"Some people see kissing as more intimate than sex.
I couldn't consider a meet with no kisding tho."
Perfectly put and agreed with, I could never meet without kissing, ew, but understand the (misplaced cos what a missed out on turn on!!) boundary xx |
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"Some people see kissing as more intimate than sex.
I couldn't consider a meet with no kisding tho."
Totally agree, kissing is intimate and some just want to meet and go. I’ve had meets with no kissing and they weren’t the best. |
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I only like to kiss a bit sometimes , techniques are all very different for kissing , and some are better than others & then oral hygiene plays a big part for me & facial hair as well |
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Perhaps they feel that kissing is even more intimate than sex, and is only for their partner.
I personally would agree with that, but would never agree to a meet without kissing - that intimacy is a necessary factor for me |
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"Why do some couples and singles only want sex and no kissing with playmates? Sex can cause infection and pregnancy but kissing does not ?"
we don't kiss, we don't explain our preferences and boundaries even though some people are extremely rude about them.
It is possible to catch all sorts of infections from kissing although you are right pregnancy is not one of them |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them."
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why |
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By *euve4usCouple
over a year ago
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them."
We are the same |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why"
We got asked in a club "whose choice is it not to kiss?" ... answer.."both of us". Looking back we felt pressured, we didn't or wouldn't be playing with them. |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
We are the same "
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why We got asked in a club "whose choice is it not to kiss?" ... answer.."both of us". Looking back we felt pressured, we didn't or wouldn't be playing with them."
I've come to the conclusion that people see it as some sort of threat, I can't think of any other reason why some are so vehemently opposed to couples who don't kiss. I've been compared to a prostitute, told that sex with me would be like having sex with a robot and that I must be cold and emotionless  . |
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We need to respect everyones decisions. If you dont like it dont go. Personally for us kissihg is sexier than the sex and we would not neet anyone without it, but each to their ownm |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them."
Perfectly said |
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"Why do some couples and singles only want sex and no kissing with playmates? Sex can cause infection and pregnancy but kissing does not ?
Kissing definitely does not cause pregnancy. "
People who say this arent kissing right
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Have you never heard of herpes simplex1 (cold sores) op?????
Can be transferred by yes you guessed it K I S S I N G and no you don’t need to be sitting in a tree.
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Kissing for us is a huge part of foreplay. We love a good old fashioned snog. It's our preference and both ok with it. If the other couple don't kiss then it's highly unlikely we will ever play. We respect why some couples don't kiss and that's their choice.  |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Why do some couples and singles only want sex and no kissing with playmates? Sex can cause infection and pregnancy but kissing does not ?
Kissing definitely does not cause pregnancy. "
Neither does anal sex, water sports nor bdsm but not everyone wants them either. And how many people have a great time with a vibrator without feeling the need to kiss it? For many kissing equates to romance, and they swing for sexual fun, not romantic entanglement. It's called choice. |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why We got asked in a club "whose choice is it not to kiss?" ... answer.."both of us". Looking back we felt pressured, we didn't or wouldn't be playing with them.
I've come to the conclusion that people see it as some sort of threat, I can't think of any other reason why some are so vehemently opposed to couples who don't kiss. I've been compared to a prostitute, told that sex with me would be like having sex with a robot and that I must be cold and emotionless . "
Thats awful and very disrespectful, at least it would confirm that they aren't worth playing with.
We used to have no kissing as a boundary, it is ironic when someone "questions it" and yet does not "go down" because thats just for them  .
We now do kiss .... sometimes. |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them."
Same and have had quite a few assholey comments over it. |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why We got asked in a club "whose choice is it not to kiss?" ... answer.."both of us". Looking back we felt pressured, we didn't or wouldn't be playing with them.
I've come to the conclusion that people see it as some sort of threat, I can't think of any other reason why some are so vehemently opposed to couples who don't kiss. I've been compared to a prostitute, told that sex with me would be like having sex with a robot and that I must be cold and emotionless .
Thats awful and very disrespectful, at least it would confirm that they aren't worth playing with.
We used to have no kissing as a boundary, it is ironic when someone "questions it" and yet does not "go down" because thats just for them .
We now do kiss .... sometimes. "
I can't get my head around why people get so cross about it. We're clearly not compatible, we're no threat and we aren't rude towards them, we just go along doing our own thing. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Why do some couples and singles only want sex and no kissing with playmates? Sex can cause infection and pregnancy but kissing does not ?"
because kissing is a level of intimacy for swinger couples that sex often is not for swingers. |
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I’ve had guys who’ve said no to kissing, as they’ve said it was going a bit too gay 
Me topping them or they giving me oral, that’s fine.
It’s a no from me, find another who doesn’t want to as well |
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By *exxxesCouple
over a year ago
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them."
Exactly the same here |
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I've met with couple's who aren't into the guy kissing me. Doesn't bother me one bit. I always ask their boundaries before meeting or playing.
With regards to one on one meets, I'd be less inclined to meet someone who didn't want to kiss. It's one of my favourite things to do |
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I can sort of see it when you're playing with a couple in a club and you're just there as a 'second cock' or whatever but if I was going out of my way to meet someone then kissing is pretty much mandatory for me. |
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I respect preferences/boundaries and understand why some couples do it. We all have our own way of doing things and run our profiles how we feel comfortable. It's great to find like minded matches for potential meets. Kissing is a deal breaker because it's the most important physical contact for me. If no kissing will not be getting sexual. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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The odd thing about this thread is that most of the men effectively say "no kissing no sex", yet when we play in clubs and I make it clear I don't kiss men I have never ever had a guy even the slightest bit reluctant to fuck me. Either the guys in clubs are atypical of those on Fab, or there is an element of hypocrisy in the posts here. |
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Everyone has their boundaries, and I find out what they are before a meet by either chatting or a social
I personally love kissing and have kissed men, women, tv and ts its a huge turn on
So I would probablywouldnt tmeet a non kisser
on the other side on playing in clubs its a more immediate meet and in the moment so no kissing would not bother me |
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"The odd thing about this thread is that most of the men effectively say "no kissing no sex", yet when we play in clubs and I make it clear I don't kiss men I have never ever had a guy even the slightest bit reluctant to fuck me. Either the guys in clubs are atypical of those on Fab, or there is an element of hypocrisy in the posts here."
It's like with most things sometimes people post in forums and do opposite with actions in person. Not just the men because I know 100s of Fabbers and that includes couples, single women. Each to their own on how they want to handle themselves and if they are different online to in person.
Sexually I don't start from the bottom. It all starts with kissing so if that ain't happening I don't even take my clothes off! It's just weird with no kissing. Not passionate enough for me and those guys that you mentioned... may be thinking (not all of them) but some do... and tell me they need to make the best of the night out... so it's not a wasted journey. We all have different needs and ways of doing things so as long as not harming or hurting others good luck to all.
Rev your engines when it's green light for go! Or just chill a bit longer |
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"The odd thing about this thread is that most of the men effectively say "no kissing no sex", yet when we play in clubs and I make it clear I don't kiss men I have never ever had a guy even the slightest bit reluctant to fuck me. Either the guys in clubs are atypical of those on Fab, or there is an element of hypocrisy in the posts here."
Also the glory holes in clubs seem very popular, never a shortage of men. No chance of a kiss there or even a grope |
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"The odd thing about this thread is that most of the men effectively say "no kissing no sex", yet when we play in clubs and I make it clear I don't kiss men I have never ever had a guy even the slightest bit reluctant to fuck me. Either the guys in clubs are atypical of those on Fab, or there is an element of hypocrisy in the posts here. Also the glory holes in clubs seem very popular, never a shortage of men. No chance of a kiss there or even a grope "
Haha good point!
I never used glory hole myself. Does not appeal to me. That goes for when they have the female version... can't think if there is a "name" for that... where you see her legs out open, but can't see top half... just half a body! Seems popular with guys lining up. Different things appeal to people.
Good thing clubs are big enough to cater for variety of play. I usually end up pole dancing with friends |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"The odd thing about this thread is that most of the men effectively say "no kissing no sex", yet when we play in clubs and I make it clear I don't kiss men I have never ever had a guy even the slightest bit reluctant to fuck me. Either the guys in clubs are atypical of those on Fab, or there is an element of hypocrisy in the posts here.
It's like with most things sometimes people post in forums and do opposite with actions in person. Not just the men because I know 100s of Fabbers and that includes couples, single women. Each to their own on how they want to handle themselves and if they are different online to in person.
Sexually I don't start from the bottom. It all starts with kissing so if that ain't happening I don't even take my clothes off! It's just weird with no kissing. Not passionate enough for me and those guys that you mentioned... may be thinking (not all of them) but some do... and tell me they need to make the best of the night out... so it's not a wasted journey. We all have different needs and ways of doing things so as long as not harming or hurting others good luck to all.
Rev your engines when it's green light for go! Or just chill a bit longer "
Thanks for that. It's nice to know I've been fucked just so someone didn't have a wasted journey. I thought it might have been because they found me attractive. |
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"The odd thing about this thread is that most of the men effectively say "no kissing no sex", yet when we play in clubs and I make it clear I don't kiss men I have never ever had a guy even the slightest bit reluctant to fuck me. Either the guys in clubs are atypical of those on Fab, or there is an element of hypocrisy in the posts here.
It's like with most things sometimes people post in forums and do opposite with actions in person. Not just the men because I know 100s of Fabbers and that includes couples, single women. Each to their own on how they want to handle themselves and if they are different online to in person.
Sexually I don't start from the bottom. It all starts with kissing so if that ain't happening I don't even take my clothes off! It's just weird with no kissing. Not passionate enough for me and those guys that you mentioned... may be thinking (not all of them) but some do... and tell me they need to make the best of the night out... so it's not a wasted journey. We all have different needs and ways of doing things so as long as not harming or hurting others good luck to all.
Rev your engines when it's green light for go! Or just chill a bit longer
Thanks for that. It's nice to know I've been fucked just so someone didn't have a wasted journey. I thought it might have been because they found me attractive."
I think you can be pretty certain they found you attractive. Really this attitude towards women who don't want to kiss is incredibly disrespectful  |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why"
Yup, it's just a boundary. No need to question it. It's about personal preferences and respecting those. There's no obligation to meet and no need to seek an explanation. The reasons themselves could be quite private. |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why
Yup, it's just a boundary. No need to question it. It's about personal preferences and respecting those. There's no obligation to meet and no need to seek an explanation. The reasons themselves could be quite private. "
exactly! Nobody ever questions the need for such intimacy in transient, casual sex |
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"It's to do with intimacy. We save MF kissing for ourselves, we have fantastic fun but save some things for just us. Everyone should respect peoples boundaries and not question them.
Its the one boundary that people feel they can question and be quite rude about. I don't know why
Yup, it's just a boundary. No need to question it. It's about personal preferences and respecting those. There's no obligation to meet and no need to seek an explanation. The reasons themselves could be quite private.
exactly! Nobody ever questions the need for such intimacy in transient, casual sex "
It's so shocking that anyone can question someone else's boundaries. Never would it enter our heads to ask why someone doesn't do something. Surely people can play within others boundaries? So many profiles seem to find things boring, they've stretched their boundaries so much. |
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it just seems the natural way to begin the fun. 