So today my beautiful 24yr daughter informed me that since splitting with her boyfriend of 2yrs she has joined a dating site and enjoying casual sex with a few men. I was actually quite amused although did tell her to always use condoms. Would you have been happy or shocked?. |
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"So today my beautiful 24yr daughter informed me that since splitting with her boyfriend of 2yrs she has joined a dating site and enjoying casual sex with a few men. I was actually quite amused although did tell her to always use condoms. Would you have been happy or shocked?."
At least you gave her some solid and sensible advice. Glad to hear that |
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Well it makes me happy, so. I'd also be happy if my children were comfortable enough to talk to me about it! (In broad strokes, mind)
You sound like a good mum. |
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"I’d be sad if my son split with his girlfriend, they seem to be soulmates."
I was sad when she split with her boyfriend but did not want her to marry the first boyfriend she had. They enjoyed special times together but drifted apart. He has since got engaged to somebody else. |
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"As long as they are safe both with protection & with meeting it wouldn't bother me. Its not my life to live "
I just want her to be happy and live a little before she settles down. And today she looked very happy. |
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"As long as they are safe both with protection & with meeting it wouldn't bother me. Its not my life to live
I just want her to be happy and live a little before she settles down. And today she looked very happy."
Isn't that what all parents want for their kids? Its great she has a supportive mum  |
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"As long as they are safe both with protection & with meeting it wouldn't bother me. Its not my life to live
I just want her to be happy and live a little before she settles down. And today she looked very happy.
Isn't that what all parents want for their kids? Its great she has a supportive mum "
I try to be. She actually knows i am on here and said she now understands why which was a relief because at first she was shocked.
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"Depends on which particular site it is and what she used as a profile name? 
Tinder. No idea of her profile name"
I was just being cheeky.
It’s great that you have that relationship with her and you can both understand it.
She’ll come to you for advice on almost anything if you’ve shared this info with each other and that is a priceless relationship.
I sincerely hope my son feels he can ask me absolutely anything when he begins his sexual adventures but in reality I very much doubt he will.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Depends on which particular site it is and what she used as a profile name?
Tinder. No idea of her profile name"
Think the fishing was obvious, don’t you?
Personally, I wouldn’t expose my daughter to a hypocrite, 
Equally, be her safety net, if she hasn’t a friend she can tell where and who she is meeting, suggest yourself.
Will show support. |
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"Depends on which particular site it is and what she used as a profile name?
Tinder. No idea of her profile name
Think the fishing was obvious, don’t you?
Personally, I wouldn’t expose my daughter to a hypocrite,
Equally, be her safety net, if she hasn’t a friend she can tell where and who she is meeting, suggest yourself.
Will show support."
Hypocrite?
What basis do you have for that accusation?
The humour of my response is clear to see and as the op had said she’s perfectly comfortable with the situation I thought it safe ground for a cheeky reply. |
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"Depends on which particular site it is and what she used as a profile name?
Tinder. No idea of her profile name
Think the fishing was obvious, don’t you?
Personally, I wouldn’t expose my daughter to a hypocrite,
Equally, be her safety net, if she hasn’t a friend she can tell where and who she is meeting, suggest yourself.
Will show support."
I asked who she had met and she told me. I have always had a great relationship with my daughter. Once upon a time she was overly shy so just glad this has boosted her confidence.
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I would feel happy that she felt we had that kind of relationship to be able to talk about such things. My own daughter is far too young to be there yet but I hope when she gets to your daughters age we can have that kind of trusting relationship |
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"So today my beautiful 24yr daughter informed me that since splitting with her boyfriend of 2yrs she has joined a dating site and enjoying casual sex with a few men. I was actually quite amused although did tell her to always use condoms. Would you have been happy or shocked?."
As long as she is enjoying it and is safe/happy I’d be pretty happy too. X |
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Not sure if it makes any difference, but i have sons, but i would just probably accept it, they are old enough, just as long as they take care of themselves and are happy   |
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In all honesty, I couldn't care less if our daughter joined a dating site etc. It's her life after all.
You gave the correct advice and that's all a parent can or should do. They are their mistakes to make. Be a shoulder to cry on, be a counsellor to hear their worries, give advice when asked, but, let them fly. |
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"I would be concerned if my daughter was having casual sex during this pandemic.
She has not met anyone since April but was telling me about people she had met."
Correct me if I'm wrong but weren't we in lock down in April??
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"I would be concerned if my daughter was having casual sex during this pandemic.
She has not met anyone since April but was telling me about people she had met.
Correct me if I'm wrong but weren't we in lock down in April??
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Yes i believe you are right. That will definately get mentioned next time i speak to her. She lives with her dad so i am not aware of what she does until she tells me but that is a concern.
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