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I'm comparing to my past sexual experiences, I had great sex with men who don't fit into my usual tick list.
But woman on FAB who get inundated with interest, do you feel your standards and tick list (everyone has them whether you agree or disagree) has INCREASED?
For men, who most on here complain how little interest they get have decreased their standards through desperation to get any response from women?
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I haven’t dropped my standards, but then I don’t think attraction would work if I did.
OP, rather than get inundated with messages and always be on the defensive from the hoard of invaders, why not close your filters and go looking for the kind of person you like? |
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"I haven’t dropped my standards, but then I don’t think attraction would work if I did.
OP, rather than get inundated with messages and always be on the defensive from the hoard of invaders, why not close your filters and go looking for the kind of person you like?"
i have but just started a discussion to hear other people's experiences |
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"I haven’t dropped my standards, but then I don’t think attraction would work if I did.
OP, rather than get inundated with messages and always be on the defensive from the hoard of invaders, why not close your filters and go looking for the kind of person you like?
i have but just started a discussion to hear other people's experiences "
That’s cool. There’s a lot of different experiences on here, it’s just whether they’ll admit to them |
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Think you always have to maintain certain standards, be it age, looks, appearance & what you do.
There are some desperate guys on here & understand the ladies using filters.
I’m married and that puts some off, others don’t care & some prefer it.
It’s all down to the individual preferences.
Be no fun if we all liked the same thing. |
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I just insist on being attracted to the person, and for them to be local. However, it isn't appealing to me to sleep with every fit guys who asks. I don't want that much sex from new men, so yeah, I then have to figure out ways to narrow it down further.
It's like having 50 different chocolate bars to choose from (most of which you'd eat if there was only one) but with 50 you have to decide which you want. Assuming you like chocolate lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm comparing to my past sexual experiences, I had great sex with men who don't fit into my usual tick list.
But woman on FAB who get inundated with interest, do you feel your standards and tick list (everyone has them whether you agree or disagree) has INCREASED?
For men, who most on here complain how little interest they get have decreased their standards through desperation to get any response from women?
Please discuss "
I think some peoples standards are too high but on the other hand ive given up now on even trying anymore as i feel im just wasting my time by even trying plus i either get ignored so its pointless besides the forums keep me entertained |
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This thread has been rather thought provoking for me.
In the vanilla world I always had rather fixed ideas on who I was attracted to. Since joining Fab those ideals have gone out of the window. I’m far more open minded and I’m finding the mental connection is even more important than the physical one. Gender is unimportant to me but sexual chemistry certainly is. I’m enjoying pushing my boundaries.
So the tick list hasn’t increased. However, we have locked down our profile to a ridiculous level due to some stalkerish behaviour which got totally out of hand 
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"I just insist on being attracted to the person, and for them to be local. However, it isn't appealing to me to sleep with every fit guys who asks. I don't want that much sex from new men, so yeah, I then have to figure out ways to narrow it down further.
It's like having 50 different chocolate bars to choose from (most of which you'd eat if there was only one) but with 50 you have to decide which you want. Assuming you like chocolate lol"
You had me at chocolate  |
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"This thread has been rather thought provoking for me.
In the vanilla world I always had rather fixed ideas on who I was attracted to. Since joining Fab those ideals have gone out of the window. I’m far more open minded and I’m finding the mental connection is even more important than the physical one. Gender is unimportant to me but sexual chemistry certainly is. I’m enjoying pushing my boundaries.
So the tick list hasn’t increased. However, we have locked down our profile to a ridiculous level due to some stalkerish behaviour which got totally out of hand
Miss V"
fab made me reconsider my sexuality as i get way more hot women messaging me nice things than men  |
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From personal experiences here and outside I dont meet anyone natural checklist, which is fine, but generally out side of fab I have always done ok for myself. It takes alot of effort to get women interested in me but generally once they are interested they stay interested. Fab is a different story no response to a message, and you only get 1 chance to make an impression. Getting past the opening salvo and having a chance to let my personality shine seems impossible atm but we all live in hope so I remain positive. Just my experiences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest
I dont really have a tick list but there needs to be some sort of attraction
Some of the best sex ive had has been with people outside what i would class as my type
So at this point im more open |
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I’m more strict on here the site, than in a club. I think when you meet someone in person, they’re funny and charming suddenly the slight dad bod doesn’t seem to matter that much.
It’s not fair this site and I really feel sorry for the genuine guys just trying to meet someone for fun. As often their true personality cannot properly be brought across with the written word over their actual voice and tone.
But that’s Fab for you, so if you truly want to join this world it’s best to use all options available to you, including clubs and socials. |
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"I’m more strict on here the site, than in a club. I think when you meet someone in person, they’re funny and charming suddenly the slight dad bod doesn’t seem to matter that much.
It’s not fair this site and I really feel sorry for the genuine guys just trying to meet someone for fun. As often their true personality cannot properly be brought across with the written word over their actual voice and tone.
But that’s Fab for you, so if you truly want to join this world it’s best to use all options available to you, including clubs and socials. "
This 100% |
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"I’m more strict on here the site, than in a club. I think when you meet someone in person, they’re funny and charming suddenly the slight dad bod doesn’t seem to matter that much.
It’s not fair this site and I really feel sorry for the genuine guys just trying to meet someone for fun. As often their true personality cannot properly be brought across with the written word over their actual voice and tone.
But that’s Fab for you, so if you truly want to join this world it’s best to use all options available to you, including clubs and socials. "
I think i am too guarded on here and put my filters to the highest because of time wasters and fakes |
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"From personal experiences here and outside I dont meet anyone natural checklist, which is fine, but generally out side of fab I have always done ok for myself. It takes alot of effort to get women interested in me but generally once they are interested they stay interested. Fab is a different story no response to a message, and you only get 1 chance to make an impression. Getting past the opening salvo and having a chance to let my personality shine seems impossible atm but we all live in hope so I remain positive. Just my experiences"
you couldnt have said it better i agree with you alot of it is because people dont get a chance on here to be themselves as can come across all wrong
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"It's like having 50 different chocolate bars to choose from (most of which you'd eat if there was only one) but with 50 you have to decide which you want. Assuming you like chocolate lol"
Great analogy. And despite the relative numbers of men v women on here, it’s still more than the typical number of chocolate bars you’d get offered at once
I think some get wound up when they think they meet everything on a detailed tick list profile and still get no response. But reality is - just not the day for your brand of chocolate.
That’s about as far as I can stretch it  |
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By *kiolo1Couple
over a year ago
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"I’m more strict on here the site, than in a club. I think when you meet someone in person, they’re funny and charming suddenly the slight dad bod doesn’t seem to matter that much.
It’s not fair this site and I really feel sorry for the genuine guys just trying to meet someone for fun. As often their true personality cannot properly be brought across with the written word over their actual voice and tone.
But that’s Fab for you, so if you truly want to join this world it’s best to use all options available to you, including clubs and socials. "
Truth here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This thread has been rather thought provoking for me.
In the vanilla world I always had rather fixed ideas on who I was attracted to. Since joining Fab those ideals have gone out of the window. I’m far more open minded and I’m finding the mental connection is even more important than the physical one. Gender is unimportant to me but sexual chemistry certainly is. I’m enjoying pushing my boundaries.
So the tick list hasn’t increased. However, we have locked down our profile to a ridiculous level due to some stalkerish behaviour which got totally out of hand
Miss V
fab made me reconsider my sexuality as i get way more hot women messaging me nice things than men "
Totally agree with this. I’ve had some amazingly hot conversations with ladies on Fab and the resulting meets have been wonderful. I am so comfortable now exploring another females body that they’re almost taking preference on a mixed meet.
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