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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
Let’s talk about chemistry, the sexual type.
For Mr - it’s either instantly none, ok for a one off maybe if body and face are ok and taking one for the team, but those little subtleties like eyes, lips, a certain submissive look, or profile text suggesting that and even cheekbones, jawlines or teeth can just floor me. I then usually find her stunning regardless of body type and become putty in her hands. For Mrs it’s dominance and passion , conversation and undivided attention to her. If he takes his foot off the gas, picks up his phone or eyes wander while in her presence, she’s turned off.
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over a year ago
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Probably the same as Mrs. If he is texting someone else in my presence it's a turn off.
For me, chemistry is felt and can't be quantified. Need to meet in person to see if it's there. Mails and profiles just don't work. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"Probably the same as Mrs. If he is texting someone else in my presence it's a turn off.
For me, chemistry is felt and can't be quantified. Need to meet in person to see if it's there. Mails and profiles just don't work. "
Yes it’s really hard to nail! But initial thoughts are rarely wrong for me, I think it’s dynamic too once there’s that spark or flash I get more into them, ask questions and build it, but if a sparks missing there’s no effort and unlikely to find anything. |
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For me it is the intensity of interactions - the language and level of intrigue created.
Being surprised /unsure of my sparring partners response is quite a big turn on.
If i can anticipate then I've already friend zoned or mentally moved on
I surprised myself assuming my vanilla type would be my fab type in tems of attraction ... But I've found my mind has its own attraction!! Which is most delicious!
Irl I'm a sucker for people with intense eyes who look into my soul and make me laugh |
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over a year ago
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For us, we would never play with someone if there isn't the chemistry there - just becomes an act.
We love the social side of swinging, so being able to have a drink and a laugh and then head behind closed doors makes it a much more enjoyable experience. |
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For me it’s the sense of adventure in a person...
If someone is like.....hey , let’s meet and have great kinky sex quickly....Then form a friendship around sex .... We usually have a longer friendship....
If someone wants to play it conservative.... chat for 1 month , meet for a social, then meet sometime in the future for sex... it feels like I’m not having a sexual adventure..... More like I’m dating....
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"For me it is the intensity of interactions - the language and level of intrigue created.
Being surprised /unsure of my sparring partners response is quite a big turn on.
If i can anticipate then I've already friend zoned or mentally moved on
I surprised myself assuming my vanilla type would be my fab type in tems of attraction ... But I've found my mind has its own attraction!! Which is most delicious!
Irl I'm a sucker for people with intense eyes who look into my soul and make me laugh"
 the surprised reaction is good , it takes courage and occasionally goes wrong, not everyone agrees to be collared and lick milk from a saucer, not on the first date 
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"For us, we would never play with someone if there isn't the chemistry there - just becomes an act.
We love the social side of swinging, so being able to have a drink and a laugh and then head behind closed doors makes it a much more enjoyable experience."
Meets where all 4 feel it are quite rare, if travel is involved one of us would if the other wanted us to, because we do it for each other, but agreed it’s not much fun and try to avoid that |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"For me it’s the sense of adventure in a person...
If someone is like.....hey , let’s meet and have great kinky sex quickly....Then form a friendship around sex .... We usually have a longer friendship....
If someone wants to play it conservative.... chat for 1 month , meet for a social, then meet sometime in the future for sex... it feels like I’m not having a sexual adventure..... More like I’m dating....
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We started out just like that but have switched , we live adventures and sex, but can’t do it properly until we know them. There’s a time and place for primal/ lustful meets but for us kink and trust go hand in hand |
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Chemistry is the key and I usually know straight away it it’s there
It’s a shame when I feel it and the guy doesn’t but that’s the way it goes sometimes
For me it can be anything that makes me sit up and take notice, usually it’s personality that does it
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I can't tell you because I don't know myself lol. I was talking to a guy at a social once and thinking that he was very attractive when he started to scan the room with his eyes while talking to me. That killed any chemistry right then and there. Also if a guy starts telling me what I like  |
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"Pheromones all the way
Mmmm yes. Hard to get that on FAB. And by the time I’m sniffing armpits have usually done much ruder things to her...."
I usually have gut feeling after the first couple of messages , that is generally spot on.
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"For me it’s the sense of adventure in a person...
If someone is like.....hey , let’s meet and have great kinky sex quickly....Then form a friendship around sex .... We usually have a longer friendship....
If someone wants to play it conservative.... chat for 1 month , meet for a social, then meet sometime in the future for sex... it feels like I’m not having a sexual adventure..... More like I’m dating....
We started out just like that but have switched , we live adventures and sex, but can’t do it properly until we know them. There’s a time and place for primal/ lustful meets but for us kink and trust go hand in hand "
Thank you so much for understanding.... people tend to think I’m rude when I tell them... I don’t like going with the status quo...... |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"I can't tell you because I don't know myself lol. I was talking to a guy at a social once and thinking that he was very attractive when he started to scan the room with his eyes while talking to me. That killed any chemistry right then and there. Also if a guy starts telling me what I like "
When someone is distant or distracted on initial meets when you are flirting or seducing it’s like our bodies just say that’s it it’s over, a total chemistry killer! |
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On here out of all the people I talk to I have sexual chemistry with just TWO people! I think it's rare to find it for me.
For me its a mixture of manliness and caring, sensitive and dominant, he has to have more than just the sexual side to him. That eye contact, sexy eyes that make me want to climb on his face, that naughty smile that makes you have hot flushes and makes you want to do bad things  his hotness intimidates me. Being on the same wavelength sexually is so important to chemistry, I have been mad attracted to someone and then turned off by not having the same interests sexually. Vanilla guys I tend to friendzone  |
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"I can't tell you because I don't know myself lol. I was talking to a guy at a social once and thinking that he was very attractive when he started to scan the room with his eyes while talking to me. That killed any chemistry right then and there. Also if a guy starts telling me what I like
When someone is distant or distracted on initial meets when you are flirting or seducing it’s like our bodies just say that’s it it’s over, a total chemistry killer! "
It's the impression that they're looking for something better even while you're talking to them. I'm not daft, I know I'm not the centre of their universe but for that short period that they're with me they could at least pretend |
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"For me it is the intensity of interactions - the language and level of intrigue created.
Being surprised /unsure of my sparring partners response is quite a big turn on.
If i can anticipate then I've already friend zoned or mentally moved on
I surprised myself assuming my vanilla type would be my fab type in tems of attraction ... But I've found my mind has its own attraction!! Which is most delicious!
Irl I'm a sucker for people with intense eyes who look into my soul and make me laugh
the surprised reaction is good , it takes courage and occasionally goes wrong, not everyone agrees to be collared and lick milk from a saucer, not on the first date
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It's not always instant for me, sometimes it can build as I get to know people.
What excites me the most is a more dominant man who makes me feel really desired. Who looks at me in that way so I know he really wants me.
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Yes it's strange. We have met others where their photos though gorgeous did not generate a spark, yet face to face we were all quickly on fire with passion and couldn't keep our hands off each other. Met another couple who were a disappointment when they opened their door yet within minutes we were like best naughty friends  . Some have had us weak at the knees with their profile and photos yet face to face ?, social quickly well and truly over. Of course lack of attention is a huge turn off, whether at the social or when playing. We have often found ourselves playing with people who want all the sexual attention on them but give almost NOTHING back, a real turn off at the worst possible time. Never judge a book by its cover, or cover by the book. Looks are one thing to light my fire, yet their inner nature is another and more important at the end of the day. Some folk just ooooze sexuality and are so giving and caring, sadly very rare though... |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"It's not always instant for me, sometimes it can build as I get to know people.
What excites me the most is a more dominant man who makes me feel really desired. Who looks at me in that way so I know he really wants me.
K x"
That’s reassuring as it’s something Dom men love to do too, love the build it up over drinks/ dinner playing with that tension then turn on those sleazy eyes just as we’re getting the lift down
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By *rHotNotts OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yes it's strange. We have met others where their photos though gorgeous did not generate a spark, yet face to face we were all quickly on fire with passion and couldn't keep our hands off each other. Met another couple who were a disappointment when they opened their door yet within minutes we were like best naughty friends . Some have had us weak at the knees with their profile and photos yet face to face ?, social quickly well and truly over. Of course lack of attention is a huge turn off, whether at the social or when playing. We have often found ourselves playing with people who want all the sexual attention on them but give almost NOTHING back, a real turn off at the worst possible time. Never judge a book by its cover, or cover by the book. Looks are one thing to light my fire, yet their inner nature is another and more important at the end of the day. Some folk just ooooze sexuality and are so giving and caring, sadly very rare though..."
That’s very much how we used to be , hit and miss but the more we met we kind of can tell now by a pic or a profile text, mostly not always. It not looks it’s sexiness and attitude. We also only need a spark , it’s either there or it’s not , but a spark turns into a wildfire |
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"That’s very much how we used to be , hit and miss but the more we met we kind of can tell now by a pic or a profile text, mostly not always. It not looks it’s sexiness and attitude. We also only need a spark , it’s either there or it’s not , but a spark turns into a wildfire "
Hmmmm yes but as a single guy here (just for a wee while) it's more miss I'm afraid, the odds and weirdos are stacked against me... Can't wait for the Mrs to join me again to increase chances ten fold  |
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"It's not always instant for me, sometimes it can build as I get to know people.
What excites me the most is a more dominant man who makes me feel really desired. Who looks at me in that way so I know he really wants me.
K x
That’s reassuring as it’s something Dom men love to do too, love the build it up over drinks/ dinner playing with that tension then turn on those sleazy eyes just as we’re getting the lift down
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Yes love the build up and the intensity of it all. The whispers in my ear. So hot |
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