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Finding a quality 3rd for a 3some
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When we started playing, we quickly discovered that we love 3somes, each kind for different reasons, and want to make them a more regular part of our play.
But. We're finding it hard to contact a 3rd who matches what we want for either MMF or MFF.
Are we being too fussy or just enjoying the effects of the wider world and schools going back etc etc?
In no way is this a moan, just curious how other people are finding this at the moment  |
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I always found when playing as a couple that extra guys were much harder to get than women..
Well getting a guy wasnt an issue. Getting one that worked well for a 3sum above a 30min quickie.. yeah never yet managed it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I always found when playing as a couple that extra guys were much harder to get than women..
Well getting a guy wasnt an issue. Getting one that worked well for a 3sum above a 30min quickie.. yeah never yet managed it "
Absolutely! We thought that meeting a couple who could play separately would be a good solution, but we've had our fingers burnt once already  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry posted that too quick makes it look like an advert lol. I mean I’m good because I usually have good chemistry with people and will get on with both halves of the couple and want to be part of a 3. I also understand that that I’m there for the couples fantasy. |
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Its definitely not an easy process. We are very picky and even the ones that seem really promising often end up putting us off with some strange behaviour like we invited a couple too our home when we started too play we fount out his wife didn,t know that he was going too play with mine we was all on our bed what a shocker / now thats why we ask aload of questions first very strange behaviour indeed a profile has too be like war and peace?? or does it  |
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By *BCambsCouple
over a year ago
Biggleswade |
You will find the right person but it definitely takes time.
We really enjoy threesomes with other guys but it pays to be picky!
Hang in there and you will find what you are looking for, it just takes time. |
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I can imagine it being very difficult to arrange.
More chance of an impromptu encounter after meeting in a club. That’s my only experience and it was fantastic. Got chatting to a lovely couple in the hot tub and ended up in a private room. |
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We have had some great meets with single guys and some we were excited about that didn't work we generally chat to them for at least a week or two before meeting as the cranks always expose themselves when made to wait usually meet for social as well make sure we click then go to hotel or back to ours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They exist. But for us they were friends first.
As for all 3 people being active, I (male) do like the idea of watching the wife every now and then. But that in porn, erotic stories and the wanna-be doms on here, they all seem to go for the 'humiliation' angle.
Is wanting to watch your significant other have fun such a bad thing? |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
S. Northants |
"When we started playing, we quickly discovered that we love 3somes, each kind for different reasons, and want to make them a more regular part of our play.
But. We're finding it hard to contact a 3rd who matches what we want for either MMF or MFF.
Are we being too fussy or just enjoying the effects of the wider world and schools going back etc etc?
In no way is this a moan, just curious how other people are finding this at the moment "
It's very difficult to find a third for any form of play, not just threesomes. Or even couples for that matter. We'd love a couple for Hubby to play with and the wife to watch, or a female part of a couple for Hubby to enjoy whilst the wife and other Hubby have a drink and watch. It's impossible to find either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love 3somes with couples and have had a lot if fun having them. Getting a couple that know what they want is key I think.
I always check in with both during to make sure everyone is comfortable because when everyone is... they are unreal   |
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By *ixen13Woman
over a year ago
Cowdenbeath |
I love a threesome or foursome but for me personally i prefer to play with other singles rather than a couple, i feel much more at ease knowing all participants are in the same boat rather than being a couples toy |
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As a single guy, ive had my fair share of threesomes and even I found that the chemistry with some couples wasn't as good as others.
Had the great pleasure of becoming a regular to a couple and that 3sum relationship lasted almost 3 years. Everything clicked, everything worked and the relationship was fantastic. Sex was great and on most evenings the sex lasted for 2-3 hours, sometimes more  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What makes for a good male to join a couple.
I thought it would be, just being a honest and upfront person and discuss everything before you get any where near having sex.
I may be completely wrong. |
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There's nothing wrong in being fussy however for my ex and myself we had to compromise a little bit or we would have never met anyone.
We found that on the whole one person would get more out of a meet than the other... not by much but it is sometimes more advantageous to have a little give and take....personally when playing in clubs both my ex and myself have had some amazing time's playing with people we wouldn't normally look twice at...probably down to the environment and naughty situations  good luck with your search x |
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The threesomes I've been involved with over the last few years works because of good conversations as to what they are looking for. A mutual attraction and me knowing I'm the addition not the main event. Long may it continue after covid. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We invariably have a threesome or two, or even me with more than two guys, when we visit clubs. A particular advantage is that you get to see potential players before making any commitments to play. Unfortunately club visits are out of the question at the moment but if you're looking for threesomes or moresomes I'd certainly recommend them when they fully reopen. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Want to say thanks to all who have posted and for all the opinions and viewpoints. Some really good points made about being open about the scenario and what everyone wants from the meet beforehand.
I think that it's almost more of an issue for me, than T as I used to be a single guy on the scene and made an effort to understand what couples wanted. I also understood, that being anything else, I was a plus 1 to their dynamic, seasoning not the main ingredient. So many guys we've talked to presume they're their to replace something, not to add to it.
For the moment, and sadly due to the poor standard of contact we've had from single guys, we're switching off their messaging. Maybe we can find couples where we can mix and match to add to each others fantasies?
Does anyone here play that way, and how do you find it compared to adding singles? |
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I think it's a particular kind of sexual set up. Ine has to understand as the extra male that its not about you at all. Its erotic and there is a huge kick to it..for me. But my role is to turn up..and many dont..stay up ..and a surprisingly large number of males cant get hard with another erect cock around...perform well..be respectful and friendly..and above all know when to leave..assuming you are not hosting (which I often am). |
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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago
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I think we've been lucky we've found quite a few extra males for a MMF that have worked great and would or have repeated. It's about getting on and being compatible in bed too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get folk Message is questioning why we’ve been in the site so long (as they put it) and never met anyone yet. We have same problem we want someone we both feel right connection with as would hope To make it regular thing and would want it to be more than just a meet quick bit of play then over want something long and memorable for right reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had no luck off fab with men yet. We have with a couple of ladies on here though. The ladies seem more genuine. Still searching for the right man on here though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would rather be picky then invite some oddball into our home and find out after. At the end of the day we find a 3rd for pleasure not because we miss something or we can't achieve something ourselves so it's our choice to be choosey. But agree even the best options sometimes decide to throw the 'i was once Alice before I became Adam and don't actually have a penis' kinda spanner in the works |
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By *E_13Couple
over a year ago
Burton on trent |
We always meet for socials outside our home first, so if we get on we take them home. You can tell after a while if you click. Sometimes it doesn't always translate in the bedroom, but it's often fun on some level. Then ever so often you meet one that's your match in bed too.
I don't think you can pick from just talking on fab, it's not always a true representation of someones personality. |
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In my experience clubs are the best way to find someone for a threesome.
It's much easier to establish if you are on the same page, quite quickly, when talking face to face. Not everyone is good at communicating via text. |
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We've had terrible luck with trying to find a female for our threesome.
Seeing as Joanna is very new to the whole experience, some females don't wanna feel like they have to "teach".
Still waiting but someday. ???? |
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It depends on many factors.
I found the threesomes I have been involved in - mostly MMF - have been great fun for everyone. However, arranging them can be pot luck. Does everyone get on? Does everyone turn up? Have the boundaries been accepted? etc.
Some of these issues can be addressed via a phone call which also has the advantage of suggesting everyone is serious about meeting up.
Keep trying - You're match is out there waiting to make contact. |
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