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By *aneyy OP Man
over a year ago
leeds |
This is for those of you who are not new to the scene. I wanted to know how you guys found your swinging partner. Where and how, if you were couple that didn’t swing, how you told your other half that you wanted to?
It’s something that I want to do but feel finding someone that’s into this life style will be easiest on here or possible through clubs. Meets ect are not an issue but I feel someone to enjoy it all with would take things to another level and I’m all about growth haha
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met Mary at a social group and the same weekend I found her on Fab and invited her over and we played. At the time I wasn't ready for a relationship but we became friends and went out as such. We where both seeing other people but nothing serious and we went on holiday together for the second time. She said, "We should just be together as we get on so well" so we did and have been together a year and moved in together in July.  |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
It came up in bed when we were discussing our past sexual experiences, we both love women and sex, and we loved the idea of having sex with women together...and so here we are.
Really think the best way is just to be honest with your partner from the start, if you want swinging to be part of your life. If you don’t talk about it then it’s never going to be.
And really, what’s the worst that can happen? If you tell a new partner what you want to enjoy they will either want to share that enjoyment with you, or not. And if they don’t it’s fine, you accept that and both move on. If you can’t move on, or they can’t move on, you probably aren’t meant to be as a couple.
If, on the other hand, they are so disgusted by the suggestion that they want to end things there and then, you’ve probably found out you weren’t as compatible as you thought you were anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have to disagree, if you ask and the answer is no then it will probably change your relationship for ever so you better be damned certain of the answer before you ask |
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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago
Cheltenham, Gloucestershire |
I was very open with my husband when we first met, we both talked honestly about the kind of relationship we wanted and it went from there. We spent the first few years just enjoying each other, building the strong foundation to our relationship, and once we were ready, we started to explore involving other people in our sex life. We took small steps, exploring slowly, talking about how we both felt as we went, and we've never regretted a thing. We have the most wonderful sex life, and indulging in this lifestyle has definitely added an extra element to that.
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By *aneyy OP Man
over a year ago
leeds |
"Met Mary at a social group and the same weekend I found her on Fab and invited her over and we played. At the time I wasn't ready for a relationship but we became friends and went out as such. We where both seeing other people but nothing serious and we went on holiday together for the second time. She said, "We should just be together as we get on so well" so we did and have been together a year and moved in together in July. "
Congratulations. Sounds soo organic aswell |
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By *aneyy OP Man
over a year ago
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"It came up in bed when we were discussing our past sexual experiences, we both love women and sex, and we loved the idea of having sex with women together...and so here we are.
Really think the best way is just to be honest with your partner from the start, if you want swinging to be part of your life. If you don’t talk about it then it’s never going to be.
And really, what’s the worst that can happen? If you tell a new partner what you want to enjoy they will either want to share that enjoyment with you, or not. And if they don’t it’s fine, you accept that and both move on. If you can’t move on, or they can’t move on, you probably aren’t meant to be as a couple.
If, on the other hand, they are so disgusted by the suggestion that they want to end things there and then, you’ve probably found out you weren’t as compatible as you thought you were anyway!"
I think maybe people are more scared of being judged in secret by their partner maybe. It’s how I would feel if I wanted to tell someone I was with ( I’m single though) but scared they would secretly think wtf is wrong with this person lol |
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By *aneyy OP Man
over a year ago
leeds |
"have to disagree, if you ask and the answer is no then it will probably change your relationship for ever so you better be damned certain of the answer before you ask"
This is what I kinda believe. I think it will change the way that person views you possibly. Which does make sense as you got into the relationship on tradition terms |
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