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She has men, but he’s not allowed females
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By *eaford2 OP Couple
over a year ago
Seaford |
We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position? |
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
I dont think so. We are really new to this but I totally get off on the idea of sharing her with another man which works for her also.
She get no sexual satisfaction from the idea of sharing me with another women, and as this isn't something I need or want it's just not an issue.
Give us a few years of this and out numbers will probably be close to yours, well I hope so anyway lol.
Daddy
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over a year ago
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
As long as you’re both happy with this apparent imbalance then all is ok. If not, you have to have a serious conversation. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
No, If you are both happy then play as you want. It’s the “Happy” part you need to ensure though on a constant basis.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
Not odd in anyway shape or forum
I am bi so like both woman and guys and got two separate rules if I ever swing with a fuck buddy or girlfriend or boyfriend
If fuck buddy or boyfriend
Then yes I am the same as yous he’s mine and mine alowen but I do expect him to share me with uther guys and watch me get fucked and suck uther guys off
If fuck buddy is a woman or girlfriend
Then the rules are pretty much I don’t meet other woman but both off us can meet guys
Even share guys if she likes
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're the same, I play alone and as well as a couple of regulars I do sleep around quite a lot too (although I'm still very picky). He doesn't mind. I'm just not comfortable with him doing lone meets, which is one sided I know. Clubs and groups/gangbangs are another story I'm fine with that. But obviously covid is ruining everything.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
Does this work for you? Surely that's all that matters... |
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"We’re both happy with this arrangement - but most of the couples we’ve spoken to at a local sauna/club find it very odd - we make sure that our profile says males only, and only meet males"
Other people are allowed their own opinions & preferences, but they don't have a say in how your relationship works. If you are both happy with how things are then ignore what other people say & just continue doing what works for you.
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We started that way , I male could do all but penetrate, them things moved on now we have a 3 date rule , if we meet the same couple 3 times then I am allowed to fuck , but she is my wife my lover my mistress and she is in charge and long may it last |
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There's no right or wrong way of doing this within consensual and legal boundaries. There are quite a few people who like to behave as if their way is the only way and they aren't afraid to say it, that's quite rude and narrow minded in my opinion |
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
Hey if it works for you both enjoy having a hot wife .....Ben does  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't sound like you're all that happy with the arrangement. Understandably.
Many swinging relationships are unbalanced, ours is too, though not to a 100:0 ratio like yours. We have played with maybe 4x as many females as males. And males only ever as part of a couple. But it's a balance we both believe is right for us.
If it's not right for you, you need to do something about it. If it is, enjoy, no judgement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
If it works for you both then that's all that matters,
We're pretty much the same, Martha is 110% straight I'm Bi so we only meet bi guy's and all play together,
Neither of us play alone,
I have no interest in playing with any other women, Martha is more than enough woman for me.  |
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
As a single female i find this strange but obviously you are happy to live by her rules. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have an imbalance at the moment. Just simply because it's easier to find guys than females or couples. Though we're trying to change that.
If it works for you than great! .
If not, like us. You're gonna have to work at it.  |
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That’s your preference, I would find it rude though if you were to message a couple and try and get the male with no intention of the female being able to play.. other than that its what makes you happy! We had this in chams once where a really attractive couple were there and she approached us and wanted Mr but made it very clear that her man was now allowed to play and she wanted both her Mr and me to watch which for us was a big no!  |
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As others have said if it works for you then great, we are semi in that situation, but do have the added bonus that she will happily watch me with another guy.
My wife can't see me with another woman. However she realises the imbalance and is happy for me to go off on my own, she doesn't want to know details other than when I meet. But as you can imagine arranging a meet is easier said than done. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
It wouldn’t work for us but it is surprisingly common. We been find some couples meet primarily for the woman to have sex with Mr and her MR isn’t that interested in playing. More couples should be honest , if the woman has a higher sex drive and the man is fine chaperoning her or being cuck that’s up to them and not for anyone to judge , but they shouldn’t pretend to want full swap just to get dates with couples |
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The sharing of loved ones is an intricate balance that only you both know what works for you as a couple.
Your set up is quite common in bdsm couples and cuck couples and if it works then everyone is happy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are quite new to the scene but this is exactly what we are looking for.
I E have had the fantasy of seeing or hearing about K being with another guy and being taunted with it. Not so much the cuckold aspect probably more stag / vixen.
For me it’s the pleasure of seeing K cumming and getting off while I don’t. This goes for watching her play with toys too. There is just something about being denied that’s a huge turn on. At the moment I have not cum in nearly three weeks yet she has orgasmed almost ever other day.
I digress ... so far K has fond one guy who she likes and has been on a date alone with him (after meeting him together). Apparently on the date they kissed and he touched her bum (through jeans). The details, although tame were hot and the kiss when she met me was great. She told me straight after she had just snogged him good bye.
We are hoping to take this further and probably would of if it had not been for Covid.
Any like minded people, couples or singles please feel free to message us for chats and discussions. Nice to see others are into the same things as us. |
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
No not off at all
There are no set rules as to how you have to swing it’s entirely up to you
In fact myself and my bf play pretty much the same. He had no interest in playing with others but likes to see me play with others and him
Do what is a turn on for you and fuck what anyone else thinks  |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Not strange at all. It's how Char and I work....I don't get much at all out of putting my cock anywhere, and I have no desire to play with another woman. Char can, and does, play with guys, girls and couples and I will watch, maybe help out, sometimes play with the guy, sometimes not even be there, but it works for us - I get all my pleasure from seeing (or knowing about) Char's enjoyment.
We do know that there are some girls and couples who only want a full swap couple, so we have a guy that Char can call on if the need arises. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner is happy to share me but I am not happy to share him. My partner was the one who wanted me to be a hotwife and we spoke for years before agreeing to do it. It's so important to go through every scenario together. I remember questioning why would he want to share me but not have another woman in return? But because we communicated openly, I could see that this wasn't what swinging was about for him.
I think if your view is you should get a woman because she has a man, then that isn't healthy and it is only going to cause issues for you both since she doesn't want to share you. So, you need to find a compromise or stop swinging all together if you are going to hold it against her. Who's idea was this? Did she bring this up? Why were no boundaries established earlier? Why did you go into this if you are now unhappy with the situation?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry OP, I read the post as though you weren't happy with the situation! But it's a very normal dynamic to be in this situation. "
Totally agree in everything you say |
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"We are quite new to the scene but this is exactly what we are looking for.
I E have had the fantasy of seeing or hearing about K being with another guy and being taunted with it. Not so much the cuckold aspect probably more stag / vixen.
For me it’s the pleasure of seeing K cumming and getting off while I don’t. This goes for watching her play with toys too. There is just something about being denied that’s a huge turn on. At the moment I have not cum in nearly three weeks yet she has orgasmed almost ever other day.
I digress ... so far K has fond one guy who she likes and has been on a date alone with him (after meeting him together). Apparently on the date they kissed and he touched her bum (through jeans). The details, although tame were hot and the kiss when she met me was great. She told me straight after she had just snogged him good bye.
We are hoping to take this further and probably would of if it had not been for Covid.
Any like minded people, couples or singles please feel free to message us for chats and discussions. Nice to see others are into the same things as us. "
In a word "compersion" .its a funny dynamic hard to explain but feels so bloody sexxy |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
Sussex/Surrey |
"" .its a funny dynamic hard to explain but feels so bloody sexxy "
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Thought about this a lot. I am developing the view that it takes us back to our teenage years, and gives us a chance to replay those roles which were key in our adult lives.
Don’t have time at the moment to extend this but will follow up at some point. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think this is a lot more common than the other way around to be honest. I'm interested as to why that is, maybe women are more prone to jealousy? Differing sex drives? If it's a dynamic that works for you, great but it's not that rare. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are quite new to the scene but this is exactly what we are looking for.
I E have had the fantasy of seeing or hearing about K being with another guy and being taunted with it. Not so much the cuckold aspect probably more stag / vixen.
For me it’s the pleasure of seeing K cumming and getting off while I don’t. This goes for watching her play with toys too. There is just something about being denied that’s a huge turn on. At the moment I have not cum in nearly three weeks yet she has orgasmed almost ever other day.
I digress ... so far K has fond one guy who she likes and has been on a date alone with him (after meeting him together). Apparently on the date they kissed and he touched her bum (through jeans). The details, although tame were hot and the kiss when she met me was great. She told me straight after she had just snogged him good bye.
We are hoping to take this further and probably would of if it had not been for Covid.
Any like minded people, couples or singles please feel free to message us for chats and discussions. Nice to see others are into the same things as us. In a word "compersion" .its a funny dynamic hard to explain but feels so bloody sexxy "
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?
As long as you’re both happy with this apparent imbalance then all is ok. If not, you have to have a serious conversation."
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?"
Nothing odd about it no swinging is about whatever your comfortable with, look to please yourself not anybody else |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
Catthorpe |
Normal, op. I (he) don't play only she does with me being present. Was my idea initially as I wanted to see her from the third person perspective and she wanted me to see her also. If I get involved I lose that element which is our driving dynamic. |
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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago
london |
Not odd every couple I have played with it’s been mainly mmf and the Male gets off on the sharing and the fact he’s helping please his wife I guess. Although some meet other couples I don’t think any I have met, the guy plays solo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are the same so not odd at all. We have had some people rather aggressively tell us it's wrong but we do this because when I'm with another man both of us get off on it not just me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd? are there any other males in the same position?
As long as you’re both happy with this apparent imbalance then all is ok. If not, you have to have a serious conversation."
Yes if your happy with that fine, but if it was me I'd find it very selfish to say the least. |
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I was in a long-term relationship with a straight woman who regularly fucked other guys.I would estimate that she fucked at least 30 other men during our time together.She made it quite clear to me that I would never be allowed to play with another woman and this arrangement suited both of us just fine.No,I don't think that you're odd.
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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago
Leicestershire |
It's quite common to be a hotwife couple. Where the woman plays but the guy does not play with other women. We found we get a lot of pleasure playing this way. I'm uncomfortable with hubby playing with other women. He gets more satisfaction watching me with other guys. So it works all around. We also love cuckold play putting hubby in his cock cage xx |
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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"We are a m/f couple, wife plays but doesn’t allow hubby to play, wife is 100% straight and won’t allow any female involvement (she won’t even allow another female to be there) - she’s sucked in excess of 100 guys, she’s had penetrating sex with at least 20 - he’s never even looked at or touched another female ... are we odd?
are there any other males in the same position?"
We are also in a similar situation and you are definetly not odd.
My wife started this journey by exploring her bisexual side and was adamant she wanted no other involvement with other guys no matter how much i encouraged her.She does not permit or do i want to have another female..Im her cuckold now.She now has found her position as a hotwife now preferring to fuck young guys in their 20s .This evolving was purely of her own making.. |
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"Not odd if you both are happy with this
Wouldn't be my cup of tea as I like to watch my partner with another woman, whilst I'm with the hubby/boyfriend "
Exactly this. My fwb and I like to meet couples to have fun with, for us it’s about 4 enjoying sex, pre Covid.
Each to their own though. |
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