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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

They are probably married or have a girlfriend. Other thing I can think about is that they got too nervous?

Personally would still show up even if things go bad.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

Anxiety and then embarrassment would be the reasons why I’d do anything kike that. But you can rest assured that I’d be beating my self up more than anybody else could

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By *agnar1980Man  over a year ago

Poole

Pre-COVID, I have had 3 or 4 meets sorted all my first meets all of them didn’t turn up. One I even drove 20 miles to the hotel they were staying only to be stood up & then when I tried to get in contact with them again on here, I’m blocked. What do people get out of it? Makes me nervous to meet(apart from COVID)

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

Jasmin, I think you would have difficulty getting rid of me tbh... Think you would be blocking, ghosting me I would be pestering that much... On that note :o lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don’t think it’s anything to do with nerves or partner/family - I think some folks just get a buzz out of it. A power thing!!!

Afterall we’re all adults if something genuinely arises then just say and re-arrange, otherwise it’s just plain game playing!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s anything to do with nerves or partner/family - I think some folks just get a buzz out of it. A power thing!!!

Afterall we’re all adults if something genuinely arises then just say and re-arrange, otherwise it’s just plain game playing!!!!"

I see your point, but why don't they just buy scrabble? Lol I would well rather have a NSA meet with a sexy lady, than indulge in a mind game..

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By *ulahlollipopWoman  over a year ago

Reading/London

It’s happened to me so many times, even with people I really thought I’d build a rapport with in messages. I arrange a low key no expectations social and they just don’t show up and I never hear from them again. Makes you feel dreadful

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

It seems like it happens to us all, or is it only those who it’s happened to that will share.

It’d be good to hear from someone who has done it to give their view point!

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple  over a year ago

Cardiff

We only arrange a meet after an in person social, never go off messages, anyone can be anyone behind a screen.

Our first arranged meet cancelled at last minute, in hindsight this was a good thing, idiot had cheek to contact again later to try to set it back up.

That said we prefer regular meets with the same guy, not into one offs

Jo x

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By *oiluvfunMan  over a year ago

Penrith


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

In 9 years of using Fab, I’ve only had 2 people let me down, but I can’t ask them why, as they’re blocked

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have driven 80 miles for an arrange meet , spoke with the couple while driving, then when I arrive in their town was told the misses changes her mind about meeting a black man for the first time. Regardless to color it just think this was wrong on all account. Should not happen to any one

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By *entlecaressMan  over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley

Alas this is fab were fantasists are plenty, pity though as it really messes up us good discreet and reliable guys opportunities.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple  over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

A good lot on here are just chatters who like the dirty filrty talk which is fine ,but some of us are here to meet not chat endlessly about what we want to do in a meet ,we travel for ours so tend to make a road trip for us out of it in case they are a no show ,but if they turn up for a social we know they are genuine ,but will happen ...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men...

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men..."

Men change their minds quicker than I have hot dinners?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"They are probably married or have a girlfriend. Other thing I can think about is that they got too nervous?

Personally would still show up even if things go bad. "

Am married and I’ve never let anyone down ! I hate it when it’s happened to me so wouldn’t dream of doing it to anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men...

Men change their minds quicker than I have hot dinners? "

yet you look like you eat a lot of salads !!! X

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By *ady23Woman  over a year ago

Coventry


"Alas this is fab were fantasists are plenty, pity though as it really messes up us good discreet and reliable guys opportunities. "

Agreed. When they are fake it puts u off the genuine and knocks you back thats a shame.

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By *hubaysiWoman  over a year ago

Leeds


"I have driven 80 miles for an arrange meet , spoke with the couple while driving, then when I arrive in their town was told the misses changes her mind about meeting a black man for the first time. Regardless to color it just think this was wrong on all account. Should not happen to any one"

A woman is allowed to change her mind at any given time even if she is on the bed naked with you. She gave you a reason, lots do not.

I had 4 guys at the very start of the year mess me about, not turning up, ghosting me, making stupid transparent excuses and it’s the reason why if I ever met a Fab man he would have to be very special which is rare on here.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men...

Men change their minds quicker than I have hot dinners? yet you look like you eat a lot of salads !!! X"

I eat like a pig actually... big foodie

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men...

Men change their minds quicker than I have hot dinners? yet you look like you eat a lot of salads !!! X

I eat like a pig actually... big foodie "

Me too ! That’s why am fasting 16hrs a day

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Wannabes spring to mind

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By *ackdaw52Man  over a year ago

Chesterfield

Worst one I had told me the car had broken down! And the text she sent to let me know hadn't sent...

Anyway, turned out she had gone to a different city!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Worst one I had told me the car had broken down! And the text she sent to let me know hadn't sent...

Anyway, turned out she had gone to a different city!"

wtf bless

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By *aige CoolTV/TS  over a year ago

north west

I have it lots of times .I think they get nervous as it might be there first time with a person like me. It's just not nice when they cancel an hour before the meet and I have taken 2 hours getting dressed and ready.

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By *omtom7Man  over a year ago

Tralee

It's kind of lousy, if I have to cancel a meet I just let them know in advance. I've had it done to me, feel a right twat standing around checking to see if they've messaged

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I have it lots of times .I think they get nervous as it might be there first time with a person like me. It's just not nice when they cancel an hour before the meet and I have taken 2 hours getting dressed and ready. "

Thats quick tbf as you can spend hours getting ready and it's so annoying when they can't even tell you they're not coming

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By *omtom7Man  over a year ago

Tralee

Hard to see some of you ladies being stood up, but the world is full of stupid people

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I had a couple of socials lined up but both never happened and vanished.

It is frustrating because I'd actually just like to meet people and make friends from FAB but it can be seen as trying to get veri's, and I'm not after a numbers game. I just want to make like minded friends

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

This always surprises us and it seems to be predominantly men not showing up to meet women. Never happened to us as a couple or individually but we always insist on using WhatsApp first and don’t meet unverified people. We’ve had a few flaky ones cancel a day or two before but never a no show in maybe 60-70 meets

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've had a couple of socials arranged that didn't bother to let me know they weren't turning up. It is annoying especially when I've taken the time to get ready. It's just sheer rudeness to not get in contact and cancel.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've have my share of no shows, Ghosting is popular but a couple of guys have admitted afterwards that Tgirls were just their fantasy but it took the reality of a meet for them to realise that.

I don't let it put me off as there are some great meets arranged through here but part of me does wonder if they'll ghost at the last minute Xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I have driven 80 miles for an arrange meet , spoke with the couple while driving, then when I arrive in their town was told the misses changes her mind about meeting a black man for the first time. Regardless to color it just think this was wrong on all account. Should not happen to any one

A woman is allowed to change her mind at any given time even if she is on the bed naked with you. She gave you a reason, lots do not.

I had 4 guys at the very start of the year mess me about, not turning up, ghosting me, making stupid transparent excuses and it’s the reason why if I ever met a Fab man he would have to be very special which is rare on here. "

I totally agree with you a respect that. Every one does have that right. We were on the phone the entire time. Just wish she had told Me before I got two blocks from her house. Did not get upset about it as I respect all couples and females.

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By *ackdaw52Man  over a year ago

Chesterfield

I think it's down to several common factors;

1. They just want a bit of excitement in their life, some attention etc. and don't actually want to meet anybody.

2. Fear of rejection

3. They organised it when they had the horn but have cooled off since.

4. It was a fantasy and the anticipation was enough to get them off, but it got too real

5. They planned it in secret and their partner is getting suspicious.

Just what I've observed...

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By *r Costa xxMan  over a year ago

stirling


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

Only ghosting I’d be doing is disappearing inside your knickers

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I think it's down to several common factors;

1. They just want a bit of excitement in their life, some attention etc. and don't actually want to meet anybody.

2. Fear of rejection

3. They organised it when they had the horn but have cooled off since.

4. It was a fantasy and the anticipation was enough to get them off, but it got too real

5. They planned it in secret and their partner is getting suspicious.

Just what I've observed..."

6.They totally forgot they organised it and double booked themselves

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut.

Only ghosting I’d be doing is disappearing inside your knickers "

Yeah and especially don't trust charmers... too much flirting and not enough action

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I think it's down to several common factors;

1. They just want a bit of excitement in their life, some attention etc. and don't actually want to meet anybody.

2. Fear of rejection

3. They organised it when they had the horn but have cooled off since.

4. It was a fantasy and the anticipation was enough to get them off, but it got too real

5. They planned it in secret and their partner is getting suspicious.

Just what I've observed..."

Could not agree with you anymore. Spot on

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By *bi_AstrayTV/TS  over a year ago

Plymouth


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

Generally because they're gutless If you arrange a meet, and you can't make it, it's basic decency to contact the person and let them know. Whatever the reason or excuse, it doesn't matter, it's the leaving someone who has spent time and effort (hopefully) getting ready and waiting for you to arrive for however long a person will wait... To leave someone you've arranged to meet in that position without attempting contact to cancel, it's just gutless.

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By *jr123Man  over a year ago

oldham


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

I have never let any meet down, weather it's a club meet, a private house party meeting or a social meeting.

I get very piss*d off because the minority who treat FAB meets like a knocking shop are absolutely ruining FAB. And giving the genuine single males a bad name in the process.

I understand there could be last minute nerves between couples but out of respext drop your hosts a message at the very least

The same works both ways, single men can put in a lot of effort to hopefully meet up and to be stood up in a bar/restaurant is actually embarrasing and heartbreaking.

Neil x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The only way you'll get rid of time wasters on FABS is for subscription fees to be increased.

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By *entleman JayMan  over a year ago

Wakefield

It’s happened to me a lot. I don’t get exited now until I see the person stood there in front of me.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Had it many times, been stood up on my birthday (hubby was away) been stood up in a hotel when a guy said see you both in an hour...

Happens a lot unfortunately

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By *partharmonyCouple  over a year ago

Ruislip

Reliable people do exist but sadly you will have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your Prince.

Flakey people aren't just on Fab. We have experienced it many times for different things.

Hang in there. Keep trying. You can find somebody. I pride myself of my reliability and punctuality. I would crawl through broken glass to keep an appointment. If I said I'll be somewhere then I'll be there. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Had it many times, been stood up on my birthday (hubby was away) been stood up in a hotel when a guy said see you both in an hour...

Happens a lot unfortunately"

There's too many letdowns on here

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By *lfacatMan  over a year ago

Kendal

It’s the hight of bad manners not to turn up to a meet, made worse if you don’t at least let the other person know!

Fair enough sometimes ‘life’ gets in the way but a little courtesy costs nothing!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men...

Men change their minds quicker than I have hot dinners? "

Quite possibly, especially when they're married...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ignoring, ghosting, no showing etc... Seems to be the norm on here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Time wasting and ghosting is common. However, never been stood up for a meet that would be harsh, if travelling especially!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Option A: They really liked the idea of meeting but after they had a wank about it and emptied their balls, their brain got back in charge again. They then remembered they have wives/girlfriends etc, or just lost interest. And did not have the balls to tell the person they were supposed to meet they were not interested any more.

Option B: they really wanted to meet, but the whole world was against them on the day of the meet. Their car wouldn't start up; they have just remembered their favourite family member/pet died; they were so excited about the prospect of meeting they couldn't find the car keys/got into accident/could not find the place of the meet; their phone, all of a sudden, would not work or lost all the battery charge, or more likely they couldn't find the phone.

Option C: they genuinely got cold feet and maybe even did make their way to the place of meeting, but they were just too nervous to get through with it.

I don't think any of the options have anything to do with who they were chatting to.

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By *hubaysiWoman  over a year ago

Leeds


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut.

I have never let any meet down, weather it's a club meet, a private house party meeting or a social meeting.

I get very piss*d off because the minority who treat FAB meets like a knocking shop are absolutely ruining FAB. And giving the genuine single males a bad name in the process.

I understand there could be last minute nerves between couples but out of respext drop your hosts a message at the very least

The same works both ways, single men can put in a lot of effort to hopefully meet up and to be stood up in a bar/restaurant is actually embarrasing and heartbreaking.

Neil x

"

If you experience heartbreak at a no show then this is the wrong site for you.

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By *luebell888Woman  over a year ago

Glasgowish

My first ever fab meet stood me up. Explained the next day his son had broke his arm at school then 6months later admitted to having lost his nerve and wanted another chance.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think it’s usually because they bottle it, or maybe they wank beforehand and then they aren’t as sure (If its mainly sexual)

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Option A: They really liked the idea of meeting but after they had a wank about it and emptied their balls, their brain got back in charge again. They then remembered they have wives/girlfriends etc, or just lost interest. And did not have the balls to tell the person they were supposed to meet they were not interested any more.

Option B: they really wanted to meet, but the whole world was against them on the day of the meet. Their car wouldn't start up; they have just remembered their favourite family member/pet died; they were so excited about the prospect of meeting they couldn't find the car keys/got into accident/could not find the place of the meet; their phone, all of a sudden, would not work or lost all the battery charge, or more likely they couldn't find the phone.

Option C: they genuinely got cold feet and maybe even did make their way to the place of meeting, but they were just too nervous to get through with it.

I don't think any of the options have anything to do with who they were chatting to. "

Bet option A the most common on here. So reduce the chances are choose people with good verifications?

(Unfortunately I don't have many meet verifications because I can't seem to get to that stage with men on fab)

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By *urygent1Man  over a year ago

North West


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

Should at least let you know they can't make it.

I didn't show one time and didn't msg but for a good reason.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Bet option A the most common on here. So reduce the chances are choose people with good verifications?

(Unfortunately I don't have many meet verifications because I can't seem to get to that stage with men on fab) "

Even verified people, in my experience, sometimes don't turn up. Just trust your gut instinct and leave chatting about sex and what is going to happen during the meet out of the initial messaging, unless you have some very particular rules or boundaries. And good luck, OP. Even with so many men on here, we still need luck to find those genuine.

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By *hubaysiWoman  over a year ago

Leeds


"Option A: They really liked the idea of meeting but after they had a wank about it and emptied their balls, their brain got back in charge again. They then remembered they have wives/girlfriends etc, or just lost interest. And did not have the balls to tell the person they were supposed to meet they were not interested any more.

Option B: they really wanted to meet, but the whole world was against them on the day of the meet. Their car wouldn't start up; they have just remembered their favourite family member/pet died; they were so excited about the prospect of meeting they couldn't find the car keys/got into accident/could not find the place of the meet; their phone, all of a sudden, would not work or lost all the battery charge, or more likely they couldn't find the phone.

Option C: they genuinely got cold feet and maybe even did make their way to the place of meeting, but they were just too nervous to get through with it.

I don't think any of the options have anything to do with who they were chatting to.

Bet option A the most common on here. So reduce the chances are choose people with good verifications?

(Unfortunately I don't have many meet verifications because I can't seem to get to that stage with men on fab) "

Verifications mean nothing !

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By *harAndBryCouple  over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

When we were meeting before Xmas, half of our meets didn't turn up. They were all the ones that were supposed to be coming to us and not one of them messaged to say they weren't coming and most of them blocked or ghosted us here.

Pretty sure they either got cold feet or couldn't get away from the Mrs.

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By *eo_72Man  over a year ago

Mansfield

Have been let down a few times in the past. Just prefer people to be honest if something else better pops up

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By *umalotagainMan  over a year ago

a town called malice


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

No idea, people are strange, what I would give for a decent meet from this site, but it seems destined not to be

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By *oxyVikingCouple  over a year ago

East Anglia


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut. "

Absolutely frustrating! I have been stood up twice. Once waiting for an hour for then to text me saying they fell asleep!!! Really?!

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By *hubaysiWoman  over a year ago

Leeds


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut.

No idea, people are strange, what I would give for a decent meet from this site, but it seems destined not to be "

COVID-19 !

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By *hubaysiWoman  over a year ago

Leeds


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut.

Absolutely frustrating! I have been stood up twice. Once waiting for an hour for then to text me saying they fell asleep!!! Really?! "

Least you got a text! I got ignored and ghosted

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By *asualandFeistyCouple  over a year ago

Uxbridge

We've only met in clubs so far. Which is a safe option all around, as there is still fun to be had if they no show.

I think it would be similar if we arranged to meet elsewhere. Just ensure that a no show wouldn't ruin the night.

Probably harder for you singles. As I can always rely on my wifes sparkling company to ensure no night out is wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

That’s awful and so disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Bang out of order and not acceptable if the poor guy had travelled 80 miles

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've had this happen quite a bit.

I've come to the conclusion that I tend to be the backup in case the person they actually want to meet falls through.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I've had this happen quite a bit.

I've come to the conclusion that I tend to be the backup in case the person they actually want to meet falls through. "

Ha I don't even I ever became second best, let alone put first. I just rarely get meets... but when I do, they are pretty good

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Pre-covid times, why do people who want nsa or fwb not show up or ghost when they say they would? Love to hear some genuine reasons for ghosting?

All I want is nsa or ideally FWB but I have better luck getting a hair cut.

Absolutely frustrating! I have been stood up twice. Once waiting for an hour for then to text me saying they fell asleep!!! Really?!

Least you got a text! I got ignored and ghosted "

omg that's a common one for me. had a nap and woke up too late... or lost my phone etc

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Option A: They really liked the idea of meeting but after they had a wank about it and emptied their balls, their brain got back in charge again. They then remembered they have wives/girlfriends etc, or just lost interest. And did not have the balls to tell the person they were supposed to meet they were not interested any more.

Option B: they really wanted to meet, but the whole world was against them on the day of the meet. Their car wouldn't start up; they have just remembered their favourite family member/pet died; they were so excited about the prospect of meeting they couldn't find the car keys/got into accident/could not find the place of the meet; their phone, all of a sudden, would not work or lost all the battery charge, or more likely they couldn't find the phone.

Option C: they genuinely got cold feet and maybe even did make their way to the place of meeting, but they were just too nervous to get through with it.

I don't think any of the options have anything to do with who they were chatting to.

Bet option A the most common on here. So reduce the chances are choose people with good verifications?

(Unfortunately I don't have many meet verifications because I can't seem to get to that stage with men on fab)

Verifications mean nothing ! "

Shame.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Have come to the conclusion that it’s:

- arrange a meet when they are horny, have a pre meet wank , and then just ghost as not horny anymore!

Also

Most used excuse - after a few days when they get horny again is “my phone broke”

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Have come to the conclusion that it’s:

- arrange a meet when they are horny, have a pre meet wank , and then just ghost as not horny anymore!

Also

Most used excuse - after a few days when they get horny again is “my phone broke” "

Are these men got good references from couples?

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By *umalotagainMan  over a year ago

a town called malice


"I've had this happen quite a bit.

I've come to the conclusion that I tend to be the backup in case the person they actually want to meet falls through. "

Well looking at your pictures I would hope to help you are not the backup

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By *sGivesWoodWoman  over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Alas this is fab were fantasists are plenty, pity though as it really messes up us good discreet and reliable guys opportunities. "

No, they mess it up for themselves, no one else.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We got stood up just before Christmas. Sent texts in the morning to say we were looking forward to it, no reply so I started getting suspicious then.

We still turned up at the pub at the agreed time, sent message on fab with no reply forthcoming. Waited an hour but still he didn't show.

Hey ho, the pub was only a couple of miles from here, so we came back and made our own entertainment.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have had numerous guys mess me about & stand me up for club meets and even purely social meets in the past few years.

It gets to the point where it is best to assume they are not going to show up due to the sheer number of timewasters and fantasists on here. Then it is a pleasant surprise when someone actually does turn up, and even more so when they look exactly like their pics!

Don't take it personally. It happens to everyone.

I now have a policy that such guys get insta blocked. They do not get a 2nd chance to waste my time!

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By *entlecaressMan  over a year ago

Wakefield/ Beverley


"Alas this is fab were fantasists are plenty, pity though as it really messes up us good discreet and reliable guys opportunities.

No, they mess it up for themselves, no one else. "

It makes people more hesitant about meeting though which does have a knock on effect to other reliable men.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Alas this is fab were fantasists are plenty, pity though as it really messes up us good discreet and reliable guys opportunities.

No, they mess it up for themselves, no one else.

It makes people more hesitant about meeting though which does have a knock on effect to other reliable men. "

Definitely with me. I get anxious enough about meeting people and then to be let down is really demoralising

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By *AYENCouple  over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We had quite a few let downs to begin with, but to be fair they did let us know. We try to arrange a social quickly after first positive contact, keep messages non-sexual and on fab - seems to be a working formula - hope I haven't jinxed it

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"We had quite a few let downs to begin with, but to be fair they did let us know. We try to arrange a social quickly after first positive contact, keep messages non-sexual and on fab - seems to be a working formula - hope I haven't jinxed it "

so avoid the sexual conversation? Thats like all the messages I receive on fab

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I get sometimes novels of how they want to do xyz

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By *nked_kittenWoman  over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I had a social arranged for tomorrow. I’ve been ghosted by him since yesterday evening. Super annoying

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By *ady23Woman  over a year ago

Coventry


"I had a social arranged for tomorrow. I’ve been ghosted by him since yesterday evening. Super annoying "

We had a fake who disappeared a week before meeting then profile disappeared. Time waster. Frustrating but his loss. Good luck with the next one hun

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman  over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I had a social arranged for tomorrow. I’ve been ghosted by him since yesterday evening. Super annoying

We had a fake who disappeared a week before meeting then profile disappeared. Time waster. Frustrating but his loss. Good luck with the next one hun "

Thank you... definitely their loss as the very few men who i have met tell me what wonderful time they have with me

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By *ady23Woman  over a year ago

Coventry


"I had a social arranged for tomorrow. I’ve been ghosted by him since yesterday evening. Super annoying

We had a fake who disappeared a week before meeting then profile disappeared. Time waster. Frustrating but his loss. Good luck with the next one hun

Thank you... definitely their loss as the very few men who i have met tell me what wonderful time they have with me "

Happy days x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Definitely their loss. I hate to hear people getting let down on here. Don't know why people do that x

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By *iamond coupleCouple  over a year ago

leeds


"I've never been let down by a woman on a meet, so I think the problem has something to do with men...

Men change their minds quicker than I have hot dinners? "

Not just men, we have been let down by couples also.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I know that couples do too. I just don't know why they do it .it's ignorant and disrespectful

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By *nked_kittenWoman  over a year ago

Ankh Morpork


"I had a social arranged for tomorrow. I’ve been ghosted by him since yesterday evening. Super annoying

We had a fake who disappeared a week before meeting then profile disappeared. Time waster. Frustrating but his loss. Good luck with the next one hun "

Thank you! And yea...you obviously didn’t miss much with yours

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