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Have you ever bottled a meet?
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We've all heard about it. People letting people down on this site.
Call it nerves or losing your bottle.
So whats your story? Have you ever turned up to a meet and bottled it?
I've been left sitting in a bar for 45 minutes before realising the couple I was meeting wasn't showing.
The excuse they gave me afterwards was laughable, apparently they were sitting in the same bar waiting for me LOL...yeah right |
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People who don’t turn up for meets are complete pricks and annoys the hell out of us make the effort dress up smell nice etc and left sitting there but carnt name shame them because fabs suspend you wtf yes had the excuse no signal on phone,lost your number, wrong pub, car broke down , wife went into labour |
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"People who don’t turn up for meets are complete pricks and annoys the hell out of us make the effort dress up smell nice etc and left sitting there but carnt name shame them because fabs suspend you wtf yes had the excuse no signal on phone,lost your number, wrong pub, car broke down , wife went into labour "
Absolutely with you 100%.
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"People who don’t turn up for meets are complete pricks and annoys the hell out of us make the effort dress up smell nice etc and left sitting there but carnt name shame them because fabs suspend you wtf yes had the excuse no signal on phone,lost your number, wrong pub, car broke down , wife went into labour
Absolutely with you 100%.
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I'm in agreement there.
Too many time wasters and pic collectors out there.
Had someone book a consultation on three occasions this week, cancelled each at the last minute  |
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The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker. |
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That’s the problem with the site because it’s free and no subscription fee loads of messers and do agree makes it very hard for the genuine single guys to get meets because of timewasters if going to bottle a meet then don’t join a swingers site grrrrrr  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We waited at a club once for 3hours as the guy strung us along. Left late, stuck in traffic. Trying to park. Still on here and still tried to msg about meeting months later lol |
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I've never done it and never had it done to me, but I can imagine it's not very nice to be stood up...a quick message isn't too hard for anyone to send. Even if it's an obviously made up excuse, at least you're not letting someone stand waiting for you |
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I once had a pof meet and walked up to coffee shop he was outside I thought no I cant then turned round b 4 he saw me and started walking back but I couldn't leave him standing so thought I stay for one coffee to look not rude omg! He was so arrogant and rude and racist we nearly come to blows in coffee shop ! Couldn't wait to get away x |
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"The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker."
His loss it’s a shame when people let you down |
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We had a meet planned with a couple we booked hotel waited for them said there was traffic m3 waited 2 hours they no shows looked on local traffic no accidents we still had great time in hotel together  |
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"The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker."
From your profile he must have been mad!
I would never let a lady or couple down. |
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"We waited at a club once for 3hours as the guy strung us along. Left late, stuck in traffic. Trying to park. Still on here and still tried to msg about meeting months later lol"
What a prick |
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"We waited at a club once for 3hours as the guy strung us along. Left late, stuck in traffic. Trying to park. Still on here and still tried to msg about meeting months later lol
What a prick"
Prick is too nicer label  |
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"We had a meet planned with a couple we booked hotel waited for them said there was traffic m3 waited 2 hours they no shows looked on local traffic no accidents we still had great time in hotel together "
That sucks. Really don't understand what could be so difficult for some honesty in people.
Just a simple "sorry can't make it, lost our nerve" goes a long way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, theres been couple were something genuine has come up, but I'm always immediate and up front as soon as I relise the arranged activity isnt possible. That said if I cant make an arranged meet, then it will have to be something important for me to cancel. I think people forget just because youve arranged a meet your not tied into doing anything you dont want to  |
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I've never let anyone down but been let down loads of time, never a reason they go ghost.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not stood up, but when I first joined five years ago I was still a bit meek. I was planning on meeting a couple when they came through on holiday. They were coming on a bit too strong so I made an excuse to not meet them a few days beforehand. |
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If we arrange a meeting we give them 30 minutes if no show or message we leave and go to another pub there loss |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
Yes. I have. And I’ve changed my mind right at the last minute for no other reason than I wanted to. If I change my mind I’m always communicative and honest. Why lie about it?
V x |
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"We had a meet planned with a couple we booked hotel waited for them said there was traffic m3 waited 2 hours they no shows looked on local traffic no accidents we still had great time in hotel together
That sucks. Really don't understand what could be so difficult for some honesty in people.
Just a simple "sorry can't make it, lost our nerve" goes a long way"
Defo it’s the bullshit that gets us or if they don’t like the look of us just say not for us sorry they did say they would book hotel next time but we decided that the block button better |
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"Yes. I have. And I’ve changed my mind right at the last minute for no other reason than I wanted to. If I change my mind I’m always communicative and honest. Why lie about it?
V x "
Nothing wrong with that everybody got right to change there minds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never not turned up. But I’ve had the situation where I did numerous socials with someone, I was attracted to him and vice versa but there was some issues that I didn’t feel comfortable with so I ended up cancelling and saying he wasn’t for me. Long story but he had a fwb who didn’t appear to know. I also suspected he was attached and lying to me which was true and the circumstances felt odd. So I guess I bottled but for very good reasons |
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Yep we all have second thoughts but honesty is the best policy if they seen your pics and uptodate and goes for there pics we all know what expect met people and very rude or cocky or pushy |
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By *i1971Man
over a year ago
Cornwall |
Never done it, but have had excuses like traffic jam, car wouldn't start, blown tyre.
I've not minded when there's been a genuine reason such as having to work/extended shift and where I've been told with plenty of notice.
Tend to meet (before covid) in places I'd like to go anyway, so I can still have an enjoyable wait if needs be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I have. And I’ve changed my mind right at the last minute for no other reason than I wanted to. If I change my mind I’m always communicative and honest. Why lie about it?
V x "
This |
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Never - although a guy has just this minute bottled it on me. Radio silence and now offline.
I suspect he’ll message me tomorrow with “Soz, there was a family emergency. My mother / sister / daughter / cousin / wife / pet dog went into labour and the car broke down!” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Since I joined been stood up about 8 times. Once sat for an hour in a hotel bar. I had work the next day and would be up for half 5. When he eventually answered my message he reckons he had a pint in the bar and lay down and fell asleep.
As for bottling it I've often sat in a coffee shop thinking wtf just leave before the arrive. But I always stay, at end of day it's a coffee and a chat.
Worst experience ever and I'll be honest everytime I have a social or meet now I'm waiting for the same thing to happen. Gave a guy a chance as have been told I'm fussy when it comes to guys, agreed to meet the guy , he walks into coffee shop I stood up to shake his hand and say " hi I'm...." , He looked me up and down, than says "oh god no, you're not for me" turned on his heel and left coffee shop. Still stings  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Na, however there was one I (the male) wish I had bottled out.
Wasn’t off fab, it was one of those where where the little dog was constantly trying to shag my leg as the cat was desperately looking for fresh carpet.
When she said, “let’s get down and dirty”, I replied, “what on the carpet“?
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"Since I joined been stood up about 8 times. Once sat for an hour in a hotel bar. I had work the next day and would be up for half 5. When he eventually answered my message he reckons he had a pint in the bar and lay down and fell asleep.
As for bottling it I've often sat in a coffee shop thinking wtf just leave before the arrive. But I always stay, at end of day it's a coffee and a chat.
My god! It's only polite to at least stay and chat. For me personality is just as important as physical attraction.
Worst experience ever and I'll be honest everytime I have a social or meet now I'm waiting for the same thing to happen. Gave a guy a chance as have been told I'm fussy when it comes to guys, agreed to meet the guy , he walks into coffee shop I stood up to shake his hand and say " hi I'm...." , He looked me up and down, than says "oh god no, you're not for me" turned on his heel and left coffee shop. Still stings "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been let down twice for socials in Ireland at the last minute and once in Glasgow a couple contacted me for a hotel meet but they bottled 10 mins before arrival claiming babysitter canceled |
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"Since I joined been stood up about 8 times. Once sat for an hour in a hotel bar. I had work the next day and would be up for half 5. When he eventually answered my message he reckons he had a pint in the bar and lay down and fell asleep.
As for bottling it I've often sat in a coffee shop thinking wtf just leave before the arrive. But I always stay, at end of day it's a coffee and a chat.
Worst experience ever and I'll be honest everytime I have a social or meet now I'm waiting for the same thing to happen. Gave a guy a chance as have been told I'm fussy when it comes to guys, agreed to meet the guy , he walks into coffee shop I stood up to shake his hand and say " hi I'm...." , He looked me up and down, than says "oh god no, you're not for me" turned on his heel and left coffee shop. Still stings "
Fuck thats harsh. Did you guys not exchange face pics before hand?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Since I joined been stood up about 8 times. Once sat for an hour in a hotel bar. I had work the next day and would be up for half 5. When he eventually answered my message he reckons he had a pint in the bar and lay down and fell asleep.
As for bottling it I've often sat in a coffee shop thinking wtf just leave before the arrive. But I always stay, at end of day it's a coffee and a chat.
Worst experience ever and I'll be honest everytime I have a social or meet now I'm waiting for the same thing to happen. Gave a guy a chance as have been told I'm fussy when it comes to guys, agreed to meet the guy , he walks into coffee shop I stood up to shake his hand and say " hi I'm...." , He looked me up and down, than says "oh god no, you're not for me" turned on his heel and left coffee shop. Still stings
Fuck thats harsh. Did you guys not exchange face pics before hand? "
He knew exactly what I looked like and I was pretty clear I wasn't a skinny girl either |
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Only time I’ve had a no show she messaged the next day. Said she’d been nicked for drink driving on the way to my place. I thought ‘Yeah. Right.’
Turns out she’d had a ‘couple of glasses’ of wine for Dutch Courage before she headed over.
Confirmed by my mate who happened to be the arresting officer.
She even gave my address as to where she was heading to. She was two streets away : D, hence my pal knew.
Fucking priceless.
Shame though. She was absolutely stunning. |
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"Since I joined been stood up about 8 times. Once sat for an hour in a hotel bar. I had work the next day and would be up for half 5. When he eventually answered my message he reckons he had a pint in the bar and lay down and fell asleep.
As for bottling it I've often sat in a coffee shop thinking wtf just leave before the arrive. But I always stay, at end of day it's a coffee and a chat.
Worst experience ever and I'll be honest everytime I have a social or meet now I'm waiting for the same thing to happen. Gave a guy a chance as have been told I'm fussy when it comes to guys, agreed to meet the guy , he walks into coffee shop I stood up to shake his hand and say " hi I'm...." , He looked me up and down, than says "oh god no, you're not for me" turned on his heel and left coffee shop. Still stings
Fuck thats harsh. Did you guys not exchange face pics before hand?
He knew exactly what I looked like and I was pretty clear I wasn't a skinny girl either "
That’s way worse than harsh. That’s just disgusting behaviour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never done it, but have had excuses like traffic jam, car wouldn't start, blown tyre.
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My car did break down on the way to a social once and I was already running late. He thought I was bullshitting so I gave him my location and we ended up having a social sat in my car waiting for the AA. I decided he wasn’t for me after all that, the not believing me irked me too much |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
Southampton |
No but I've been stood up more than once |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Back in my student days... I had a first date with a boy i liked who lived 50 odd miles away...
Gave him the name of the pub i worked in at the time... He finally rocked up as we were cleaning up ...
I was distraught thinking I'd been stood up... He was fuming... 5 pubs with the same name
In fairness i married him..
Clearly worth the vexatiousness
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never not turned up for a meet. But twice I have been given a postcode and street and got their only to find myself blocked by the people who arranged. One couple and one man. Both verified and seemed genuine. |
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over a year ago
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By *imBanksMan
over a year ago
Letchworth |
Surely if you change your mind or are late etc etc then surely it's just common courtesy to let people know. I'd be livid if I got stood up or fucked about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Where do you get a bottle big enough to put them in.
Do you have to furnish it for them before you do? |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
Yes!
Our very first meet was supposed to be a gangbang at a house, turned up and the area was dodgy to say the least. Music blasting out the windows, very dark inside and sheets for curtains. We rang and said that it isn't going to happen, got blocked by all members, called all sorts (can understand they were pissed) and that was that, think swinging would have ended there and then had we gone through with it. Turned out a few weeks later our first meet was perfect, we made the right call. |
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I bottlex my only offer a year ago and told her the day before i was going to the ashes test instead. I was worried id be a letdown as it was due to be my first meet and i felt really nervous shed see me and just leave! |
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We've never done it, had a few men do it to us though - that's why we won't travel to meet single men any more. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
I have turned up and declined. Fairly and with respect. Its your call. No one is obliged. I'd rather someone bottled or declined than go ahead half hearted for whatever reason it is. |
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
Whitley Bay |
"Back in my student days... I had a first date with a boy i liked who lived 50 odd miles away...
Gave him the name of the pub i worked in at the time... He finally rocked up as we were cleaning up ...
I was distraught thinking I'd been stood up... He was fuming... 5 pubs with the same name
In fairness i married him..
Clearly worth the vexatiousness
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Brilliant! I love his staying power, pub number 5!! He meant business. Gorgeous story x |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
Just to add.
We've never done so since that time. Neither have we ever cancelled. We wanted to meet two guys who are very popular here for quite a while for a threesome but already had a meet arranged. We didn't cancel but they agreed to meet at another time, they actually respected the fact we wouldn't cancel our arrangement for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never and never will if I say I am meeting I am meeting have had lots not turn up though and had one guy give me the ooo I thought we were useing condoms even though in message he want bare fun and sed he has some in the car sed he go out and get them never came back
Been humped and dumped a cupple off times also like turned up for a meet had fun then went way went to leve a verifies and found my self blocked
Had a odd one once went to a guys house he fucked me full off cum 3 times then suggested I stay the night I sed ok then had a nother round so that was 4 loads in my ass knickers were pritty much a spunk filled mess by this point asked if I had spare pair with me sed no he sed ok I run out to Asda as it’s still open took my size locked me in his house disappeared for like a hour or 2 then came back and told me he phoned a taxi I to go home ?!! Definitely had some odd things happen lol |
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"I have turned up and declined. Fairly and with respect. Its your call. No one is obliged. I'd rather someone bottled or declined than go ahead half hearted for whatever reason it is. "
May I just say, you’re arse is just PERFECT. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never stood anyone up and luckily never been stood up. I've only had a few though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this was more a binned for someone else meet. Two years ago i agreed to meet a man who was working in chester le street. I gave him directions,and the meet was arranged for 3pm.he messaged to say he was on way and would be half hour.well he didnt show up. I found out later that he had gone to a gay guys house a 4 min walk from mine to get a blow job off him.he had verified the gay man. He had a straight profile so obviously a lie. I blocked him.goes to show you cant trust anyone. |
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By *edsguyMan
over a year ago
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Once met a couple for a social, we all got along fine , they seemed to be a nice couple, attractive and well turned out, they messaged me a few days later and we chatted on the phone arranging a meet at theirs a few days later, I got ready for the meet drove over to theirs, drove down the road they lived in, nice residential street with well kept manicured front gardens until I got to one !!!
I should of taken the hint then and driven past, the front garden looked like a fly tipping, anyway I gave them the benefit of the doubt and knocked on the door, sounded like battersea dogs home with all the barking, he opened the door and I went inside the smell of dogs made me gag, he offered me a tea (refused) and said take a seat, but the sofa was just a mass of dog hair, she joined us and suggested we go upstairs, at this stage I just bottled it as I felt physically ill, I made my excuses and wiped my feet on the way out, that was my worst fab experience, had a few no shows their loss they don't get a second chance
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have had lots of people bottle a meet last minute, we agree that it's bloody annoying but the people who can back up the words with actions do exist!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker."
I would be nervous to meet you for the 1st time. |
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"Once met a couple for a social, we all got along fine , they seemed to be a nice couple, attractive and well turned out, they messaged me a few days later and we chatted on the phone arranging a meet at theirs a few days later, I got ready for the meet drove over to theirs, drove down the road they lived in, nice residential street with well kept manicured front gardens until I got to one !!!
I should of taken the hint then and driven past, the front garden looked like a fly tipping, anyway I gave them the benefit of the doubt and knocked on the door, sounded like battersea dogs home with all the barking, he opened the door and I went inside the smell of dogs made me gag, he offered me a tea (refused) and said take a seat, but the sofa was just a mass of dog hair, she joined us and suggested we go upstairs, at this stage I just bottled it as I felt physically ill, I made my excuses and wiped my feet on the way out, that was my worst fab experience, had a few no shows their loss they don't get a second chance
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I feel for you mate, reading that experience you just described makes me ill |
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We always turn up to a meet and so far have not arranged to meet with anyone who didnt turn up, but as a couple if someone didnt show we would just make our own fun
Lou x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I felt like bottling it though, because it was my first meet and was in doubt if they were a genuine couple, and also felt nervous about walking into their hotel as if I was staying there.
But I did man up and walked through that hotel like I owned the place, and had great fun |
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Haven’t actually met anyone from here yet. When I’ve used a different app I haven’t bottled a meet but I’ve got so comfortable or tired or just lost interest so haven’t met.
There have been times when I finally got to the guys place and not wanted to go through with it but I never know what to do so end up carrying on with it |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Nope can honestly say I haven't
Was stood up on a social once, he claimed cold feet then left fab
When he rejoined he had the cheek to ask me to meet, reminded him of standing waiting outside a bar for half an hour, when he didn't arrive lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no I haven’t just had it done to me a couple of times  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No.
I've always turned up either for a social or fun.
Hate wasting people's time and it would also make me look bad. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
Whilst I’m not defending people who never really intend to meet up with others, it’s an interesting filter the number of people who think people who change their mind, shouldn’t. Or they are in some way disingenuous.
I will change my mind if I so wish and it could be for many different reasons, I’ve either lost interest or just can’t be arsed, but it’s my body and I will do with it as I please. But I will always communicate that I won’t be coming. I may not choose to tell you why.
If someone was to arrange to meet me and told me that they were not now coming. That’s cool. It is their absolute right. I’d only feel miffed if no one told me. But id probably not loose sleep.
V x
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If things truly come up (kids family) you have to cancel and that feels terrible not just for the guy lady and couple but it’s genuine and you feel guilty but that’s the fact about swinging when you have children you feel just as bad as the people you let down x |
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Once a guy we arranged something with in a message a couple hours before we were due to meet sent us a message mentioning sex with family members we just blocked him didn't feel he deserved an explanation |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
Near Marlborough |
"If things truly come up (kids family) you have to cancel and that feels terrible not just for the guy lady and couple but it’s genuine and you feel guilty but that’s the fact about swinging when you have children you feel just as bad as the people you let down x"
But what is a genuine reason??? I feel that “just don’t feel like I want to” is an entirely genuine reason and I’m not going to explain myself (nor do I expect anyone to meet me that’s changed their own mind).
I do not owe anyone anything other than a little note to say I can’t (Or won’t) make it.
V x |
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I once went to an afternoon 'Greedy Girl' event at a house in a (then) nearby town...
....walked through the open front door into the lounge to find a 'queue' of half-a-dozen or so guys, a couple of whom looked distinctly unsavoury...
....immediately started having doubts about hanging around, and then the 'Greedy Girl' herself came down the stairs...
....she wasn't exactly a sexy sight, bare legs showing below a dirty blue towelling dressing gown, pink fluffy mule slippers on her feet, and a fag hanging out of her mouth...
....she was followed by a scruffy-looking bloke with a stupid grin on his face, and when she growled "who's next?" I caught the distinct odour of lager breath...
....as she headed back up the stairs with the guy who'd stepped forward, I headed back out the front door... |
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I don’t get enough to bottle it. But in saying that if I get the chance deafly not a time waster  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely people would tell you instead of leaving you high and dry?
I get that people get nervous or something but your on here for a reason?
Who knows!
You are all lovely people so  |
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Even with all the chat /pic exchange etc it can still go wrong ,we travel and tend to book hotel rooms ,so its an expensive time consuming thing ,most do pay halve ,but one time we said we had arrived and waited in pub for guy to arrive half an hour later a message stuck in traffic m20 mins later nothing so we left went to hotel then he says he was there sorry etc and could he pay for the room etc ,hubby went to meet him outside was another no show and he got abusive when i called him out ,so blocked and now we make a road trip out of it so if there is a o show who cares we have some couple time instead ...but it is bad manners and not on .. |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"Even with all the chat /pic exchange etc it can still go wrong ,we travel and tend to book hotel rooms ,so its an expensive time consuming thing ,most do pay halve ,but one time we said we had arrived and waited in pub for guy to arrive half an hour later a message stuck in traffic m20 mins later nothing so we left went to hotel then he says he was there sorry etc and could he pay for the room etc ,hubby went to meet him outside was another no show and he got abusive when i called him out ,so blocked and now we make a road trip out of it so if there is a o show who cares we have some couple time instead ...but it is bad manners and not on .."
ruddy hell, if anybody had a road trip for my sake I'd sure as hell show up and even if I couldn't I would at least offer to pay fully for the accommodation |
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over a year ago
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Seems a bit aggressive. A no thank you would work |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have had a guy turn up but not like the sight of the road i lived on and leave
another who had no battery on phone to find my post code but was somehow online
someone who again had no battery to send message to check if it was me waiting in the same pub for him
or others who just did not show so the rules before lockdown were 30 minutes leeway - if no contact within 30 mins of due time no meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah she wouldn't fit in a bottle
so i put her in a suitcase  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never stood anyone up.. I have changed my mind though.
I have been stood up, not by someone here but by someone in the real world. A few times actually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absoloutely hate this , as it just doesn't give genuine people the chance to actually follow through, shithouses the lot of them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No but been stood up twice!! X"
I wouldn't
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Not so far but we can always guarantee a great time even just the two of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never not turned up but I’ve panicked at the last minute and cancelled. Both times it was the day before. Massive bouts of insecurity.
I’m sorry I didn’t go for it and embarrassed. |
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We have been let down once on a house meet so stopped doing house meets we just go away for weekend and go to a club now it easier if you get a now show there is plenty of other people there to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been rejected at the door. I was stood waiting and suddenly get a message saying "Sorry no thanks"
I could even hear shuffling on the other side of the door, that was the worst part. |
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Had a meet last week after some sporadic chats on a different site. Wasn't sure she was that interested but since she'd agreed to meet for a drink and her pic seemed to look nice, I thought why not.
On the way there I kept asking myself why I'm doing this, how awkward this would be etc. But thought, I've agreed so let's see this through.
Turned we hit it off, had the most amazing afternoon and met again that week. Due to meet again. So you never really know! |
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"Yes. I have. And I’ve changed my mind right at the last minute for no other reason than I wanted to. If I change my mind I’m always communicative and honest. Why lie about it?
V x "
It's your absolute right to change your mind and as you said its your body, no one has the right to make you follow through a meet.
However, once you've given your word to meet and someone's put in the time and effort to prepare and be ready to meet you, to pull out at the last minute is disrespectful IMO.
You're perfectly entitled to do it but it isn't something I'd be proud of doing even if I had a good reason. Yet you seem to be proud of pulling out just because you can and felt the need to announce it twice in this thread. You're right but not cool  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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every one has arights to change their mind but its how you do it that makes it right or wrong .. |
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Arranged a social at a coffee shop which was a 30 min drive away. Left hanging around for about an hour with no message. I returned to my car to discover it had a puncture that it picked up on the way there. The tyre had only been fitted the previous week, so 80 quid to replace it due to a journey I need not have made.
Fuming... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not just men who bottle, sometimes the lady in a couple has changed her mind at the last minute too |
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By *asco3Man
over a year ago
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Ive had a few no shows and a few " addresses " that turned out not to exist but by far the oddest was a hotel meet with a couple who Id messaged several times and who were definitely giving all the right signals. I turned up at the hotel at the right time armed with a couple of bottles of wine as requested. Knock on the hotel door and answered by a German or Scandinavian chap who speaks very good English. We had exchanged pics via phone and he certainly looked like the somewhat crappy pic Id received. He sees me standing there with the bottles and sort of stands aside so i can get into the room. His partner is fussing about with her makeup and looks like shes getting ready to go out. Theres a very awkward couple of minutes when I dont know whether to sit, stand, undress or do handstands . Basically the guy is saying next to nothing and his missus is all bar ignoring me. After more near silence and me standing there a bottle in each hand he asks me if the wine is free or if it could be booked to their room. Im understandably a bit confused. It turns out that they knew absolutely nothing about a meet, werent swingers and had a completely different mobile number to the one Id been getting messages from. That number was suddenly out of action. The pic was deffo of them though and the room number was correct. To this day I have absolutely no idea what the hell was going on that night. I was half expecting Jeremy Beadle to jump out a cupboard. Thank Christ they had a sense of humour about it although I have to say the woman looked less than pleased when he explained why I was there. By the way-- I left the wine with them. |
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We have always 100 per cent turned up apart from once ,we was on our way to meet a couple and our car broke down we sent them a message and a photo of our car on the AA truck |
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"The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker."
His loss judging by your pics ! You look incredible ! Xx |
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Up to now never ...not our style ..we are too genuine /honest and expect our play mates to be the same .. |
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By *aseMan
over a year ago
Gourock |
Not had the chance yet |
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Iv been let down a few times
Especially wen they msg to say on their way
Dont turn up
Then ill go to msg them later on to thank them for standing me up
But profile gone
THEN
Months later gets a msg askin to meet up
Ask for face piccy if non on profile b4 chatting with anyone
Oooh
I RECKONISE U u fuckin stud me up
Then gave a cheek months later to msg askin to meet up again apologising tryin to grovel
Kh but guess what
I spot a veri on their profile The same day we were supposed to have met
Inconsiderste 2faced shits
I give them it all
N block them
Their loss
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been stood up a few times...
Well I say stood up I think a couple were pic collectors and one just never turned up. Almost made me delete my profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We (couples profile) feel guilty if we put a status up saying we will be at a club and then can't make it, so not turning up for a social or play meet would horrify us. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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Mother Nature also can cause problems |
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A couple I know had a really bad experience recently. They booked a hotel room to meet a guy. He was sending messages saying running late, stuck in traffic, almost there.
They called him out on it as he was now almost two hours late. He admitted he was sat at home over two hours away and had no intention of turning up.
He disappeared off Fab. Almost put them off for ever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People often have themselves to blame when people don't turn up. Yes there are time wasters but in reality if you make a connection with someone develop some sort of relationship, talk to them on the phone then people are far less likley to mess you about but we live in a blame others society these days or so it seems. |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
Currently Faraway |
I actually did bottle it once, if you could call it a "meet". I was walking around the Cita centre in Maspalomas and I passing outside a place that looked like a swingers' club but it was suspiciously empty...I went in, sat down, started chatting to the ladies who were managing the establishment...it soon became apparent that I would have guaranteed sex if I paid...so, after paying for my drink as well as the drink of one of those ladies who was chatting me up...I made a swift exit! See, not all of us men are interested in "prostitute service" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been so nervous but always turned up and after 5 minutes you don't even know why you were nervous |
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Only once they let me down and was the first meet i had when i joined Fabs and guess what they just live 10minutes away, they msg me not long time ago , of course my answer couldn't be no other than NO.
Since then i had the lucky always crossed with honest people.
Few months ago before lockdown, if they read this thread they know who they are C&M, i went for shooping and i was mad to myself thinking they going to leave think i'm a time waister, once they already arrived to my house. Happily they wait and all went amazingly.
Being honest when comes to meet don't cost nothing , i myself i wouldn't ever let anybody down because i don't want that for myself also .
Is all about trust and honesty if for any reazon is not possible the meet go ahead , before all set out from home a call to cancel is always welcome to everyone i believe, better than let people waiting , and worst put the privacy and identity of people in risk .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The second meet I ever had was with a couple and I must have sat in the car around the corner from their house for a good 20mins or so before I dared knock on the door. Pleased I did though, because it's definitely one of the best meets I've had. |
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"I have been so nervous but always turned up and after 5 minutes you don't even know why you were nervous "
The nervous anticipation beforehand is all part of the thrill... |
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"The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker."
The only plonked was him, you are stunning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We sat outside Townhouse for about an hour before bottling it
We have been since and it was well worth it |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"The first fab meet i arranged the guy did not show. Later messages to say he had lost his nerve. No excuse for bad manners and leaving me standing in the rain looking like a plonker."
He clearly needed his head examining for leaving such a beautiful woman in the rain. |
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Never did the no show thing but definitely "bottled" it.
Got to a single ladys house, very well presented, nicely kept, very accommodating, answered the door in VERY revealing underwear and instantly began stroking Mrs cock at the door.
All going splendidly if a little too quickly. Poured us all a drink to which we were shown to the living room and she sat across him stroking his cock and all this while her 2 kids are watching tv!! What she thought was going to be going on i have no idea but we were back to the car in less than 5 minutes.
An experience that never got off the blocks and one that's definitely best forgotten about! |
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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been stood up a few times yes.
Excuses range from he didnt think I would turn up so he didn't bother to he fell asleep and missed the time lol
Id rather say I dont fancy you than not turn up for a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would never bottle it. Started out dogging and clubs years ago so got used to the feelings involved before turning up at strangers houses. It's such a buzz I wouldn't miss it. Should of kept my old profile, loads of veri's, knew plenty of people. Fab is certainly different now but wouldn't change my decision as I was in a relationship and would have been wrong to keep fab profile. J |
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To many people letting people down it not acceptable as a result we will no longer meet outside of a club setting so if we are let down there backups.. |
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I love the nerves. That’s part of the excitement. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I personally will mainly meet in clubs though have attended the odd house party and had the odd hotel meet
For me I find the club meet means it’s safer for all parties and if someone doenst want to come and bottles it then I am still at the club |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
The title of this thread made me smile, used to know someone who literally bottles her meets |
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Over the years always turn up clean and smart, not always ended as you hope but, had lunch dinner what ever, move on cant all just fancy anyone can we. |
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No. Never. And never would. Getting ready to meet someone takes time and effort, so ...
Show some respect and turn up.
More, show some respect by only arranging meets you’re willing to follow through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think most people get a gut feeling when something isnt right.
also im sure many would prefer honesty and that person who has decided they cant meet to say so as early as possibly.
one thing you can bet on is we will all suffer other people letting us down.
its just a part of this that will always be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've bottled it a couple of times due to nerves but I've always let the person know ahead of time and given a reason as to why.
I've been stood up or mislead a few times which sucks. If someone wants to cancel then I'm fine with it so long as they tell me and explain why. |
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1st meet i arranged in a pub was almost a disaster. Two pubs with the same name within a few miles of each other and neither of us knew the area very well. Finally met half an hour later after realising our mistake. I was convinced someone was taking the piss. |
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I know someone that went to the wrong Holiday Inn. Knocked on a Room 224. No answer. Funny she was meeting a guy at his room. It was the wrong Holiday Inn in that town. Lol. |
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If we arrange to meet we would never disrespect someone by standing them up. They have trusted us enough to open themselves to us and it would be a shitty thing to do. We understand that life sometimes gets in the way. But there is no excuse not to at least message them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel the best way is to say, fuck it!! tell them you were up for it at the time and you've since bottled it, defo makes everyone feel better and human, rather than a blank or no show. Why would you leave any person hanging verbally or timely, no good. Some folks just not ready for it x |
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By *inxy300Woman
over a year ago
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I did a few years back
Finally got there after driving around for 20 odd minutes thinking it was a piss take....i was so anxious by the time I got there I just couldn't do it
But in my defence a few weeks prior I got to a guys house who then got scared but decided to tell me when I got on his street so I went home after I had a driven two hours then when I got back he said im ok now you can come back pmsl...I didnt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, been nervous but never bottled. Its happened to me far too many times though xx |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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No if I decide I will neet then I'll meet someone. Some I have regretted meeting especially when they aren't how they came across on here. I have cancelled when I got suss that some one wasn't going to show. He had chatted away then went quiet leading up to it, the day before he hadn't answered messages so I told him I wasn't going to go. |
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We always show up and only had to cancel twice over the many years of being on the scene but agree the excuses are very lame indeed and sadly Plymouth has now got a bad rep for time wasters/no shows and just all rather annoying and pointless and when we used to do our "Socials" we got even more let downs which was a real pain as we probaly could have allowed someone to come who would have shown up ??  |
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The same person has stood me up twice & both follows the same pattern. Date arranged, she then goes quiet for days. I message her to see if everything is ok & it's still happening. No reply sent & blocked on the day. She told me she got scared but has done the same thing again in the last couple of weeks. More fool me for believing in her. |
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Best excuse ....was on cam one night in the chat room and got talking to a supposed couple and asked them to put their cam on ..nothing sexual at all just to see that they were real and their reply was " they couldn't put their cam on because the hamster had ate it ???" |
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I hate cancelling a meet but it will always be for a genuine reason and always with as much notice as possible. Its so rude to just not turn up. |
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Really annoying. My couples profile arranged a social drink with another couple who are with a 10 mile radius of us. We let them choose the pub, day, time everything. Half hour before going we checked and it was a goer. Got there and spent an hour waiting. Wouldn't mind if they'd had the decency to say an emergency had happened. I had been at work all day, gone home and spent ages getting ready...
Bad manners suck!
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"No, been nervous but never bottled. Its happened to me far too many times though xx"
Yes.
I think it is OK to cancel AND inform the other party about it, if it is soon enough (for example a day or few hours earlier).
It gives time to the other party to do something else and thus not waste their time as much.
But if someone not showing up without informing, I don't care what is the excuse, I think it is intentional, inconsiderate and a timewaster.
There is no excuse to at least send a text to cancel. |
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"Never did the no show thing but definitely "bottled" it.
Got to a single ladys house, very well presented, nicely kept, very accommodating, answered the door in VERY revealing underwear and instantly began stroking Mrs cock at the door.
All going splendidly if a little too quickly. Poured us all a drink to which we were shown to the living room and she sat across him stroking his cock and all this while her 2 kids are watching tv!! What she thought was going to be going on i have no idea but we were back to the car in less than 5 minutes.
An experience that never got off the blocks and one that's definitely best forgotten about! "
Boggle! The kids were there?!
You wouldn't have seen me for the dustcloud. |
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Yes I have bottled it. Yes I have let people down because I was scared. And I have also let people down for the true reason of something happening to stop me getting there.
I have also had it happen to me, three hours sat in an out of the way car park in a very short skirt and stockings and the police checking on me.
But I still keep trying because those times it all happens are the very best times. |
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I have never bottled a same day...last minute thing....have met several for coffee....very stimulating conversations....then covid damn it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never chickened out but had to tell someone I couldn't make it as mother nature has came early, he was fine about I and we rearranged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve never bottled a meet although the first “meet” I was to have on here the woman I was supposed to meet just never showed I put a status up saying I’d been let down and got invited to someone’s party |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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It takes that long for me to glam up, then I'm definitely committed to a meet, hence I've never bottled one as far as I can remember. I have regretted turning up to a few, though |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Never bottled a play date, but we did bottle our first social.
We were in the bar about an hour before the social started, and when everyone came in there looked to be no other “new” people so we felt we would be intruding.
We drank up and left, but went back next time and joined in. |
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I’d have to get a meet first, to even think about bottling it |
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Never bottled a meet, but have made excuses and made a quick exit, only once. |
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No never bottled a meet ever.
I've been on the receiving end of a double booking though when I knew she wasn't going to turn up as soon as she went quiet. She messaged an hour before we were due to meet to say she couldn't make it. Unbeknownst to her I had already sussed that out and hadn't made the journey. She then posted a veri the next day from someone else and they even named the cafe we were to meet in.
On another occasion I arranged to meet someone who was always complaining about being stood up in the forums.
The day before we were to meet she denied all knowledge of us ever agreeing to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not bottled as such but remember being very nervous prior to attending my first social. i had messaged to say i was on my way. when i arrived i walked round the block and past the pub entrance three times before plucking up the courage to go in.
ended up having a great evening with some friendly fellow kinksters |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
Never.
Why arrange to meet if you can't go through with it. Generally have a social first that way there is less pressure. |
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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago
london |
Never bottled one but have completely fucked one up loool |
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Never bottled, got extremely nervous on 1st ever but that's part of the adventure. |
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By *adlad65Man
over a year ago
Peterborough |
I nearly bottled a meet the day before, when I realised the person I was talking with was actually a man not a woman. I should point out that they were very very convincing....
I decided to go through with it, met at a bar, had just the one drink, and it ended in the hotel room with some mutual masturbating....
I simply couldn't let them down...
We left on good terms....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely not , I would never not turn up. But if I genuinely couldn’t make it I would give plenty of notice and try to rearrange |
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I like the pre meet butterflies. It’s all part of the build up. I would never not turn up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let's try again
We've all heard about it. People letting people down on this site.
Call it nerves or losing your bottle.
So whats your story? Have you ever turned up to a meet and bottled it?
I've been left sitting in a bar for 45 minutes before realising the couple I was meeting wasn't showing.
The excuse they gave me afterwards was laughable, apparently they were sitting in the same bar waiting for me LOL...yeah right"
I have never bottled a meet.
And I'm not sure why someone would.
I'm not sure I'd wait 45 minutes though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, not fair on other person/ people. Can understand having to cancel. |
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"Let's try again
We've all heard about it. People letting people down on this site.
Call it nerves or losing your bottle.
So whats your story? Have you ever turned up to a meet and bottled it?
I've been left sitting in a bar for 45 minutes before realising the couple I was meeting wasn't showing.
The excuse they gave me afterwards was laughable, apparently they were sitting in the same bar waiting for me LOL...yeah right
I have never bottled a meet.
And I'm not sure why someone would.
I'm not sure I'd wait 45 minutes though.
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Some People get a kick from giving people the run around though. There are some sick people out there, thats for sure. Just grow a pair and say "Sorry not interested" don't leave someone hanging |
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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago
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Never done it. I always turn up if I say I'm going too.
Usually late though lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I first met i nearly did lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have to cancel on the same person on two separate occasions before we met for the first time
Had valid reasons on both occasions and thankfully the third time was a charm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if you give plenty of time - we’ll as soon as you know that you’ll have to cancel let the other party know
But never have not turned up |
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I’ve never bottled out of meeting someone, but I have walked from a meet which wasn’t working for me, politely thanking the couple for their time |
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"Since I joined been stood up about 8 times. Once sat for an hour in a hotel bar. I had work the next day and would be up for half 5. When he eventually answered my message he reckons he had a pint in the bar and lay down and fell asleep.
As for bottling it I've often sat in a coffee shop thinking wtf just leave before the arrive. But I always stay, at end of day it's a coffee and a chat.
Worst experience ever and I'll be honest everytime I have a social or meet now I'm waiting for the same thing to happen. Gave a guy a chance as have been told I'm fussy when it comes to guys, agreed to meet the guy , he walks into coffee shop I stood up to shake his hand and say " hi I'm...." , He looked me up and down, than says "oh god no, you're not for me" turned on his heel and left coffee shop. Still stings "
I've had that reaction except got told "oh you're fat and not as pretty in the flesh" then he walked away - embarrassingly a member of staff overheard this and bought over a free slice of cake and told me I had a lucky escape! But it still hurts |
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By *efthandMan
over a year ago
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"I've had that reaction except got told "oh you're fat and not as pretty in the flesh" then he walked away - embarrassingly a member of staff overheard this and bought over a free slice of cake and told me I had a lucky escape! But it still hurts"
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That was disgraceful behaviour. Really sorry to hear you had to go through that experience.
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I don't understand the mindset of some people! If I've gone to the trouble of making plans, then I'm happily going to go through with them.
For me, there's been something in chat / conversations and their profile that has led to me wanting to meet them.
Yes, you might not connect as such when you meet them to look to take things further in future.
But part of this is the chance to meet new like-minded people and its still fun to chat for a couple of hours over drinks.
As you never know just how you'll connect with someone till you've met them, yes looks and appearance are important but I'm driven by experiences with great people and the possible pleasures this brings everyone.
So I'll not disrespect someone by not turning up when we've arranged something.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to the wrong Premier Inn once..
Fortunately we were in contact and the right one was only fifteen minutes away... |
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"Let's try again
We've all heard about it. People letting people down on this site.
Call it nerves or losing your bottle.
So whats your story? Have you ever turned up to a meet and bottled it?
I've been left sitting in a bar for 45 minutes before realising the couple I was meeting wasn't showing.
The excuse they gave me afterwards was laughable, apparently they were sitting in the same bar waiting for me LOL...yeah right"
I had same |
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No but I've had others not show for meets with me and later say they bottled it or someone freak out and cancel last minute because he decided he'd talked himself up too much. Sometimes people pit too much pressure on themselves and forget we're all human beings on here. |
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We'd arranged to meet a couple Swindon way.
The girls had chatted so we all knew what was going on and the hotel was booked.
Then they mentioned that another couple were interested in joining us, did we mind?, they sent their Fab name and we checked them out, no problems .
That night at the hotel we were messaged that the the woman in the original couple was ill and they were not coming and both couples blocked us.
Back then C had her own profile so we checked them out the next morning and both verified each other going on about the great night they had.
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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago
somewhere, someplace |
No, but been on the receiving end of no shows |
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I got catfished pretty badly once on here. Began chatting to what I thought was a single lady on a Saturday morning.
By early saturday evening she mentioned she was going out with friends to a nightclub near me and invited me to join. We had a very brief call and she seemed legit although the connection on the phone was bad.
Agreed to meet her outside the club at 11. Good thing I chose outside as I met her "friend" outside and he mentioned about going back to their hotel room to do and meet his friend who I was supposed to meet.
I called the bluff there and then and walked off. My feeling is if you trust your instinct (I didn't that night) you will be right more times than not. |
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