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Why do men assume they're speaking to the female in a couple account?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together 
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This happens a lot and gets them an instant block.
Although our profile doesnt state its run by the male, if any guy with half a brain reads it they will work that out.
Guys who write a message to both of us get point's but guys who come in with a message to Daddy complimenting Babygirl get a golf star! |
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"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.
Usually it's a wrong assumption."
Our profile mainly has photos of Babygirl as its straight guys we are looking for, but making the assumption they are talking to the female half shows they have not bothered to read out profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.
Usually it's a wrong assumption.
Our profile mainly has photos of Babygirl as its straight guys we are looking for, but making the assumption they are talking to the female half shows they have not bothered to read out profile."
Eh. Yeah.
Plenty of people don't bother with reading profiles! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.
Usually it's a wrong assumption.
Our profile mainly has photos of Babygirl as its straight guys we are looking for, but making the assumption they are talking to the female half shows they have not bothered to read out profile."
Exactly this!
On top of this for us, I'm not overly happy with how I look so I'm all for my wife having her pictures on here because then our profile looks great and I dont put a downer on it!  |
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Think our profile shows both of us, maybe 60_40 hannah, but we never assume we are chatting to the f. Always address both when messaging firstly. And we tend to let people k ow who's messaging too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Loads of guys want to lick my pussy, apparently!
- Jack "
Too good!
I also have a fantastic ass and they can tell I'd love to be dommed....
Certainly not the case for me and definitely not for the wife if it's a stranger! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think our profile shows both of us, maybe 60_40 hannah, but we never assume we are chatting to the f. Always address both when messaging firstly. And we tend to let people k ow who's messaging too. "
That's the best way to be! If a message is addressed the both of us its way more likely to get a response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In my case, it is always the male who messages me- many times pretending it is the female  "
Yup this is often my issue or the guy messaging alone no sign of the lady at all....cant have a threesome with only 2 people  |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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I daresay that the guys who just "assume" they're dealing with the female on a Couple's profile, haven't either read the respective profile (which often describes who exactly will be handling any approach messages!) OR, they lack the brain cell to automatically address both partners in a Couple!
Simple really! |
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"Think our profile shows both of us, maybe 60_40 hannah, but we never assume we are chatting to the f. Always address both when messaging firstly. And we tend to let people k ow who's messaging too.
That's the best way to be! If a message is addressed the both of us its way more likely to get a response"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always address them both female and male. Besides if you wanna join them you need to get on with both
Exactly the point! "
The guys who assume it's the female only have interest in her , and no interest in his needs .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often get a message from the female half of a couple. It’s obvious it’s him not her tho.
Really ? That is funny "
It’s very common.
There’s also a lot of couples profiles where the female half is unaware or has left the profile. |
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"Somewhat of a safe assumption when some couples profiles mainly have photos of only the woman on display.
Usually it's a wrong assumption."
Well in that case then that just goes to show that some men don't read the profiles and just look at pics and msg them based on them, we have had many of them and they just get deleated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
We get this alot even thought our profile clearly states that the husband is running the profile until we are back being active. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many people think that couples Swing because the man is shit in bed and is handing out the woman for other men to shag.
Or the woman can't control her horny urges (same with single women obviously) so they offer to shag her because they are kind and putting her out of her horny misery.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
For us it seems that the bottom line is that all they want is to drop their muck and therefore not for us.
But on the up side it kills a few minutes just playing with the poor tit blind fools that can’t read a profile..
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We get daily messages aimed just at me, Over freindly, calling me pet names, talking directly and blanking other half.
It's a sure fire way to get a sarcastic reply and a block. Clearly says Stag and Vixen. So if they want to get anywhere near me, they have to go through him to get to me. But there so busy thinking with their knobbs, they don't read the profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Because all the photos are her ? |
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Nothing worse when reading couoles profiles tho sayin about thrm 'both'
But when u see the piccys
They all tend to be just one half of the sex
Mainly alot of the femails,
If u are a couole to show ur real mayb u shud both have piccys of u on
Mind you thst is if you really are a proper couole at times bevit married or pzrtners
I tend to see a lot on here who bake profiles up who are just fuck buddies but both also have their own partners
TOTAL turn off for me unfortunately
Honesty is the best policy for me
Im not into liars n cheats
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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago
from Home Counties to Middle Earth |
"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Which one of you has posted this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
not all of us do, as most times its the male online |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
We find the exact opposite |
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I find the opposite ,even though it says in our profile wife does most of the chat due to having more time ,but i still get "hey id love to fuck your wife " messages ,but saying that the ones who say "How are you both " are more respectful ... |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
As you mention cuckolding, maybe they feel that's the vibe you're looking for?
If it's a problem, why not make it clearer on your profile who they should write to. |
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"We often find it's the other way. They assume its him on the other side of the screen when 99 percent of the time its me.. "
Thats how it is with us, sometimes hubby dictates message. And I type it, other times I do them in my own but hubby never does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always assume I'm talking to the male. Experience tells me that many "couple" accounts don't actually have a female involved - so often she's "taking a break". Sad, but that's the way of the world! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get a mix of both. Sometimes it’s hey beautiful or hey babe or something about her arse or how they’d love to be deep inside ‘me’ ....
Other times it’s oooooh you’re a lucky guy or oh your missus is the hottest thing on here and blah blahhhhh.
Never both get addressed in opening messages from single males |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the guys ask who is here if we chat in the rooms. Sometimes, just for devilment, Dave will say it's me just to see how fast it goes from courtesy to cock |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Even put it in our profile that it's the guy but... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of the guys ask who is here if we chat in the rooms. Sometimes, just for devilment, Dave will say it's me just to see how fast it goes from courtesy to cock "
This was my favourite part of having a couple profile  Leading them on, never correcting them, and then enjoying the outrage or confusion when I start talking about having a cock  |
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"I always assume it's the male talking.
Although I have had the lady message.
But that has only happened with one couple.
Why do you assume that? "
Because, with the above exception, it has always been the male.
Don't get me wrong. I have no issue with corresponding with the male.
If I did how would I expect to handle when everyone gets naked? |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Why do couples only show wife or gf pics? if you can answer that, you have your answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I daresay that the guys who just "assume" they're dealing with the female on a Couple's profile, haven't either read the respective profile (which often describes who exactly will be handling any approach messages!) OR, they lack the brain cell to automatically address both partners in a Couple!
Simple really!"
DEFINITELY this - especially the last part. Or they're too busy practising their oral technique on the windows |
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Our account is 95% of the time me the Mrs, but I tend to find when talking to single girls they tend to ask questions or refer to both of us as a couple. But when having chats with couples they tend to only focus on me and don't seem to have any interest in the Mr (even though we state in our bio we don't play with other men) however the majority we speak too are polite so I don't mind chatting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman. "
If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too? |
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It's definitely a lack of etiquette and understanding of swinging. They are effectively ruling themselves out with a message addressed to the Mrs only, especially as Mr generally filters the messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Agree with that op.
It happens a lot.
I would in that case tell them. My opinion |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
This!!! Or they immediately presume a cuck relationship. It's not even a small amount either, it's every message |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.
If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too? "
But that’s because we’re interested in a straight male, so what would be the point in uploading pictures of me?
It’s basically the same as approaching a couple in a club and just ignoring the guy completely. Super rude |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.
If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too?
But that’s because we’re interested in a straight male, so what would be the point in uploading pictures of me?
It’s basically the same as approaching a couple in a club and just ignoring the guy completely. Super rude"
True, but many couples are looking for ladies too.
I’ve looked at couples profiles and it’s all pics of her and the bio is too. It really makes you feel it’s a female profile. Easy to forget he exists. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman.
If a profile is all about the lady is it any wonder the messages are too?
But that’s because we’re interested in a straight male, so what would be the point in uploading pictures of me?
It’s basically the same as approaching a couple in a club and just ignoring the guy completely. Super rude
True, but many couples are looking for ladies too.
I’ve looked at couples profiles and it’s all pics of her and the bio is too. It really makes you feel it’s a female profile. Easy to forget he exists. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I assume every couples account that contacts me is gonna be the man/a man talking.
9 times out of 10 it is.
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Probably true. Though tempted to say 99 out of 100 |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
I'm surprised that happens as to be honest if I was making any assumption, I'd assume it was the Mr who was doing most of the leg work. But I'd always address to both. It's only polite.
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Ha I have the opposite too. I’ve even stated it’s Lucy who is always on and I get messages directed to my bf. Usually block them.
Just shows the people who read profiles and don’t get pass the pics! |
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Same, wonder if they do realise we get the rewards for there work! same on another site we post too, she loves reading them and masturbating and i get one of the best sites iv ever laid eyes on, so cheers guys haha |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Two reasons men make this assumption: Firstly, wishful thinking, and secondly a lot of couples accounts have photos primarily or exclusively of the woman. "
Yes, I get all that, ours is, but surely you look to see if it's a couples profile or a single womans before messaging? |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??
Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated "
Before you even look at a pic you have to open the profile which clearly tells you whether it's, male, female, whatever and still. It's all a bit odd tbh. |
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By *av_55Man
over a year ago
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Alas it’s a regular topic of discussion at clubs and parties
But I think you will find .. most of the men who are .. should I say of an older eek tend to realise the way to a couples( heart) (bed) is to chat as if you where in there company
But that’s just this old chaps opinion .. and as they say .. opinions are like arsholes ..we all have one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??
Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated "
If men see women in photos that's all they can think about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happens every single time without fail but think it's more to do with the fact it's all her pictures on here so they get the impression it's her they are speaking to . We find it more respectful when we're addressed as a couple though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
I always address the couple and put the males name first, this world is about respect and manners. If a couple is looking for a guy to join them, then it is just that, the single guy is being invited into the couples relationship and not the other way around, it's really quite simple and basic manners... |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Same ! We are 2 guys and still get messages thinking they are talking to women??
Is our profile not clear enough, comments appreciated
If men see women in photos that's all they can think about. "
I shouldn't laugh but it's true |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Maybe because the couples’ profile is usually only filled with pics of the female, so it’s natural to assume it’s the female running the profile |
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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago
louth, Ireland |
"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
We get same and this is when the block button comes in handy, if they cant acknowledge both of us in a message then no chance they will get any further
Mrs Gs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
Thoughts? Yes they disregard me. We get their standard copy and paste crap. Even though it clearly states who runs the profile in the profile. |
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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago
Kidderminster |
"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
(MrK) I never assume that I'm talking to the lady as in our case it's me that run our profile. |
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"Found this a lot and wondered if anybody had the same problem?
Most of the time whenever a guy messages they tend to address it to just the wife, rather than both of us. This is a bit of a put off as it makes it seem like they're just completely disregarding me all together
Thoughts?"
I (The Boy) run the account. I find it’s basically 50:50 either “your misses is well fit/ god you’re well fit” |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
North Devon-ish |
Just had a message from a Guy
wanting to know "Does she satisfy, is she really filthy and is she a real handful"
My response was
"Thanks for the questions, when my hubby gets in, I will ask him, if i measure up and depends on his reply, i will get back to you at some point"
The cheeky Sod came back with "ok thanks"....  |
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