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not even had my first meet

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

i dont know whats happening, i still havent had my first meet and been here for over a year, have had a lot of timewasters anyway, some that just send messages and say they want to meet, but then no response.

i always here people complaining about guys sending one line messages, but the messages i send are quite lengthy...think i should try the one line messages and just say 'want to fuck?' lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

try somewhere else

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By *abloBackMan over a year ago

London

Wasnt exactly helpful

Try revamping your profile, something may be putting people off

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By *icboyMan over a year ago

Glasgow

Can't believe that...you are in London Man...wtf...

Even I have had a meet in London...from here...I looked at your profile...seems ok...

Maybe start again...more time on forums....a bit in chat...let folks see you are real...maybe that could help...best of luck...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do I spy a big bushy beard making an appearance on one of the pics ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wasnt exactly helpful

Try revamping your profile, something may be putting people off"

theres enough competition

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

hahah yeah there is, it might be that x

but i dont know, everyone in london who want to meet seem to be looking for couples or black guys, and thats me out lol yeah i might have to change my profile round a bit, see what happens

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"i dont know whats happening, i still havent had my first meet and been here for over a year, have had a lot of timewasters anyway, some that just send messages and say they want to meet, but then no response.

i always here people complaining about guys sending one line messages, but the messages i send are quite lengthy...think i should try the one line messages and just say 'want to fuck?' lol

We're all looking for different things and what would put me off are things you can't change.

In my experience some men contact people not looking for them then get frustrated. You're a smart lad, check you're within the desired ranges of the people you're contacting etc and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yeah, it doesnt bother me too much to be honest, every has their own preference..within time, something should come up x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah revamp your profile just like I did last night. I delete everything even all my friends and pictures. I updated with the No meeting and a headline saying I found her. Of course all that is just a smoke. Guess what????? 3 ladies from my former friends list just message asking who she was. Now I got meets lined up. One for tonight and one for saturday and both provide phone numbers

I've been here for 3 months and was feeling like this is a waste of time till last night

Don't do like me. It may not work for you

But try something else

Good luck man

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Yeah revamp your profile just like I did last night. I delete everything even all my friends and pictures. I updated with the No meeting and a headline saying I found her. Of course all that is just a smoke. Guess what????? 3 ladies from my former friends list just message asking who she was. Now I got meets lined up. One for tonight and one for saturday and both provide phone numbers

I've been here for 3 months and was feeling like this is a waste of time till last night

Don't do like me. It may not work for you

But try something else

Good luck man"

Way to go giving the ladies a heads up to your cunning plan!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

uve been here a year and u havent checked out a club??seriously?...get off the webcam chatrooms..havin a wank is great but not if its keeping u in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

lol as funny as this may sound, i dont get my cock out on cam, nor do i have a wank whilst chatting..theres no point if im going to be doing it all alone lol

but yeah i need to check out the clubs soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been here for 3 months and was feeling like this is a waste of time till last night

Don't do like me. It may not work for you

But try something else

Good luck man

Way to go giving the ladies a heads up to your cunning plan!

At least it works

And it take just one click to put all back the way it used to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol as funny as this may sound, i dont get my cock out on cam, nor do i have a wank whilst chatting..theres no point if im going to be doing it all alone lol

but yeah i need to check out the clubs soon"
Dont give up xx send some nice letters out .. Take time getting to know people x Or go to fab partys on a sunday at chams .. told no membership and lots of fun xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And you are doing the right thing by bringing this issue in the forum

I am sure you will get some messages from some ladies here

They know better than us guys

All the best mate

If you get lot of offers we will be on stand by to help you lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol as funny as this may sound, i dont get my cock out on cam, nor do i have a wank whilst chatting..theres no point if im going to be doing it all alone lol

but yeah i need to check out the clubs soon"

might get more interest...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yeah, i mean i do like to get to know people, i love people who got a sense of humour and know how to have a banter..

but we shall just wait and see what happens..its just that i read peoples profile about timewasters, and i do completely the opposite, but it still doesnt happen lol

fingers crossed, see how things go, im always in chat anyway x

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I've been here for 3 months and was feeling like this is a waste of time till last night

Don't do like me. It may not work for you

But try something else

Good luck man"

As the saying goes...

If at first you don't succeed, lie and try again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i always here people complaining about guys sending one line messages, but the messages i send are quite lengthy...think i should try the one line messages and just say 'want to fuck?' lol

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im finding it hard too i think people allways go for the ones who have met in the past ul get ur chance as i hope i will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i always here people complaining about guys sending one line messages, but the messages i send are quite lengthy...think i should try the one line messages and just say 'want to fuck?' lol

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im finding it hard too i think people allways go for the ones who have met in the past ul get ur chance as i hope i will

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yeah, i aint in no rush..best things come to those who wait and all that lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i always here people complaining about guys sending one line messages, but the messages i send are quite lengthy...think i should try the one line messages and just say 'want to fuck?' lol

You have a Law Degree? Clearly one of the options was not a unit on punctuation ......

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Definitely re-do your profile on a regular basis, keep it fresh, current and returning visitors may notice something that wasn't there before, and is pertinent to them, possibly more pertinent than older content.

I notice this part, towards the start of your it -

'Im very very cheeky (love a good banter)'

Whilst you may be very, very cheeky, this may be offputting to some, as your cheek/humour, may not be to everyone's taste, and some may feel at risk of being humiliated, intimidated or embarrassed. Whilst you likely have some empathy skills, these are not so apparent in your profile, so I'd leave out those elements of your behaviour - which is what banter etc is - and focus more on who you are, what sort of people you're looking for and your sexual/swinging experience and interests.

Whilst you say you've had lots of expressions of interest and then nothing, I think this is fairly common on Fab. People explore and get to know someone, and either things aren't right there and then, or they realise you're not what they're after and move on - typically I don't think they send 'thank you for application and interest, but unfortunately - on this occasion - you didn't get the position' type messages. They're not timewasters, merely likely to be overloaded with messages, and focused on what they actual do want, there and then. There's a numbers game to play - not everyone you communicate with is right for you, nor you for them, so you need to be meeting/chatting with a high enough number of people to make the probability of meets more likely.

Even when you do meet someone, it's still possible that there'll be no sex - either party may not want it, so be prepared for that.

Get to know others, men, women or tgirls, as having friends socially is a good thing, and you'll have people to chat to at socials etc. People that they know may also follow as introductions, who knows.

As a singly guy you need to stand out, stand out as right for who you want to meet, as well as a better fit than the other single guys. Get your profile right, improve it, and start again. Messages need to be good of course, but some are never read, recipients merely taking a look at the sender's profile, and checking out whether they're a likely fit to their needs.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Those chat up lines you list on your profile - No, no, no, no, NO! They're not funny and mentioning farting and diarrhea on a sex profile is going to send most people to the back up button.

Also, check your grammar and punctuation. One mistake is ok, but you miss apostrophes everywhere (it's I'm not Im). Usually it's only a little bug bear but if someone takes the time to state that they have a degree and are intelligent, then you expect them to write correctly.

Other than that, you seem quite pleasant. :P

We've been on this site over a year and admittedly have specific ideals as to the people we will meet, but we haven't had many meets either. Just two so far and only one progressing to a sexual encounter.

It doesn't matter whether you are a single male, female or a couple, there are always going to be times when it doesn't make it to a meet.

Patience is a virtue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

barely anybody cares about grammar, unless its through the forums...(text speak is loathed by many, apart from the users of it)

however Op I do have to say u've came on saying ur not getting meets etc, but then ur saying u can wait...sorta contradictory in my eyes.

anyway OUT urself more on ur profile, if ur wanting meets based on sex...and definitely get out to a club,party,social

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By *ovedupstillCouple over a year ago

mullinwire

not having a go, just noticed, its funny how ya shave yer fella, but cba to shave ya face lol

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"not having a go, just noticed, its funny how ya shave yer fella, but cba to shave ya face lol"

I don't like beards, but where's the correlation between shaved little chappy and shaved chin?!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a quick peek at your profile and, I may be wrong, but I'm guessing your chat-up lines (1 & 3) regarding bodily functions may not go down too well!

Even if you don't use them, it does say rather a lot regarding your overall demeanour.

Another point to make is that no one here is entitled to a meet and it can take quite a while even if you are a 'decent looking guy', 'hung' etc. etc.

Likr others have said, get out more and see what's happening in the world!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met a young man tonight.

He hardly had anything written on his profile, and no verifications.

I thought, oh he wont turn up.

But he did, and he was realy nice and good fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

also maybe because your looking for a lady to go IKEA with? this is a swingers site right.

also remove the chat up lines...and be patient, The meets will come, speaking from experience.

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By *esmond70Man over a year ago

tavistock

ive been here ages to not had a meet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to the op, your first line on your profile is a real turn off for us, and it just gets worse as you read on.

your one of alot of single guys looking for the same thing, so stand out, but in a good way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

yeah, i need to sort my profile out soon..and i am patient, i dont mind when a meet may occur but i just dont understand how you can be genuine and not a timewaster, provide individuals with everything they want, and then end up with no meet.

but yeah, profile under reconstruction i think

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By *eet_the_spartanMan over a year ago

Manchester

Get yourself started out making friends in swinging clubs, maybe get a party invite and meet people that way. Good luck

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