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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
I would love to chat to people who are into this or who understand it and are happy to chat about it. I have some experience but certainly no expert and I love learning from other people's experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chat here for a bit, you'll get a lot of input and varying opinion from all sorts of folks involved until inevitably someone will cross the line and the thread will be deleted. Til then though these threads are normally good |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
First me the psychology of submission is what interests me most although I am interested in it all in terms of what enjoyment people get from the various different elements. I had it with one partner previously, where her desire to submit and please was just a sight to behold. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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"Chat here for a bit, you'll get a lot of input and varying opinion from all sorts of folks involved until inevitably someone will cross the line and the thread will be deleted. Til then though these threads are normally good"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone into BDSM? "
Are you asking for a particular reason? Someone else commented about how it has many different aspects, are you looking at it in general or something specific? I personally enjoy the dominance and submission, the structure and routine of it, and I’m also a masochist so pain is a very big part of it for me. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Anyone into BDSM?
Are you asking for a particular reason? Someone else commented about how it has many different aspects, are you looking at it in general or something specific? I personally enjoy the dominance and submission, the structure and routine of it, and I’m also a masochist so pain is a very big part of it for me. "
I would love to chat about your interests if you are interested...pm me |
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over a year ago
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"Anyone into BDSM?
Are you asking for a particular reason? Someone else commented about how it has many different aspects, are you looking at it in general or something specific? I personally enjoy the dominance and submission, the structure and routine of it, and I’m also a masochist so pain is a very big part of it for me. I would love to chat about your interests if you are interested...pm me "
Happy to talk about them here if you have questions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner."
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with |
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"Anyone into BDSM? "
We live it! We are a dominant couple and find that playing with others in the BDSM space as really fuelling you our own sex lives. We have a hugely broad range of likes so we do not have to dictate the scene (should be mutual anyway), however as a simple rule we will do anything with women, but men are non sexual and pain/humiliation based
We are particularly great with newbies as they tend to be scared of what BDSM might be, and then once we have opened their eyes, the fun really begins! Especially when they are tied up/down, edged for an hour or so, a nice flogging, some forced multiple orgasms, having their head buried in Mistress’s pussy as She is taken from behind.... mmmmm
The challenge we find outside of specialist clubs is finding the sexy women who wish to play! We promise we only bite as much as the recipient enjoys!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I too am interested in all aspects of bdsm but am particularly interested in that fine line between pleasure and pain.
As already mentioned, trust is a massive part of it and it can prove difficult to find the right play partner whether dom or sub.
The issue is too many people have seen 50 shades and think that is true to life |
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"I too am interested in all aspects of bdsm but am particularly interested in that fine line between pleasure and pain.
As already mentioned, trust is a massive part of it and it can prove difficult to find the right play partner whether dom or sub.
The issue is too many people have seen 50 shades and think that is true to life"
Totally agree, 50 Shades has a great deal to answer for!
We find it scary how many young submissive Women we have spoken too and they tell us about their last dominant and all the things he did. More often than not we feel these women have just been abused by men that have just tried to give legitimacy to their actions by calling themselves doms
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I too am interested in all aspects of bdsm but am particularly interested in that fine line between pleasure and pain.
As already mentioned, trust is a massive part of it and it can prove difficult to find the right play partner whether dom or sub.
The issue is too many people have seen 50 shades and think that is true to life
Totally agree, 50 Shades has a great deal to answer for!
We find it scary how many young submissive Women we have spoken too and they tell us about their last dominant and all the things he did. More often than not we feel these women have just been abused by men that have just tried to give legitimacy to their actions by calling themselves doms
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I guess you get them too but some of the messages I get here are shocking! I’ve had to call almost every single one out for their abuse and that’s just talking! I hate to think where I’d land up had I agreed to meet to quickly! |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Anyone into BDSM?
Are you asking for a particular reason? Someone else commented about how it has many different aspects, are you looking at it in general or something specific? I personally enjoy the dominance and submission, the structure and routine of it, and I’m also a masochist so pain is a very big part of it for me. I would love to chat about your interests if you are interested...pm me
Happy to talk about them here if you have questions? "
Sure how did you first realise pain was something that was a turn on? Did it take time to get used to it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone into BDSM?
Are you asking for a particular reason? Someone else commented about how it has many different aspects, are you looking at it in general or something specific? I personally enjoy the dominance and submission, the structure and routine of it, and I’m also a masochist so pain is a very big part of it for me. I would love to chat about your interests if you are interested...pm me
Happy to talk about them here if you have questions? Sure how did you first realise pain was something that was a turn on? Did it take time to get used to it? "
I had played with a bit of light spanking years ago when I was married but two years ago I met a Dominant couple and I was their sub for a short while. They used each impact toy on me and I literally felt the stress leave my body,and my mind empty so that’s how I knew it was something that I needed |
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"I too am interested in all aspects of bdsm but am particularly interested in that fine line between pleasure and pain.
As already mentioned, trust is a massive part of it and it can prove difficult to find the right play partner whether dom or sub.
The issue is too many people have seen 50 shades and think that is true to life
Totally agree, 50 Shades has a great deal to answer for!
We find it scary how many young submissive Women we have spoken too and they tell us about their last dominant and all the things he did. More often than not we feel these women have just been abused by men that have just tried to give legitimacy to their actions by calling themselves doms
I guess you get them too but some of the messages I get here are shocking! I’ve had to call almost every single one out for their abuse and that’s just talking! I hate to think where I’d land up had I agreed to meet to quickly! "
Sir ended up going to the Police with a girl once. Simply to do the right thing by her
We find it quite difficult in places like this to find women that we would like to play with, that would like to play with us. The reality is that is is the bad Dom’s out there which unfortunately create a bad name
Although we know that we are the best people we can be, and those we do play with are safe and have fun.
So at least we can sleep at night, or not as the case may be ?? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with "
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue! "
Ha ha, that made me smile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue! "
What if the answer is, which bag? |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Anyone into BDSM?
Are you asking for a particular reason? Someone else commented about how it has many different aspects, are you looking at it in general or something specific? I personally enjoy the dominance and submission, the structure and routine of it, and I’m also a masochist so pain is a very big part of it for me. I would love to chat about your interests if you are interested...pm me
Happy to talk about them here if you have questions? Sure how did you first realise pain was something that was a turn on? Did it take time to get used to it?
I had played with a bit of light spanking years ago when I was married but two years ago I met a Dominant couple and I was their sub for a short while. They used each impact toy on me and I literally felt the stress leave my body,and my mind empty so that’s how I knew it was something that I needed"
That's such a powerful thing to hear and see. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
What if the answer is, which bag? "
Depends on the type of meet. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
What if the answer is, which bag? "
I would then ask them for details and what their understanding of it was, if it goes against mine, I would just say we're not compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I too am interested in all aspects of bdsm but am particularly interested in that fine line between pleasure and pain.
As already mentioned, trust is a massive part of it and it can prove difficult to find the right play partner whether dom or sub.
The issue is too many people have seen 50 shades and think that is true to life
Totally agree, 50 Shades has a great deal to answer for!
We find it scary how many young submissive Women we have spoken too and they tell us about their last dominant and all the things he did. More often than not we feel these women have just been abused by men that have just tried to give legitimacy to their actions by calling themselves doms
I guess you get them too but some of the messages I get here are shocking! I’ve had to call almost every single one out for their abuse and that’s just talking! I hate to think where I’d land up had I agreed to meet to quickly!
Sir ended up going to the Police with a girl once. Simply to do the right thing by her
We find it quite difficult in places like this to find women that we would like to play with, that would like to play with us. The reality is that is is the bad Dom’s out there which unfortunately create a bad name
Although we know that we are the best people we can be, and those we do play with are safe and have fun.
So at least we can sleep at night, or not as the case may be ?? "
Thank fully I like to think my head is screwed on, I ask a lot of questions and they usually trip up only a few messages in. It’s disheartening at times but I’d rather wait and find the right Dom. If you’d be willing I’d love to add you as friends purely for the common interests if you’d be happy to talk with me if I have questions in the future, I also fully understand if it’s a no. I don’t like to send a random request. It’s hard keeping up in the forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue! "
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back "
Can I ask what has been a punishment in the past? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back "
That is why I took all notability off my profile!
I was fed up with the wannabe's who had no idea and why I no longer have any interests noted, I just can't be arsed it any more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back Can I ask what has been a punishment in the past? "
They would refuse Impact play and sometimes I’d have no contact for a short while. But that’s a hard limit with me. I also rarely disobey Or fail my tasks so I haven’t had much in the way of punishment So far |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back Can I ask what has been a punishment in the past?
They would refuse Impact play and sometimes I’d have no contact for a short while. But that’s a hard limit with me. I also rarely disobey Or fail my tasks so I haven’t had much in the way of punishment So far "
Thanks for sharing. Have some tasks set at the moment or what tasks have you been set in the past? Any that really challenged you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
What if the answer is, which bag?
I would then ask them for details and what their understanding of it was, if it goes against mine, I would just say we're not compatible."
Well the grab bag has door restraints, heavy duty elastics, clamps, paddles, floggera and a tazapper along with some rope. The big bag has similar along with some dress-up clothing, needles, violet wand, butt plugs and other wands, restraints and rope. The cupboard has a spanking bench, sticks, versa horse, a St Andrews Cross, one bar prison and a bull whip. And I can't remember what else is under the bed 
Kinda take your pick  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
What if the answer is, which bag?
I would then ask them for details and what their understanding of it was, if it goes against mine, I would just say we're not compatible.
Well the grab bag has door restraints, heavy duty elastics, clamps, paddles, floggera and a tazapper along with some rope. The big bag has similar along with some dress-up clothing, needles, violet wand, butt plugs and other wands, restraints and rope. The cupboard has a spanking bench, sticks, versa horse, a St Andrews Cross, one bar prison and a bull whip. And I can't remember what else is under the bed
Kinda take your pick "
I wasn't actually asking for your itinerary  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back Can I ask what has been a punishment in the past?
They would refuse Impact play and sometimes I’d have no contact for a short while. But that’s a hard limit with me. I also rarely disobey Or fail my tasks so I haven’t had much in the way of punishment So far Thanks for sharing. Have some tasks set at the moment or what tasks have you been set in the past? Any that really challenged you? "
I’m currently unowned so no tasks at the moment. My previous Dom would have me wear no knickers while I wasn’t with them and doing my general day to day things, kids, work etc and send pictures on request throughout the day (so long as it didn’t interfere with my commitments) I would have to do short videos describing my fantasies to them and I’d be requested to dress in certain ways while I was with them. Unfortunately it all ended before we could really push me out of my comfort zone too much so I’ve just spent the last two years reading and learning more about myself and the type of submissive I am. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back Can I ask what has been a punishment in the past?
They would refuse Impact play and sometimes I’d have no contact for a short while. But that’s a hard limit with me. I also rarely disobey Or fail my tasks so I haven’t had much in the way of punishment So far Thanks for sharing. Have some tasks set at the moment or what tasks have you been set in the past? Any that really challenged you?
I’m currently unowned so no tasks at the moment. My previous Dom would have me wear no knickers while I wasn’t with them and doing my general day to day things, kids, work etc and send pictures on request throughout the day (so long as it didn’t interfere with my commitments) I would have to do short videos describing my fantasies to them and I’d be requested to dress in certain ways while I was with them. Unfortunately it all ended before we could really push me out of my comfort zone too much so I’ve just spent the last two years reading and learning more about myself and the type of submissive I am. "
Sounds quite like what I had been doing with my fb. Thanks again for sharing. |
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back Can I ask what has been a punishment in the past?
They would refuse Impact play and sometimes I’d have no contact for a short while. But that’s a hard limit with me. I also rarely disobey Or fail my tasks so I haven’t had much in the way of punishment So far Thanks for sharing. Have some tasks set at the moment or what tasks have you been set in the past? Any that really challenged you?
I’m currently unowned so no tasks at the moment. My previous Dom would have me wear no knickers while I wasn’t with them and doing my general day to day things, kids, work etc and send pictures on request throughout the day (so long as it didn’t interfere with my commitments) I would have to do short videos describing my fantasies to them and I’d be requested to dress in certain ways while I was with them. Unfortunately it all ended before we could really push me out of my comfort zone too much so I’ve just spent the last two years reading and learning more about myself and the type of submissive I am. Sounds quite like what I had been doing with my fb. Thanks again for sharing. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a submissive but I'm not a sub slut, I also won't be punished or degraded and physical violence is a big no.
I'll do anything to physically please you, it's about pleasure for me, not pain.
Bondage, haven't done it for a while, don't trust anyone enough to do it with at the moment. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back "
You space? |
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
I’ve made it relatively clear on my profile what I’m looking for and definitely find a few messages in they are clueless. It’s when they pounce in with ‘illSpank you for doing that’ And you have to point out that it’s not a punishment for me... they get so confused and just go on and on, although I get a slight kick when they are grasping at straws to win you back
You space?"
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue! "
Is that where I've heard the term "Dim Dom" used? |
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I know a number of decent sadists that don't have toy bags and don't need them one can turn your pair of tights into a straight jacket 
Never underestimate the hands 
Having toys and experiences really means nothing. Each dynamic and experience is a learning curve and it's the journey that's exciting
I've got suitcases of jute, hemp, hempex, coconut rope, some synthetics with safety pins in, cable ties, vet wrap and every type of safety sheer I am able to purchase but I ain't going to use any of it until I know you really really well.
I've also got other suitcases but I have absolutely no experience in wielding the 'toys' in them. I buy things driven by my passion but also my heart. It doesn't mean I'm safe to use it though. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"I was only interested in the D&S side of it, but it is highly dependent on your partner.
Massively agree, I forgot to add the bondage in my previous post, but I’d have to have a very high level of trust to allow someone to hurt me and tie me up. I would prefer a full D/s relationship one day but if I’m just playing it will only by small amounts of submission till I trust the person I’m with
Exactly! You do not give total trust to someone and then allow them to tie you up! You need to build total trust and that can only come by taking small steps.
If anyone asks me what I am into I never mention it unless they do, then I ask them what they have in their toy bag, when they then say nothing, I then know they haven't got a clue!
Is that where I've heard the term "Dim Dom" used? "
Someone I semi knew called them Con-Dom. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"I'm a submissive but I'm not a sub slut, I also won't be punished or degraded and physical violence is a big no.
I'll do anything to physically please you, it's about pleasure for me, not pain.
Bondage, haven't done it for a while, don't trust anyone enough to do it with at the moment. "
That's how I have played so far but with some punishment included. I do realise I have a lot to learn but as someone pointed out each sub n dom are different and it's a learning curve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I too am interested in all aspects of bdsm but am particularly interested in that fine line between pleasure and pain.
As already mentioned, trust is a massive part of it and it can prove difficult to find the right play partner whether dom or sub.
The issue is too many people have seen 50 shades and think that is true to life
Totally agree, 50 Shades has a great deal to answer for!
We find it scary how many young submissive Women we have spoken too and they tell us about their last dominant and all the things he did. More often than not we feel these women have just been abused by men that have just tried to give legitimacy to their actions by calling themselves doms
I guess you get them too but some of the messages I get here are shocking! I’ve had to call almost every single one out for their abuse and that’s just talking! I hate to think where I’d land up had I agreed to meet to quickly!
Sir ended up going to the Police with a girl once. Simply to do the right thing by her
We find it quite difficult in places like this to find women that we would like to play with, that would like to play with us. The reality is that is is the bad Dom’s out there which unfortunately create a bad name
Although we know that we are the best people we can be, and those we do play with are safe and have fun.
So at least we can sleep at night, or not as the case may be ??
Thank fully I like to think my head is screwed on, I ask a lot of questions and they usually trip up only a few messages in. It’s disheartening at times but I’d rather wait and find the right Dom. If you’d be willing I’d love to add you as friends purely for the common interests if you’d be happy to talk with me if I have questions in the future, I also fully understand if it’s a no. I don’t like to send a random request. It’s hard keeping up in the forum "
Quite happy to be added as a friend but I'm outside your age criteria so can't reply privately or invite you as a friend
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It’s an aspect of play I’m very interested in x
Which aspect? The B&D, D/s, or the S&M? "
I’m into D/s and giving corporal punishment- I like the mental control I find BDSM v intelligent and that turns me on hugely. I like professional women who are assertive in their job but in the bedroom love being subservient. Trust brings sexual liberation and freedom, plus amazing orgasms and sex. |
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Yes yes yes .. if someone can explain to me what BDSM is .. I already know it’s a Acronym and covers many facets .. To tell the truth I hate the acronym . I get it it’s a way to group a certain set of kinks together as one , for a reason of ( ?) .. belonging..
My personnel feeling is that the Term BDSM is divisive , it’s continued use has created a them and us , format , for want of i better word ,
A few years ago I agreed to an act with a lady so gross it is considered taboo , After an intense session which involved a great of persuasion to complete , the said lady during the chill out period asked me and I quote ,, “ is that BDSM then ? “ ..
“ I have no idea love ,” I replied , “ but I feel a bit sick , I think I need the bathroom “
Point is does anyone know what BDSM is anymore ? I only found out what Demisexual is on Sunday gone ..
I don’t mean to sound pretentious , but I’m not a fan , after a lifetime of kink , finding myself now pigeon holed into a tidy box as such ..
And yeah I know .. it’s for me to get over |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
"Yes yes yes .. if someone can explain to me what BDSM is .. I already know it’s a Acronym and covers many facets .. To tell the truth I hate the acronym . I get it it’s a way to group a certain set of kinks together as one , for a reason of ( ?) .. belonging..
My personnel feeling is that the Term BDSM is divisive , it’s continued use has created a them and us , format , for want of i better word ,
A few years ago I agreed to an act with a lady so gross it is considered taboo , After an intense session which involved a great of persuasion to complete , the said lady during the chill out period asked me and I quote ,, “ is that BDSM then ? “ ..
“ I have no idea love ,” I replied , “ but I feel a bit sick , I think I need the bathroom “
Point is does anyone know what BDSM is anymore ? I only found out what Demisexual is on Sunday gone ..
I don’t mean to sound pretentious , but I’m not a fan , after a lifetime of kink , finding myself now pigeon holed into a tidy box as such ..
And yeah I know .. it’s for me to get over "
I think people in the scene broadly know what BDSM is, but similar to most terms everyone understands them slightly differently.
However these days BDSM is an inclusive term noone tells someone else the right way to do BDSM (except with consent and without abuse).
Therefore the term is used in a fluid manner to cover those who perceive themselves as being into BDSM but may not practice the core aspects in the initials.
Everyone is entitled to do their game and call it what they want.
Kink includes BDSM but BDSM does not include all kinks.
So noone's pigeon holed other than by themselves. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Yes yes yes .. if someone can explain to me what BDSM is .. I already know it’s a Acronym and covers many facets .. To tell the truth I hate the acronym . I get it it’s a way to group a certain set of kinks together as one , for a reason of ( ?) .. belonging..
My personnel feeling is that the Term BDSM is divisive , it’s continued use has created a them and us , format , for want of i better word ,
A few years ago I agreed to an act with a lady so gross it is considered taboo , After an intense session which involved a great of persuasion to complete , the said lady during the chill out period asked me and I quote ,, “ is that BDSM then ? “ ..
“ I have no idea love ,” I replied , “ but I feel a bit sick , I think I need the bathroom “
Point is does anyone know what BDSM is anymore ? I only found out what Demisexual is on Sunday gone ..
I don’t mean to sound pretentious , but I’m not a fan , after a lifetime of kink , finding myself now pigeon holed into a tidy box as such ..
And yeah I know .. it’s for me to get over
I think people in the scene broadly know what BDSM is, but similar to most terms everyone understands them slightly differently.
However these days BDSM is an inclusive term noone tells someone else the right way to do BDSM (except with consent and without abuse).
Therefore the term is used in a fluid manner to cover those who perceive themselves as being into BDSM but may not practice the core aspects in the initials.
Everyone is entitled to do their game and call it what they want.
Kink includes BDSM but BDSM does not include all kinks.
So noone's pigeon holed other than by themselves."
Or the old school. |
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By *ittoneWoman
over a year ago
hartlepool |
"Anyone into BDSM? "
love it, the feeling of complete submission and trust is such a turn on.
I'm v much a sub, but can be a bit bratty. 
The feeling I get by pleasing my dom is amazing, on the look out for a new one. |
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"Anyone into BDSM? "
I would say I am an enthusiast and expert amateur. Love role play and kink play focused around what my playmate enjoys or wants to try.
Was never any god at scouts so no professional knots, though |
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