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over a year ago
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"But the sub is always in control - it’s so sexually exciting to allow yourself to be owned (as long as it’s someone who understands the dynamic)."
I so agree with this, its not about losing power, its about the dynamic, gaining power over the urge, succumbing. Sorry I could go on for hours lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely...."
Because that's their dynamic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s the fact they have fully submitted and handed over themselves because of the trust and the above mentioned dynamic.
Slut has no decisions to make and that is what she loves, not knowing what is next........ |
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely...."
But I still laugh at the woman who said she was owned by 'daddy', then complained that loads of guys were messaging him for permission to meet her. |
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By *EXY_PILOTMan
over a year ago
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"It’s the fact they have fully submitted and handed over themselves because of the trust and the above mentioned dynamic.
Slut has no decisions to make and that is what she loves, not knowing what is next........"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely...."
Could be a fake profile. Man wanking. |
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely....
It might be their way of letting you down gently."
Would you find it as strange if a woman told you she only meets alone with her husband’s permission, or is it specifically the D/s dynamic you find weird? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely....
But I still laugh at the woman who said she was owned by 'daddy', then complained that loads of guys were messaging him for permission to meet her."
Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh "
I'm not laughing...I just find the whole master/sir thing a bit strange with all this " empowering of women" stuff going on, which I totally agree with by the way |
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over a year ago
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"Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh
I'm not laughing...I just find the whole master/sir thing a bit strange with all this " empowering of women" stuff going on, which I totally agree with by the way "
You don't have to understand it, you just have to understand it is what some people enjoy. D/s relationships and female empowerment are not mutually exclusive  |
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"Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh
I'm not laughing...I just find the whole master/sir thing a bit strange with all this " empowering of women" stuff going on, which I totally agree with by the way "
Being a feminist and being submissive aren’t mutually exclusive. In BDSM nothing should be done without consent, and however strange it may seem to you a sub consents to being owned etc. If she (I say she because you are only talking about women - subs aren’t always women) withdraws consent that’s the end of it. In many ways that’s more in line with feminism and empowering women than the vast majority of vanilla interactions. |
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"Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh
I'm not laughing...I just find the whole master/sir thing a bit strange with all this " empowering of women" stuff going on, which I totally agree with by the way
Being a feminist and being submissive aren’t mutually exclusive. In BDSM nothing should be done without consent, and however strange it may seem to you a sub consents to being owned etc. If she (I say she because you are only talking about women - subs aren’t always women) withdraws consent that’s the end of it. In many ways that’s more in line with feminism and empowering women than the vast majority of vanilla interactions."
Yes yes and yes!
Kitty is allowed to meet as a hotwife, but I would have to agree to the guy. Just the way it is! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But the sub is always in control - it’s so sexually exciting to allow yourself to be owned (as long as it’s someone who understands the dynamic).
I so agree with this, its not about losing power, its about the dynamic, gaining power over the urge, succumbing. Sorry I could go on for hours lol "
Yes - it has to be genuinely what you crave for true satisfaction, not a fashionable fad brought on by idiot films/books like 50 Shades.
Life is not complete for me without sex, kink and this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s the fact they have fully submitted and handed over themselves because of the trust and the above mentioned dynamic.
Slut has no decisions to make and that is what she loves, not knowing what is next........"
And the delight in knowing Sir understands you and wants you to be happy and fulfilled - it’s a contract you decide on and make.
However there are plenty of inept « Dom’s » who are just sadists. |
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"Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh
I'm not laughing...I just find the whole master/sir thing a bit strange with all this " empowering of women" stuff going on, which I totally agree with by the way
Being a feminist and being submissive aren’t mutually exclusive. In BDSM nothing should be done without consent, and however strange it may seem to you a sub consents to being owned etc. If she (I say she because you are only talking about women - subs aren’t always women) withdraws consent that’s the end of it. In many ways that’s more in line with feminism and empowering women than the vast majority of vanilla interactions."
Beautifully explained and totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh
I'm not laughing...I just find the whole master/sir thing a bit strange with all this " empowering of women" stuff going on, which I totally agree with by the way
You don't have to understand it, you just have to understand it is what some people enjoy. D/s relationships and female empowerment are not mutually exclusive "
I’m very alpha and independent in my day to day life - it’s something that I enjoy sexually as a kink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What worries me about it is those who come on here new and within an hour profile changed to say now owned
Understand the dynamic but surely takes more than a a few messages to become owned |
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"What worries me about it is those who come on here new and within an hour profile changed to say now owned
Understand the dynamic but surely takes more than a a few messages to become owned "
Yes - lots of wannabes about though. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"But the sub is always in control - it’s so sexually exciting to allow yourself to be owned (as long as it’s someone who understands the dynamic).
I so agree with this, its not about losing power, its about the dynamic, gaining power over the urge, succumbing. Sorry I could go on for hours lol
Yes - it has to be genuinely what you crave for true satisfaction, not a fashionable fad brought on by idiot films/books like 50 Shades.
Life is not complete for me without sex, kink and this."
From my perspective, those idiot books possibly ran true to a relationship (okay fictional expanded).
When doing a English degree the lecturer once said, “how can you write about shooting a gun, if you never shot one?”
Suppose you can dream about it, claim it’s true. |
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely....
But I still laugh at the woman who said she was owned by 'daddy', then complained that loads of guys were messaging him for permission to meet her.
Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh "
I do understand, but the lady didn't.
She didn't want people to contact him.
She said she was owned, but then complained that people messaged her 'owner' (respecting the dynamic of the relationship, as she presented it) rather than her.
Maybe she is a brat, trying to cuck him. |
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"When doing a English degree the lecturer once said, “how can you write about shooting a gun, if you never shot one?”"
How fortunate for J.K. Rowling that she went to a magical boarding school.
And J.R.R. Tolkien really cashed in on that walking trip through Middle Earth.
Research and imagination. |
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"When doing a English degree the lecturer once said, “how can you write about shooting a gun, if you never shot one?”
How fortunate for J.K. Rowling that she went to a magical boarding school.
And J.R.R. Tolkien really cashed in on that walking trip through Middle Earth.
Research and imagination."
The difference of course is that none of the readers have either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tried to be owned and I didn't like it. I like my freedom. It was great to begin with but I am my own person. I can be submissive but I've also been told I like arranging my own things and when I have an idea of something fun and naughty to do I don't want to have to ask permission everytime.
I have been told I'm alpha female by another play partner, but I never thought I was till he told me. I suppose I've been hurt that many times I've become strong stronger |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do a lot of women say "I'll have to ask master/sirs permission before I meet anyone", that's not being in control surely....
But I still laugh at the woman who said she was owned by 'daddy', then complained that loads of guys were messaging him for permission to meet her.
Maybe that’s her way of keeping safe, making sure to have a new person checked by someone she trusts and know where she’s at while alone with a new person who could possibly want to tie her down, something very popular in the bdsm world
If you don’t understand something it’s ok to ask, it’s not ok to judge and laugh
I do understand, but the lady didn't.
She didn't want people to contact him.
She said she was owned, but then complained that people messaged her 'owner' (respecting the dynamic of the relationship, as she presented it) rather than her.
Maybe she is a brat, trying to cuck him. "
What you said made sense to me. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"What worries me about it is those who come on here new and within an hour profile changed to say now owned
Understand the dynamic but surely takes more than a a few messages to become owned
Yes - lots of wannabes about though."
They will drain you mentally, there is nothing there to break. A strong willed sharp sub will challenge and inspire and actually energise you in the process. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There seem to be more and more "owned" women on here lately...what happened to girl power, has it died a death? "
Not at all most of the subs I've met are intelligent accomplished women in every other area of their lives, so giving away power sexually is a huge turn on for them. Both parties understand the dynamics of this. |
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