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Safe sex cpls who bb
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have previousley met 3 couples who have "safe sex" on there profile. In discussion leading up to a meet, even in the pib during meet talk about safe sex yet when we get to the bedroom want bareback.
Two couples where quite persistent in there attempts to persuade me. One couple even went as far as talking me out of buying condoms in the pub insisting they had some at home. Sure enough on requesting one they "cant find em, why dont you go with out"!!!
Any other single guys had a similar experience??
Happened again tonight, couple who say "safe sex" on there profile but "we actually prefer to go bare if thats ok" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did decline yes. My health and future health is more important then a shag. But this thread isnt about that its questioning if other guys have had similar experience?
Why cant people be honest |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"I did decline yes. My health and future health is more important then a shag. But this thread isnt about that its questioning if other guys have had similar experience?
Why cant people be honest"
I would decline |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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with so many couples on here making out they better than others and such goody two shoes its such a shame we cant name and shame!! its worrying as how many men wud have just fucked them, how many they have in past and how often do they get tested if ever at all  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"More to the point, what exactly was their intentions?
Pregnancy?
Russian roulette?
The mind boggles
scary aint it 
Very much so  "
Just dont understand why they cant be honest |
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
Local to you maybe |
"The reason they're not honest is because they believe that once you are in the position of being about to play that you won't turn it down"
Very true
Just snap it in 2, fold it away n head home for a wank instead, it's safer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"with so many couples on here making out they better than others and such goody two shoes its such a shame we cant name and shame!! its worrying as how many men wud have just fucked them, how many they have in past and how often do they get tested if ever at all "
You just never know...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The reason they're not honest is because they believe that once you are in the position of being about to play that you won't turn it down"
I am sure thats the case with many blokes so why not just be honest. Saves wasting peoples time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The reason they're not honest is because they believe that once you are in the position of being about to play that you won't turn it down"
Yup. I've had blokes that do that too. I have a bag of condoms at the ready in case they 'forgot' theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im also curious to their reaction when you said no ..theyve basically thought lets wait and see i bet he will once we get back to the house....i suppose the lesson learnt from this is just in case as a brownie would say " be prepared " lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The boyf has a profile on fabguys and I was surprised to see just how many guys have bareback listed on their profiles. Some of whom are also on this site and omit that they like bb.
We would never ever go with someone who had bb sex in a swinging situation, it's just too dangerous. The hard thing is knowing who they are....ultimately, like the OP, the person(s) might try to 'convince' you despite having been adamant that safe sex is a must.
We also dismissed someone recently because he had a veri from a lady who played bb regularly (and did so within a gangbang of 10 or more guys! - it's there on her profile!). We told the guy why we'd decided we didn't want to meet him, and then he suddenly popped up a few weeks later messaging us posing as a couple. When we clocked him as the same guy and told him we knew who he was, he denied it and so we reported him.
What's worse than a swinger who has bb sex? A swinger who has bb sex and does not declare it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing is people wont admit to playing bare on here because they know it will put people off, so everytime a bareback thread comes up everyone swear they always play safe
But in reality far more people will play bare than will admit to it on here, i'd say a good 90% of the guys i meet would go without if i let them, thing is me being single i dont even get asked most of the guys i play with just try and stick it up
I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and we was playing and as i moved to change possitions he took the condom off and carried on shagging me, when i noticed he said it must have fell off  but didnt seem or act concerned about it at all, then got another condom and put it on thinking i was going to carry on, when i told him what i thought of him he told me i was over reacting |
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"That's why you should always be prepared 
I wouldnt even play safe with cpls who bb
i bet you have  "
Everyone has.
Personally what I find alarming is the naivety of some people in assuming everyone tells the truth!
Reminds me of the couple who didn't meet black people, didn't meet anyone who had met black people and went through their verifications to double and treble check.
An exercise in futility if there ever was one.
All you can do is protect yourself as best you can, but we're here, casual sex with strangers is our hobby...hardly a position to try and find the moral high ground. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's why you should always be prepared
I wouldnt even play safe with cpls who bb
i bet you have
Everyone has.
Personally what I find alarming is the naivety of some people in assuming everyone tells the truth!
Reminds me of the couple who didn't meet black people, didn't meet anyone who had met black people and went through their verifications to double and treble check.
An exercise in futility if there ever was one.
All you can do is protect yourself as best you can, but we're here, casual sex with strangers is our hobby...hardly a position to try and find the moral high ground."
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"Reminds me of the couple who didn't meet black people, didn't meet anyone who had met black people and went through their verifications to double and treble check.
An exercise in futility if there ever was one.
All you can do is protect yourself as best you can, but we're here, casual sex with strangers is our hobby...hardly a position to try and find the moral high ground."
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I've seen it all now, I wonder what disease they thought they were going to catch by associating with people who'd met black people??! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing is people wont admit to playing bare on here because they know it will put people off, so everytime a bareback thread comes up everyone swear they always play safe
But in reality far more people will play bare than will admit to it on here, i'd say a good 90% of the guys i meet would go without if i let them, thing is me being single i dont even get asked most of the guys i play with just try and stick it up
I met a guy a couple of weeks ago and we was playing and as i moved to change possitions he took the condom off and carried on shagging me, when i noticed he said it must have fell off but didnt seem or act concerned about it at all, then got another condom and put it on thinking i was going to carry on, when i told him what i thought of him he told me i was over reacting "
i am assuming he went home with a smack in the mouth NN!!! or worse... |
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By *asyfranWoman
over a year ago
Maidstone |
I'm happy to admit I play safe and bareback... In my eyes safe can also mean without a condom but with a partner who is tested and is relatively careful with others.
Sex is a calculated risk entirely when it comes to diseases. For me and my boyfriend, finding regular guys who I can bareback with is so much better for both of us from a sexual point of _iew that we inevitably accept some form of risk. We alleviate that risk by asking that partners are tested - its not fail safe but its generally a good thing to do if you enjoy the bare pleasures.
Bareback can be safe... and safe isn't solely using condoms.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"I'm happy to admit I play safe and bareback... In my eyes safe can also mean without a condom but with a partner who is tested and is relatively careful with others.
Sex is a calculated risk entirely when it comes to diseases. For me and my boyfriend, finding regular guys who I can bareback with is so much better for both of us from a sexual point of _iew that we inevitably accept some form of risk. We alleviate that risk by asking that partners are tested - its not fail safe but its generally a good thing to do if you enjoy the bare pleasures.
Bareback can be safe... and safe isn't solely using condoms.
xx
x
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oh boy.. where to start....
I was going to write something... thought "na I can't be arsed......"
I'll let someone else explain the flaw in the plan here........ |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"I'm happy to admit I play safe and bareback... In my eyes safe can also mean without a condom but with a partner who is tested and is relatively careful with others.
Sex is a calculated risk entirely when it comes to diseases. For me and my boyfriend, finding regular guys who I can bareback with is so much better for both of us from a sexual point of _iew that we inevitably accept some form of risk. We alleviate that risk by asking that partners are tested - its not fail safe but its generally a good thing to do if you enjoy the bare pleasures.
Bareback can be safe... and safe isn't solely using condoms.
xx
x
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I admire your honesty, I hope the people that you ask are they tested' are as honest as you.
good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to admit I play safe and bareback... In my eyes safe can also mean without a condom but with a partner who is tested and is relatively careful with others.
Sex is a calculated risk entirely when it comes to diseases. For me and my boyfriend, finding regular guys who I can bareback with is so much better for both of us from a sexual point of _iew that we inevitably accept some form of risk. We alleviate that risk by asking that partners are tested - its not fail safe but its generally a good thing to do if you enjoy the bare pleasures.
Bareback can be safe... and safe isn't solely using condoms.
xx
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oh boy.. where to start....
I was going to write something... thought "na I can't be arsed......"
I'll let someone else explain the flaw in the plan here........"
im gna get the popcorn out and watch with interest lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm happy to admit I play safe and bareback... In my eyes safe can also mean without a condom but with a partner who is tested and is relatively careful with others.
Sex is a calculated risk entirely when it comes to diseases. For me and my boyfriend, finding regular guys who I can bareback with is so much better for both of us from a sexual point of _iew that we inevitably accept some form of risk. We alleviate that risk by asking that partners are tested - its not fail safe but its generally a good thing to do if you enjoy the bare pleasures.
Bareback can be safe... and safe isn't solely using condoms.
xx
x
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Good for you on being honest.
Not sure how bareback can be 'safe'. Unless I'd locked someone in a room, got them tested, kept them locked in a room till they got the test results... I just wouldn't trust them to be clear.
If you're taking the risk that they 'might' be ok... then that's up to you. |
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By *andS4funCouple
over a year ago
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We wouldn't bareback with others under any circumstances. We would also be very reluctant to play safe with others who regularly bare-backed with others- but then again how would you know ??
It's all a risk & you hope people are honest. To be 'safer' & minimise risk for us it is best wear a condom. |
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