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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd believe that from a stranger as much as I believe it when they tell me they have a 12: inch cock but present me with a picture of one which appears to have the length and volume of my thumb. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think everyoen would go bareback if it was risk free, i doubt anyone uses them thro choice they are just a necessity sometimes
So being honest if i knew having sex with someone was 100% risk free yes id go bareback but in reality you'll never know that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd believe that from a stranger as much as I believe it when they tell me they have a 12: inch cock but present me with a picture of one which appears to have the length and volume of my thumb."
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
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"You taking their word for it? lol. Would never go bareback unless with my bf or partner. May as well pour acid into my fanny lol  "
Ouch  
Agree though, take noones word for it, you'll get told what they want you to hear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Taking someones word for it that is on FAB or other SEX dating sites is pretty lose word id say lol ---
If a monogamies ? relationship was forming and you want BB sex then a good job is for you both to go to clinic and get tested together - opness worth lots ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now  "
I'm sure it's tempting and you want to trust them but from the little you have said, I'd agree with the others and stay safe. Afterall is this person abstaining from the moment they got their results till they meet you? |
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now "
Think of it like this, would you take a drink of water that'd come from a cesspit, even if the person giving it to you assured you it'd been filtered and purified? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now "
The only person you should be trusting when it comes to your sexual health is you
There is no predicament  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now "
Och come on. Don't tell me your gonna consider this just for the sake of a fuck?? That's your predicament isn't it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i first joined this site 6 weeks ago this is one discussion I had with my partner (Pork). Although Pork and me always go bareback ourselves, i would never let anyone else go that with me, there was one time when i guy turned up with one far to small for himself, so now we make sure that we have a variety of sizes on hand. Another thing that cropped up was what about toy swapping because you can pick things this way as well. I know that in a situation where maybe there are 4, 6 or more playing you can't possibly say "hold on a moment i have got to go and wash this" or even put a rubber on the end of it lol.It just wouldn't happen. So although we make the guys protect us against all, us women have to put all our trust in our sista's on the site to keep us well and happy... Hope this makes sense to you all.... Perky  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now "
checked out when tho?
if it was a few days ago they could have had a shag between then and now and picked something up, how do you know they havnt had sex since they was checked?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now "
no predicament mate..
you just say no...
you cannot take their word for it..
if they are not prepared to accept your limits and play safe then dont play... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now
Think of it like this, would you take a drink of water that'd come from a cesspit, even if the person giving it to you assured you it'd been filtered and purified?"
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now
Think of it like this, would you take a drink of water that'd come from a cesspit, even if the person giving it to you assured you it'd been filtered and purified?"
well actually thats exactly what happens every day...
just all the water we drink has at some time been pissed through someones body, sat in piles of shite and other nice debris and been filtered and purified...
and sent to us by 2teh water board...
so the answer is, yes i would.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right I'll see if she wants to use a condom. Cheer for the advice/scaring the shit out me "
no need to be scared mate.. she should knwo better to be honest.
i see you are ayoung lad and you will in time learn much about other people.sadly some of them lie to you, not saying she is, but you need to consider that.
if she likes you then she will be happy for you to bag up.
if a monogamous relationship develops then go together to a STI clinic and get tested together. then if clear and neither of you sleep around then go for it.
if it is only going to be casual meet then rubber up and protect yourself.. |
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"The other person had been checked out beforehand and is clear of any infection and is unable to have children? "
Ok, disease and infection aside. You would take a woman's word for it that she cannot have children? My friend, perfectly sane and normal on the outside. Inside desperate for a child, she has admitted she is considering going out to clubs and pulling to try to get pregnant. I'm sure you've seen women on here who want someone to get them pregnant.
A Jeremy Kyle episode waiting to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tests may be negative despite the presence of HIV while antibodies develop - the 'window period'.
Most people have apparently developed detectable antibodies approximately 30 days after infection. (details are all on the net, from reputable sites).
In that period a person can carry HIV and infect others but still test negative. So even a negative test means nothing in that time.
You would have to lock someone up for a month (and hope they are not one of the 5% that do not test positive for 6 months rather than one).
Others have said it, there's no dilemma, its a NO. |
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"When i first joined this site 6 weeks ago this is one discussion I had with my partner (Pork). Although Pork and me always go bareback ourselves, i would never let anyone else go that with me, there was one time when i guy turned up with one far to small for himself, so now we make sure that we have a variety of sizes on hand. Another thing that cropped up was what about toy swapping because you can pick things this way as well. I know that in a situation where maybe there are 4, 6 or more playing you can't possibly say "hold on a moment i have got to go and wash this" or even put a rubber on the end of it lol.It just wouldn't happen. So although we make the guys protect us against all, us women have to put all our trust in our sista's on the site to keep us well and happy... Hope this makes sense to you all.... Perky "
Got to disagree there.... In a group situation i (& anyone I've ever played in a group with) always make sure toys are either covered or cleaned before swapping between people....
Men and women can all pose risks, so I'm not going to put trust for my health in,anyone... Male or female |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now have you given any thought as to WHY she's insisting on Bare Back"
Says she likes the feeling if cum inside her  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people do like the feeling (so I'm told) but that is their decision. Your decision is to stay well clear!
As per the above you wouldnt trust a stranger normally so no reason to do so when it comes to sex! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now have you given any thought as to WHY she's insisting on Bare Back
Says she likes the feeling if cum inside her "
In that case, arrange a MMF with a guy that isn't concerned about bareback.
You get the fun, she gets her cum, he takes the risks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When i first joined this site 6 weeks ago this is one discussion I had with my partner (Pork). Although Pork and me always go bareback ourselves, i would never let anyone else go that with me, there was one time when i guy turned up with one far to small for himself, so now we make sure that we have a variety of sizes on hand. Another thing that cropped up was what about toy swapping because you can pick things this way as well. I know that in a situation where maybe there are 4, 6 or more playing you can't possibly say "hold on a moment i have got to go and wash this" or even put a rubber on the end of it lol.It just wouldn't happen. So although we make the guys protect us against all, us women have to put all our trust in our sista's on the site to keep us well and happy... Hope this makes sense to you all.... Perky
Got to disagree there.... In a group situation i (& anyone I've ever played in a group with) always make sure toys are either covered or cleaned before swapping between people....
Men and women can all pose risks, so I'm not going to put trust for my health in,anyone... Male or female "
Sorry about being so naive, I have never swapped man or toys before 6 weeks ago. So does that mean when you cover toys etc, that you change the cover from person to person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now have you given any thought as to WHY she's insisting on Bare Back
Says she likes the feeling if cum inside her "
Bully for her. You've not done yourself any favours. By considering going bareback with this deviant. I can safely say that most of the decent swingers on here will body swerve someone who goes bareback
Please mind tell us if you do ...... You know you want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never went bareback and I won't do it now as I've now been well warned."
Good boy taking your word for it lol. Stay clear of plebs like that. I'd rather live a life of celibacy than fcuk folk like that and risk my and everyone else's health |
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
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"I've never went bareback and I won't do it now as I've now been well warned."
Well good on ya, though the thought should really never have crossed your mind in the first place, especially on here.
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
Local to you maybe |
"if she wants to feel jizz shooting up her
on the vinegar stroke, rip the condom off, shoot into a turkey baster and use that...."
Lmao
Knew u wouldn't be far away with a solution |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"if she wants to feel jizz shooting up her
on the vinegar stroke, rip the condom off, shoot into a turkey baster and use that....
Lmao
Knew u wouldn't be far away with a solution "
tis a public service... |
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
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"if she wants to feel jizz shooting up her
on the vinegar stroke, rip the condom off, shoot into a turkey baster and use that....
Lmao
Knew u wouldn't be far away with a solution
tis a public service..."
This is very true, feel free to erm go out and service said public |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No way, far too much at stake and to loose
Without sounding opinionated and without pointing anyone actually out, people who bareback with anyone but a long term partner are fucking mental |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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trouble is can you ever really trust anyone when you think about it. think about how many people have affairs! I suppose you have to just take a leap of faith and trust people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A health check is only valid the moment the person is in the room having the tests. The moment they walk out they could catch anything.
I respect those who respect themselves, i.e. use condoms they are there for both parties male or female. xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite apart from the health risks-bare back is one of those things that we like to keep just for us-we share such a lot of ourselves in this little hobby of ours that it's nice to save some intimacies just between ourselves...
Oh and HIV tests can be up to 3 months out of date the moment you have them as that's how long it can take the antibodies to show up... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry about being so naive, I have never swapped man or toys before 6 weeks ago. So does that mean when you cover toys etc, that you change the cover froma person to person "
absolutely-always...or do as a very good friend of ours does...have so many toys you never need to use the same one twice! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A health check is only valid the moment the person is in the room having the tests. The moment they walk out they could catch anything."
Hence the need for frequent, regular testing (as covered on a bother thread this week)...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a FYI for the people in this thread.
Those are scream blue murder about not going bareback, Ive come across plenty of men who people have met and yes, those men did go bareback and on a regular basis with people they barely know.
These men meet people who are all for safe sex so before you think you know, dont be so trusting of those who say they have safe sex.
DO a bit of research. Lots of womens/couples profiles on here who have either contacted me or from me noseying around Ive done do regular BB meets.
Men they have met have been regular meets for other women here.  |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"The other person had been checked out beforehand and is clear of any infection and is unable to have children? "
no... no... no....
any check is only as good as the date it was done on... so if you had sex inbetween it is a mute point...
besides.. why on earth would you want to put your health in someone elses hands???? the one thing I can do is protect myself... |
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Definatley not you dont know when she was last tested and whos to know shes not shagged 100 guys before you also with no conodom ? because im pretty sure if shes happy to shag you without then she probably alreay done so with others ..JUST SAY NO |
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"If all these people are have safe sex why they always getting checked out?."
Because nothing (apart from celibacy) is 100% safe... I use condoms always... But still get checked every 3 months...
I cant believe people still have the attitude of I play safe so dont need to get checked |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If all these people are have safe sex why they always getting checked out?.
Because nothing (apart from celibacy) is 100% safe... I use condoms always... But still get checked every 3 months...
I cant believe people still have the attitude of I play safe so dont need to get checked "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just I'm in this predicament just now
It's not exactly a predicament is it? If you're worrying, just use a condom! x"
Well I've been experimenting in this field recently and thing I may have found a solution from these tests that keeps everyone happy, instead of condoms use condiments |
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"If all these people are have safe sex why they always getting checked out?."
Personally, I find your naivety alarming!
I don't go to the GUM clinic every week as I don't meet often and don't always have penetrative sex. If I did and play safe I'd STILL have regular check ups! |
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
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"Hiv to a side what about herpes ??? That shit leaves you screwed does it not how many people on here have contracted that!!"
This isn't a who has what thread, it's peoples _iews on bb.
Anyone could have anything, either knowing they have it or not, any std could potentially screw you up. |
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By *uttyMan
over a year ago
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What would u rather have? Incurable herpes, Incurable HIV?
Bareback IS a choice, though it does leave u open to the above plus a whole lot more.
Herpes? Carry on with your life pretty normal
HIV? Carry on till your body succumbs to the disease
Don't go bb, at least u have offered yourself some protection against what is out there, it's not a fail safe but at least you're giving yourself a chance
Or just become celibate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first three men I met from fabs all had safe sex on their profiles and yet not one of them carried or mentioned condoms....they are all still playing bareback russian roulette....
Don't negotiate, keep safe, always.
Bite the bullet & find another woman if she's too foolish to be safe...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seen this thread sprung back up.
I have said I won't do bareback but what are peoples _iews on unprotected oral sex (on men and women). Surely this must be high risk? |
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We meet people and play safe but we attend lots of parties but generally go for the social and to meet like minded people in a chilled atmosphere we hardly ever play at parties apart from with each other.
However.........
On nearly all occasion s when we watch large groups having sex with multiple people in the group rooms we've hardly seen a condom on show with some men going from woman to woman. I think a lot if people say they play safe but in group situations it doesn't happen.
We play rarely but safely it's fun fur us not a full time job but each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you wouldn't go out in the pouring rain without a top coat or umbrella would you, risk getting soaked through and a cold or pneumonia? Or would you?
You wouldn't use a naked flame to find out if you had a gas leak would you? Or would you?
I might be boring but I'd rather keep my health and my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it were risk free.. I am sure most people would go bareback.. ONLY you can decide if you want to do this...
we take guys word for it when we go bareback but then get checked after... and wait for all clears.. and yes we wait for the waiting period too...
I happily show guys the implant I have in my arm.. as you can feel it... but to be honest most dont even ask me about other contraception.
Ideal world.. I would always go bare as its better for me and I prefer it... but its not an ideal world.. and someone was only clear at the moment of that test... even if they havent had sex with anyone since the test, it doesnt mean they are clear...
Because somethings take time to show up on a test..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If all these people are have safe sex why they always getting checked out?."
Because safe sex doesnt mean you are disease free... There is a thread on this that I started the other week because I couldnt believe people in this day and age still thought that wearing condoms meant they wouldnt need testing.
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