Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them? |
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over a year ago
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Nope! It annoys the hell out of me actually. I usually respond with “hi” back (when I’m in the mood to do so) and if they respond with “how’re you?” I’m done!  |
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"Nope! It annoys the hell out of me actually. I usually respond with “hi” back (when I’m in the mood to do so) and if they respond with “how’re you?” I’m done! "
I tried it afew times to prove myself wrong... yes it goes nowhere fast. "have you been on here long?“.... I'm thinking is that all I'm worth?  |
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over a year ago
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"Nope! It annoys the hell out of me actually. I usually respond with “hi” back (when I’m in the mood to do so) and if they respond with “how’re you?” I’m done!
I tried it afew times to prove myself wrong... yes it goes nowhere fast. "have you been on here long?“.... I'm thinking is that all I'm worth? "
Yeah, I get it! If there is no chat then there is no connection and the whole process becomes tedious.
Still prefer “Hi” to the “I’m in the area, want to fuck me in my work van” messaged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope! It annoys the hell out of me actually. I usually respond with “hi” back (when I’m in the mood to do so) and if they respond with “how’re you?” I’m done!
I tried it afew times to prove myself wrong... yes it goes nowhere fast. "have you been on here long?“.... I'm thinking is that all I'm worth?
Yeah, I get it! If there is no chat then there is no connection and the whole process becomes tedious.
Still prefer “Hi” to the “I’m in the area, want to fuck me in my work van” messaged "
At least they’re not asking if you want to come see some puppies...
Sorry couldn’t help it. It’s all I could think of when you mentioned work van lol |
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I'm sure this is the sort of effortless message some guys use when the complain on the forum about not being able to start up conversations.
We've only ever deleted messages like these.
No effort in = no effort in response. |
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By *erdyWoman
over a year ago
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?"
Totally with you |
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Something that shows a bit of personality and a bit of effort.
Showing that they have read our profile and not just gone for a scattergun or cut 'n paste approach.
We are not asking for "War & Peace" , (everyone is busy) , but just something that piques our interest and hooks us in to finding out more.
"Hi"
"How ru finding fab?"
"Fancy meeting?"
"Sexy!"
Etc
Just doesn't do it for us... And nor would it in the real world. |
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I think, as a general rule of thumb, you aren’t going to get very far on this site with just with small talk.
You’ve got to ask at least a couple of questions that are thought provoking or give someone something to go off.
I’ve never understand people that give nothing back though, you write a decent opener and they give you one word answers.
I find sometimes, the people who say they want the effort putting are not willing to give anything back.
But if I keep trying and continue to get the bare minimum back, I’ll just stop. |
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?"
I hate it when all these gorgeous women message and just say "hi". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, what message would you like ?"
This kind of hits the nail on the head.
I probably do messaging wrong I prefer to try and treat them as conversation rather than talking at someone so starting off a conversation with “Hi, how’s it going?” Seems perfectly reasonable to me mainly because it’s either that or “do you wanna fuck?” Which has always seemed a bit weird to me. I don’t know what the 3rd option is which seems to be what people want “The 3rd way” |
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"Nope! It annoys the hell out of me actually. I usually respond with “hi” back (when I’m in the mood to do so) and if they respond with “how’re you?” I’m done! "
My tactics too. Having to reply to 20-30 of these messages daily bores the hell out of me. |
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?"
We like a guy or couple to put some effort in when sending us a message ...Hi just dont cut it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get, "can I suck your cock?" As an opener from men.
I've got a special part on my profile just for them...that didn't work so they are all blocked now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get, "can I suck your cock?" As an opener from men.
I've got a special part on my profile just for them...that didn't work so they are all blocked now."
I get this a lot too. Just say “no thank you” and move on. It’s nice to know someone wants to suck my cock |
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"I think, as a general rule of thumb, you aren’t going to get very far on this site with just with small talk.
You’ve got to ask at least a couple of questions that are thought provoking or give someone something to go off.
I’ve never understand people that give nothing back though, you write a decent opener and they give you one word answers.
I find sometimes, the people who say they want the effort putting are not willing to give anything back.
But if I keep trying and continue to get the bare minimum back, I’ll just stop. "
Please bare this in mind from someone who gets alot of messages, usually i quickly read messages during the day as I find it too overwhelming reading tons at night, if i like them i say afew words back to acknowledge them, only if i have time or i reply before i go to sleep as i the time to so. So short messages never meet I'm not interested etc. but i never just say hi. i usually ask a question about their profile. |
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"I get, "can I suck your cock?" As an opener from men.
I've got a special part on my profile just for them...that didn't work so they are all blocked now.
I get this a lot too. Just say “no thank you” and move on. It’s nice to know someone wants to suck my cock "
Trust me, from a womans point of view, saying no thanks opens up so much abuse. I given up replying with that as I don't fancy reading abuse. I ignore then block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?"
sometimes its tricky to gauge . I mean ,how do you begin a conversation with someone you have never met or know very very little about? |
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"I get, "can I suck your cock?" As an opener from men.
I've got a special part on my profile just for them...that didn't work so they are all blocked now."
must be annoying when you're straight. I know my gay friends relish sucking a straight man's dick so they definitely chancers |
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?sometimes its tricky to gauge . I mean ,how do you begin a conversation with someone you have never met or know very very little about?"
ask questions or give them a compliment based on their profile. i didn't spend hours creating my profile just to get a "hi" or you got more photos... sorry it's a definite gripe of mine  |
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?
I hate it when all these gorgeous women message and just say "hi". "
Intrigued, how do you make a conversation out of it? Any tips? Because I would like to discriminate and humour the small talking women but them being gorgeous does not make it any less boring! (Quite a lot of the small talking men are drop dead gorge also) |
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?
I hate it when all these gorgeous women message and just say "hi".
Intrigued, how do you make a conversation out of it? Any tips? Because I would like to discriminate and humour the small talking women but them being gorgeous does not make it any less boring! (Quite a lot of the small talking men are drop dead gorge also)"
You should message one of them for a little Tuesday morning small talk....  |
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"Nope! It annoys the hell out of me actually. I usually respond with “hi” back (when I’m in the mood to do so) and if they respond with “how’re you?” I’m done! "
This is us! If bored we play them at their own game, one word answers ... If not we just delete the message ... Our profile makes it clear that stimulating chat is really important, so 'hi' doesn't quite make the grade |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?"
Out of interest what’s your preferred opening line as everyone is different. |
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"Do people really think they get far as an introduction conversation by just saying "Hi"?
Anyone had these kind of conversations and it got somewhere fun and meaningful or is it just me that's totally turned off by them?sometimes its tricky to gauge . I mean ,how do you begin a conversation with someone you have never met or know very very little about?
ask questions or give them a compliment based on their profile. i didn't spend hours creating my profile just to get a "hi" or you got more photos... sorry it's a definite gripe of mine "
I can see where Vinny is coming from with this, tbh. While I'd agree that a one word "Hi" is a pretty lame way to start a conversation and I would certainly expect to be ignored if that was my witty icebreaker, a conversation has to start somewhere. Even a better written opening message is still, when it boils down to it, a more articulate "Hello."
The small talk and chit-chat are crucial to getting to know someone, and you need to open a line of communication in order for that small talk to commence. |
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