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"I get replies if I send a face pic and be polite and normal on the first message You gotta make sure you fit there requirements too " I do both lol very polite, I used to say if your not interested then sorry to have troubled you....no response again lol | |||
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"If you could see how much mail a single lady gets it's ridiculous. To read and respond to every single message would take forever. A singe female friend of ours pops online for a browse and instantly gets a hundred messages. Essentially the polar opposite of most single guys here. So don't be miffed if you don't get a response. Fab should be fun not laborious " Not fun if you dont get any responses lol | |||
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"We state in our profile that we’re not interested in single Guys but leave our filters open so that we can chat to whoever we feel like. Basically if we get a message from a guy especially with a cock pic then they clearly haven’t read our profile so very few get a response. We’re not trying to be dicks but if you’re not interested in us enough to read the blurb then we’re not interested in repeating ourselves in a message and i suspect that it’s pretty much the same for many of the ladies getting bombarded daily. Definitely read the profile-if you think you’re what they’re looking for based on that then drop them a message. Hope that helps " Thanks for your message, I do read their profile more than once so there isn't any mistakes, I really have done all I can, I honestly have, but I think it's time to stop, that's life I suppose but thanks for taking the time to post up | |||
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"If I've got 2000 unread messages in my inbox I bulk delete. I can't bulk reply "no thanks"" That’s a fair point | |||
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"If you could see how much mail a single lady gets it's ridiculous. To read and respond to every single message would take forever. A singe female friend of ours pops online for a browse and instantly gets a hundred messages. Essentially the polar opposite of most single guys here. So don't be miffed if you don't get a response. Fab should be fun not laborious " Here here. Totally agree | |||
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"My bio states the reasons why I do not reply to certain messages. Copied and pasted messages are annoying, as are 'how r u' messages plus if its blatantly obvious you haven't read my bio then I'll often reply with a little abuse depending on what mood I'm in. Dont read then expect me to either ignore or be a bitch for fun" Thanks for replying, but I do read the profile before I send messages thank you | |||
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"my opinion There are too many males on here that think females want a message like " I want to cum over your tits" "fancy a fuck" etc, totally disrespectful to many females. Also 95% of males don't read the profile before messaging. This ruins things for genuine respectful males. I don't get 100s of messages but I still deleted lots. " I think you will find alot of women on here are disrespectful idiots as well same goes for couples. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol" Most if not all will read a profile before deciding to read a message. | |||
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"my opinion There are too many males on here that think females want a message like " I want to cum over your tits" "fancy a fuck" etc, totally disrespectful to many females. Also 95% of males don't read the profile before messaging. This ruins things for genuine respectful males. I don't get 100s of messages but I still deleted lots. I think you will find alot of women on here are disrespectful idiots as well same goes for couples." I agree with you. | |||
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" This ruins things for genuine respectful males. " No it doesnt If anything it helps women and couples appreciate the respectful males even more | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol" I try to reply just to be polite but some messages aren't worth replying to rude crude discusting | |||
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"I'll look at a profile first. If you're not what I'm looking for - you should have known better than message or should have read my profile and payed attention to it before you've messaged. No point in wasting my time replying. Also, if I was to reply to all such messages it would break filters I may want to set in the future leaving no other option but spend even more time blocking those individuals when they message again." Once again, I do read profiles first, but thanks for replying | |||
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" This ruins things for genuine respectful males. No it doesnt If anything it helps women and couples appreciate the respectful males even more " Being respectful never gets me anywhere and it makes me think that I would do better if I just bombed everyone with a dirty message and treat this like a numbers game. Because it must be working for some. Even the profiles with little text and just lots of cock pics have meets. Maybe a lot of women like that approach. Seriously I can't see it being any worse for me than it is now. | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. " It costs them anlot of wasted time if they have like 10 or 20 each day. As much as i hate no reply, i totally get it. So if they read and deleted with no reply, i take it as nit interested.... Which is pretty much everyone, So that makes its easier.... | |||
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"Being respectful never gets me anywhere and it makes me think that I would do better if I just bombed everyone with a dirty message and treat this like a numbers game. Because it must be working for some. Even the profiles with little text and just lots of cock pics have meets. Maybe a lot of women like that approach. Seriously I can't see it being any worse for me than it is now. " You make it sound like you're only respectful to women because you think it'll get you what you want, if that's how you're coming across then I'm not surprised, it's really not respectful at all. Even if it's just sex you should both be getting something out of it. | |||
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"my opinion There are too many males on here that think females want a message like " I want to cum over your tits" "fancy a fuck" etc, totally disrespectful to many females. Also 95% of males don't read the profile before messaging. This ruins things for genuine respectful males. I don't get 100s of messages but I still deleted lots. " Oh this all day long! Hence the hidden profile! | |||
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"Being respectful never gets me anywhere and it makes me think that I would do better if I just bombed everyone with a dirty message and treat this like a numbers game. Because it must be working for some. Even the profiles with little text and just lots of cock pics have meets. Maybe a lot of women like that approach. Seriously I can't see it being any worse for me than it is now. You make it sound like you're only respectful to women because you think it'll get you what you want, if that's how you're coming across then I'm not surprised, it's really not respectful at all. Even if it's just sex you should both be getting something out of it." That's your opinion | |||
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"I'm so fed up with abusive or rude replies if I say no thanks, I don't even read the messages now, let alone reply. " you replied to me... im very grateful too | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time." I find this is the case with the ladies who I have tried to have conversations with. I find myself having to ask questions to get a conversation going and then it's usually only a one word reply.. it makes me feel like I'm pestering them so I just give up. | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time. I find this is the case with the ladies who I have tried to have conversations with. I find myself having to ask questions to get a conversation going and then it's usually only a one word reply.. it makes me feel like I'm pestering them so I just give up. " 1 word answer means they just being polite replying back or they way too busy to put the effort back... move on with people like that | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time." yup I'm like zzzzz its so time wasting. no spark. no rapport. no sex | |||
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"Don't always reply. But ones I've said no.. End up abusive tennis.. I don't tolerate.. So easier not to reply. Fully aware not all same but some messages are utter tripe n disgusting. It's a fab world" Yes i totally given up saying nicely no thanks... i ignore then block if they try more than 4 times | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time. I find this is the case with the ladies who I have tried to have conversations with. I find myself having to ask questions to get a conversation going and then it's usually only a one word reply.. it makes me feel like I'm pestering them so I just give up. 1 word answer means they just being polite replying back or they way too busy to put the effort back... move on with people like that" Yeah makes me feel awkward so I move on | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. " I've found that I don't get the 100s of messages daily but a lot of the messages I do get are 'hw r u or hows lockdown'/ 'free tonight'/ 'fancy a fuck' type messages which I state I don't want in my profile. This week I've been on more and have been saying no thanks/not interested to messages to at least reply and let them know and the amount of abuse you can get after makes me wonder if it's actually worth replying So I do try and reply for good manners sake and it gets thrown in my face | |||
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" This ruins things for genuine respectful males. No it doesnt If anything it helps women and couples appreciate the respectful males even more Being respectful never gets me anywhere and it makes me think that I would do better if I just bombed everyone with a dirty message and treat this like a numbers game. Because it must be working for some. Even the profiles with little text and just lots of cock pics have meets. Maybe a lot of women like that approach. Seriously I can't see it being any worse for me than it is now. " Give it a try and see. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol" Create a fake woman’s profile and see how you get on responding : personally i don’t get lots of messages , but whether i get 1 or 100 it’s up to me how I respond | |||
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"Reading profiles, being polite, not sending dick pics if they say so in their profile, sending face pic if they so in their profile, not being pushy, being respectful WILL NOT MEAN anybody will get a reply. We are so many guys in here, it’s almost impossible to deal with it, and obviously sex is not a job, it’s a pleasure. Only thinking in going to the website and seeing you have hundreds, thousands of emails, it’s a turn off, full stop. But my point is: fakes, time wasters, professionals, webcamers, etc, who write something in their profile and do just the opposite afterwards; that drives me nuts. You chat for a bit with individuals and they ghost you in here or any other way (KIK, SnapChat, InstaGram, etc), they say and swear they will meet and without any single word they disappear. And if you ask them anything they may even block you That’s preposterous. Or those who say they will meet, no matter what happens, so you go there... to find out that nobody’s coming, that the profile is hidden or they blocked you just after the last message. I don’t have words to express what you think when this happens. We are individuals, we are imperfect, we want to have fun. But apparently for some, fun is taking the Mickey with others. And that, at least for me, is intolerable. If you don’t reply, or if you reply saying “no”, that’s a thing. But when you say I’ll meet, and you disappear, where’s the fun in doing so? We, guys, are supposed to be 200% respectful. What about women and couples then? And I’m not speaking in general. But when you see profiles asking almost the moon and sun and they don’t even have a single picture, they ask for specifics even though they are inexperienced and don’t say it in their profile. What do you call that? I agree, there are too many guys and some send dozens of messages for nothing, only as a type of retaliation for no answering them or not giving them what they want. But for God’s sake, sex is pleasure. We can’t have all. We are grown ups. We have to make decisions: us guys to where we can send messages; women/couples which ones to answer. But I have a feeling that sometimes we get greedy and greedier if we get used to something (messages, meets, or whatever it is). For example: a couple looking for man, couple, or woman. What would be the normal thing to do? To read hundreds of them and reply the same hundreds, or to choose which ones to carry on? Because couples/women receive so many messages, they have to choose, but they might try to answer as many as they can. In the end, it’s a nonsense in my opinion. It’s like watching birds in the sky and trying to catch them up. Communication is fundamental to avoid further troubles. If we all are honest and say what we are after when sending a message, if they don’t reply (after a reasonable time) it means they are not interested. And I would block them so that I won’t bother them anymore. No more messages. Full stop. Move on and go for another profile. But replying randomly to some guys, not counting on them by any means, just for the pleasure of replying “just in case” the one you want can’t make it, well that’s not right. I would rather have no answer than wasting time for nothing. There are so many cases here, the topics could take years debating. “Messaging someone” doesn’t mean receiving a reply. Message-Reply-Messages-Replies and then nothing else without a word after some days: this is nonsense. It’s an immature behaviour. Message-Reply-Messages-Replies, making plans to meet and not coming without a word, disappearing, ghosting, blocking you without notifying it: it’s utterly disrespectful and these kind of people should be kicked out from Fab for a while. If they don’t follow the rules, why aren’t they punished? It seems to me that for some, it’s natural to ask without giving anything. For those ones, when they meet and have a great time, is it because they are very good or because the individuals they meet give them pleasure? Sex is between two at least. Those who forget this shouldn’t be asking the moon and sun, and they should go back to earth asap. Respect, reading profiles, being coherent, not being d*unk/high, making decisions about who you send/reply a message should be the right thing to do. I am very glad to see some profiles (women and couples) saying they had to bunk delete messages due to the amount of them. That’s fantastic: respectful for all the individuals who wrote them and good communication so that anybody can understand what happened. The same goes when they write an “update” and say they are not meeting for personal reasons. Bravo! That’s good. But for those making out every few hours new profiles, those who seem to be outlaws and think they can write or behave as they wish, they shouldn’t complain about being mistreated or ignored. Full stop. I’m sure many will disagree with me. But at least I speak my mind and am respectful and explain why I think this or that. So any other comment against what I say will be good for the forum. Don’t try to convince me about YOUR ideas. I have mines " What he just said | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time." when I had my single profile, if I said no thank you, I sometimes got abuse back or being asked why. On our profile now, if we give a no, its either a thank you or ignored. We can live with being ignored | |||
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"If I get a message and it's polite (not I'm in your area faf) I will reply after I've looked at the profile. I have my filters set tight so don't get many messages. And it's good to see if you get a no thanks your polite and say thank you but for every one polite guy that's says thanks there is 5 who will literally call the gal every name under the sun because we haven't dropped our knickers. So accept the messages you get and ignore the ones that ignore you. Fab is a funny old place but it should be more fun" Agreed! I've received so much abuse for saying no thanks, it really puts me off replying sometimes. | |||
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"I get replies if I send a face pic and be polite and normal on the first message You gotta make sure you fit there requirements too " Exactly this ! Men far outnumber women on here so it’s always a good idea to actually be ticking our boxes before wasting your time messaging I wouldn’t message anyone if I was the opposite to what they were looking for | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. " Totally agree | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time. when I had my single profile, if I said no thank you, I sometimes got abuse back or being asked why. On our profile now, if we give a no, its either a thank you or ignored. We can live with being ignored " We got a load of abuse this week from a guy who'd not read our profile. We politely declined and he called us a fat bitch and a limp cock. One out of two isn't bad haha | |||
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"If I've got 2000 unread messages in my inbox I bulk delete. I can't bulk reply "no thanks"" Be good if they did have a auto reply option or bulk message option like some social media stuff | |||
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"When I reply with not interested. It always ends up with them pushing more questions . Easier just not to reply as otherwise I’ll Just get brutally blunt when people push . " That’s what the block button is for if you don’t take my first hint then my next hint is a one way trip to my block list | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol" No reply means not interested so why go on about it. Also I’m lucky to get one message a week from guys so I don’t get where a woman has 2000 messages! Get away with it lol. | |||
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"It does say in the frequently asked questions that you should accept a no answer as a polite no thanks. Its hard for some men to understand just how long giving a polite no thanks to messages would take for some ladies. Fab is meant to be fun, not endless admin work, answering messages to people who they are not interested in." This, exactly this. The site could be better if they had a button that did a delete, sent a “sorry, you’re not for me” auto reply and blocked all with one swipe. Until then, a delete means no. I know it’s tough if you’ve read the profile, think you’re a good match and just need a chance, but that’s the way it goes. Same happens with job descriptions sometimes - you think they’ve written it with you in mind but your CV goes nowhere. It happens, move on | |||
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"If we ever bother to message Ladies we normally do get a reply, is it that there just to many unverified men on here ? " Verifications mean nothing! One man admitted he had a false veri, they had never met but did each other a veri.... | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. Totally agree" Haven't you read the thread? Do you reply to every piece of junk mail you get through your letterbox? Every pizza leaflet, every unsolicited email regardless of whether you are interested in a stairlift/craft items/2 for 1 at the garden centre? | |||
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"If we ever bother to message Ladies we normally do get a reply, is it that there just to many unverified men on here ? Verifications mean nothing! One man admitted he had a false veri, they had never met but did each other a veri...." Actually this seems to be a trend atm .... there are lots of new accounts that get fake veris - I’ve called them out and they have admitted I get asked every day to ‘help a guy out and give him a veri’ - absolutely not ! Being verified means nothing , being verified by several established accounts who’s veris actually say more than ‘good meet’ counts for more | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. Totally agree Haven't you read the thread? Do you reply to every piece of junk mail you get through your letterbox? Every pizza leaflet, every unsolicited email regardless of whether you are interested in a stairlift/craft items/2 for 1 at the garden centre?" So you’re calling men’s messages pieces of junk then? Not good. Some put effort into a message. #entitled! | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. Totally agree Haven't you read the thread? Do you reply to every piece of junk mail you get through your letterbox? Every pizza leaflet, every unsolicited email regardless of whether you are interested in a stairlift/craft items/2 for 1 at the garden centre? So you’re calling men’s messages pieces of junk then? Not good. Some put effort into a message. #entitled! " No, I'm comparing the messages to any other unsolicited message/ email/ letter. You don't reply to those either if you aren't interested. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol" Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ?" You can't say that, you will be accused of being entitled like I was (see above) | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ?" There are filters! All these women moaning! It’s good practice to hide profile and only contact men you wish to converse with. That way no ‘junk mail’...!!! No 2000 unread messages to proudly boast about! | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? There are filters! All these women moaning! It’s good practice to hide profile and only contact men you wish to converse with. That way no ‘junk mail’...!!! No 2000 unread messages to proudly boast about!" | |||
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"I think that you are right. I know that women get a lot of messages and can't answer back. But as you say a quick reply yes or no doesn't cost anything. Its just manners. Totally agree Haven't you read the thread? Do you reply to every piece of junk mail you get through your letterbox? Every pizza leaflet, every unsolicited email regardless of whether you are interested in a stairlift/craft items/2 for 1 at the garden centre? So you’re calling men’s messages pieces of junk then? Not good. Some put effort into a message. #entitled! " Many are just that unfortunately, not all but a higher percentage that not. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? You can't say that, you will be accused of being entitled like I was (see above) " I'll add entitled to the list of names I've been called | |||
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"If we ever bother to message Ladies we normally do get a reply, is it that there just to many unverified men on here ? Verifications mean nothing! One man admitted he had a false veri, they had never met but did each other a veri.... Actually this seems to be a trend atm .... there are lots of new accounts that get fake veris - I’ve called them out and they have admitted I get asked every day to ‘help a guy out and give him a veri’ - absolutely not ! Being verified means nothing , being verified by several established accounts who’s veris actually say more than ‘good meet’ counts for more Absolutely we would not meet any singles women or men without Verifications to much hassle as to if they are genuine or will actually meet " | |||
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"There are filters! All these women moaning! It’s good practice to hide profile and only contact men you wish to converse with. That way no ‘junk mail’...!!! No 2000 unread messages to proudly boast about!" I so agree. I'd also change the new user registration system, so filters are on, so new members (female) aren't bombarded with 'faf' messages as soon as they join. It must be off putting. But if the ladies did filter out single males, those chaps might have to put some effort into their profiles. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? You can't say that, you will be accused of being entitled like I was (see above) I'll add entitled to the list of names I've been called " #entitled | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? You can't say that, you will be accused of being entitled like I was (see above) I'll add entitled to the list of names I've been called #entitled " Isn't the person expecting a reply #entitled more than the person not replying to a message they didn't ask for | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Create a fake woman’s profile and see how you get on responding : personally i don’t get lots of messages , but whether i get 1 or 100 it’s up to me how I respond Conversely I think for empathy reasons women should set up a fake male profile for a week with some standard/average pics and see what a ball breaker trying to get anywhere on here is " i once created an average looking but nice fake male profile as a dare on a vanilla dating site... i was unindated with women messaging etc I think the way to women is through decent chat | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Create a fake woman’s profile and see how you get on responding : personally i don’t get lots of messages , but whether i get 1 or 100 it’s up to me how I respond Conversely I think for empathy reasons women should set up a fake male profile for a week with some standard/average pics and see what a ball breaker trying to get anywhere on here is i once created an average looking but nice fake male profile as a dare on a vanilla dating site... i was unindated with women messaging etc I think the way to women is through decent chat" Find that hard to believe unless they were all spambots | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Your right wouldn't kill em to have a copy and paste message saying thanks but no thanks , deleting a polite message is just plain ignorant " He's not right. Every time I've said no thanks I get a reply asking why, or trying to convince me I'm wrong for saying no, or worse still, being downright nasty. But apparently I'm ignorant if I choose to avoid that? | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Your right wouldn't kill em to have a copy and paste message saying thanks but no thanks , deleting a polite message is just plain ignorant He's not right. Every time I've said no thanks I get a reply asking why, or trying to convince me I'm wrong for saying no, or worse still, being downright nasty. But apparently I'm ignorant if I choose to avoid that?" I think women get this... i given up saying a polite no thanks due to the abuse and haressment.. would they act like this in clubs?? | |||
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"When I have replied sorry your not for me they reply asking why not or send abuse, I didn’t join this site for that, no means no and I won’t change my mind" I had that response from a couple when I politely declined their "meet now?" at 2am. The bloke assumed I didn't fancy his wife, wanted to know why I figured I was too good for them, and had a right go at me for being a time waster. I'd only said, "no thanks"! | |||
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"...but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks?" No you reply "no thanks" to your spam emails? From companies that haven't taken the time to learn what you want? If a girl or couple get 100 messages in a day and each one take just one minute to reply to, that's over an hour and a half's "work". If twenty then reply with a "awww.....why not? What can I do to persuade you?" then that goes up to two hours. FAB FAQ says "no reply = no thanks" but the very same people that don't read profiles also don't read FAQs. | |||
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"...but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? No you reply "no thanks" to your spam emails? From companies that haven't taken the time to learn what you want? If a girl or couple get 100 messages in a day and each one take just one minute to reply to, that's over an hour and a half's "work". If twenty then reply with a "awww.....why not? What can I do to persuade you?" then that goes up to two hours. FAB FAQ says "no reply = no thanks" but the very same people that don't read profiles also don't read FAQs." But realistically they don't . Lets be honest they might get 20 to 30 at a pinch . | |||
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"When I have replied sorry your not for me they reply asking why not or send abuse, I didn’t join this site for that, no means no and I won’t change my mind I had that response from a couple when I politely declined their "meet now?" at 2am. The bloke assumed I didn't fancy his wife, wanted to know why I figured I was too good for them, and had a right go at me for being a time waster. I'd only said, "no thanks"! " There is no excuse for that from anybody, m, f or couple. | |||
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"...but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? No you reply "no thanks" to your spam emails? From companies that haven't taken the time to learn what you want? If a girl or couple get 100 messages in a day and each one take just one minute to reply to, that's over an hour and a half's "work". If twenty then reply with a "awww.....why not? What can I do to persuade you?" then that goes up to two hours. FAB FAQ says "no reply = no thanks" but the very same people that don't read profiles also don't read FAQs." | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Create a fake woman’s profile and see how you get on responding : personally i don’t get lots of messages , but whether i get 1 or 100 it’s up to me how I respond Conversely I think for empathy reasons women should set up a fake male profile for a week with some standard/average pics and see what a ball breaker trying to get anywhere on here is i once created an average looking but nice fake male profile as a dare on a vanilla dating site... i was unindated with women messaging etc I think the way to women is through decent chat" I have to agree with you there. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? You can't say that, you will be accused of being entitled like I was (see above) I'll add entitled to the list of names I've been called #entitled Isn't the person expecting a reply #entitled more than the person not replying to a message they didn't ask for " | |||
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"fab disclaimer; blokes must be thick skinned! " I’d say more self assured than thick skinned. I haven’t had much by way of harsh criticism, and I’m happy in my own skin - I know who I am. And it would be a strange world if we all liked the same things. | |||
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"If I've got 2000 unread messages in my inbox I bulk delete. I can't bulk reply "no thanks"" Why not just block males then if you’re never going to read any messages? Would save them and you a lot of time wouldn’t it? | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol No reply means not interested so why go on about it. Also I’m lucky to get one message a week from guys so I don’t get where a woman has 2000 messages! Get away with it lol. I can screenshot my inbox for you if you think I'm lying. Jeez " No thanks but why don’t you hide your profile so you find the men you want rather than have an inbox with 2000 unread messages in it then moan about them on here. I reply to every message as I’m polite...... | |||
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"But realistically they don't . Lets be honest they might get 20 to 30 at a pinch . " We're just an average couple and we get that many on some days. With the influx of single guys here over lockdown, a good looking woman in the right area will be inundated, especially if she uploads a new photo. | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time." Shame you are not nearer i could impress you with my verbal dexterity i try to make my messages interesting and dont copy or paste...but i do understand the big issue with "wanna fuck brigade" who just clog up the system and cause ladies so much time wasting. On the other handi have had some pretty short and terse messages from couples "send us face pic"!! err no! | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol No reply means not interested so why go on about it. Also I’m lucky to get one message a week from guys so I don’t get where a woman has 2000 messages! Get away with it lol. I can screenshot my inbox for you if you think I'm lying. Jeez No thanks but why don’t you hide your profile so you find the men you want rather than have an inbox with 2000 unread messages in it then moan about them on here. I reply to every message as I’m polite......" Point well made | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? You can't say that, you will be accused of being entitled like I was (see above) I'll add entitled to the list of names I've been called #entitled Isn't the person expecting a reply #entitled more than the person not replying to a message they didn't ask for " Lots and lots of entitled people on this site dear! | |||
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" I can understand, when women view in stealth mode and don't reply, how guys can get exacerbated. It's hard work on both sides. " It's only hard work if you make it hard work though - regardless of which side of the fence you sit. Not saying you do, but *some* women don't use filters to their advantage and get worked up when they are bombarded by messages rather than just deleting them. Similarly *some* men get bent out of shape about not getting replies and have false expectations of the site. Taking a more laid back approach and accepting that women won't always reply, and men won't always send an appealing message, whilst trying not to overly worry about how others choose to use the site and simply focussing on using it to your best advantage, works a lot better and doesn't make it seem like an effort at all. | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time. Shame you are not nearer i could impress you with my verbal dexterity i try to make my messages interesting and dont copy or paste...but i do understand the big issue with "wanna fuck brigade" who just clog up the system and cause ladies so much time wasting. On the other handi have had some pretty short and terse messages from couples "send us face pic"!! err no! " so it proves everyone gets demanding, abusive ill thought out messages... how to reduce it? filters, hiding profiles, choosing to ignore, block or delete. Going back to why bother message if there's too much competition. Either make your profile or message stand out, accept when you're not someone's type and just initially wink to see if they wink back then start a conversation as that's what you would do in 'real life'. Why do people behave differently because they behind a computer screen? Dutch courage | |||
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"OP you need to toughen up! It’s the way it is on here. The decent single males will all have sent good messages, and face pics, and had their message just deleted out of hand. I block said couple/female of that happens, and move on.You should do the same." decent men get verifications, dates and all sorts too. Don't be disillusioned that fab men don't get sex from fab | |||
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"OP you need to toughen up! It’s the way it is on here. The decent single males will all have sent good messages, and face pics, and had their message just deleted out of hand. I block said couple/female of that happens, and move on.You should do the same. decent men get verifications, dates and all sorts too. Don't be disillusioned that fab men don't get sex from fab" I’m not disillusioned by Fab. I’ve had some amazing times on various profiles on here Hoping for even more after Covid | |||
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"There is no excuse for that from anybody, m, f or couple. " Yeah, it made me appreciate the difficulties women can have. I've also had a "straight" bloke threaten to expose me to my work for being on here, because I declined his random offer during lockdown. Apparently me being straight and it being lockdown wasnt a good enough reason. BTW, the idiot doesn't know me! Lol | |||
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"There are filters! All these women moaning! It’s good practice to hide profile and only contact men you wish to converse with. That way no ‘junk mail’...!!! No 2000 unread messages to proudly boast about! I so agree. I'd also change the new user registration system, so filters are on, so new members (female) aren't bombarded with 'faf' messages as soon as they join. It must be off putting. But if the ladies did filter out single males, those chaps might have to put some effort into their profiles. " | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to " Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? | |||
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"my opinion There are too many males on here that think females want a message like " I want to cum over your tits" "fancy a fuck" etc, totally disrespectful to many females. Also 95% of males don't read the profile before messaging. This ruins things for genuine respectful males. I don't get 100s of messages but I still deleted lots. I think you will find alot of women on here are disrespectful idiots as well same goes for couples." I suspect you are a man | |||
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"If I've got 2000 unread messages in my inbox I bulk delete. I can't bulk reply "no thanks"" Maybe that should be an option. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol Do you reply to the unsolicited junk mail that gets delivered through your letterbox ? There are filters! All these women moaning! It’s good practice to hide profile and only contact men you wish to converse with. That way no ‘junk mail’...!!! No 2000 unread messages to proudly boast about!" | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? " haha very true | |||
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"Iv litterly just been abused for deleting and not replying. I'm sure many other women have had the same. Also men need to realise just coz we reply doesnt mean we will sleep with you either... " Exactly. That's why I leave them unread. | |||
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"Iv litterly just been abused for deleting and not replying. I'm sure many other women have had the same. Also men need to realise just coz we reply doesnt mean we will sleep with you either... Exactly. That's why I leave them unread." not mine though | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? " Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. | |||
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"If I've got 2000 unread messages in my inbox I bulk delete. I can't bulk reply "no thanks" Why not just block males then if you’re never going to read any messages? Would save them and you a lot of time wouldn’t it? " Because I do want males, I'm straight. I just scroll through and find ones that actually meet the distance criteria I've clearly laid out in my bio. Which I wrote to SAVE MEN TIME. | |||
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"The problem is that alot of guys have very little in the way of conversational skills. After they've exhausted the " how r u hun" and "what you up to?" They have bugger all to say. I even try prompting them. Its usually a waste of time. when I had my single profile, if I said no thank you, I sometimes got abuse back or being asked why. On our profile now, if we give a no, its either a thank you or ignored. We can live with being ignored We got a load of abuse this week from a guy who'd not read our profile. We politely declined and he called us a fat bitch and a limp cock. One out of two isn't bad haha" that's unnecessary, we've been lucky with our messages, just one impolite one. Maria | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks." People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? " Not eceryones pics are overtly sexual though... Doesn't stop the abuse or vile messages | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? " When it's suggested that if women should effectively hide their profiles to avoid getting unwanted messages then yes, as I said "to an extent" it is. As I said further up there needs to be acceptance on *both* sides of the fence but simple fact of the matter is people shouldn't be expected to hide themselves as a means of "protection". | |||
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"Being respectful never gets me anywhere and it makes me think that I would do better if I just bombed everyone with a dirty message and treat this like a numbers game. Because it must be working for some. Even the profiles with little text and just lots of cock pics have meets. Maybe a lot of women like that approach. Seriously I can't see it being any worse for me than it is now. You make it sound like you're only respectful to women because you think it'll get you what you want, if that's how you're coming across then I'm not surprised, it's really not respectful at all. Even if it's just sex you should both be getting something out of it. That's your opinion " Your profile has 2 interests and says you can't be bothered to write a bio...and yet you expect ladies to engage with you? | |||
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" This ruins things for genuine respectful males. No it doesnt If anything it helps women and couples appreciate the respectful males even more Being respectful never gets me anywhere and it makes me think that I would do better if I just bombed everyone with a dirty message and treat this like a numbers game. Because it must be working for some. Even the profiles with little text and just lots of cock pics have meets. Maybe a lot of women like that approach. Seriously I can't see it being any worse for me than it is now. " Perhaps you should channel your energy into writing a decent profile. If you messaged us the first thing we'd see, before we even read your message, is that after 4 months you still have nothing on there. | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? Not eceryones pics are overtly sexual though... Doesn't stop the abuse or vile messages " But many people *do* have explicit pics and graphic descriptions of all the people they fucked and all the sex acts they did. We are all tarred with the same brush. Abuse and vile messages can happen anywhere. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Friends Reunited. I'm not saying it's ok. | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? When it's suggested that if women should effectively hide their profiles to avoid getting unwanted messages then yes, as I said "to an extent" it is. As I said further up there needs to be acceptance on *both* sides of the fence but simple fact of the matter is people shouldn't be expected to hide themselves as a means of "protection"." I agree both sides are to 'blame'. However if I don't want messages commenting on my gaping pussy it's really easy to prevent that. | |||
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"I've seen a few posts saying about sending messages and women ignore most of them. Over the past 7 months I've messaged quite a few ladies and 3 have answered. I have heard that women get so many that they dont answer them, but I think that if they have tone to delete them, then surely that could just say no thanks? Or am I totally wrong? Or may be I'm not likeable lol" If a guy messages me "hi" I will not reply or if I do Ill reply read my profile ... I think if u do msg a woman u should put some effort in and at least read her profile ... try something funny .. dont just say hi ur fit id love to fuck u these are the ones I'll just delete I try to answer all the polite ones and those that make an effort I get around 10 aday .. if i go into chat it can be up to 80 -130 | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? When it's suggested that if women should effectively hide their profiles to avoid getting unwanted messages then yes, as I said "to an extent" it is. As I said further up there needs to be acceptance on *both* sides of the fence but simple fact of the matter is people shouldn't be expected to hide themselves as a means of "protection". I agree both sides are to 'blame'. However if I don't want messages commenting on my gaping pussy it's really easy to prevent that. " Thing is though it's not just people with "gaping pussy" pics that we're talking about here Sadly for a site that is for adults, some seem incapable of behaving like them | |||
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"If you could see how much mail a single lady gets it's ridiculous. To read and respond to every single message would take forever. A singe female friend of ours pops online for a browse and instantly gets a hundred messages. Essentially the polar opposite of most single guys here. So don't be miffed if you don't get a response. Fab should be fun not laborious Not fun if you dont get any responses lol" It's also not fun to get bombarded with messages from men who might think they fit your requirements but clearly don't. They also ignore preferences 'just in case', we get vulgar messages, rude messages and downright disgusting messages. If you don't fit their preferences, many of us simply don't have the time or the patience to keep sending 'no thankyou' messages as we then inevitably get the 'why?' or the abuse. | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to " Ah yes, the old 'blame the women because some men are rude pigs'. I'm entitled to have what I want on my profile without receiving vulgar messages. I refuse to be blamed for men not being able to think with their head and not their dick. | |||
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"Would it not be easier for woman who dont want messages just to have a blank profile with no pics and block single guys so they can choose who they want to speak to. Surly they know putting provocative pics up will draw attention and provoke unwanted messages that they cant be arsed to reply to Of course. But how will they get an ego boost then? Whilst there are probably *some* who look for an ego boost from receiving attention, it's not the case for most - and to suggest that women should lock down their profile and make it completely blank is to an extent victim blaming, any user of the site is of course entitled to run their profile how they like, and should be able to free from abuse and not have to take measures to avoid it. Trouble is *some* men see sex site and think it entitles them to sex on a plate with every message. Whilst I agree that filters are your friend they also wouldn't be necessary if those men that behave as I described above accepted that it's not right to behave that way, and to come back to the OPs point, accepted that no reply is an accepted way of saying no thanks. People with sexual pics on a sex site getting annoyed when people talk sexually about their public sex pics. That's victim blaming???? When it's suggested that if women should effectively hide their profiles to avoid getting unwanted messages then yes, as I said "to an extent" it is. As I said further up there needs to be acceptance on *both* sides of the fence but simple fact of the matter is people shouldn't be expected to hide themselves as a means of "protection". I agree both sides are to 'blame'. However if I don't want messages commenting on my gaping pussy it's really easy to prevent that. Thing is though it's not just people with "gaping pussy" pics that we're talking about here Sadly for a site that is for adults, some seem incapable of behaving like them" It's a lot more than 'some'. | |||
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"Rejection is a way of life on here for most men. However, at no point will I ever stop to send abuse to any woman who either doesn't answer or turns me down. It's something I accept. However, arranging to meet someone & then finding you've been blocked on the day is downright rude & ignorant. This happened to me last night. Still, I let it slide, block her myself & move on. Good luck everyone." Yeah, that's a shitty way to behave, some women and couples are knobs too. | |||
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