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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very few it seems. It’s almost comical when the first message asks something the is clearly opposite to something you’ve mentioned in your very first line or status |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Very few it seems. It’s almost comical when the first message asks something the is clearly opposite to something you’ve mentioned in your very first line or status "
We get it a lot. Sometimes amusing I must admit... I had one today saying “Your Mrs needs my 9 inches inside her” firstly, I am the Mrs... secondly .. I really don’t... and thirdly.. On what planet does this line actually ever work?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We always read profiles but so many people don't.
We have single guys messaging us then they get arsey when we say we don't meet single guys. Our profile clearly states we don't."
Same! Xx |
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
Maybe they should make it like those Ts and Cs scroll boxes that before you can send a message.... You have to scroll to the bottom of the profile..?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing I find funniest is the “scattergun” approach. When people blatantly use a standard cut and paste message that they send out, completely forgetting who they’ve sent it to already. The amount of identical messages I get from the same men week on week is hilarious. It’s the whole spam email effect “if I send to enough people someone must surely reply” |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..)
Maybe they should make it like those Ts and Cs scroll boxes that before you can send a message.... You have to scroll to the bottom of the profile..?
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not a bad idea. Not sure it would make a massive difference though? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The thing I find funniest is the “scattergun” approach. When people blatantly use a standard cut and paste message that they send out, completely forgetting who they’ve sent it to already. The amount of identical messages I get from the same men week on week is hilarious. It’s the whole spam email effect “if I send to enough people someone must surely reply” "
Haha lots of chancers. We’re always polite but Jesus... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get it thoughh. Just looked at your profile. I know you said you're aware that you can block guys, but why don't you if you've said you're not interested in them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
Yes people read profiles,as you have confirmed yourself.
A better question would be,why do some totally ignore what is said in a profile?
I think the answer is,THEY don't care.
Doesn't matter what you write,fab is all about THEM and what THEY want  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't get it thoughh. Just looked at your profile. I know you said you're aware that you can block guys, but why don't you if you've said you're not interested in them?"
Because we have clarified this on our profile... and we’re not writing that option off. Just not yet xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..)
Yes people read profiles,as you have confirmed yourself.
A better question would be,why do some totally ignore what is said in a profile?
I think the answer is,THEY don't care.
Doesn't matter what you write,fab is all about THEM and what THEY want "
good point. Maybe not the best worded but I knew what I meant xx |
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
No, a lot don't or wont read (or just do not care). No matter what you write, there is always going to be those who just message regardless. It's not about what you're looking for, it's about what they want.
It's not just the single guys either (though they are statistically the worst offenders if only due to the sheer number of accounts). We've had all sorts of messages counter to what we want. The worst though are when we posted meet requests (back when we could..anyone remember those days?). You ask for a social meet in the evening to see where things go but someone would always message can you come round at 2 am and get down to business?
Site has it's share of chancer's and always will.
Just use the message filters. It makes fab simpler but even then, it only goes so far.
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By *J11Couple
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
We find that loads of people don’t read profiles, so we’ve changed ours several times to make it easier and easier but it made no difference unfortunately. |
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..)
We find that loads of people don’t read profiles, so we’ve changed ours several times to make it easier and easier but it made no difference unfortunately. "
Yeah that's pretty clear cut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like to say that men go TIT BLIND when attempting to read a profile as it they look at your pictures and then it’s fuck it message sent blah blah blah.
A profile is the window into the sexual soul and should be there to help not hinder but so many men can’t or won’t grasp that simple fact!!!
But hey that’s the beauty of fab I suppose.
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"We like to say that men go TIT BLIND when attempting to read a profile as it they look at your pictures and then it’s fuck it message sent blah blah blah.
A profile is the window into the sexual soul and should be there to help not hinder but so many men can’t or won’t grasp that simple fact!!!
But hey that’s the beauty of fab I suppose.
T"
Tell Carol to stop having such lovely Tits then. Us blokes are not good at multi tasking and so easily distracted (apparently).
But yes, all joking aside (not about the tits...they are quite lovely), you're not wrong. For a lot of individuals it's pictures first...and that is as far as it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
Oh we get the same or it’s just a dick picture and the good old “fancy a fuck” or “how’s it going fit you are” like they forget it’s a cpls profile |
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..)
Oh we get the same or it’s just a dick picture and the good old “fancy a fuck” or “how’s it going fit you are” like they forget it’s a cpls profile "
To be fair, we all fancy a fuck. It's why we are all here after all.
But there are ways and means and some people don't respect that...hence this thread. |
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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago
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Unfortunately far too many (mostly men) dont read profiles, ours clearly says twice in capital letters that we are not looking for single males but the amount we get just simply saying 'want to fuck' is unbelievable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im afraid i do from top to bottom however this still doesn't generate a reply. I am guessing they get inundated etc but dont hold grudges, what will be will be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!! I do also
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get this a lot on my profile. Tried to make the write up clear and easy well the top bit anyway.
I find most don't read profiles. I get requests of females who say they will "turn me" when i clearly state i'm straight and females are for my other half. Guys are for me.
or messages from people outside of the guy age range thinking because they have a missus in the range they will get lucky
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"Very few it seems. It’s almost comical when the first message asks something the is clearly opposite to something you’ve mentioned in your very first line or status
We get it a lot. Sometimes amusing I must admit... I had one today saying “Your Mrs needs my 9 inches inside her” firstly, I am the Mrs... secondly .. I really don’t... and thirdly.. On what planet does this line actually ever work?! "
We get messages like this everyday. And always get offered Dom's, they get get blocked. |
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
Tried taking all my pics down thinking if i give them nothing to look ay they would read my profile,but no they still didnt read it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems worse at the moment too, but we think it's because most sensible people are not actively looking for meets right so they're not really messaging anyone and have put things on hold or have got a few interests who they can't meet right now.
The horny few who just want wank chat or those will try their luck for a meet with *anyone* along with people using the scattergun approach are not put off by the current situation and so keep trying and filling your inbox with drivel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some do to be fair but lots don’t, it’s the want to meet now messages that irritate the most for us as our profile clearly states we don’t meet instantly. Also the ones who are way out of our age range but think we will change just for them.
To the people who do read profiles and write personalised messages, please keep it up as it’s appreciated  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do and if I message and get a negative reply, I just thank the couple or lady for reading the message and for sending an honest reply. Some just need to understand that not everyone is another person cup of tea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do but clearly most people don’t especially single men. Like yourselves we keep our options open but certainly not to those who ignore our status etc.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..) "
We do but there seems to be a huge amount of people that don’t  |
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The amount of times we get sent random friends requests from single straight guys is ridiculous. I'll look at our "fabbed pics" and find that 99% of the time it's some horny dude who has gone through all our public pics fabbing them then hits "add friend" in a frenzy hoping to see more  . Instead they get blocked.
Completely sympathise as it is frustrating!! xx
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Some people do. Others dont or as someone said above they do but disregard whats in it. We have had couples and were not looking for couples and weve had fellas with their meet now or asking me to meet them alone when its stated in our profile that we dont do any of those things. On my bad days i will admit to being a bit snarky with people like that but most of the time i just delete the message |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. We used to have quite a long profile with our likes and preferences etc. We shortened it and people still don’t read it.
I always read profiles, it gives you an insight into the person/couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yours doesn't have much on it so I'm surprised people are struggling to read it.
With guys, some will read and ignore what you've said and carry on regardless. That's their arrogance, ignorance or just taking a chance in a desperate attempt hoping you'll change your mind.
Whatever way you look at it, just block them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get mailed by couples fairly often and tbh, they have obv not read my profile and they are as bad at taking the huff when rejected.
If it bothers people so much then block the ones you've no interest in and as has been said, yes, you may not want to completely write off single guys, but block anyway and you go looking when you want that dynamic.
If I get overwhelmed I block mail from all and do the searching myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very few it seems. It’s almost comical when the first message asks something the is clearly opposite to something you’ve mentioned in your very first line or status
We get it a lot. Sometimes amusing I must admit... I had one today saying “Your Mrs needs my 9 inches inside her” firstly, I am the Mrs... secondly .. I really don’t... and thirdly.. On what planet does this line actually ever work?! "
Well when you're craving for a subway sandwich and someone is offering theirs as a gift... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Constantly getting messages from guys, some surprisingly polite.. who always get a nice polite response back. But others that are written by what can only be described as rude bellends!
Our profile is pretty clear - do people read them?! We do!!
(We know we can turn off guys messaging btw..)
We do but there seems to be a huge amount of people that don’t "
Read the profile, sent a relevant message. Enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always do, if they're not looking for guys I never message, if I dont have what they are looking for be that body type, no beard or penis size I wont message.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing I find funniest is the “scattergun” approach. When people blatantly use a standard cut and paste message that they send out, completely forgetting who they’ve sent it to already. The amount of identical messages I get from the same men week on week is hilarious. It’s the whole spam email effect “if I send to enough people someone must surely reply” "
This annoys the life out of us and because they aren't site supporters they don't see their previous messages were they sent the exact thing out over and over.
I think fab should employ cut and paste detecting software then this wouldn't happen. Other sites use it |
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"Don’t think anyone reads ours but it’s long lol"
It is long, but it's broken up into bullet points which makes it fairly easy to process.
If people can't be bothered reading it, then they are obviously not right for you so do they bother?
I personally don't think the site design helps.
The profile text is dropped right to the bottom of the page and so prioritises everything else over it.
It really needs to be shifted further up and the contact buttons need to drop to the bottom.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Every single time, but as a single guy that used to be part of a couple on here I know the power of a well crated message that's tailored to the recipient. |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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Judging by some of the messages we get, they have clearly not read the profile, and do not understand the dynamics of what we're after.
Guys messaging saying they would "bang the wife" and make Hubby watch etc clearly have not read it.
Also, this one isn't just exclusively to guys, if they'd read the rules on our page they'd also know that sending "hey" as the full extent of their message is pointless and they shouldn't have wasted their time.
We even had one today that simply read "I have a fantasy". Congratulations, you're in the right place, we all do... That's why we're on fab.
Mini rant over.   |
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The short answer to the question is very few do. It's always clear to us when they haven't bothered so tend to just delete them without even bothering to look at the profile. Some do and will always try to reply to nice messages even if not interested in meeting as it's always nice to receive compliments and hold a decent conversation. It's so sad that most single guys seem to have forgotten the art of communication and just think with there dicks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The short answer to the question is very few do. It's always clear to us when they haven't bothered so tend to just delete them without even bothering to look at the profile. Some do and will always try to reply to nice messages even if not interested in meeting as it's always nice to receive compliments and hold a decent conversation. It's so sad that most single guys seem to have forgotten the art of communication and just think with there dicks. "
Agree completely... I also find it's the ones that send generic messages that also have a sense of entitlement that their messages should be responded too, like I've nothing better to do... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who’s profile did we send this message to this morning? Prize goes to the first person to find it (by reading the profiles haha)
Small print: There may be no prize.
Hi, we’re Nobby & Nora, two keen cyclists (hence all the flouro & lycra shorts in our pics) and when we’re not on the bikes we love nothing more than to hang around on pavements waiting for unsuspecting (but far from innocent) drivers to leave their vehicles long enough slap a ticket on it. We love nothing more than to hand someone a fine for slightly parking on the line in parking bays, actually a little wet writing this. Anyways cant stop, off for a ride (side by side in the middle of the road of course).
Cheers! xx
P.S, there may be some bending of the truth in this communique. |
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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago
village life, closest main town inverness |
"I get loads of messages asking, what are you into ?
So I reply it’s on my profile.
It’s still worth writing one though as the best meets I’ve had are with people who have read my profile. "
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Yes, hate the... "what you into"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The ones that don't read our profile are easy, delete and block. The ones that do fall into 2 halves. One half is polite individual messages, if its interesting they may even get a reply or conversation. What really irritates are the ones that question our relationship. We are excactly what it says on the tin!
Rant over lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The ones that don't read our profile are easy, delete and block. The ones that do fall into 2 halves. One half is polite individual messages, if its interesting they may even get a reply or conversation. What really irritates are the ones that question our relationship. We are excactly what it says on the tin!
Rant over lol"
So you guys are together? that was a joke btw
Some do read ours, we read all before we'd consider messaging,seems like that would be the sensible thing to do |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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No, the majority don't read them. Recently, as an experiment, I changed mine to a load of total nonsense and with various quite specific/niche requirements etc, most people that messaged clearly hadn't even looked at it.
So I've reached the conclusion that my profile could say just about anything & it would make very little difference. |
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