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over a year ago
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"It can be ... just if I’m ignored I’m not too bothered it’s their loss .. as I’m fucking hilarious and I’m great .. I’ll say myself .. 
Good for you, I'll bet your a hoot
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do any other females and F/M couples find this site very clicky
We try to chat with others but only seem to get response from singl males "
Well hello there 
Seriously though, this place can be more clicky than a nest of crickets, each with his own raffle wheel spinning continuously. The downside is they're numerous but the upside is these cliques are very entertaining to study and figure out their little hierarchies.
Also there are loads of genuine couples and women on here who have individual thoughts and self confidence ...so don't let the noise put you off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmmmmm clicky.....?
What does that mean?
I think perhaps we’ve been quite fortunate that the vast majority are friendly and damn nice.
There are a few times that we have been ‘put in our place’ by some couples or ladies not responding. But we know sometimes that’s because we just don’t float their boat/ they get too many emails to respond to all. We don’t put that down as them being clicky- just selective as we all have preferences.
At times, some people can have a different opinion to us. That’s life and makes it a damn good one. I’d hate for us all to agree and not question things.
However; if people are mean, rude and unkind it does take me a little more time to digest. As I don’t understand the venom of people hiding behind a screen. It rarely happens. But you do see it. People are quick to fire their opinion (and rightly they should)- but not in a nasty way. Perhaps it’s says more about themselves as a person and what emotional baggage they carry around?
If you’re finding some people have been rude, use your note button and either don’t message again or even block. It should save a lot of upset xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You will almost certainly always have more men then women or couples contact you.
Thats partly because of the numbers and partly because on the whole men are more likely to send more first messages.
If you are finding the people you want don't come to you, you could always make the first move.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmmmm clicky.....?
What does that mean?
I think perhaps we’ve been quite fortunate that the vast majority are friendly and damn nice.
There are a few times that we have been ‘put in our place’ by some couples or ladies not responding. But we know sometimes that’s because we just don’t float their boat/ they get too many emails to respond to all. We don’t put that down as them being clicky- just selective as we all have preferences.
At times, some people can have a different opinion to us. That’s life and makes it a damn good one. I’d hate for us all to agree and not question things.
However; if people are mean, rude and unkind it does take me a little more time to digest. As I don’t understand the venom of people hiding behind a screen. It rarely happens. But you do see it. People are quick to fire their opinion (and rightly they should)- but not in a nasty way. Perhaps it’s says more about themselves as a person and what emotional baggage they carry around?
If you’re finding some people have been rude, use your note button and either don’t message again or even block. It should save a lot of upset xxx"
What do you mean "put in your place by couple or females not responding"
I dont think that's the intention, many see not replying to someone as a no thank you. |
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By *nmgCouple
over a year ago
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"Do any other females and F/M couples find this site very clicky
We try to chat with others but only seem to get response from singl males "
Now you mention it I guess.... But it doesn't really bother us! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmmmm clicky.....?
What does that mean?
I think perhaps we’ve been quite fortunate that the vast majority are friendly and damn nice.
There are a few times that we have been ‘put in our place’ by some couples or ladies not responding. But we know sometimes that’s because we just don’t float their boat/ they get too many emails to respond to all. We don’t put that down as them being clicky- just selective as we all have preferences.
At times, some people can have a different opinion to us. That’s life and makes it a damn good one. I’d hate for us all to agree and not question things.
However; if people are mean, rude and unkind it does take me a little more time to digest. As I don’t understand the venom of people hiding behind a screen. It rarely happens. But you do see it. People are quick to fire their opinion (and rightly they should)- but not in a nasty way. Perhaps it’s says more about themselves as a person and what emotional baggage they carry around?
If you’re finding some people have been rude, use your note button and either don’t message again or even block. It should save a lot of upset xxx
What do you mean "put in your place by couple or females not responding"
I dont think that's the intention, many see not replying to someone as a no thank you. "
Completely. As in rest of paragraph |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmmmm clicky.....?
What does that mean?
I think perhaps we’ve been quite fortunate that the vast majority are friendly and damn nice.
There are a few times that we have been ‘put in our place’ by some couples or ladies not responding. But we know sometimes that’s because we just don’t float their boat/ they get too many emails to respond to all. We don’t put that down as them being clicky- just selective as we all have preferences.
At times, some people can have a different opinion to us. That’s life and makes it a damn good one. I’d hate for us all to agree and not question things.
However; if people are mean, rude and unkind it does take me a little more time to digest. As I don’t understand the venom of people hiding behind a screen. It rarely happens. But you do see it. People are quick to fire their opinion (and rightly they should)- but not in a nasty way. Perhaps it’s says more about themselves as a person and what emotional baggage they carry around?
If you’re finding some people have been rude, use your note button and either don’t message again or even block. It should save a lot of upset xxx
What do you mean "put in your place by couple or females not responding"
I dont think that's the intention, many see not replying to someone as a no thank you.
Completely. As in rest of paragraph "
But its not about having too many messages more often than not its because they don't want to engage.
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We do find most people on here to be nice, although do see what you mean with little bubbles forming.
Assume maybe it’s the isolation where people are investing themselves more in this site and the forums etc. Can’t say we invest enough mental energy to be bothered by anything on here though. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Cliquey or groups of people that have got to know each other through meeting coming together naturally? There's a distinct difference between the two.
I actually think there are elements of both here, and it's probably more obvious on the forums too, but there are also lots of good and individual people who don't fit either group - it's just a question of finding those that are on your wavelength and a good match for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always assume good intent...
I think the format of the forums can make it seem that way. It's hard to have a conversation in the forums, and so folks look out for people they know
That's my two cents
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"As in any social or work situation there will be cliques, it's human nature.
My personal opinion is that it's best to try and avoid becoming part of one and to try and be inclusive oneself.  "
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, because some women and couples don't reply to you, that means they are part of a clique? Not that they aren't interested in you? Who knew?! "
Escalation  . Have a snickers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve found some of the chat rooms to be very cliquey, bordering on just plain rude in some cases. However there are some rooms which are a delight
I now know which ones to avoid "
How can anyone be rude to you guys - you a hell of a sexy couple  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always assume good intent...
I think the format of the forums can make it seem that way. It's hard to have a conversation in the forums, and so folks look out for people they know
That's my two cents
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It does have its cliques, especially on the forums. Certain women will start a thread and next thing you know the Men are on there like yapping dogs trying to get a sniff
However that’s forums for you,,friendships do arise from them, I know of a few on here that’ll back up Tgirls when someone is having a go at us being on this site. So certain people I do look out for and generally reply to thing’s they’ve posted.
Takes time on this site, but occasionally you do get a positive outcome  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, because some women and couples don't reply to you, that means they are part of a clique? Not that they aren't interested in you? Who knew?!
Escalation . Have a snickers."
I just find it a weird conclusion to draw, is all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It uses to be years ago, verging on childish playground cliqueiness. Thankfully not so much anymore.
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Are you joking? The Lounge is mostly like primary school kids on Sunny D. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It uses to be years ago, verging on childish playground cliqueiness. Thankfully not so much anymore.
Are you joking? The Lounge is mostly like primary school kids on Sunny D. "
That just about sums the lounge up |
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"Do any other females and F/M couples find this site very clicky
We try to chat with others but only seem to get response from singl males "
Yes.. it can be. I don't think people are rude but they all.chat often so they have made good friends. I find the threads go so fast my reply often is lost.
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"Do any other females and F/M couples find this site very clicky
We try to chat with others but only seem to get response from singl males
Yes.. it can be. I don't think people are rude but they all.chat often so they have made good friends. I find the threads go so fast my reply often is lost.
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Hi! Waving "
Yes, cliques do exist on here, though as has been seen in past years, it's all denied!!.
Forum pages are typical of this style. In some threads, you have to be one of the "members" and your face has to fit! If not, you run the risk of being ignored or your input isn't acknowledged. Thankfully, these cliques are few in number.
It doesn't bother me, as I just ignore certain threads or pages and get on with my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't get bothered by it all, I just post on the threads I want to participate in. My posts are over looked on times but that's what happens on a forum I suppose.
Her x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You will see 3 or 4 very clicky ones comment and overtake some threads. I tend to ignore and move on. I'd rather be an individual than a sheep "
Us redhead won't ever be a sheep |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You will see 3 or 4 very clicky ones comment and overtake some threads. I tend to ignore and move on. I'd rather be an individual than a sheep
Us redhead won't ever be a sheep
I second that! Xx"
I wouldn't mind a woolly coat though lol xx |
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"You will see 3 or 4 very clicky ones comment and overtake some threads. I tend to ignore and move on. I'd rather be an individual than a sheep
Us redhead won't ever be a sheep
I second that! Xx"
And who would want a redheaded sheep?  |
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"I’ve found some of the chat rooms to be very cliquey, bordering on just plain rude in some cases. However there are some rooms which are a delight
I now know which ones to avoid
How can anyone be rude to you guys - you a hell of a sexy couple "
Thank you!!
But they where very rude and it almost put me off.
I asked a few questions as I’d never been on the chat rooms in years, and OMG I felt like I was in school again, the unpopular kid daring to address the popular ones ..
Funny though, I went back in that room week later With my cam on this time and the popular ones where all very nice to me. Very chatty full of flattery.
I steer clear now, the Ireland and Wales rooms are the most friendly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One thing I've noticed over the years within club and scene life
People's from the North always seem more welcoming, chatty and will get on with it
People in the South always seem stand offish
How this translates to the site is abit of a mixed bag |
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