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By *aed OP Couple
over a year ago
over the hills |
is it wrong to have on your profile that you are seeking safe sex, yet within 3 messages ask if you played bareback. Am i wrong to feel pissed that these people are out of order for misleading me with their profile, we have safe sex on our profile for a reason. How many people would feel happy meeting a couple like that?? |
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This site is full of hypocrites that say they only play safe and go to church on Sunday etc etc. These same guys bombard us with messages begging for bareback fun.
At least the people who say straight up that they enjoy bareback are being honest and not hiding things unlike half the guys that will respond to this and claim to be church goers but in reality a lot of guys are just saying what a woman wants to hear.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This site is full of hypocrites that say they only play safe and go to church on Sunday etc etc. These same guys bombard us with messages begging for bareback fun.
At least the people who say straight up that they enjoy bareback are being honest and not hiding things unlike half the guys that will respond to this and claim to be church goers but in reality a lot of guys are just saying what a woman wants to hear. "
Nearly everyone I have spoken to on here wants to play bare even though the majority have safe on their profile. Please just be honest about it. Xx |
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People have interests listed but they are not a contractual obligation that you will enjoy sex in those ways and doing those activities listed.
It's better to assume that most people that you start talking with will not be compatible. It takes effort to filter people but can only be done through our effort. People write profiles and don't update them too. Rely on interaction instead |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People have interests listed but they are not a contractual obligation that you will enjoy sex in those ways and doing those activities listed.
It's better to assume that most people that you start talking with will not be compatible. It takes effort to filter people but can only be done through our effort. People write profiles and don't update them too. Rely on interaction instead "
It's not so much people that have it listed in interests, it's the people that state "safe sex only" in their write up that are the hypocrites. I really wish they'd add a bareback interest though, for people to either filter for, or against depending on their preferences xx |
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By *ranfondoMan
over a year ago
Cambridgeshire |
"People have interests listed but they are not a contractual obligation that you will enjoy sex in those ways and doing those activities listed.
It's better to assume that most people that you start talking with will not be compatible. It takes effort to filter people but can only be done through our effort. People write profiles and don't update them too. Rely on interaction instead
It's not so much people that have it listed in interests, it's the people that state "safe sex only" in their write up that are the hypocrites. I really wish they'd add a bareback interest though, for people to either filter for, or against depending on their preferences xx"
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By *69meMan
over a year ago
Cambridgeshire |
I do think that the site could have a "bareback sex" interest to tick. That way people can use it to filter.
Yes, I know that we should all be playing safe etc. etc. and the "PC police" (or whatever you want to call them) will complain about it.
...but it does give people to option to tick one, either, or both!
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
I don't even bother checking to see if someone has ticked safe sex or not. I've had way too many people ask/want or even try to pressure me into unprotected sex.
Like many things in life it's all about making your own risk assessment.
I won't have unprotected sex. But I assume everyone else does so I take the actions I think appropriate..
(Which is I'm vaccinated for HepB, I will be on PrEP once I'm meeting again and I'm tested at a frequency related to how often I'm meeting {every 6 months as a routine without meeting, more often if I am), I have a host of things I am careful about in prep for and during a meet...) |
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As with many things, what people say and what they do can often be two entirely different things...
....I've been contacted plenty of times by couples (and single females) who have 'safe sex' listed - and when I point out that I only play bareback, then say that they saw it mentioned in my profile, and that's actually what they want...
....I think that in most cases, people listing 'safe sex' is simply to widen the net, so those who only play that way won't be put off... |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
Near Okehampton. |
We have Safe on our profile and would never consider anything else.
we have been messaged by Guys saying they only ever 'practice safe' sex and happy to meet.
On occasion when I've have seen bare back pictures on their profiles, i have asked if they would consider bare back, quite a few have said yes they are happy to do so.
The just get blocked |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
It's just another way people on here mislead others sadly
I admire those who are upfront about wanting bareback, at least you know from the start and can choose not to engage if it's not for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's just another way people on here mislead others sadly
I admire those who are upfront about wanting bareback, at least you know from the start and can choose not to engage if it's not for you. "
I wish everyone was just honest and not hypocritical, or judgemental. There enough people that play bare or safe to keep either group happy, plus people ok with either. It would save so much hassle for everyone regardless of preference if people just said honestly, and weren't scared of judgement and persecution if they do. Xx |
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"It's just another way people on here mislead others sadly
I admire those who are upfront about wanting bareback, at least you know from the start and can choose not to engage if it's not for you.
I wish everyone was just honest and not hypocritical, or judgemental. There enough people that play bare or safe to keep either group happy, plus people ok with either. It would save so much hassle for everyone regardless of preference if people just said honestly, and weren't scared of judgement and persecution if they do. Xx"
Exactly this, there is enough for everyone whatever your preference is, folks should just be honest and save everyone's time.
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"is it wrong to have on your profile that you are seeking safe sex, yet within 3 messages ask if you played bareback. Am i wrong to feel pissed that these people are out of order for misleading me with their profile, we have safe sex on our profile for a reason. How many people would feel happy meeting a couple like that??"
Depends what you me by "to have on your profile that you are seeking safe sex", if you mean you have left safe sex ticked that is fine as that only means that is an interest not required, if however you state safe sex only then no it is not acceptable.
Some people leave all the options open but that does not mean you have to fulfill every interest. |
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"is it wrong to have on your profile that you are seeking safe sex, yet within 3 messages ask if you played bareback. Am i wrong to feel pissed that these people are out of order for misleading me with their profile, we have safe sex on our profile for a reason. How many people would feel happy meeting a couple like that??"
I’d see it as a block filter. It doesn’t matter what the profile says. Truth always comes out. |
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As with many things it's completely down to personal preference, I totally agree that there are some hypocrites on here but on the other hand if both parties are good with having unprotected sex then who the hell are we to judge them for that. By all means question it if the people ever contact you, and by all means use it as a filter if you yourself play safe. But people getting all on there high horses about the safe sex thing need to change the record. It's completely up to the two parties involved if they choose to risk it without protection or not. We are all adults and all know the risks |
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We get so many messages from guys stating what the think we want to hear
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Always want a social first, long a sensual meets, play safe...
When we say sorry what we actually want is something more anonymous, short and nasty and bare
They will sometimes actually say
"Oh thats fine, i just said that because thats what most people want"
Its immediately off putting as it makes their first message completely dishonest |
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"is it wrong to have on your profile that you are seeking safe sex, yet within 3 messages ask if you played bareback. Am i wrong to feel pissed that these people are out of order for misleading me with their profile, we have safe sex on our profile for a reason. How many people would feel happy meeting a couple like that??"
Whether you’re happy or not is your question to answer.... within 3 messages they asked if you play bare.... or would you with them...? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"is it wrong to have on your profile that you are seeking safe sex, yet within 3 messages ask if you played bareback. Am i wrong to feel pissed that these people are out of order for misleading me with their profile, we have safe sex on our profile for a reason. How many people would feel happy meeting a couple like that??"
It's frustrating sometimes .
We got that few times from cpls because the husband can't get erection with a condom.
We use forums to spot them and block them.  |
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"I've lost count of the amount of couples profiles that state "safe sex only this is non negotiable" yet in their pics the wife is taking multiple bare cocks"
Yeah, but people can run their profiles as they see fit, innit?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let's be honest if we knew the was 0 risk of an sti there isnt a person on this site that wouldnt want bare back it just feels better and more natural but sadly u just dont know and there for people will not take the risk and who is anyone to judge anyone however they chose to play it as long as they agree b4 play if it's safe or bare then all good lest not judge |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What we noticed is
Couples generally clearly mention their choice of play ,safe or bareback but some single men are easy to manipulate as they are desperate and will do anything to have a free pussy here.
Also rules are only shown on Fab and not in clubs. People don't check profiles in club ,they just go for mutual attraction and play with anyone present there .
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By *heerFlirtMan
over a year ago
Quite near Bath usually |
Lots of BB and creampie chat on the threads at present - I think it’s indicative of the Fab frustration everyone’s experiencing. Who doesn’t prefer bare play? But everyone’s fantasies are running wild in the current situation and when it comes to the crunch (or just cums!) most in reality would be likely prefer to be safe wearing protection or with regular tested partners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weve had this, chatting to a couple, and last min they said they only play bb, despite what the profile said, instant block from us, its just not worth the risk for us, our choice, we play bb between us, but we are in a longterm relationship, but never with play partners, even when people say they have just been tested, whos to say they havnt had sex and cauught something since??? |
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I would say if u are a 'PROPER COUPLE IE MARRIED OR BF/GF' then yeah bare back
But if u are the shady cheatin bastard couples shaggin other behind ur own partners deffo safe
And also any one just lookin for a last minute.com desperate dick meets should also be safe
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Some interesting points here. If it was 100% safe, the majority of us would love bareback fun all the time but it isn't.
We feel that bareback should only happen amongst regular/exclusive players that have gained your trust and are tested regularly and able to provide those results. |
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"As with many things it's completely down to personal preference, I totally agree that there are some hypocrites on here but on the other hand if both parties are good with having unprotected sex then who the hell are we to judge them for that. By all means question it if the people ever contact you, and by all means use it as a filter if you yourself play safe. But people getting all on there high horses about the safe sex thing need to change the record. It's completely up to the two parties involved if they choose to risk it without protection or not. We are all adults and all know the risks
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I too have bareback preferred very clearly on my profile and when I approach Couples or singles I always let them know up front. Too many bullshitters on here. |
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