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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all,
Just a quick request for any tips/advice you may have for great foreplay. My girlfriend enjoys this but we have have always struggled to make her climax (as have other before me/her solo attempts) from it.
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Oooh tricky as every girl is different.... Try building up over the day, take her out for a meal, prepare her a bath, rose petals on the floor, candles etc.... Then give her a slow almost tantric naked massage, don't rush it and stay away from her tasty bits for as long as possible (but very slowly get increasingly close). Feather like touches and caresses.... Then get naughty but again slowly, don't rush in. If she has a sensitive clitoris lick her slowly from her vagina upwards, gently trapping her clit against your tongue then gently massage it with your tongue while trapped, takes a bit of practise but can send her over the edge. Have you tried gentle fisting ?, needs lots of lube and may take weeks before you can get your whole fist in, makes some girls squirt  .... A full answer would be the size of an old phone directory, you know her best. |
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"Oooh tricky as every girl is different.... Try building up over the day, take her out for a meal, prepare her a bath, rose petals on the floor, candles etc.... Then give her a slow almost tantric naked massage, don't rush it and stay away from her tasty bits for as long as possible (but very slowly get increasingly close). Feather like touches and caresses.... Then get naughty but again slowly, don't rush in. If she has a sensitive clitoris lick her slowly from her vagina upwards, gently trapping her clit against your tongue then gently massage it with your tongue while trapped, takes a bit of practise but can send her over the edge. Have you tried gentle fisting ?, needs lots of lube and may take weeks before you can get your whole fist in, makes some girls squirt .... A full answer would be the size of an old phone directory, you know her best."
That wouldn't do a thing for me |
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"Hey all,
Just a quick request for any tips/advice you may have for great foreplay. My girlfriend enjoys this but we have have always struggled to make her climax (as have other before me/her solo attempts) from it.
Cheers"
Chat with her, find out what she likes and if it bothers her that she struggles. Genuinely only one person can help you with this and that's her. What works for other women won't necessarily work for her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all"
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off! "
Good lord - what a moron  |
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off! "
 . I shouldn't laugh but it's happened to me too. One guy went off and got his wife's wand he was that determined |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of teasing, touching,gentle kissing. I find role play and scenarios really excite me as its something different. Getting dressed up. Sexy underwear always excites me. Especially having it slowly removed. Just makes me wetter and wetter. Take your time too.. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I cannot stress this enough...
Talk. To. Her!!
A million faceless responses on here mean nothing. Honest open conversation wins every time!!!!!"
What's this nonsense? We need a one size fits all solution!  |
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"Lots of teasing, touching,gentle kissing. I find role play and scenarios really excite me as its something different. Getting dressed up. Sexy underwear always excites me. Especially having it slowly removed. Just makes me wetter and wetter. Take your time too.."
Now you're talking  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take your time and enjoy it, the orgasms will flow once you are both relaxed and not over thinking it. It usually helps if you have an idea of what gets her going first though!! |
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By *kiolo1Couple
over a year ago
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"As soon as someone says "cum for me babes" I know damn well it ain't happening "
Lmao yes 
Saw this BBC vid where the guy told her when she could cum and I'm thinking, how do cum on command?! Lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
. I shouldn't laugh but it's happened to me too. One guy went off and got his wife's wand he was that determined "
LOL did it work? |
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I recommend seeing a sex therapist. I (Luke) went to have a lesson on how to be good in bed and every woman I have been with since has agreed with me that it was the best £200 I ever spent.
Seriously, a professional should be able to give you the advice you need. |
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"Hey all,
Just a quick request for any tips/advice you may have for great foreplay. My girlfriend enjoys this but we have have always struggled to make her climax (as have other before me/her solo attempts) from it.
Cheers"
Go with the flow, enjoy the moment.
What will be will be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
. I shouldn't laugh but it's happened to me too. One guy went off and got his wife's wand he was that determined "
I'm sorry, I am HOWLING at that idea |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
. I shouldn't laugh but it's happened to me too. One guy went off and got his wife's wand he was that determined
I'm sorry, I am HOWLING at that idea "
“Right, you stay there and I’ll bloody well show you”
Wanders off
Mumbling “where is that bloody thing? Aha got it. Oh shit no batteries. Bloody hell. Won’t be long - just touch your nipples or something until I come back” |
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
. I shouldn't laugh but it's happened to me too. One guy went off and got his wife's wand he was that determined
LOL did it work? "
No. The idea of another woman's sex toy was enough to leave me stone cold |
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
. I shouldn't laugh but it's happened to me too. One guy went off and got his wife's wand he was that determined
I'm sorry, I am HOWLING at that idea "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off! "
I'm another female, that once I have had alcohol, I will never cum!
And no that is not a challenge, I love sex but it will just never happen! |
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"Oooh tricky as every girl is different.... Try building up over the day, take her out for a meal, prepare her a bath, rose petals on the floor, candles etc.... Then give her a slow almost tantric naked massage, don't rush it and stay away from her tasty bits for as long as possible (but very slowly get increasingly close). Feather like touches and caresses.... Then get naughty but again slowly, don't rush in. If she has a sensitive clitoris lick her slowly from her vagina upwards, gently trapping her clit against your tongue then gently massage it with your tongue while trapped, takes a bit of practise but can send her over the edge. Have you tried gentle fisting ?, needs lots of lube and may take weeks before you can get your whole fist in, makes some girls squirt .... A full answer would be the size of an old phone directory, you know her best.
That wouldn't do a thing for me"
Was thinking the same. Not the fisting... the rest of it lol |
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"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
I'm another female, that once I have had alcohol, I will never cum!
And no that is not a challenge, I love sex but it will just never happen!"
Me too!
I take forever and a day to orgasm 99% of the time, but more often than not - I don't 'need' to. Plenty of communication, questions, answers, reading on here (for new ideas) between me and my man has led to the most amazing sex life ever. Communication is key! |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Tip 1 - don’t make an orgasm the be all and end all
This! I was once having sex with someone who was trying his hardest to make me orgasm but it just wasn't happening. I told him that that was normal for me when I've had a few dr*nks and it probably wasn't going to happen and he replied "not with that attitude it won't" in quite an annoyed tone. Turned me right off!
I'm another female, that once I have had alcohol, I will never cum!
And no that is not a challenge, I love sex but it will just never happen!
Me too!
I take forever and a day to orgasm 99% of the time, but more often than not - I don't 'need' to. Plenty of communication, questions, answers, reading on here (for new ideas) between me and my man has led to the most amazing sex life ever. Communication is key! "
You're right, if the sex is good, you don't 'need' to orgasm, why men think it is the be all and end all is be all is beyond me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As soon as someone says "cum for me babes" I know damn well it ain't happening "
That made me giggle, this is a common thing guys do as if the sound of his voice saying cum now it's going to switch on a switch and and orgasm will instantly happen... |
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this! Don't put so much pressure on yourselves to achieve it. Biggest climax killer.
