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3 way poly relationship?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are.. Had been in 1 for a short while over a year. Started off as her meeting him alone, and went from there. Then we all agreed, it is what it is lol.
They went away for weekends, meals out, cinema etc stayed at his every other weekend.. It was weird at first but it worked.. They always went out of town so didn't get seen off friends/family the whole time.. If anything it brightened our relationship up 
1 thing we didn't do tho was all meet together.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We are.. Had been in 1 for a short while over a year. Started off as her meeting him alone, and went from there. Then we all agreed, it is what it is lol.
They went away for weekends, meals out, cinema etc stayed at his every other weekend.. It was weird at first but it worked.. They always went out of town so didn't get seen off friends/family the whole time.. If anything it brightened our relationship up
1 thing we didn't do tho was all meet together.."
Very interesting guys! something we are thought about x
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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago
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I'm poly but tend to meet and relate one to one. I do however, sometimes hang out with one of my lovers and his wife. It's very natural and easy.. We all get on well. But I only have intimacy with him. |
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"I'm poly but tend to meet and relate one to one. I do however, sometimes hang out with one of my lovers and his wife. It's very natural and easy.. We all get on well. But I only have intimacy with him. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oddly we just postedvthis elsewhere....but what we said was...We are very much open marriage which provides individual freedom as well as fun as a couple.
Certainly not all plain sailing, but we have ironed out the kinks now. ( Excuse the pun )
We consider ourselves bombproof from a relationship point of view. And when there is an emotional connection, we are cool with it.
Currently there is a regular,weekly overnight connection between Mrs and a guy. We both know, that the mental and emotional connection between them will grow.
But our deep affection is not compromised.
She can give herself wholly to him when she is in his bed. And they have created their own sexual repertoire which belongs to them.
Works for us |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
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Oddly we just postedvthis elsewhere....but what we said was...We are very much open marriage which provides individual freedom as well as fun as a couple.
Certainly not all plain sailing, but we have ironed out the kinks now. ( Excuse the pun )
We consider ourselves bombproof from a relationship point of view. And when there is an emotional connection, we are cool with it.
Currently there is a regular,weekly overnight connection between Mrs and a guy. We both know, that the mental and emotional connection between them will grow.
But our deep affection is not compromised.
She can give herself wholly to him when she is in his bed. And they have created their own sexual repertoire which belongs to them.
Works for us"
This is very much like us bombproof, but the difference is we don’t flaunt our lovers or even talk about them much, we are in a solid loving relationship, best friends, we play as a couple and we give each other space to see other people as singles as and when needed and don’t try and fill 100% of each other’s needs - which is impossible and futile. The feeling I think is called compersion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i the idea of more sexual partners have alway and will always turn me on but the idea of more than that actually turns me off when the sexual stuff is done i want nothing more than just me n hubs in our blissful little world..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of different people, doesn't do it for us.
Have to have a mental connection. That old adage "you fuck people with your brain" really applies.
But get that for most swingers, it's only sex.
Horses for courses.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Finding people where all 4 have Physical and mental connection....like rocking horse pooh!!
But they are out there...
Finding another person to enjoy separately...a little easier.
For us, each others happiness is our driving force.. |
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We’re polya and trying to find someone that gets it is difficult! We do kitchen table poly though, and are a V rather than a triad so it’s a slightly different dynamic to what people consider poly to be. It takes a lot of hard work, communication and open-mindedness from all involved x |
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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago
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Oddly we just postedvthis elsewhere....but what we said was...We are very much open marriage which provides individual freedom as well as fun as a couple.
Certainly not all plain sailing, but we have ironed out the kinks now. ( Excuse the pun )
We consider ourselves bombproof from a relationship point of view. And when there is an emotional connection, we are cool with it.
Currently there is a regular,weekly overnight connection between Mrs and a guy. We both know, that the mental and emotional connection between them will grow.
But our deep affection is not compromised.
She can give herself wholly to him when she is in his bed. And they have created their own sexual repertoire which belongs to them.
Works for us
This is very much like us bombproof, but the difference is we don’t flaunt our lovers or even talk about them much, we are in a solid loving relationship, best friends, we play as a couple and we give each other space to see other people as singles as and when needed and don’t try and fill 100% of each other’s needs - which is impossible and futile. The feeling I think is called compersion."
Compersion - only came across this word a couple of weeks ago and explains how I feel about Mr being with another man. x |
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"Did this with a couple in my late teens early 20's which was really comfortable but as has been said it needs lots of open honest conversation, would love to do it again though. "
How old was the couple? Why did it end? |
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By *sylockeWoman
over a year ago
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"We are.. Had been in 1 for a short while over a year. Started off as her meeting him alone, and went from there. Then we all agreed, it is what it is lol.
They went away for weekends, meals out, cinema etc stayed at his every other weekend.. It was weird at first but it worked.. They always went out of town so didn't get seen off friends/family the whole time.. If anything it brightened our relationship up
1 thing we didn't do tho was all meet together.."
Sounds great. Did you find a partner for yourself?
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"Did this with a couple in my late teens early 20's which was really comfortable but as has been said it needs lots of open honest conversation, would love to do it again though.
How old was the couple? Why did it end?"
They were late 30s I moved away with work unfortunately |
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I have "thought about" this with a couple me and lady friend see. From "keep interactions impersonal / no kissing / etc" early in swinging I really thought "life's too short to go through a narrow restriction like this". Foursome good (and fivesome with extra guy) - but going off and having weekends "swapped-over" - really passionate interactions? I actually yearned for this. Thinking "from what I know" I felt only good would come of it for my friend of the female persuasion.
Many times what you think about manifests some inherent carnal coding in the primal brain (eg. it you keep thinking of "sloppy seconds" you are very likely to find actually doing it to be ecstatically thrilling).
It all seems like "living life to the max.". Hard work? Probably. But opening-up deep issues - would that be a life more lived? More contented? Sounds probable, given what others here say who've done it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is something we are very interested in also... has people got any pointers into what to look for...
Xx"
I know it sounds odd but try not to look for it. We weren't looking for a quad relationship but we just got really close to another couple who we all ended up really liking, and then it progressed really naturally. Trying to find someone who you trust and can have fun with is the most important though we think.
Mrs Red x |
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We are looking for more of a v type of relationship with another man, we love having another person with us in life to share our fun and awesomeness with but anything sexual would be just Mrs and the plus one... not found it yet, but as previously mentioned by others we are stepping away from the search and hoping that one day it will happen naturally |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
Offered this and ended up saying no thanks as I got the feeling I would be like a 3rd wheel,so I wouldn't entertain the idea again. As a couple they had each other, I felt like I would be just an occasional addition to their sex life. |
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We love the idea and have kind of been playing it out for the last year with an Fb. He comes for dinner, we go out on dates, we take the kids the park.
He's gone nights out with stu, help him fix the car, they watch f1 together.
We like the dynamic, the trust and commitment it brings. Not an Fb or just a single guy, who wants everywhere. Our fb wants what we have, so share our lives together.
Plenty of problems come with it though 
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We have been in a poly relationship for over ten years and it works out very well The only problem is when other family commitments take presidence such as Xmas etc.
This is different from a threesome as we rarely play all together.
It works for us but we can see it might not work for others. We would be interested in expanding our circle of friends to include others in a similar situation |
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Oddly we just postedvthis elsewhere....but what we said was...We are very much open marriage which provides individual freedom as well as fun as a couple.
Certainly not all plain sailing, but we have ironed out the kinks now. ( Excuse the pun )
We consider ourselves bombproof from a relationship point of view. And when there is an emotional connection, we are cool with it.
Currently there is a regular,weekly overnight connection between Mrs and a guy. We both know, that the mental and emotional connection between them will grow.
But our deep affection is not compromised.
She can give herself wholly to him when she is in his bed. And they have created their own sexual repertoire which belongs to them.
Works for us"
  Sounds perfect. I too have the freedom in my marriage xx |
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Definitely about way more than just the sex, though the sexual dimension to it can be way more than the overt physical act. Going on holiday together, checking into hotels as a three, dining as a three - every aspect of life can be that little bit different to the norm and get it right and it can be hugely rewarding. |
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No not for us..
our friend is into poly relationships. She lives with her partner and child but goes out Dating and having sex with anyone who she fancy’s and Will go live occasionally with other people she is in a relationship with.
Just can’t get my head around it lol. |
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I have been in a poly relationship for over 10 years now. We don't share a bed, mainly because I starfish, and I wasn't giving that up for anyone. But we share pretty much everything else.
It isn't easy, far from it. It takes a lot of communication and sometimes tears (mainly over who didn't clean the bathroom). But its worth it.
I'm part of their extended family. I'm Auntie to their kids and to their kids kids. I go to birthday parties and Christmas events. |
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By *ohngiverMan
over a year ago
bury st edmunds |
My ex wife and I were in a 4 way relationship for 3 years.
Started when I had an affair with my mates wife and shortly after he had an affair with my wife. We still had regular pub meals as a foursome.
We all got caught out at same time, long chat and a weekend away and we swapped for overnight stays, weekends away. Even went on holidays as a swapped couple. Regrettably we never had foursome sex |
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Compersion what a wonderful word! I always just say ‘I don’t get jealous’ lol. Jojo 400 is my partner and we have discussed at length that the female of another couple might not fancy me as such it’s inevitable she either has a bit of a poly thing with another couple or a regular male friend!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm poly but tend to meet and relate one to one. I do however, sometimes hang out with one of my lovers and his wife. It's very natural and easy.. We all get on well. But I only have intimacy with him. "
We are the same with twisted wife for now but we are hoping when things get back to normal and we can go to clubs together we will all play together.
I sleep with them both once a week and only have sex with him for now but we are hoping that will change, it just takes time and trust |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been a part time 3 for 6 years, part time mainly due to distance being an issue but we are just a three equally instead of a two! Works perfectly, naturally, without the need for all this rule/mega communication stuff which means it's all totally rlaxed. I know their kids & family, they know my kids ... and all get on wonderfully! Weddings/holidays etc everything ... I'm even considered a local at their local hahahahahahahaha
As someone above said, not sure you find this or go looking, it happens organically, just naturally! If it's at all forced then not sure it could work or not work well for longer term |
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By *ad-HunterMan
over a year ago
near Watford / hemel / St Albans |
"Any couples into 3 way poly relationship? If so tell us. We want the same x"
Well when myself and my first wife were in our mid to late 20's we had a 19yr old Lad basically move in with us in our marital bed for around 2 and a half years and he was HUNG like a horse fucking awesome in bed with my mrs and although he played straight he allowed me to touch and suck whilst i was down pleasuring the the mrs he made sure that was under the duvet and nothing was ever spoke about it . So yeah LOVED IT while it lasted BUT he got too emotionally attracted to the mrs and as WE had kids he had no job so we returned as a couple to just play daily 3 somes with different lads always the same age for the stamina i guess .
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From a previous thread.
We lived in an exclusive poly relationship for more than 20 years. The sex is actually a very small aspect to it. It is exactly the same as a couple with all of life's normal stresses and joys but with 3 of you.
You do have a 3rd person for support and sharing the stresses which can be great but it truly only works if all of you are completely in love.
For us it just worked even though it was unplanned and one day we just realised what we had become. We don't think you can go out looking for such a relationship it will find you if you are fortunate enough. |
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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago
lanarkshire |
"From a previous thread.
We lived in an exclusive poly relationship for more than 20 years. The sex is actually a very small aspect to it. It is exactly the same as a couple with all of life's normal stresses and joys but with 3 of you.
You do have a 3rd person for support and sharing the stresses which can be great but it truly only works if all of you are completely in love.
For us it just worked even though it was unplanned and one day we just realised what we had become. We don't think you can go out looking for such a relationship it will find you if you are fortunate enough."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hoping to gave such a relationship after lockdown will be my best friend joining me and the GF for a 3 way romance ..looking forward to the day we all sleep together |
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We are in a polyamorous marriage, largely play separately. Similar to some other comments on this thread, driven by wanting to not restrain sexual freedom and having enough strength in the relationship to grey such intimate boundaries.
However, not sure how I'd feel about creating a longterm 3 or 4. Quite like the hierarchy of hubby and I being the deepest and most substantial relationship. We're still relatively new to this decision though, so great to hear others views.
Wish there was an icon on here to show poly relationships. Think it may make some of your hunting easier, as I suppose the mindset is a little different from a single searcher or a cuck couple |
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I really wish there was a way of filtering for this! Finding it so hard to connect with the men here on fab as most seem to only want sex and no kind of connection and I am really just not that kind of girl! I know its not a dating site, but I am hoping one day to find the person to share our time with!
We want to share days out and all the mundane stuff as well as the play
Hubby is good at sharing!
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd never thought of it being a poly relationship (not a term I'd heard until fairly recently) but my ex gf is Bi. She had a regular GF who she would go for nights out with, spend the night with occasionally etc. Worked for us. The three of us would often eat out together too. I never put a name to it, it was just how we were at the time. |
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