My best friend is an absolute gentleman. Until we had this recent conversation. Why was she your best fuck? "Because she didn't give a shit and was a right goer"... I was astounded by his reply. Is that what all men really want? An real easy lay with zero complications?   |
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"I'd say he means that she had no inhibitions. Confident and able to let go and enjoy herself maybe? Possibly not as bad as youve taken it  "
I assumed that too |
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He was probably just expression himself as the alpha male who just likes to brag to others that he is the alpha i.e. locker room talk as Trump would say. She did what he wanted and didn't make a fuss. Her experience might have been completely different, but from his point of view she was ready and willing to please and did not decline any of his sexual requests.
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"no I know the woman who he was referring to. She just wanted sex from him. nothing else. no thrills. just pure sex, nothing else "
That’s what I’m looking for, an absolute win! |
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"My best friend is an absolute gentleman. Until we had this recent conversation. Why was she your best fuck? "Because she didn't give a shit and was a right goer"... I was astounded by his reply. Is that what all men really want? An real easy lay with zero complications? "
I would say yes but i am looking for this too.x
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"Your question only asked about fucking and she could have been his best sexual partner. There's no obligation to have an emotional attachment to have great sex.
any emotional attachment. "
yes that's where we differ, without emotional attachment, the sex isn't that great in my opinion. |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
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"Your question only asked about fucking and she could have been his best sexual partner. There's no obligation to have an emotional attachment to have great sex.
any emotional attachment.
yes that's where we differ, without emotional attachment, the sex isn't that great in my opinion. "
agreed best sex is with people you know and trust
anonymous sex and quickies are great but for the full effect you need some attachment
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"An absolute gentleman wouldn't be discussing another woman's sexual performance with you in the first place.
even if we are the bestest of friends and i did ask the question?
Yep, even then.
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yup i can't even trust my best friend |
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"Your question only asked about fucking and she could have been his best sexual partner. There's no obligation to have an emotional attachment to have great sex.
any emotional attachment.
yes that's where we differ, without emotional attachment, the sex isn't that great in my opinion. agreed best sex is with people you know and trust
anonymous sex and quickies are great but for the full effect you need some attachment
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yes even my best friend disappointed me. thought he say his love of his life... but no, he chose a casual fling with a very naughty woman  wondered if that's how most men prefer sex. zero complications? just lustful sex? |
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"My best friend is an absolute gentleman. Until we had this recent conversation. Why was she your best fuck? "Because she didn't give a shit and was a right goer"... I was astounded by his reply. Is that what all men really want? An real easy lay with zero complications? "
No it's not what ALL men want and it doesn't mean they want that all the time. There are plenty of men and women who do want an easy ride sometimes, if you'll excuse the expression.
However, that's not how I understand his comment. I think he meant that she was very enthusiastic in bed, which in my book is a really good thing. |
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"What exactly was your question? And what kind of answer did you expect?
"Who's your best fuck ever?"
"Stacey, because she plays the clarinet and does a lot of work for charity. ""
and what's wrong with people being like that and not being a good fuck? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your question only asked about fucking and she could have been his best sexual partner. There's no obligation to have an emotional attachment to have great sex.
any emotional attachment.
yes that's where we differ, without emotional attachment, the sex isn't that great in my opinion. "
That depends on you at the time, I think... I have had some great and well needed sex with men I had no emotional attachment to but things change and now, that is rarely enough |
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"I lost the thread and the point of it"
why can't people just don't read and comment on threads they have no interest in? I scroll past threads that don't interest me instead just being negative about others. |
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"My best friend is an absolute gentleman. Until we had this recent conversation. Why was she your best fuck? "Because she didn't give a shit and was a right goer"... I was astounded by his reply. Is that what all men really want? An real easy lay with zero complications? "
probably they do yes |
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"An absolute gentleman wouldn't be discussing another woman's sexual performance with you in the first place.
even if we are the bestest of friends and i did ask the question?
Yep, even then.
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Especially as you know the woman he was talking about |
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No. It’s all contextual. Right now I’m not looking for commitment, but I still want a connection. I still want friendship, and don’t like one offs.
I’ve turned one off offers down on dating apps because it’s just not me at all, I feel uncomfortable, and it ends up feeling a bit pointless.
So I’d say no. Not all men really want one off sex as their holy grail. |
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"I was astounded by his reply...A real easy lay with zero complications
I may be mistaken but I thought that is what a lot of people on a Swingers site are looking for. "
no he's not a swinger. far from it. he's the type to only have afew women in his life, always in long term relationship, never really had a one night stand type of guy. old fashion gent type |
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By *ljamMan
over a year ago
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"I was astounded by his reply...A real easy lay with zero complications
I may be mistaken but I thought that is what a lot of people on a Swingers site are looking for.
no he's not a swinger. far from it. he's the type to only have afew women in his life, always in long term relationship, never really had a one night stand type of guy. old fashion gent type "
Maybe it was the relief from expectations and the ability to abandon the gentleman type persona that made him really get off on the uninhibited, easy fuck?
Much like for someone who has an endless string of meaningless fucks will always mark the one in which there was some level of emotional attachment.
Two sides of the same coin |
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"My best friend is an absolute gentleman. Until we had this recent conversation. Why was she your best fuck? "Because she didn't give a shit and was a right goer"... I was astounded by his reply. Is that what all men really want? An real easy lay with zero complications? "
I don’t see a problem with that  |
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Is there anything wrong with that?
I do enjoy the social aspects of swinging and making friends. But sometimes I'm just horny and happy turning up, having sex, going home and that's the end of it. Some men want the same, but I wouldn't say all. Most of my partners have kept in touch, or become friends or occasional fuck buddies. A few were just "cum and go".
I think there is a place for both types of arrangement, what is more important is honesty. If a guy is honest that he just wants a shag and nothing else that's fine, if I'm in the same mood I'll still meet. What I don't like is guys chatting me up as a friend/FWB/potential boyfriend and then disappearing into the night.
Or maybe as other said he meant the girl he was with was just uninhibited and fun in bed.
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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago
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"What exactly was your question? And what kind of answer did you expect?
"Who's your best fuck ever?"
"Stacey, because she plays the clarinet and does a lot of work for charity. "
and what's wrong with people being like that and not being a good fuck? "
I agree, not everyone is a good fuck, also can be lacking in inhibitions too |
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