower scale type housing, well I think I speak for most women and only the following is important:
a clean toilet
clean sheet on the bed
a clean wine glass
the rest isnt important, well it isnt to me!
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
it might not be important to you, but a guy with an image will see it as important, every one seems to forget that impression's count for a lot, i've seen people on here slagging off other peoples photo's because there's a pile of washing waiting for the iron or theres a shoe in the photo, impression's set the stage, and if you are turning up at some rundown looking building, your not going to enter it in the right frame of mind, this swinging life style is all about mind set's and we each have a different mind set, what exceptable to one will never be exceptable to another, thats the human factor, we are all different we will always be different.
All i and anyone else ask's for on the site is for a reasonable amount of respect to be shown all round regardless of the difference's between each and everones needs,desires,requirement's,or prefference's. we are who we are we can't change that but we can and should respect that in each and everyone we meet in our everyday life |
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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago
Notting |
"Touvak, just to pick up on one of your wonderful points, the one about single guys maybe living in the lower scale type housing, well I think I speak for most women and only the following is important:
a clean toilet
clean sheet on the bed
a clean wine glass
the rest isnt important, well it isnt to me!
x"
I see what you are saying there Sweets, as only going there to fuck and not be looking to moving in, then the "house" itself is not an issue.
BUT - i do still find cleanliness a turn on, and even going to use someones bathroom, if the windowsill is scabby with toothpaste etc, it does make me think "ewwwwwwwwww" as it just shows lack of effort.
You can be a bit untidy and still be clean.
At the end of the day - if someones house is not up to your standards and you feel you cant play there again, dont.
If you feel you can mention it to the person/persons involved GREAT - but dont come on here and slag em off publically - thats just rude 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I havent slagged anyone off have I? If I have it certainly wasnt intentional, im not that kind of person at all, or am I reading your last bit wrong debutante? |
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
"Touvak, just to pick up on one of your wonderful points, the one about single guys maybe living in the lower scale type housing, well I think I speak for most women and only the following is important:
a clean toilet
clean sheet on the bed
a clean wine glass
the rest isnt important, well it isnt to me!
x
I see what you are saying there Sweets, as only going there to fuck and not be looking to moving in, then the "house" itself is not an issue.
BUT - i do still find cleanliness a turn on, and even going to use someones bathroom, if the windowsill is scabby with toothpaste etc, it does make me think "ewwwwwwwwww" as it just shows lack of effort.
You can be a bit untidy and still be clean.
At the end of the day - if someones house is not up to your standards and you feel you cant play there again, dont.
If you feel you can mention it to the person/persons involved GREAT - but dont come on here and slag em off publically - thats just rude
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thats my point entirely, and it's all about RESPECT, something that everyone on here needs to remember,RESPECT is not just for you it's for everyone on the site, so if you have a problem with one particular person or a group of people please have the respect to keep it private or personal and speak to the individual or person's in private , not in the open forum were it in my mind shows disrespect to all that use the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More power to your elbow, Touvak!!
I just wish everybody on this site, whether they use these forums or not, could read your words, might just get through to some individuals!!!
In fact, admin should copy and paste them onto the home page!!
I'm not perfect myself, but good words, sir. |
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Did you still go on with the meet it sounds like you did. If so the lies this rat told worked and he probably also had a wife sat at home. If your happy to go ahead with a meet knowing some one is lier then dont complain. But i think its better to out the rats... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"slightly off topic but when a 'single' guy send you a pic showing hus wedding ring it's a bit of a give away
when i first left my X and for about two years therafter i still wore my wedding ring,it wasn't till right after the divorce was made final that i took mine off, i may be old fashioned but to me untill the day the paper's are rubber stamped you are still technically part of a couple, and who in their right mind would supply ammunition to a partner to allow them t use against you in a divorce, also i've seen loads of "single" women not only on here but in the soical world away from swinging how still have wedding/engagementrings on their fingers.
and as a by-line i had to have mine cut off after 27 years of wearing it so that had to wait till i could find/afford to have it done "
My wedding rings were stuck too after 19 years so the day after I left my ex I went to the local fire station and they happily cut mine off for me for nothing lol xx xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Touvak, just to pick up on one of your wonderful points, the one about single guys maybe living in the lower scale type housing, well I think I speak for most women and only the following is important:
a clean toilet
clean sheet on the bed
a clean wine glass
the rest isnt important, well it isnt to me!
x"
Nope me neither, excellent points xx xx |
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We had a really good 1 lol
they phoned to say they were leaving in 30 mins to get to us
40 mins later a phone call to say (as we were about to leave they have dug up the road and are now resurfacing we are blocked in
omg we nearly died laughing lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to have a housemate,when I first started on this site.After having someone round one night I had too change my profile to accom when housemate away.this was due to the person was rather noisy during sex. Got a text in middle of night off said housemate asking if I could keep noise down. So glad I have my own place now. |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5 |
"I used to have a housemate,when I first started on this site.After having someone round one night I had too change my profile to accom when housemate away.this was due to the person was rather noisy during sex. Got a text in middle of night off said housemate asking if I could keep noise down. So glad I have my own place now. "
Me too, will I be welcome to call in when I do my tour of the north soon?
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
"I used to have a housemate,when I first started on this site.After having someone round one night I had too change my profile to accom when housemate away.this was due to the person was rather noisy during sex. Got a text in middle of night off said housemate asking if I could keep noise down. So glad I have my own place now. "
like i said in an earlier post we all have reasons why we will or wont accomadate and i think it's wrong why if a single guy say's he can't and gives a truthful and valid reason he's then seen to be someone hidding something |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5 |
"I used to have a housemate,when I first started on this site.After having someone round one night I had too change my profile to accom when housemate away.this was due to the person was rather noisy during sex. Got a text in middle of night off said housemate asking if I could keep noise down. So glad I have my own place now.
like i said in an earlier post we all have reasons why we will or wont accomadate and i think it's wrong why if a single guy say's he can't and gives a truthful and valid reason he's then seen to be someone hidding something "
I think if he dont accomodate me I dont accomodate him simples |
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
clacton on sea |
"I used to have a housemate,when I first started on this site.After having someone round one night I had too change my profile to accom when housemate away.this was due to the person was rather noisy during sex. Got a text in middle of night off said housemate asking if I could keep noise down. So glad I have my own place now.
like i said in an earlier post we all have reasons why we will or wont accomadate and i think it's wrong why if a single guy say's he can't and gives a truthful and valid reason he's then seen to be someone hidding something
I think if he dont accomodate me I dont accomodate him simples "
errrmmmmm are we talking about the same kind of accomadating here lol |
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"JUST ABIT OF FUN HERES SOME REASON'S IVE
CAME UP AGAINST..NO HERE 2 OFFEND
1)STILL STAY WITH THE EX TILL WE SELL THE HOUSE
2)IM BCK STAYING WITH MY MUM
3)PLACE IS A MESS
4)I CAN COME 2 U AFTER MY WORK
5)GOT FAMILY STAYING WITH ME
6)DECORATING
7)GOT FLAT MATES
8)ILL BE OUT AN ABOUT ANYWAY
9)NEIGHBOURS ARE NOSY
10)DONT LIKE WERE I LIVE
SO WAT REASONS HAVE U GOT IN THE PASS"
I am guilty on counts 3 and 7. Unfortunately 7 is a permanent problem till I get my own pad but 3 was when I was asked to meet on short notice.
Even I have standards and wouldnt want to invite someone down till I'd had time to tidy my housemates (and his blood dogs) mess up. |
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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago
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"We often found that being asked to meet in the day was a bigger ringer of alarm bells that the guy was attached rather than not accommodating....
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why the fella might be a single parent and his child/children are at school in the day, and at home at night, at least you should have asked for a reason then base your reaction upon his answer, rather than prejudge, on the basis that all male singles are how do others put it in here," ungenuine" even couples can and do say we can only accomadate during the day FFS and thats immediately excepted or a single woman for that matter
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How people decide to meet others is their choice and their choice alone.
This site is almost full to brimming with options and there are lots and lots of real and genuine folk on here.
We are a genuine couple, we have met several folk on here who would testify to that but we don't accom. We appreciate that this will cause some folk to wonder if we are really a married couple or are we FB's, we accept and fully understand this and are not in the least bit offended.
Conversely for us, when we were looking to meet single guys outside of clubs if a profile had "cannot accom" we simply passed it by. A look at the "A cautionary tale for those who play away" thread will show some of the pitfalls of meeting with cheats. Add to that there are hundreds of genuine guys on here who can accom so why would any sensible person waste their time or take unnecessary chances with possible cheats.
If you are a single guy and cannot accom there may well be a genuine reason why but it's also possible you are just another married guy playing away so for us we will always avoid you.
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By *hivagodCouple
over a year ago
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"We often found that being asked to meet in the day was a bigger ringer of alarm bells that the guy was attached rather than not accommodating....
why the fella might be a single parent and his child/children are at school in the day, and at home at night, at least you should have asked for a reason then base your reaction upon his answer, rather than prejudge, on the basis that all male singles are how do others put it in here," ungenuine" even couples can and do say we can only accomadate during the day FFS and thats immediately excepted or a single woman for that matter
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Well, check the age range that we play with then come back and tell us the same argument you use holds water lol.
Don't come across many 18 year old lads with kids of school age
And for the record, our profile does say we only meet of an evening. so if the interested party can't be bothered to read our profile then their not the type of people we would want to meet with.
Whilst we agree the day meet isn't the definite guide to a guy playing away 9 times out of ten it is and like we said above in our experience its a MORE reliable indication than not accommodating. After 13 years at this game we've seen and heard all the excuses and scams lads try to pull. |
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Wish I could accommodate. I would be hosting gangbangs and all sorts! As it is I share my home with family, not wife and kids, and swinging is something I keep completely private. My work sees me away from home the majority of the time anyway and I will be out of the country for a protracted period soon as well. People all have lives away from swinging and for some people this means they simply aren't in the position to accommodate that others are. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How people decide to meet others is their choice and their choice alone.
This site is almost full to brimming with options and there are lots and lots of real and genuine folk on here.
We are a genuine couple, we have met several folk on here who would testify to that but we don't accom. We appreciate that this will cause some folk to wonder if we are really a married couple or are we FB's, we accept and fully understand this and are not in the least bit offended.
Conversely for us, when we were looking to meet single guys outside of clubs if a profile had "cannot accom" we simply passed it by. A look at the "A cautionary tale for those who play away" thread will show some of the pitfalls of meeting with cheats. Add to that there are hundreds of genuine guys on here who can accom so why would any sensible person waste their time or take unnecessary chances with possible cheats.
If you are a single guy and cannot accom there may well be a genuine reason why but it's also possible you are just another married guy playing away so for us we will always avoid you.
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theres alot of ppl out there hun
with genuine reason but also alot
of bull shitters 2..which 2 i found
out in the last 2 weeks..hence why
i done the post lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i try my best to play here ,,, was getting way tooo expensive traveling and hotels ,,, cost me a fortune ,,, but now i,m settled in my own place i prefer to play here |
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Yeah all the above accepted, but sometimes I work away from home and at those times, even though tecnically I *could* acom being realistic its its not do-able as I am sure a tumble in the bunk of a truck is not everyones cup of tea. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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As a recently separated man, I have enough trouble identifying whether I'm single or not before I worry about accommodation. As said above, there's a view that until the divorce comes through one is still married, but since I've moved out and am in somebody else's (rent free) spare room, I don't feel that failure to accommodate is evidence of dishonesty.
Plus, I've always felt that there's something sexy about hotel rooms - I had more sex with my wife in hotel rooms than at home (measured in shags/night which I accept is cheating slightly!). Also, the shower (and once, the balcony) come onto the agenda, whereas at home I could barely get to keep a light on... |
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"As a recently separated man, I have enough trouble identifying whether I'm single or not before I worry about accommodation. As said above, there's a view that until the divorce comes through one is still married, but since I've moved out and am in somebody else's (rent free) spare room, I don't feel that failure to accommodate is evidence of dishonesty.
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Here here! As a guy in the same boat I agree. I aint yet got that piece of paper either. But class myself as single as I am in no way likely to want to get back together with the ex or else I wouldn't be going through a divorce. Why should I put my life on hold whilst she fafs around ignoring the paperwork. I rent a room from a single friend atm but it difficult to entertain in someone elses house. Maybe I should introduce him to swinging too and then I'd have less problems! Hmm now theres an idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a recently separated man, I have enough trouble identifying whether I'm single or not before I worry about accommodation. As said above, there's a view that until the divorce comes through one is still married, but since I've moved out and am in somebody else's (rent free) spare room, I don't feel that failure to accommodate is evidence of dishonesty.
Here here! As a guy in the same boat I agree. I aint yet got that piece of paper either. But class myself as single as I am in no way likely to want to get back together with the ex or else I wouldn't be going through a divorce. Why should I put my life on hold whilst she fafs around ignoring the paperwork. I rent a room from a single friend atm but it difficult to entertain in someone elses house. Maybe I should introduce him to swinging too and then I'd have less problems! Hmm now theres an idea!"
If I was a married bloke cheating then these are two very plausible and extremely easy to contrive excuses for not being able to accom that I just might use.
Not for one minute saying either of you is but you must be able to see why some of us cynics who have heard just about every excuse there is take most of them with such a huge pinch of salt.
Add to that, as I previously said, there are 100's of genuine single guys who can accom which pretty much guarantees their status so you have to accept that not being able to accom is always going to hamper your chances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont believe no bloke who says he cant accom,
yr all married liars
i mean ffs who over 25 doesnt have their own gaff....
hahahhahhahahaha,
im off to bed now, will read all my abuse tomor lol
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm not going to abuse anyone, life's too short.
However, playing devil's advocate, plenty of couples use their kids as a reason why they can't accommodate - so how about I use that?
It's not true, though |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I'm not going to abuse anyone, life's too short.
However, playing devil's advocate, plenty of couples use their kids as a reason why they can't accommodate - so how about I use that?
It's not true, though"
But that isn't quite the same thing. Normally couples come as a couple so no one is trying to pull the wool over anyones eyes about their status.
Believe me though, we have heard the one about the kids so many times too, so you could use that one.
We know there is men out there who have their kids of a weekend, and we also know there are single dads about, but you would be surprised at how many on sites like these are awarded full custody of their children and why they can't play at home/certain times etc.
(I could tell you one hell of a funny story about that subject about one single/married man but I am not sure which site he is on now so I best not in case he is on here )
As I have said on my other post, the other half couldn't have accommodated if he had joined one of these sites when he first left his ex, so it does happen....but, as 2bonk says....to out any potential liars most people will go for men who sound single after lots of checks and not just the acommodate one. |
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Im with you on that one.
happy for them to come on over n play to the early hours but sometimes staying over can be a mare one women decided she wanted to stay all night & following day without asking just assumed i would be up for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i dont believe no bloke who says he cant accom,
yr all married liars
i mean ffs who over 25 doesnt have their own gaff....
hahahhahhahahaha,
im off to bed now, will read all my abuse tomor lol
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Well i ain't defending anyone lol but
My bother left home at 28
My next door neighbors son is still there at 30
I have two customers who have a 35 and a 44 year old still at home
And we our selves are waiting on les's daughter 21 and her boyfriend 28 to flee the nest lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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crumbs you wanna live down here lol prices are bloody stupid.more n more people i know are flat sharing because of this.so on that note a small amount may be telling the truth lol |
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"crumbs you wanna live down here lol prices are bloody stupid.more n more people i know are flat sharing because of this.so on that note a small amount may be telling the truth lol"
get ya flat mates to joun in ,,, problem solved ,,, also applies to ya parents ,,but think that thread has been covered |
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"crumbs you wanna live down here lol prices are bloody stupid.more n more people i know are flat sharing because of this.so on that note a small amount may be telling the truth lol get ya flat mates to joun in ,,, problem solved ,,, also applies to ya parents ,,but think that thread has been covered"
Lol, I can see where people are comming from, but still, give a guy the benfit of doubt, Esp if he is verified (but only by meeting in person). Flat mates involved is a possibilty, but Parents!!! |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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" as 2bonk says....to out any potential liars most people will go for men who sound single after lots of checks and not just the acommodate one."
No issue with that, just (I think understandably) disappointed to be dismissed out of hand based on my living arrangements as was intimated further back. Not that I don't also understand why THAT happens.
I hope you're all going to be free to come and christen whatever grotty bedsit I WILL be able to accomm in! Lol |
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I hope you're all going to be free to come and christen whatever grotty bedsit I WILL be able to accomm in! Lol"
Lets hope it doesnt come to that for any of us, heaven forbid! But with the current prices for rent who knows. Maybe all us un-accomodating singles should get together an rent one big house! anyone up for a mmmmmmmmf?!!! lol |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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" as 2bonk says....to out any potential liars most people will go for men who sound single after lots of checks and not just the acommodate one.
No issue with that, just (I think understandably) disappointed to be dismissed out of hand based on my living arrangements as was intimated further back. Not that I don't also understand why THAT happens.
I hope you're all going to be free to come and christen whatever grotty bedsit I WILL be able to accomm in! Lol"
lol we don't make that one a priority in our checks, as the Mr had the same problem when he was single...but you can understand it being one of many factors. |
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I can see where you are coming from, and to some extent I can understand, but I think you may have a bias attitude, no offence intended.
You see I am happily married and do play away for fun, and yes with the wife’s full knowledge, and if I stay over I text the wife saying not to worry about me been in late. We even go on occasions to a swinger’s hotel together and stay the night. She will socialise but does not play, she has tried it but it’s not her cup of tea and has absolutely no problem with me having fun.
And why should I divorce and become single just to satisfy some other person, I am not cheating. My home telephone number is given when I contact people, which means the wife can quite easily pick up the phone first, she will pass it to me or even have a quick chat with them.
By the way, my wife is called Frances and I’m a lucky bloke to have an understanding wife and I also state on my profile I’m married, so have nothing to hide at all. Let’s face it we are all here for one thing and lets not forget that.
I hope in some small way that will make you a little more open minded, and do apologise if I sounded a little too loud.
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I don't accommodate for the simple reason I don't want people to know where I live until I know them better. I would never invite someone I've just met back to mine.
Some people see this as having something to hide, myself, I see it as being sensible!
Just my thoughts |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I can see where you are coming from, and to some extent I can understand, but I think you may have a bias attitude, no offence intended.
You see I am happily married and do play away for fun, and yes with the wife’s full knowledge, and if I stay over I text the wife saying not to worry about me been in late. We even go on occasions to a swinger’s hotel together and stay the night. She will socialise but does not play, she has tried it but it’s not her cup of tea and has absolutely no problem with me having fun.
And why should I divorce and become single just to satisfy some other person, I am not cheating. My home telephone number is given when I contact people, which means the wife can quite easily pick up the phone first, she will pass it to me or even have a quick chat with them.
By the way, my wife is called Frances and I’m a lucky bloke to have an understanding wife and I also state on my profile I’m married, so have nothing to hide at all. Let’s face it we are all here for one thing and lets not forget that.
I hope in some small way that will make you a little more open minded, and do apologise if I sounded a little too loud.
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I am not sure anyone told you you need to be divorced to be able to play on here, especially if you don't actually want to be divorced.
Not sure also who you think is being biased........but having a preference of playing with single men rather than attached men ( wether their wife knows or not) is allowed..... wether married people like it or not. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"I don't accommodate for the simple reason I don't want people to know where I live until I know them better. I would never invite someone I've just met back to mine.
Some people see this as having something to hide, myself, I see it as being sensible!
Just my thoughts "
Most people think the same, males females plus couples......and you can't blame them ...there are some nutters about |
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probably because they haven't changed there bedsheets for ages...in our case paul is married ( i know...don't judge and don't go on about it) i am single but have grown children living there so its a privacy thing...and kestrels is more fun !! |
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Lol Genuinetyke of course we are all a little bias, and no offence ever taken here.
Nice to hear of such an open relationship working for a couple. Frances is a quite unique woman. I am sure there will be lots of women ( and men if the situation was reversed) on here even, that could not put themselves in her shoes, even with being comfortable with the swinging lifestyle.
Of course you shouldn't get divorced to satisfy someone else. But as you say on your profile your married then people have the choice to contact you or not. I am still technically married, but live sepparated from the wife and play as a single and consider myself single (you can't really get much more single!). Some couples/ladies seem to think us claiming to be going through the divorce are really cheating husbands who cant accom cos the wife wont budge over in bed!!! But you wont even see a ring mark on my finger as I've been on my own so long.
All the best to Genuinetyke and Frances and many more happily married years! |
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Well newbimalewyorks, I have always endeavoured to be honest about my life, I am no different to all the married women who play with their husbands consent. I just happen to play with my wife’s consent and to be honest I’m not too bothered what people think, I’m here for a little fun and pleasure certainly not looking for another wife.
When we finish refurbishing our home, I/we will then be able to entertain at home and who knows she may, in the future wish to take a more positive roll-play in the fun and pleasure, but that would be up to her.
Oh and Ruby, I only play with women or join in with a male/female couple, I am straight and see no problem in been married, I don’t hide it, had a few meets over the years between this site and another.
If I visit a club with my wife I am married, if I visit on my own I go as a single that is married.
Why cause complications it works for us, and I don’t have to lie.
Anyhow time to go, have fun all. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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Oh and Ruby, I only play with women or join in with a male/female couple, I am straight and see no problem in been married, I don’t hide it, had a few meets over the years between this site and another.
If I visit a club with my wife I am married, if I visit on my own I go as a single that is married.
Why cause complications it works for us, and I don’t have to lie.
Anyhow time to go, have fun all."
I didn't realise I had said you have a problem? Or even mentioned who you play with and if you are straight?
Confused now |
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