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"Hannah is free to do whatever she wants with women, which is a lot. Luke is free to do whatever he wants with men, which is not very much. When it comes to meeting somebody of the opposite sex, we would only consider meeting together. If a couple has a different approach that works for them, that wouldn't bother us at all. " Our exact rules in a nutshell | |||
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"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed" As you said, each to their own, but your opinion appears to be very narrow minded. Why do, or should, you care about who gets more success? Some males will have more meets than some females in a couple, the females will on balance, generally, I concede get more attention, but if you are a secure couple who love each other and like each other enjoy themselves then where is the issue. Turning your argument around and using your logic, which I don't agree with, couples that won't play separately would be the ones with issues of trust. The men using their partner to attract other couples so they can get some attention for themselves as they are unable to get meets individually? If you want to come up with a point at least think about it before spewing an unthought and lazy argument that appears to be designed to be some kind of macho statement but in reality shows an insecure, immature and judgemental attitude. | |||
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"We would often just watch each other at parties, in a closed room with one other couple or single. Realized that voyuerism was a big turn on. But it also lead to the solo play ideas, and prior to the pandemic, wanted to play solo but preferably with another couple. Loving the sound of this and looking to explore further. So many different variants of this fantasy, it’s interesting to see what angle you all take on it" | |||
"Any couples play where the other half is present but mainly observing ? " I'm not a couple anymore, but when I was, yes I just used to watch him with other women  | |||
"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed As you said, each to their own, but your opinion appears to be very narrow minded. Why do, or should, you care about who gets more success? Some males will have more meets than some females in a couple, the females will on balance, generally, I concede get more attention, but if you are a secure couple who love each other and like each other enjoy themselves then where is the issue. Turning your argument around and using your logic, which I don't agree with, couples that won't play separately would be the ones with issues of trust. The men using their partner to attract other couples so they can get some attention for themselves as they are unable to get meets individually? If you want to come up with a point at least think about it before spewing an unthought and lazy argument that appears to be designed to be some kind of macho statement but in reality shows an insecure, immature and judgemental attitude. " Immature and judgemental? How ironic. Like I said, each to their own. Ed | |||
"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed As you said, each to their own, but your opinion appears to be very narrow minded. Why do, or should, you care about who gets more success? Some males will have more meets than some females in a couple, the females will on balance, generally, I concede get more attention, but if you are a secure couple who love each other and like each other enjoy themselves then where is the issue. Turning your argument around and using your logic, which I don't agree with, couples that won't play separately would be the ones with issues of trust. The men using their partner to attract other couples so they can get some attention for themselves as they are unable to get meets individually? If you want to come up with a point at least think about it before spewing an unthought and lazy argument that appears to be designed to be some kind of macho statement but in reality shows an insecure, immature and judgemental attitude. Immature and judgemental? How ironic. Like I said, each to their own. Ed" Is that seriously the best you can muster? Do you understand irony instead of just using the word when you are attempting to appear intelligent? You made judgemental statements and tried to offset any replies by stating that it is just your opinion and that you expected haters to hate, etc. Thereby clearly knowing what you were posting would likely be inflammatory? I applied your logic to a scenario, not mine, so doubtfully Immature or judgemental, I simply posed a question and requested that you think in future. Everyone has a right to their own preferences, thoughts and opinions, but why did yours have to be inflammatory and judgemental? You could have simply stated your own dynamic, but no, you have to justify it by bellitling or saying others are wrong and have to fit into one of your two, preconceived, categories? This is by no means a personal affront, just a question as to why you feel your opinion and bias is more valuable than any others? | |||
"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed As you said, each to their own, but your opinion appears to be very narrow minded. Why do, or should, you care about who gets more success? Some males will have more meets than some females in a couple, the females will on balance, generally, I concede get more attention, but if you are a secure couple who love each other and like each other enjoy themselves then where is the issue. Turning your argument around and using your logic, which I don't agree with, couples that won't play separately would be the ones with issues of trust. The men using their partner to attract other couples so they can get some attention for themselves as they are unable to get meets individually? If you want to come up with a point at least think about it before spewing an unthought and lazy argument that appears to be designed to be some kind of macho statement but in reality shows an insecure, immature and judgemental attitude. Immature and judgemental? How ironic. Like I said, each to their own. Ed Is that seriously the best you can muster? Do you understand irony instead of just using the word when you are attempting to appear intelligent? You made judgemental statements and tried to offset any replies by stating that it is just your opinion and that you expected haters to hate, etc. Thereby clearly knowing what you were posting would likely be inflammatory? I applied your logic to a scenario, not mine, so doubtfully Immature or judgemental, I simply posed a question and requested that you think in future. Everyone has a right to their own preferences, thoughts and opinions, but why did yours have to be inflammatory and judgemental? You could have simply stated your own dynamic, but no, you have to justify it by bellitling or saying others are wrong and have to fit into one of your two, preconceived, categories? This is by no means a personal affront, just a question as to why you feel your opinion and bias is more valuable than any others? " You put that together a lot better than I could have and ever so polite with it as well. Mr (who doesn't have an alpha male complex) | |||
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"We both get excited when one of us go on solo meet as much as wen we meet couples the excitement of one of us coming back and telling what they been doing is a massive turn on for us " Its all about the reclaim sex afterward!  | |||
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"Me and my wife play separately. We used to play today but could never agree on meets as we both wanted different things. We find it alot more simple looking for what we want as individuals. The biggest issue we have is that women generally don't meet married men but the reverse seems to be acceptable." There are a few of us on here who regularly meet married men  | |||
"Me and my wife play separately. We used to play today but could never agree on meets as we both wanted different things. We find it alot more simple looking for what we want as individuals. The biggest issue we have is that women generally don't meet married men but the reverse seems to be acceptable. There are a few of us on here who regularly meet married men "You seem to be the exception not the rule. | |||
"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed As you said, each to their own, but your opinion appears to be very narrow minded. Why do, or should, you care about who gets more success? Some males will have more meets than some females in a couple, the females will on balance, generally, I concede get more attention, but if you are a secure couple who love each other and like each other enjoy themselves then where is the issue. Turning your argument around and using your logic, which I don't agree with, couples that won't play separately would be the ones with issues of trust. The men using their partner to attract other couples so they can get some attention for themselves as they are unable to get meets individually? If you want to come up with a point at least think about it before spewing an unthought and lazy argument that appears to be designed to be some kind of macho statement but in reality shows an insecure, immature and judgemental attitude. Immature and judgemental? How ironic. Like I said, each to their own. Ed Is that seriously the best you can muster? Do you understand irony instead of just using the word when you are attempting to appear intelligent? You made judgemental statements and tried to offset any replies by stating that it is just your opinion and that you expected haters to hate, etc. Thereby clearly knowing what you were posting would likely be inflammatory? I applied your logic to a scenario, not mine, so doubtfully Immature or judgemental, I simply posed a question and requested that you think in future. Everyone has a right to their own preferences, thoughts and opinions, but why did yours have to be inflammatory and judgemental? You could have simply stated your own dynamic, but no, you have to justify it by bellitling or saying others are wrong and have to fit into one of your two, preconceived, categories? This is by no means a personal affront, just a question as to why you feel your opinion and bias is more valuable than any others? " Woah, calm down. Why should my opinion matter to you? It is only my opinion, nothing more. If we all shared the same opinions, the world would be a very dull place. Apologies if I rattled your cage but jeez, get a grip. Ed | |||
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"Couples who play separately usually seem to be the man and they are miraculously available to meet you anytime...! " 98% of the time that is the case | |||
"Couples who play separately usually seem to be the man and they are miraculously available to meet you anytime...! 98% of the time that is the case "2% here, Jay is definitely not jealous and wanting to boost his ego, thanks Ed 
We love meeting as couple but find it difficult to find the right people and the right time with child care, cos we can't miraculously be available all the time; so we enjoy solo meets too. We both love the other going out and coming back with stories for us | |||
"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed As you said, each to their own, but your opinion appears to be very narrow minded. Why do, or should, you care about who gets more success? Some males will have more meets than some females in a couple, the females will on balance, generally, I concede get more attention, but if you are a secure couple who love each other and like each other enjoy themselves then where is the issue. Turning your argument around and using your logic, which I don't agree with, couples that won't play separately would be the ones with issues of trust. The men using their partner to attract other couples so they can get some attention for themselves as they are unable to get meets individually? If you want to come up with a point at least think about it before spewing an unthought and lazy argument that appears to be designed to be some kind of macho statement but in reality shows an insecure, immature and judgemental attitude. Immature and judgemental? How ironic. Like I said, each to their own. Ed Is that seriously the best you can muster? Do you understand irony instead of just using the word when you are attempting to appear intelligent? You made judgemental statements and tried to offset any replies by stating that it is just your opinion and that you expected haters to hate, etc. Thereby clearly knowing what you were posting would likely be inflammatory? I applied your logic to a scenario, not mine, so doubtfully Immature or judgemental, I simply posed a question and requested that you think in future. Everyone has a right to their own preferences, thoughts and opinions, but why did yours have to be inflammatory and judgemental? You could have simply stated your own dynamic, but no, you have to justify it by bellitling or saying others are wrong and have to fit into one of your two, preconceived, categories? This is by no means a personal affront, just a question as to why you feel your opinion and bias is more valuable than any others? Woah, calm down. Why should my opinion matter to you? It is only my opinion, nothing more. If we all shared the same opinions, the world would be a very dull place. Apologies if I rattled your cage but jeez, get a grip. Ed" Oh, trust me, you didn't rattle my cage, you just came across as a tad judgemental and childish in your initial biased post to this thread. Each to their own should be 'each to their own', not your personal opinion of why everyone is wrong if they don't see things in your particular way along with a token jesture to say that others are allowed an opinion but must be wrong. All couples' dynamics are different, they don't have to fit one of your two categories, sorry to have to educate you.  | |||
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"Couples who play separately usually seem to be the man and they are miraculously available to meet you anytime...! 98% of the time that is the case
2% here, Jay is definitely not jealous and wanting to boost his ego, thanks Ed
We love meeting as couple but find it difficult to find the right people and the right time with child care, cos we can't miraculously be available all the time; so we enjoy solo meets too. We both love the other going out and coming back with stories for us "We'd also be in the 2% as I the husband has no interest in playing on my own but I'm more than happy for the wife to have solo meets. | |||
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"Quick question.. How many couples here other halves play seperately and would you be put off a couple if they did..? " My other half and I only play separately...we’re not swingers in the true sense of the word, we have an open relationship (that I probably take far more advantage of than he does!). I love it when he does take advantage of it, though! The thought that he is having an awesome time somewhere (and hopefully picking up some new tricks :D) with someone that ticks his boxes makes me happy, and vice versa. | |||
"Each to their own but we are a couple and will only meet other couples. When I hear couples play separately, I can’t help but feel it’s probably a jealous male in the relationship that is trying his best to boost his ego or score more points than the female in the partnership. He seems to have some sort of alpha male prowess point to prove? We all know that women are more sought after than men and so women will succeed in more meets regardless and yet the male still needs to find out for himself. Usually ending in disaster. Now, the haters are gonna hate and the cuck lovers will be fuming, I really don’t care. As I said, each to their own. Ed" Oh, Ed, I read out your message to my other half and he practically wet himself laughing. Jealous male needing an ego boost? :D :D :D. Hardly. Christ, in every single couple I know in an open relationship, it’s the female that originally opened the conversation around widening boundaries...and I’m a submissive that spends rather a lot of time with alpha males and other female subs  . The guys are normally pretty relaxed about it and it certainly doesn’t come from some macho competitive bullshit driver. In my experience, with over a decade in and around open relationships and two decades in D/s, it comes from a point of immense trust in each other...that you can have hot sex with other people and not have that affect how you feel about each other...and in some couples, actually bring you closer.
But sure, must be macho bullcrap, obviously.
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"Quick question.. How many couples here other halves play seperately and would you be put off a couple if they did..? My other half and I only play separately...we’re not swingers in the true sense of the word, we have an open relationship (that I probably take far more advantage of than he does!). I love it when he does take advantage of it, though! The thought that he is having an awesome time somewhere (and hopefully picking up some new tricks :D) with someone that ticks his boxes makes me happy, and vice versa. " I wish it was easier to find women like you in london | |||
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