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By *um6a9fun OP Man
over a year ago
Messy End |
Without going into the rights and wrongs of people’s preferences, can I ask you all if a person or couple doesn’t list safe sex as an interest on their profile, does it mean, or is it right to assume that they prefer condom free fun? |
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Never assume anything. It's always better to ask. We've met people who list safe sex as an interest but arrive without condoms and look at you all puzzled when you produce one. Turns out sade sex to them means not doing it on a cliff edge  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest with you should be on the talking agenda before meeting mean the easy way is to ask or if or state you only play safe before hand
So hear is 3 examples
That all sounds good I play both safe and bare but I normally leve that up the the uther person or people to choose witch way so witch way do yous prefer to play
Or all grate just so yous two know I only ever play safe I hope that’s ok with yous
Or brilliant I only play bare if that’s a problem I understand and happy swinging if it’s not a problem would yous be interested in a nice long hot meet
Not really hard and should be sorted out in the particular before meeting
Xxx |
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By *um6a9fun OP Man
over a year ago
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So I will always confirm early on in the conversation, but while I appreciate that some that have safe sex do then show an interest in bareback, I’ve found that asking someone if they play safe or bareback, and they don’t have safe sex listed, seems to offend. My experience is that those that don’t state safe, often play bare, but one or two that don’t state safe, when questioned really don’t understand why I’ve asked, so I’m curious if I’m wrong to assume, or wrong to ask? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I will always confirm early on in the conversation, but while I appreciate that some that have safe sex do then show an interest in bareback, I’ve found that asking someone if they play safe or bareback, and they don’t have safe sex listed, seems to offend. My experience is that those that don’t state safe, often play bare, but one or two that don’t state safe, when questioned really don’t understand why I’ve asked, so I’m curious if I’m wrong to assume, or wrong to ask?"
Ur never wrong for asking sorry but anyone who gets the hump asking about that question is not worth ur time meeting so meny red flags on geting the hump over asking if they play safe or bare if they don’t have it listed on they profiles |
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Whenever I'm corresponding with someone who has 'safe sex' listed - whether they initiated the message exchange or I did - I will mention at some stage that I've noticed they have it listed, and point out that I play bareback...
....although it's mentioned in my profile text, and is apparent from a couple of my photos, sometimes they haven't realised - but in most cases they have, and are happy to play that way themselves... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never assume anything. It's always better to ask. We've met people who list safe sex as an interest but arrive without condoms and look at you all puzzled when you produce one. Turns out sade sex to them means not doing it on a cliff edge "
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Whenever I'm corresponding with someone who has 'safe sex' listed - whether they initiated the message exchange or I did - I will mention at some stage that I've noticed they have it listed, and point out that I play bareback...
....although it's mentioned in my profile text, and is apparent from a couple of my photos, sometimes they haven't realised - but in most cases they have, and are happy to play that way themselves..."
Our experience on fab is many men will try and put it in without a condom even if they and their profile insists they always practice safe sex. They are like naughty little boys, you need a secret torch and and taser. |
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"Whenever I'm corresponding with someone who has 'safe sex' listed - whether they initiated the message exchange or I did - I will mention at some stage that I've noticed they have it listed, and point out that I play bareback...
....although it's mentioned in my profile text, and is apparent from a couple of my photos, sometimes they haven't realised - but in most cases they have, and are happy to play that way themselves...
Our experience on fab is many men will try and put it in without a condom even if they and their profile insists they always practice safe sex. They are like naughty little boys, you need a secret torch and and taser."
We have experienced this. It seems safe sex doesn't mean the same to everyone. We have to spell it out now. |
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"Our experience on fab is many men will try and put it in without a condom even if they and their profile insists they always practice safe sex. They are like naughty little boys, you need a secret torch and and taser."
My point was that there are some couples - and single fems - who have 'safe sex' listed on their profiles, but who are actually willing (and wanting) to play bare...
....it's not just single guys who say it but don't mean it...  |
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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago
East Lancashire |
"Without going into the rights and wrongs of people’s preferences, can I ask you all if a person or couple doesn’t list safe sex as an interest on their profile, does it mean, or is it right to assume that they prefer condom free fun?"
That would be my understanding of it, yep. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
We insist on condoms if and when we meet but we don't tick Safe Sex as an interest because there is no such thing as safe sex, only Safer Sex. There are still several STI's that can be transmitted despite the use of a condom. |
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Some of the men we've met honestly believe that married couples won't have stis therefore it'll be safe. There are also quite a few people who believe that men and women whose partners don't know they're on fab will be safe because "they wouldn't want to take anything home". |
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I think the selection needs to be clearer in preferances.
Perhaps it could suggest,
*Sex wearing a condom
*Sex without a condom but no ejaculation inside
*Sex without a condom with ejaculation inside the lady
Etc
More transparent and totally clear.
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By *um6a9fun OP Man
over a year ago
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I’m certainly not going to question anyone’s rules or preferences, we all have different interests and needs, and thank god we do, life would be dull.
If a profile says safe sex, I won’t question the subject. If a profile doesn’t have safe sex as an interest, I will question. Some say that they prefer condom free, and to me, that’s why it isn’t on their list, but several are offended and rude back, when a genuine adult minded question has been asked.
Maybe an interest of bare play would be useful and clearer? |
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By *BWarksCouple
over a year ago
warwick |
"To be honest with you should be on the talking agenda before meeting mean the easy way is to ask or if or state you only play safe before hand
So hear is 3 examples
That all sounds good I play both safe and bare but I normally leve that up the the uther person or people to choose witch way so witch way do yous prefer to play
Or all grate just so yous two know I only ever play safe I hope that’s ok with yous
Or brilliant I only play bare if that’s a problem I understand and happy swinging if it’s not a problem would yous be interested in a nice long hot meet
Not really hard and should be sorted out in the particular before meeting
Xxx"
Wondered why I had difficulty understanding and needed to decipher most of that ....... you wrote it in Scottish lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have said this a few times but.....every couple / female i have met has ticked the safe sex button the profile, most even state “no bareback” in there text. However, id say 80% when ive actually met them have said “you don’t have to wear one if you don’t want”......”we / i am ok to go without if you are up to actually applying pressure to go without.
I assume everybody is playing bareback on every meet and protect myself accorindly |
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