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over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
So if I get a wink from someone and I like what I see I wink back. I’ve sent a few out too. If I don’t get a message I assume they’re not interested. I am so shit at sending first messages though!  |
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would. |
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over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
If we get a wink we usually look at the profile and if we like we usually wink back or message xxx |
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over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
I always respond to a message because I find it good manners but I don't always return a wink, I only return it if I am interested. I suppose a wink is lazier than a message that someone has taken time over... |
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would. "
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I always thank people for winks regardless of whether I’m interested or not. Although that probably takes me a lot less time than it would single women or couples as they probably get a lot more than I do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
So if I get a wink from someone and I like what I see I wink back. I’ve sent a few out too. If I don’t get a message I assume they’re not interested. I am so shit at sending first messages though! "
 just go for it, we used winks loads when we first started but have connected with loads more great couples we get on with by sending a message first. |
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
Message. If you're serious, just say hi. We don't bite.
We don't pay to much attention to winks to be honest. Far to often in the past we received them, winked and messaged back then nothing but radio silence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy to recieve both. If someone winks I'll check out their profile & message back. Tend not to send winks unless their profile says to wink if interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would. "
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would.
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now."
I don't get the whole wink to show interest then nothing.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
Miss V"
Funnily enough we winked a really hot couple and got a really snobby message back about it, this also put us off. They looked great but came across really arrogant, could have just deleted the wink and moved on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
So if I get a wink from someone and I like what I see I wink back. I’ve sent a few out too. If I don’t get a message I assume they’re not interested. I am so shit at sending first messages though! "
I've winked at you.... lets see how this plays out. Lol
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would.
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now.
I don't get the whole wink to show interest then nothing.."
Yeah it’s bizarre, happened to us loads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would.
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now.
I don't get the whole wink to show interest then nothing..
Yeah it’s bizarre, happened to us loads."
Me too, I just block when that happens... |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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I assumed winks would show up somehow, like messages. But whenever I opened the homepage it would say 'no new winks' so I actually missed a bunch of winks - from women, no less - which I also assumed women wouldn't send due to the bad rap winks seem to get.  |
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I'm a serial wink and when I check the profile and photos, if I like them I fab them. If I'm serious about the possibility of meeting the lady, I message them. Some reply back who are or not interested and many don't respond.
But I do respect a message, even if there not interested. It's just good manners. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would.
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now.
I don't get the whole wink to show interest then nothing..
Yeah it’s bizarre, happened to us loads.
Me too, I just block when that happens..."
We don’t block for it, takes a bit more to ruffle our feathers lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would.
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now.
I don't get the whole wink to show interest then nothing..
Yeah it’s bizarre, happened to us loads.
Me too, I just block when that happens...
We don’t block for it, takes a bit more to ruffle our feathers lol."
I just see it as there is obviously no interest so I don't want to waste time later  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
It’s pretty rare for either to come this way unsolicited. But I am happy with a wink as an expression of interest and a message can follow.
I don’t subscribe to “wink equals lazy”. Although I can see why people would.
We’ve used them in the past then got a wink back so have sent a message then nothing or vice versa.
This tends to never happen if we’ve sent or received a message so we’ve just ditched winks altogether now.
I don't get the whole wink to show interest then nothing..
Yeah it’s bizarre, happened to us loads.
Me too, I just block when that happens...
We don’t block for it, takes a bit more to ruffle our feathers lol.
I just see it as there is obviously no interest so I don't want to waste time later "
Bet there’s loads that just miss the wink back due to the volume of winks they get though, we get no more than 5 messages a day but probably a 100 winks. Starting to think we come across as scary to approach
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"Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
Miss V"
i agree totaly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
Miss V
Funnily enough we winked a really hot couple and got a really snobby message back about it, this also put us off. They looked great but came across really arrogant, could have just deleted the wink and moved on."
That’s such a shame but the upside is at least you saw their true colours.
You carry on winking! x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
Miss V
Funnily enough we winked a really hot couple and got a really snobby message back about it, this also put us off. They looked great but came across really arrogant, could have just deleted the wink and moved on.
That’s such a shame but the upside is at least you saw their true colours.
You carry on winking! x"
Haha yeah they had been on our hotlist for a while as well but have now moved to the block list |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
Anyone it doesn't really matter to me. I'll check out the profile and if I like what I see, I'll msg the person. |
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
It's very rare we respond to a wink because we hardly ever initiate contact, but we do look at them to see who's interested and we're pleased to receive them. They are a damn site better than a crap message, which is the main type of message we get. |
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I wink and if they wink or look back , I thank them for doing so (also if its. Spontaneous look )and if they'd like to chat , if so, great ....if not , that's cool
That's a reasonable course of action no? |
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I usually use winks to show that I’m interested and to see if I get a response as sometimes it’s great to send a message but other times you can spend a good amount of time composing a message making sure you’ve digested the profile for it to be unread |
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I do both but mostly wink first.if someone winks me I will always send a message thanking them for the wink and go from there sometimes it a thanks but no thanks I feel that's better than being ignored |
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Lol either would be wonderful , I'd probably fall off my chair though... As a single guy it's extremely exhausting sending out hundreds of messages for not even a 'no thanks' in return, hence when my fingers are on fire I just send a wink and hope for the best |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lol either would be wonderful , I'd probably fall off my chair though... As a single guy it's extremely exhausting sending out hundreds of messages for not even a 'no thanks' in return, hence when my fingers are on fire I just send a wink and hope for the best "
Depends what you are sending, we try to respond to anyone that’s made an effort and read our profile. If it’s just a how are you doing or hey then it gets deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
Miss V
Funnily enough we winked a really hot couple and got a really snobby message back about it, this also put us off. They looked great but came across really arrogant, could have just deleted the wink and moved on.
That’s such a shame but the upside is at least you saw their true colours.
You carry on winking! x
Haha yeah they had been on our hotlist for a while as well but have now moved to the block list "
Yep have to say a few on ours have gone to the block list during Covid.
Going back to the topic, snobbery leaves us cold. Doesn’t matter how hot the profile. It’s a highly undesirable trait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single guy i wink profiles. Sometimes a profile has no public photos but the profile text is what i am looking for. So a simple wink back can spark a conversation to ask for pics to see if there is an attraction.plus there is alot of attractive profiles on here and i would not get anything done if i wrote a message to everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As a single guy i wink profiles. Sometimes a profile has no public photos but the profile text is what i am looking for. So a simple wink back can spark a conversation to ask for pics to see if there is an attraction.plus there is alot of attractive profiles on here and i would not get anything done if i wrote a message to everyone."
Haha fair enough, although we don’t at all message or wink a profile with no pics. |
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?"
I dont mind both as the wink is a ice-breaker?
Ice-breaker (if you like the looks of the profile / matches what you are looking for) then you can proceed to send face pics or a paragraph ?
There are loads who ignore the wink feature maybe due to getting spammed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I get a wink I always reply with a thank you
Wink is surely a sign that they/she are interested
I had a wink from a couple not long ago messaged them to say thank you then they blocked me lol  |
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"Refreshing to read these replies. I can never understand the snobbery from some on Fab regarding winking.
It’s an icebreaker and to be honest I don’t blame people who would rather do this than risk sending a message only to be ignored. It’s not laziness as some claim it just shows that you like what you see.
Miss V"
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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago
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I will always wink if I am interested and I will message if I think there may be a chance of an interest back.
I will always thank whoever winks me regardless of my interest, it's rude not too,
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most of the winks I receive are from people who can’t message me because of my filters stopping them .......
I will never respond to a wink , "
Your message filters also apply to winks |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Most of the winks I receive are from people who can’t message me because of my filters stopping them .......
I will never respond to a wink , "
I didn't realise winks didn't follow the same criteria as message filters? I only wink people who have men listed as someone they are looking for. If they have omitted men I don't wink them as I take it as no men please despite them not having not having men blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wink because most of the time my initial message gets ignored
Besides, if someone's interested in me they will send me a message.
I've had instances of people who left my initial message unread sending *me* an initial message later on. So I assume it's not worth sending out messages given the volume of messages women receive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Winks are fine, as you can either chose to respond or not.
Great to get a message if they have read what you are looking for and they match it otherwise very tedious to get messages from guys/cpls that are have no pics, not verified by the site or have any verifications displayed but do tell you they are genuine but their profile looks as fake as a £3 note. |
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
So if I get a wink from someone and I like what I see I wink back. I’ve sent a few out too. If I don’t get a message I assume they’re not interested. I am so shit at sending first messages though! "
Totally agree, sometimes you don't know how much to put into a first email. Agree that how's you is pathetic, but your also never sure if go straight in with sexual content or polite conversation... At least a wink does allow you to know if the other person is at least open to contact.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
So if I get a wink from someone and I like what I see I wink back. I’ve sent a few out too. If I don’t get a message I assume they’re not interested. I am so shit at sending first messages though! "
Couldn't agree more with this. First messages are always difficult, winking isn't lazy, its cheeky |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you respond to winks or do you prefer a message when you are approached on here?
So if I get a wink from someone and I like what I see I wink back. I’ve sent a few out too. If I don’t get a message I assume they’re not interested. I am so shit at sending first messages though!
Totally agree, sometimes you don't know how much to put into a first email. Agree that how's you is pathetic, but your also never sure if go straight in with sexual content or polite conversation... At least a wink does allow you to know if the other person is at least open to contact.
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Polite always for us to be honest,
Full on messages from the offset just turn us off,
A bit of charm and good craic go a long way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We much prefer a mail but understand a lot like the wink system to see if there is an attraction
If someone winks and we feel there is a possibility of getting on we return the wink then down to them to follow it up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not safari or chrome
Duck duck go is much more private "
The mobile site is full of bugs. It's been like it for years.
Have you also noticed when people put loads of ???? on their profiles & messages? That's not deliberate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Works on mine
Maybe reload the page
It’s a permanent problem even if I reload the page. I’m using the Duck duck go browser???????"
We use safari and have no issues, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Works on mine
Maybe reload the page
It’s a permanent problem even if I reload the page. I’m using the Duck duck go browser???????
We use safari and have no issues,"
I don't have any issues either but this has been talked about widely on here for years. If you have a problem, post it on the 'site forum page' |
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