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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago
oldbury |
Has anyone on here been used to make someone else jealous on here? for instance get chatting to a couple arrange a meet and then only the fem says shes coming you go ahead with meet and then you find out she came to make hubby jealous and then you get backlash from it from said hubby. How do you handle this bearing in mind they have you phone number and possibly know where you live |
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Ouch!!!!
Yet another reason I steer clear if couples.
Big hug honey. Hope you started with block and report? Then totally ignore any contact from them - check with your mobile phone provider if they can block the number from contacting you.
If all else fails get a big male friend to answer calls and warn them off. |
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And bear in mind that if you arrange to meet a couple then meet the couple or don't meet - hindsight may be twenty-twenty but I've heard too many unpleasant stories about dodgy couple dynamics to ever feel confident unless I could see them both together first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone on here been used to make someone else jealous on here? for instance get chatting to a couple arrange a meet and then only the fem says shes coming you go ahead with meet and then you find out she came to make hubby jealous and then you get backlash from it from said hubby. How do you handle this bearing in mind they have you phone number and possibly know where you live"
simple, dont meet couples
Ive had quite a few problems in the past with couples for a variety of reasons and thats why i no longer meet them
Ive been used a scape goat a few times when theings have gone wrong for them |
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"I've not but it wunt bother me as I'd be the innocent party,surely he should be mad we her. The instigator  "
But if she instigates games like this who knows what she's telling him!!!
True swinging couples are a beautiful thing: all that trust and communication and respect and love. But there are a hell of a lot of damaged couples who think this will fix them or fill the gap left when love and trust are gone. And who gets the grief/rage/punches???? |
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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago
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"id also point out if they are having problems in their marrage, which they obviously are to be doing this they are their problems not yours!"
No there is that you are right naughty. There are obvious problems they split but have got back together and created new profile now couples are too much hassle i play as a couple but am prefer single meets whether male or female as im fed up of the crazy couples who are insecure |
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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago
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i should have said i met her with Sir as part of a couple so he is dealing with it but we thoroughly enjoy each others pleasure with other people and find nothing more of a turn on than seeing each other having a good time. This is always the case if not we finish the meet asap make out excuses and leave no game playing with us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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singles are easier
i havnt played with a woman for years because of the amount of hassle i got, id sooner turn my back on that side of my sexuality that keep meeting people i get problems from, i always felt like i was treading on egg shells round them and scraed to do anything incase one or the other got offended
You know where you stand with single guys, met, shag, go.... no hassle lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't worry too much, it's their problem not yours. If they have a couple profile I'd assume that he can get on it too and therefore will know what she's doing. Hope Sir teaches them to be more respectful of others. |
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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago
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"singles are easier
i havnt played with a woman for years because of the amount of hassle i got, id sooner turn my back on that side of my sexuality that keep meeting people i get problems from, i always felt like i was treading on egg shells round them and scraed to do anything incase one or the other got offended
You know where you stand with single guys, met, shag, go.... no hassle lol"
We have had our fair share of nut jobs one couple accused me and Sir of both meeting with the other person in the couple they stalked us and we had to get the police involved it nearly put us off but i think ill stick to club meets where we never have to see them again male or female we have stopped meeting away from clubs now for this reason but i must admit guys are more fun than fems less complex (i dont mean it in a bad way)  |
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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't worry too much, it's their problem not yours. If they have a couple profile I'd assume that he can get on it too and therefore will know what she's doing. Hope Sir teaches them to be more respectful of others. "
oh im sure if our paths cross again the whips and paddles will come out and they will be taught a good lesson (only joking hes a teddy bear really honest) We are leaving them to it to sort out their mess
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wasn't used as such but I did have a couple message me(well the woman from the couple) and try make me jealous and I had to laugh. She was old enough to be my mom so it was so petty it was unreal. A single guy had been pestering me to meet and I said I cant because I had my god daughter for the night so I'm not having any guy over and he kept saying we can in the front room it doesnt matter. Yes it does!! So he met up with this couple instead and told them I didn't meet him so they sat and went through my profile and she said she was going to message me
But her husband said dont and she did anyway. (the single guy told me all this after when I questioned why she messaged me) She messaged me saying mmmm thanks for not meeting him I had him myself mmmm and posted her status as her loss my gain. Did she think I would be jealous and respond?! Most ridiculous thing ever!! Just why?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone on here been used to make someone else jealous on here? for instance get chatting to a couple arrange a meet and then only the fem says shes coming you go ahead with meet and then you find out she came to make hubby jealous and then you get backlash from it from said hubby. How do you handle this bearing in mind they have you phone number and possibly know where you live"
Main thing to remember - although it is extremely unsettling for YOU - is that the problem doesn't lie with you, it's within their relationship.
Do you speak to BOTH the fem and the guy before you meet? In your position, I would. When I was meeting couples as a single guy, if I did not get to talk to BOTH then I would NOT meet them. For both single guys AND single fems meeting couples for 3somes, there is a very delicate dynamic going on and if you are not 'tuned in' to what is going on between THEM you can be in a potentially awkward (or worse - dangerous) position very quickly.
As a couple, we do not meet single guys or fems now. If the guy or fem from a couple wants to meet either or both of us separately to their 'other arf', then we will only do that at a club AND with the knowledge of the other arf who is left sitting at home.
It's like all experiences in swinging - both good and bad - learn from it, draw a line under it, and move on.....  |
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"Has anyone on here been used to make someone else jealous on here? for instance get chatting to a couple arrange a meet and then only the fem says shes coming you go ahead with meet and then you find out she came to make hubby jealous and then you get backlash from it from said hubby. How do you handle this bearing in mind they have you phone number and possibly know where you live"
avoid couples seems the best way! |
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"I've not but it wunt bother me as I'd be the innocent party,surely he should be mad we her. The instigator
But if she instigates games like this who knows what she's telling him!!!
True swinging couples are a beautiful thing: all that trust and communication and respect and love. But there are a hell of a lot of damaged couples who
think this will fix them or fill the gap left when love and trust are gone. And who gets the grief/rage/punches????"
I Understand this,but she's telling the truth that she's part of a cpl instead of setting up a single profile.
I tend to be quite trusting,I know some play as singles.
I've spoke to a few women from cpls that wanted to meet me on their own,I dint ask why.
I'm not pushy but went with the flow,both have not contacted me...... Call me stubborn or non pushy but if I've sent the last message or tx I wait patiently for a reply. If I don't get one I assume they don't want me or they're playing games,rightly or wrongly so.
I want people that want to play we my body not my mind.....simples |
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"id also point out if they are having problems in their marrage, which they obviously are to be doing this they are their problems not yours!"
cant dissagre with this more, we have a great relationship and swinging is an extention of this, we love to see the other having fun, and sometimes its nice to play with more than just yourselves, not all couples on here have problems, although some are, but alot like us enjoy it as an extention of a great relationship |
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By *ub bbw OP Woman
over a year ago
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"id also point out if they are having problems in their marrage, which they obviously are to be doing this they are their problems not yours!
cant dissagre with this more, we have a great relationship and swinging is an extention of this, we love to see the other having fun, and sometimes its nice to play with more than just yourselves, not all couples on here have problems, although some are, but alot like us enjoy it as an extention of a great relationship"
I feel the same as you i love seeing him enjoy himself and vice versa but this particular couple obviously have problems
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"id also point out if they are having problems in their marrage, which they obviously are to be doing this they are their problems not yours!
cant dissagre with this more, we have a great relationship and swinging is an extention of this, we love to see the other having fun, and sometimes its nice to play with more than just yourselves, not all couples on here have problems, although some are, but alot like us enjoy it as an extention of a great relationship"
I think you read this the wrong way. I read it as the couple that caused the OP problems are having problems in their marriage and that the "doing this" refers to the problems they are causing, not the fact that they are swinging. I know quite a few couples who enjoy swinging at various levels and like yourselves are very happy in their relationship, long may that state of affairs continue... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've got to accept we're all individuals n what's right for some is wrong for others.... Have fun,doing your own thing n learn by your mistakes
Practice makes perfect
Lifes about compromise  "
true, we dont have to accept being used as a pawn is someones elses mind games tho
dragging someone else into your problems is unacceptable and by the sound s of it thats what this woman did, used the OP to get back at her hubby for some reason
thats not a case of whats right for some, thats just wrong by anyones standard |
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I have had the situation where I was (or thought I was) talking to a single guy via his single male profile...... only to have his FB/swinging partner message me and start trying to say I would be meeting both of them and how he tells her everything. He said it wasn't like that and he did want to meet on his own... but I soon kicked that idea into touch. |
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