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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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good man yes you are normal and i think you saved your self from a whole load of grief from your daughter who im sure wouldnt have been happy for you to see her mate
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over a year ago
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i had it with one of my kids mates, a lad of 18 kept coming round to my house, at first with the kids then on his on and asking if he could come in and wait for the kids to come home, i let him at first thinking nothing of it but then he was obviously flirting with me, i thought i was going mad at first as i couldnt believe it but he really was and he got bolder and bolder with it till i had to tell him to stop coming to the house
Its deffo not right to shag your kids mates, it feels very wrong to me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"good man yes you are normal and i think you saved your self from a whole load of grief from your daughter who im sure wouldnt have been happy for you to see her mate
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thats my reasoning too.
i get on really well with my daughter and her friends but it just feels wrong...
dont get me wrong i have met girls on here the same age but it somehow seems different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"good man yes you are normal and i think you saved your self from a whole load of grief from your daughter who im sure wouldnt have been happy for you to see her mate
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yeah you have to be careful, young ones tend to be more clingy and less mature when you reject them after, your whole family could have know about it within a week |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like young guys... My son is 20.. I draw the line at any of his friends..
So I think that you are normal.. but should feel quite flattered.. 
Cali "
flattered!!! i should say so..
i am just mr average and she is hot as hell so yes very flattered yet very frustrated.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd agree with most, its not actually so much about the age...its about the relationship with ur daughter.Other than that...there is nothing I'd have against it.
(although i'd like people who have vast age range differences to acknowledge the relative distance would appear to grow as one gets in their prime and the other may start to see it wasnt a good idea to engage in an actual relationship)- this is something close to home at present, and i dont like seeing those involved getting hurt! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not being in that position, I can't honestly say, BUT I'd rather regret the things I did rather than those I didn't do..."
over all id agree with that, but when your kids are involved its different, loosing your childs respect for a fling isnt worth it in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask yourself how would you feel if it was your daughter and her mates dad??
Still feel sorry you said no?
Just another point of view...
I'm not saying you were right or wrong but I wouldnt have, not with a friend of my child |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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flattered!!! i should say so..
i am just mr average and she is hot as hell so yes very flattered yet very frustrated..... "
I know how you feel.. I run any young guys that contact me via here against my older childrens facebook friends..
I have had one or two that I have had to say no too.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ask yourself how would you feel if it was your daughter and her mates dad??
Still feel sorry you said no?
Just another point of view...
I'm not saying you were right or wrong but I wouldnt have, not with a friend of my child "
thats why i said no.
she was ok with it, i just told her how flattered i was but that i didnt think it would be right.. i think she respects me for that...
actually, what she said was 'so you dont fancy a quick blow job either then?'
we fell about laughing to be honest and its never been mentioned since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?"
Dont go for it, you've done the right thing. Remember the cardinal rule - never shit on your own doorstep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Incidentally the age of consent in 13 European countries is 14.
That includes some of the bigger countries such as Germany and Italy.
In Spain it is 13 (albeit with restrictions)
I personally think they are too low, but they remain the legal minimums in the countries concerned.
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?
Dont go for it, you've done the right thing. Remember the cardinal rule - never shit on your own doorstep. "
She liked scat too?  ....Bluurgh!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?"
At 21 she is eminently capable of knowing what she does and doesn't want. If you like each other, go for it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?
At 21 she is eminently capable of knowing what she does and doesn't want. If you like each other, go for it."
dont get me wrong i do like her but its because i have seen her grow up and she is my daughters friend that stops me. i value both of their friendships highly.
under different circumstances i would probably go for it.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no stay away
i liked the comment would you let you mate fuck your daughter
its still too close to home mate it will end in tears
personaly would never fuck someone my daughters age seems so wrong
well done though for resisting bud |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Incidentally the age of consent in 13 European countries is 14.
That includes some of the bigger countries such as Germany and Italy.
In Spain it is 13 (albeit with restrictions)
I personally think they are too low, but they remain the legal minimums in the countries concerned.
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if thats true it is shocking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it would be wrong and whilst legally its allowed, morally there are lines that shouldn't be crossed.
You say you've know her since she was a young child, so at what age did that change and you stopped seeing her as a child, because you've admitted you find her hot and by posting about it, you obviously have sexual thoughts about her. And also talking sexually about blowjobs.
I have known my sons friends from young children, and now they're 23 I still see them in the way I always have, as my sons mates. I wouldn't notice if they were 'hot' because that thought would never enter my head |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it would be wrong and whilst legally its allowed, morally there are lines that shouldn't be crossed.
You say you've know her since she was a young child, so at what age did that change and you stopped seeing her as a child, because you've admitted you find her hot and by posting about it, you obviously have sexual thoughts about her. And also talking sexually about blowjobs.
I have known my sons friends from young children, and now they're 23 I still see them in the way I always have, as my sons mates. I wouldn't notice if they were 'hot' because that thought would never enter my head"
well when they reach maturity you do see them sexually as they see there selfs |
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I fancied my ex GF mate for a long long time, we split up and I bumped into her mate whilst out drinking, we got chatting and before we knew it we were left on our own at closing time, I offered to drop her off on my way home, she gladly agreed, anyway I received the best BJ of my life and some of the most filthy sex of my life that night, you'd have thought I would have felt 10 Foot tall the next day??? No I felt like a twat, and I still do, my advice is this... Don't shit on your own door step! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fancied my ex GF mate for a long long time, we split up and I bumped into her mate whilst out drinking, we got chatting and before we knew it we were left on our own at closing time, I offered to drop her off on my way home, she gladly agreed, anyway I received the best BJ of my life and some of the most filthy sex of my life that night, you'd have thought I would have felt 10 Foot tall the next day??? No I felt like a twat, and I still do, my advice is this... Don't shit on your own door step!"
maybe just pass on her number to me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fucked a friends daughter,I knew her since she was young and when she was 18 we met in club and she came back to mine,had casual sex for 6 months no big deal ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it would be wrong and whilst legally its allowed, morally there are lines that shouldn't be crossed.
You say you've know her since she was a young child, so at what age did that change and you stopped seeing her as a child, because you've admitted you find her hot and by posting about it, you obviously have sexual thoughts about her. And also talking sexually about blowjobs.
I have known my sons friends from young children, and now they're 23 I still see them in the way I always have, as my sons mates. I wouldn't notice if they were 'hot' because that thought would never enter my headwell when they reach maturity you do see them sexually as they see there selfs"
You mean you do - I wouldn't, I think its wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?"
I'd be 'In like Flynn' but then again morality has never been a strong point of mine
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By (user no longer on site)
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No no no. It's one of those don't go there. Don't even know why you could question it having known her since she was 5. Think your flattered that a young girl is interested in you. I have a few if my nephew friends like me but I laugh it off as I almost changed their nappies. I would never even for one second consider it. My advice your normal to feel flattered. But to contemplate it your verging on the scale of abnormal lol. Something just not right about it since knowing her as a wee girl. No matter how old I'd still see her as that wee girl |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?"
No it's the kids who are bothered with who their parents are fucking. This is the issue. Kids feelings before fucks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?
No it's the kids who are bothered with who their parents are fucking. This is the issue. Kids feelings before fucks "
there all adults should be able to accept that people have relations |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tell you what if my daughter wound up fucking her best friends dad I'd crack the fuck up. More do with him than her as she is still young and vulnerable. Id think he was a feckin perverted creep. It would cause major havoc and some sore faces. Sorry but that's the reality in the real world |
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"Tell you what if my daughter wound up fucking her best friends dad I'd crack the fuck up. More do with him than her as she is still young and vulnerable. Id think he was a feckin perverted creep. It would cause major havoc and some sore faces. Sorry but that's the reality in the real world "
it's about her choice not yours though ? if she wants to have fun with him why not ?
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By (user no longer on site)
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If only the world was as simple eh? To do what the feck we want in life without considering others. What a world that would be. Everyday we make decisions based on how it affects others especially the folk we love and care about. Most of us don't have a fuck you I'll do what I want attitude. Or maybe I'm the one who ain't normal ? |
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"If only the world was as simple eh? To do what the feck we want in life without considering others. What a world that would be. Everyday we make decisions based on how it affects others especially the folk we love and care about. Most of us don't have a fuck you I'll do what I want attitude. Or maybe I'm the one who ain't normal ?"
well it would be your hang up,you'd just have to accept it ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off. |
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"If only the world was as simple eh? To do what the feck we want in life without considering others. What a world that would be. Everyday we make decisions based on how it affects others especially the folk we love and care about. Most of us don't have a fuck you I'll do what I want attitude. Or maybe I'm the one who ain't normal ?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off."
why would she saying who she was fucking,can have casual sex with people don't have to announce it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?"
I think you answered your own question when you said "i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it" Best left for many reasons and find someone you are more comfortable with. |
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"thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off.why would she saying who she was fucking,can have casual sex with people don't have to announce it lol"
ok, if she came home with her mates dad and it was obvious they were in a relationship. i know she wouldnt tell me she was 'fucking him', i was using it as an illustration.
it seems that it wouldnt bother you?
so you would fuck your son/daughters mate even if you had seen her grow up from 5 years old..?
simple yes/no will be fine |
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"thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off.why would she saying who she was fucking,can have casual sex with people don't have to announce it lol
ok, if she came home with her mates dad and it was obvious they were in a relationship. i know she wouldnt tell me she was 'fucking him', i was using it as an illustration.
it seems that it wouldnt bother you?
so you would fuck your son/daughters mate even if you had seen her grow up from 5 years old..?
simple yes/no will be fine"
If I thought she was mature enough,and she had experience with men before,maybe yeah. |
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Pheww
anyway kenny you sound like a lovely guy. Enjoy the flattery. Shes 21 and going though a phase. Next week she'll be fancying the 19 year old window cleaner xx |
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"thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off.why would she saying who she was fucking,can have casual sex with people don't have to announce it lol
ok, if she came home with her mates dad and it was obvious they were in a relationship. i know she wouldnt tell me she was 'fucking him', i was using it as an illustration.
it seems that it wouldnt bother you?
so you would fuck your son/daughters mate even if you had seen her grow up from 5 years old..?
simple yes/no will be fineIf I thought she was mature enough,and she had experience with men before,maybe yeah."
ok so some time later your son/daughter finds out.... calls you a pervert doesnt want to speak to you again, hates you for it...
would you regret it??? cos you cant go back and undo the damage. |
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?"
do you have kids?
happy to have them fuck the local drug dealer?
or your next door neighbour in their 60's / 70's perhaps?
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"Pheww
anyway kenny you sound like a lovely guy. Enjoy the flattery. Shes 21 and going though a phase. Next week she'll be fancying the 19 year old window cleaner xx"
we laugh about it now. we sat down and i told her all the reasons why not, told her that i obviously thought she was attractive and 'in a different time, different place' etc etc it would be ok. she respects me for it i think. |
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"If only the world was as simple eh? To do what the feck we want in life without considering others. What a world that would be. Everyday we make decisions based on how it affects others especially the folk we love and care about. Most of us don't have a fuck you I'll do what I want attitude. Or maybe I'm the one who ain't normal ?"
ditto.. |
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"thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off.why would she saying who she was fucking,can have casual sex with people don't have to announce it lol
ok, if she came home with her mates dad and it was obvious they were in a relationship. i know she wouldnt tell me she was 'fucking him', i was using it as an illustration.
it seems that it wouldnt bother you?
so you would fuck your son/daughters mate even if you had seen her grow up from 5 years old..?
simple yes/no will be fineIf I thought she was mature enough,and she had experience with men before,maybe yeah.
ok so some time later your son/daughter finds out.... calls you a pervert doesnt want to speak to you again, hates you for it...
would you regret it??? cos you cant go back and undo the damage."
well they would be wrong,your not a perv for having a relationship |
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?
do you have kids?
happy to have them fuck the local drug dealer?
or your next door neighbour in their 60's / 70's perhaps? of course not but what should you do vet every guy they sleep with,it's there life,not yours.It would'nt be nice but it's upto them.
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"thanks for all the comments. it is interesting to see different opinions but overall i think most people feel i did the right thing.
certainly i do.. it is sometimes easy to use the "she's an adult so whats the problem?" argument but i think its just down to morality and whether you value the feelings of your friends and family over your carnal desires. i know my daughter would be horrified and that is more important to me.
of course i would, and have, had sex with girls young enough to be my daughter but not so close to home.
what would i do if my daughter came home with a 46 year old? i honestly dont know but if she was happy then i think i would respect that.
if she told me she was fucking her mates 46 yr old dad and i knew he had seen her grow up as a family friend i would probably want to rip his head off.why would she saying who she was fucking,can have casual sex with people don't have to announce it lol
ok, if she came home with her mates dad and it was obvious they were in a relationship. i know she wouldnt tell me she was 'fucking him', i was using it as an illustration.
it seems that it wouldnt bother you?
so you would fuck your son/daughters mate even if you had seen her grow up from 5 years old..?
simple yes/no will be fineIf I thought she was mature enough,and she had experience with men before,maybe yeah.
ok so some time later your son/daughter finds out.... calls you a pervert doesnt want to speak to you again, hates you for it...
would you regret it??? cos you cant go back and undo the damage.well they would be wrong,your not a perv for having a relationship"
yeah but sons/daughters dont think like that..
some find it hard to accept that their parents still have sex and i think most 21 yr old girls woud be horrified if their dad fucked their mate.
whether you think its normal doesnt stop them thinking you are a perv for doing it.
you have to consider other people in life sometimes and your own kids feelings should be more important that the desire to fuck a young chick..
thats my view as i have said and its obviously different to yours.
lets hope if you do have kids you dont lose their respect or their love just for short term gratification.
good luck though however you choose to go through life.
i certainly have no regrets saying no. |
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?
do you have kids?
happy to have them fuck the local drug dealer?
or your next door neighbour in their 60's / 70's perhaps? of course not but what should you do vet every guy they sleep with,it's there life,not yours.It would'nt be nice but it's upto them.
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Not talking about 'vetting' anyone, yes they make their own choices in life..
If they are brought up in a 'good way' the decisions they make will be ok ish..
we all make mistakes in life and our kids will thats part of it..
your querry about parents being bothered may be true for some but not for the majority of us thank feck.. |
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?"
Hi Kenny -- reading this and your respones to some other replies could make some feel that this is a fantacy storey and not real time
Why i say that is because someone put it quiet well above me
"if it was your daughter and her mates older dad how would YOU feel then" -
To which you then went on about her offering you a BJ or something
My absolute apologies if my interpritation is well off the mark; but its just how i read it ; sorry if offended in advance
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?
do you have kids?
happy to have them fuck the local drug dealer?
or your next door neighbour in their 60's / 70's perhaps? of course not but what should you do vet every guy they sleep with,it's there life,not yours.It would'nt be nice but it's upto them.
Not talking about 'vetting' anyone, yes they make their own choices in life..
If they are brought up in a 'good way' the decisions they make will be ok ish..
we all make mistakes in life and our kids will thats part of it..
your querry about parents being bothered may be true for some but not for the majority of us thank feck.. "
well what if they decide they wanna swing,meeting strangers etc would that be better then them being with someone you know and trust ? |
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"don't get why parents would be so bothered who there kids are fucking ?
do you have kids?
happy to have them fuck the local drug dealer?
or your next door neighbour in their 60's / 70's perhaps? of course not but what should you do vet every guy they sleep with,it's there life,not yours.It would'nt be nice but it's upto them.
Not talking about 'vetting' anyone, yes they make their own choices in life..
If they are brought up in a 'good way' the decisions they make will be ok ish..
we all make mistakes in life and our kids will thats part of it..
your querry about parents being bothered may be true for some but not for the majority of us thank feck.. well what if they decide they wanna swing,meeting strangers etc would that be better then them being with someone you know and trust ?"
if they choose to swing as long as they are sensible etc thats their choice as adults..
and 'we' would'nt know so could not make a judgement on whether its 'better' which is a subjective opinion in any case.. |
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?
Hi Kenny -- reading this and your respones to some other replies could make some feel that this is a fantacy storey and not real time
Why i say that is because someone put it quiet well above me
"if it was your daughter and her mates older dad how would YOU feel then" -
To which you then went on about her offering you a BJ or something
My absolute apologies if my interpritation is well off the mark; but its just how i read it ; sorry if offended in advance
Pete --- scrurries back to his corner "
totally true mate.. she first propostioned me at a party, ok we had all had some drink. she hinted that she fancied me if i remember rightly.
nothing was said for about 2 weeks and when at our house, my daughter popped upstairs and the girl just said she wasnt joking about what she has said.
no more said again for a week or two then we bumped into each other in costa coffee near my work. looking back i think she engineered the meet cos she knew i went there.
over coffee she said it again and then we had the conversation-i am flattered, but no because of my daughter blah blah etc etc...
she laughed and just said something like. 'i dont suppose you fancy a blow job then?' it was tongue in cheek and we laughed about it.
since then nothing has been said and it has all been put behind us. she still comes round to see my daughter and we all get on great.
thats how it went down.. |
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?
Hi Kenny -- reading this and your respones to some other replies could make some feel that this is a fantacy storey and not real time
Why i say that is because someone put it quiet well above me
"if it was your daughter and her mates older dad how would YOU feel then" -
To which you then went on about her offering you a BJ or something
My absolute apologies if my interpritation is well off the mark; but its just how i read it ; sorry if offended in advance
Pete --- scrurries back to his corner
totally true mate.. she first propostioned me at a party, ok we had all had some drink. she hinted that she fancied me if i remember rightly.
nothing was said for about 2 weeks and when at our house, my daughter popped upstairs and the girl just said she wasnt joking about what she has said.
no more said again for a week or two then we bumped into each other in costa coffee near my work. looking back i think she engineered the meet cos she knew i went there.
over coffee she said it again and then we had the conversation-i am flattered, but no because of my daughter blah blah etc etc...
she laughed and just said something like. 'i dont suppose you fancy a blow job then?' it was tongue in cheek and we laughed about it.
since then nothing has been said and it has all been put behind us. she still comes round to see my daughter and we all get on great.
thats how it went down.."
sounds like you should be worrying more about your daughter hanging out with girl who speaks like that lol jesus |
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"hi all.
i have a 22 yr old daughter and one of her friends from school has expressed an interest in me. she is 21 and have known her since she was 5 yrs old.
i have turned her down, just purely because i wouldnt feel comfortable with it. she is fit too but she told me the other day that she is into the older man and had fancied me since she was about 16, i am 46
am i normal???? or should i just go for it?
Hi Kenny -- reading this and your respones to some other replies could make some feel that this is a fantacy storey and not real time
Why i say that is because someone put it quiet well above me
"if it was your daughter and her mates older dad how would YOU feel then" -
To which you then went on about her offering you a BJ or something
My absolute apologies if my interpritation is well off the mark; but its just how i read it ; sorry if offended in advance
Pete --- scrurries back to his corner
totally true mate.. she first propostioned me at a party, ok we had all had some drink. she hinted that she fancied me if i remember rightly.
nothing was said for about 2 weeks and when at our house, my daughter popped upstairs and the girl just said she wasnt joking about what she has said.
no more said again for a week or two then we bumped into each other in costa coffee near my work. looking back i think she engineered the meet cos she knew i went there.
over coffee she said it again and then we had the conversation-i am flattered, but no because of my daughter blah blah etc etc...
she laughed and just said something like. 'i dont suppose you fancy a blow job then?' it was tongue in cheek and we laughed about it.
since then nothing has been said and it has all been put behind us. she still comes round to see my daughter and we all get on great.
thats how it went down..sounds like you should be worrying more about your daughter hanging out with girl who speaks like that lol jesus"
why the hell should i worry about that ffs, the girl is a 21 yr old woman.
jesus how many young women on here talk dirty to blokes.
i think enough been said about this subject cos we seem to be veering off course.
i think from the comments on here and on similar threads, you are in the minority over this.
so i sleep well at night knowing i did the right thing..
bt as i sais you take care and enjoy your life doing it your way... |
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Credit to this girl. She kept quiet from her 16th till she she turn 21 before telling you that she likes you and fancy some...
But it is still NO NO NO NO
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Have to agree. I don't think your daughter should be hanging out with girls who offer dads that they've known since they were 5 bjs. Most would think yewwwwww. So sounds a bit crazy mad assed deviant to me. Soz kenny ain't seen your pic and beauty in eye of the beholder an that. But do question if this very attractive 21 year old is piss taking a 45 year old guy with a few extra pounds ? |
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From your original post I quote " should I just go for it" you seem to now after seeing majority against it, to have taken a very moral stand lol. Hope you enjoyed the fantasy while it lasted kenny lol |
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"Have to agree. I don't think your daughter should be hanging out with girls who offer dads that they've known since they were 5 bjs. Most would think yewwwwww. So sounds a bit crazy mad assed deviant to me. Soz kenny ain't seen your pic and beauty in eye of the beholder an that. But do question if this very attractive 21 year old is piss taking a 45 year old guy with a few extra pounds ?"
what would his daughter think if she knew her friend was talking to her dad like that and tempting him ?
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I think the notion of having to worry about your daughter hanging around with a 21 year old that thinks like that is just bollox
As it's been said, she's 21 years old for gods sake, I could understand people saying this if she was 16... but 21... come people wake up.
Also theres nothing to suggest this girls offering other dads the same thing either, just more people jumping to conclusions, she may well just have a thing for this guy only.... people can't help who they find attractive can they ?
If you feel you've done the right thing then you've done the right thing, end of... but if you'd banged her back doors in then good for you, but I can understand your daughter could take it badly and all that. |
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"I think the notion of having to worry about your daughter hanging around with a 21 year old that thinks like that is just bollox
As it's been said, she's 21 years old for gods sake, I could understand people saying this if she was 16... but 21... come people wake up.
Also theres nothing to suggest this girls offering other dads the same thing either, just more people jumping to conclusions, she may well just have a thing for this guy only.... people can't help who they find attractive can they ?
If you feel you've done the right thing then you've done the right thing, end of... but if you'd banged her back doors in then good for you, but I can understand your daughter could take it badly and all that."
In a sentence. Don't do it would upset your daughter lol |
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"Credit to this girl. She kept quiet from her 16th till she she turn 21 before telling you that she likes you and fancy some...
But it is still NO NO NO NO
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i agree. thats why i said no.. |
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"Credit to this girl. She kept quiet from her 16th till she she turn 21 before telling you that she likes you and fancy some...
But it is still NO NO NO NO
i agree. thats why i said no.."
We have all jumped on same bandwagon here and i agree it might have come over us all being high and mighty - but i do think we are in the main only coming form the angle that she is your daughter mate that you supposed to have know since she was 5 years old - its that bit which concerns us i think...
Now had you been having a conversation along the lines of
" i 21 year old women offered to give me a blow job last week"
i am pretty sure you would have had a different response
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"From your original post I quote " should I just go for it" you seem to now after seeing majority against it, to have taken a very moral stand lol. Hope you enjoyed the fantasy while it lasted kenny lol "
cherry. will answer a couple of yours, and others, comments.
no i dont think she is taking the piss.
we have always got on really well and she has blossomed into a very sexy young lady.
i know i am no adonis but i am a nice guy and people like me. That is why i have had my share of gfs and have lots of friends. not everyone just takes looks alone.
we had a very nice in depth conversation about why she liked me and her taste in guys and she was very sincere. she also respects my thoughts and we are still good friend as i am with alot of my daughters mates.
the BJ comment was a tongue in cheek joke, no more no less,
and also to think that it is bad for my daughter to be around her is daft anyway.
she is a grown woman and i am sure she doesnt go round offering random BJs. it was a joke.....
i am sure my daughter wouldnt be that happy if she knew, but people cant always help how they feel.
she is very well educated and smart young lady and yes i was very flattered, but i never once considered it. the 'shall i go for it' comment was just to stimulate debate and see just what peoples reactions would be.
i would have pursued it after the first hint...but it was another month before we actually talked about it properly.
if i am honest i initially thought most men would say go for it and most women would say dont. i am pleasantly surprised to see the number of guys supporting my decison which is refreshing.
there will always be people who think with their dicks first and brain later and that will never change.
i, for one, am not that desperate for a shag to do that.
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From the comments you have made earlier though Kenny, the 'she is hot', she's a sexy young woman, the come ons she did and you continuing to say 'nothing w as said' , her being in the coffee shop and you having coffee and discussing sex with her, seems to be a liTtle at odds with your big morality sentiments later on, I suspect when you got the vibe from the majority of posters.
If it was one of my sons mates, and he came onto me, I would put him straight in no uncertain terms. I would show my displeasure and he would know never to mention that again.
I would ensure that I was not alone with him anywhere and I certainly wouldn't go and have coffee with him and talk about sex.
If you thought it was wrong and you have strong morals on this, you didn't do a very good job of getting your message across loud and clear. By continuing to talk about sex with her you are giving her mixed messages. |
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regardless of anything really thats been said before, I for one dont really like some of the previous statements.whether or not the OP has known the girl for x-amount of time...what IS the issue is its his daughters friend.whether the op has known her most of her life is irrelevant.she is 21.
accusations and questions about what the OP has thought about her before she was 21,18 or less are VERY uncalled for.
conversation over(in my opinion).
Do what u like OP..understand the consequences of ur relationship with ur daughter.Thats the priority issue. |
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"From the comments you have made earlier though Kenny, the 'she is hot', she's a sexy young woman, the come ons she did and you continuing to say 'nothing w as said' , her being in the coffee shop and you having coffee and discussing sex with her, seems to be a liTtle at odds with your big morality sentiments later on, I suspect when you got the vibe from the majority of posters.
If it was one of my sons mates, and he came onto me, I would put him straight in no uncertain terms. I would show my displeasure and he would know never to mention that again.
I would ensure that I was not alone with him anywhere and I certainly wouldn't go and have coffee with him and talk about sex.
If you thought it was wrong and you have strong morals on this, you didn't do a very good job of getting your message across loud and clear. By continuing to talk about sex with her you are giving her mixed messages. "
sorry but you misunderstand. i didnt talk sex with her at all and i didnt arrange to meet for coffee.
as i said i think she deliberatly went to the coffee shop knowing i would be there. it was full of people.
it was there that i told her, and in no uncertain terms too that it was out of the question.
yes she talked about the sort of person she liked but it was not a sexual conversation. her off the cuff comment as we left, about a BJ, was exactly that, a joke... i didnt at any poiint talk about sex with her so i didnt give any mixed messages at all. i am not sure where you get that from...
at the party originally she just said she fancied me,i thought she just had too much to drink and frankly ignored it.
when she said it again 2 weeks later we were alone for about 1 minute and and she just said she hadnt been joking about what she said, didnt get chance to talk about anything as my daughter came back downstairs. i didnt see her again until 2 weeks when she turned up at the coffee shop. which was not arranged by me i hasten to add.
that was the first opportunity to talk and we had 'the converation'.We were never alone together at any point other than when my daughter popped upstairs literally for 1 minute.
i think i acted properly at all times and stand by my decision, which was for moral reasons and i havent suddenly taken a moral stance based on others peoples opinions.
some of the comments i make about her being fit or hot were intended to see if the men and women reacted differently. which in the main they didnt, it was refreshing to see nearly evryone supported my decision. |
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I appreciate we all do things different ways and some people are more subtle.
I saw in your post earlier that you didn't arrange to meet at the coffee shop, but you did agree to stay there, sit down at a table and have a discussion, when clearly if this girl had got the message at the party that you found her proposal offensive, she would not have conveniently turned up.
From what you've said earlier I do not feel this was nipped in the bud early enough. You could have given a look at the party to show disdain, similarly you could have shown her your displeasure at your house when she brought it up. A short decisive no nonsence 'no, never' would have sorted it. But after those two other occasions she still felt she could pursue you, and even after the 'conversation' she made a comment about a blowjob. I know you said it was a joke, generally our kids friends don't joke about offering a sexual act though if they thought we would hit the roof at the suggestion.
There's just something about this that makes me feel you are tempted, you are seeing her as an attractive sexy girl instead of your daighters friend. It may be hard to switch off from seeing her as the little girl who liked playing skipping and with dollies rather than the vision of firm body and impossible long legs that's standing in front of you. But if tou think its morally wrong then don't look on her as a sexual being.
There is nothing wrong with younger women for you and I'm sure on this site you will get to have fun with a few, concentrate on those 21 year olds that don't have previous history with you. And I'm sure you are very flattered and an attractive man, good luck and wishing you lots of fun
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"I appreciate we all do things different ways and some people are more subtle.
I saw in your post earlier that you didn't arrange to meet at the coffee shop, but you did agree to stay there, sit down at a table and have a discussion, when clearly if this girl had got the message at the party that you found her proposal offensive, she would not have conveniently turned up.
From what you've said earlier I do not feel this was nipped in the bud early enough. You could have given a look at the party to show disdain, similarly you could have shown her your displeasure at your house when she brought it up. A short decisive no nonsence 'no, never' would have sorted it. But after those two other occasions she still felt she could pursue you, and even after the 'conversation' she made a comment about a blowjob. I know you said it was a joke, generally our kids friends don't joke about offering a sexual act though if they thought we would hit the roof at the suggestion.
There's just something about this that makes me feel you are tempted, you are seeing her as an attractive sexy girl instead of your daighters friend. It may be hard to switch off from seeing her as the little girl who liked playing skipping and with dollies rather than the vision of firm body and impossible long legs that's standing in front of you. But if tou think its morally wrong then don't look on her as a sexual being.
There is nothing wrong with younger women for you and I'm sure on this site you will get to have fun with a few, concentrate on those 21 year olds that don't have previous history with you. And I'm sure you are very flattered and an attractive man, good luck and wishing you lots of fun
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as much as i value your input, the fact remains, you weren't there so do not know the full situation.
as for the coffee shop what should i have done?.. i was sat down and she walked up and sat at the table, i didnt even see her coming in. should i have got up and walked out??of course not, it was the first opportunity to do anything about it and i did, in the right and proper manner and that is the end of it. we have seen each other since and there has been no further suggestions. i try to avoid her and would avoid any chance of us being alone together.
at the party incident and the house incident there was no time to even think they were such small and quick comments. To be honest both occasions caught me on the wrong foot and i am not easily phased but the moment passed and the opportunity to reply went. as i said you wern't there so cant really pass judgement.
as to whether i am tempted, well i am not, because of all the reasons i have previously stated.
as to whether i find her attractive. well yes, she is attractive but i dont see her in a sexual way, but so is my ex wifes sister who is single, and we get on fine, but i wouldnt make a play for her either.
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I do agree Kenny that its easy to say what could be done when you are not in that situation, so I do understand and I probably was unnecessarily harsh and I apologise for any offence.
I wasn't there and things do catch you on the hop. And it sounds like the message has been understood now. |
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"I do agree Kenny that its easy to say what could be done when you are not in that situation, so I do understand and I probably was unnecessarily harsh and I apologise for any offence.
I wasn't there and things do catch you on the hop. And it sounds like the message has been understood now. "
thats ok, no apology needed and no offence taken..
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