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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi we’re a Young couple Here always wanted to try a threesome together. Our main problem is how do people who have done this before get over the first time awkwardness? Like the meeting part then getting started?
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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Moving from social chatting to actual play can be awkward. On our first occasion (because Char is more sub) I took the lead. We had a signal that meant she was happy and after seeing that signal I simply told her to stand up and take off her dress (she was naked underneath). That was the prompt that the other guy needed to move in.
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be honest this is where clubs are great in our experience. They’re a great mix of social with a sexually charged atmosphere, you can go along with no expectations but if you do hit it off with somebody then you have the opportunity to play if you want to.
We find meeting socially at a “normal” bar can feel pressured, especially if one of you has travelled especially for the meet. With a club you might find yourselves chatting to a guy who seems nice, all of you go off to watch people playing and then it goes from there (just an example). But by the same token if you haven’t clicked , well both of you will have an opportunity to find other people if you wish.
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"To be honest this is where clubs are great in our experience. They’re a great mix of social with a sexually charged atmosphere, you can go along with no expectations but if you do hit it off with somebody then you have the opportunity to play if you want to.
We find meeting socially at a “normal” bar can feel pressured, especially if one of you has travelled especially for the meet. With a club you might find yourselves chatting to a guy who seems nice, all of you go off to watch people playing and then it goes from there (just an example). But by the same token if you haven’t clicked , well both of you will have an opportunity to find other people if you wish.
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Thank you! Very helpful x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We often just starting kissing each other, caressing, and then eventually the third person generally joins. "
Thanks suppose that’s one way to put everyone at ease lol x |
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We used to be shy and not know what to do when we started. These days (if it's someone new to it all) we just bluntly ask if they want to start / head up to the bedroom.
It's all about confidence. Easier said than done I know but someone has to take the lead. Just remember, you're all there for the same thing and the very worst thing they can say is no....which is highly unlikely if you've met in a pub or whatever and they've come back to yours.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Moving from social chatting to actual play can be awkward. On our first occasion (because Char is more sub) I took the lead. We had a signal that meant she was happy and after seeing that signal I simply told her to stand up and take off her dress (she was naked underneath). That was the prompt that the other guy needed to move in.
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Great thanks! X |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
That really depends on how outgoing you are, if you are in a club or a pub do you dance with other men or women when your partner is there, do you flirt with others. If so then a first threesome is very much like that you just relax and go with the flow if the three of you end up in bed together problem solved if you push your boundaries and allow more intimate contact than what you normally would you have made progress.
You all know you have met for sex, but that does not mean you have to have sex, female partners pair off with the other man and have sex together in private, others have sex with the other man in front of their partner the main thing is doing what you are happy doing and not rather than pushing when you are not ready |
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"We used to be shy and not know what to do when we started. These days (if it's someone new to it all) we just bluntly ask if they want to start / head up to the bedroom.
It's all about confidence. Easier said than done I know but someone has to take the lead. Just remember, you're all there for the same thing and the very worst thing they can say is no....which is highly unlikely if you've met in a pub or whatever and they've come back to yours.
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Yeah once all is agreed think we will be fine just more the shyness to begin that’s making us feel uneasy lol x |
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"To be honest this is where clubs are great in our experience. They’re a great mix of social with a sexually charged atmosphere, you can go along with no expectations but if you do hit it off with somebody then you have the opportunity to play if you want to.
We find meeting socially at a “normal” bar can feel pressured, especially if one of you has travelled especially for the meet. With a club you might find yourselves chatting to a guy who seems nice, all of you go off to watch people playing and then it goes from there (just an example). But by the same token if you haven’t clicked , well both of you will have an opportunity to find other people if you wish.
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perfectly put , its why i love clubs myself |
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Once the social side is finished and everyone is comfortable to play we usually start kissing and playing with each other someone experienced in the situation will know how to become involved with you make sure you discuss boundaries in the social |
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"To be honest this is where clubs are great in our experience. They’re a great mix of social with a sexually charged atmosphere, you can go along with no expectations but if you do hit it off with somebody then you have the opportunity to play if you want to.
We find meeting socially at a “normal” bar can feel pressured, especially if one of you has travelled especially for the meet. With a club you might find yourselves chatting to a guy who seems nice, all of you go off to watch people playing and then it goes from there (just an example). But by the same token if you haven’t clicked , well both of you will have an opportunity to find other people if you wish.
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"Once the social side is finished and everyone is comfortable to play we usually start kissing and playing with each other someone experienced in the situation will know how to become involved with you make sure you discuss boundaries in the social "
Thanks! Would you recommend home visits or hotel for first time? X |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
Currently Faraway |
"Hi we’re a Young couple Here always wanted to try a threesome together. Our main problem is how do people who have done this before get over the first time awkwardness? Like the meeting part then getting started?
Would love to hear any advice "
Meet a guy socially first; somewhere public preferably; have a few drinks and a laugh, establish what you all three like and don't like...and then either politely kiss and part ways for good if you are not compatible or just arrange to meet again for the adult fun. As for the pre-threesome awkwardness, I'm afraid that can't be solved unless you've already had one too many before the meet! lol
Well, from my point of view anyhow. I always get butterflies before meeting a couple, even after 10 years of swinging. |
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I think the answers talking about clubs arnt very helpful as you won’t be allowed to play in clubs for a very long time ..
When I’ve met couples, often the male makes an excuse to leave the room and says why don’t you two get to know each other ..
Then returns a while later .. |
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I don't think there's any magic formula, sometimes suggesting a massage, sometimes "I've bought this new lingerie would you like to see it?", others have suggested a few things like the guy suggesting you get better acquainted, a game, some music and a slow grind.. As for hotel or home... I'd recommend hotel first.. Don't forget you're inviting a stranger to your home and until you know them better..a neutral venue may be a bit safer...and sexier too. But of course there's nowhere like home to be at your most relaxed. |
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Lots of great advice here. For us, we know that we are comfortable with the guy, that we both want to move towards playing, so really it's about making the guy feel comfortable and that we want him to join in. So I will usually start playing with Mrs, and then look over and say something like 'Come and join us on this sofa and help me to unbutton this dress' or 'Do you like stockings? Come over and see if she's wearing them'. I think what I am doing is giving the guy permission to play but in a way that isn't too full-on ... More recently we tried Mrs flashing to him, stocking tops, cleavage or even pussy ... I'd catch him looking and say something like 'You liking that? Why not go over and take a closer look?' Once you've broken the ice, things usually gain their own momentum 
Hope you find your way and have a fantastic time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree with the above.
As a single guy I prefer to meet in clubs.
There’s no pressure on anybody to be a certain way or to do anything that you don’t want to.
Meeting in a bar can sometimes feel like a interview haha and not allow you to relax and be yourself.
Within a club you can talk more freely too and not worry if some ones listening in etc.
I absolutely love to watch so I love to check out the club and sometime you just wander across a lovely group of people or a lovely couple... and the naughtiness just flows x |
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