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Bareback cum dump... why oh why?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts...."
Nope .
Sounds like a tip |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts....
Nope .
Sounds like a tip"
I agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love going bareback and men cumming inside me on individual or MFM meets. But cum dump sounds more like a toilet and like I'd take cum from absolutely anyone. I'm actually very picky about my meets. |
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My biggest worry with someone advertising themselves as a "cum dump" is that they aren't being picky about who cums inside them. I would not choose to even play safe with a "cum dump".
I play safe with everyone I am not married to, but I have no issue with people who choose to play bare with a small number of selected partners who they can trust. The idea of someone who will let anyone cum inside them is rather frightening.
I see people advertising in their status today "cum dump available now" and I do wonder just how much is the risk of STD and COVID worth the thrill of receiving a load? |
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By *andM25Couple
over a year ago
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Not that it's our thing, but "horses for courses"
The term "cum dump" is designed to be derisory and by some measure humiliating. I imagine for those who like to be used and humiliated it's not even a thing, but to others not interested in that niche it's not quite so enticing!
It's all personal preference isn't it.
If it's your thing, fill your boots.
If it's not, don't sweat it, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't destroy someone else's dreams, some people dream of being a pilot, or a lawyer, she dreamed of becoming a bareback cum dump! We should congratulate her on living her dreams! "
Lmao.. I don’t usually sense the tone when messaging... that time I did though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts...."
I think we should all gather up on the playground and point the fingers at all the children that are different.....
Oh look that little boy has two mothers.... ewwww
Look that girl is taller then everyone...... ewwww
Look at that little fat boy trying to climb the jungle gym...... ewww I hope he falls on his ass.
Now being a bareback cum dump is no different than going dogging , bukkaki or using a gloryhole.... c’est la vie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as its not illegal, then who are we to judge others?
this is a swingers site for all isn't it?  "
This seems like a concept lost to most people these days....... |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts...."
It's the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s something I have trouble understanding why someone would willingly partake in such risky behaviour but then I think the same of things like BASE jumping, free climbing and that thing people do when they hang off cranes and stuff.
Some people just like taking risks I guess.
The worst thing though is that name, “cum dump”, that does put an image in my head that makes my tummy turn |
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"Is this the judgement band wagon?
No it's a forum he asked a question we reply"
Looks like a bandwagon, where people try and score points for exclaiming how appalled they are at something i very much doubt they have any real experience of at all. |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Is this the judgement band wagon?
No it's a forum he asked a question we reply
Looks like a bandwagon, where people try and score points for exclaiming how appalled they are at something i very much doubt they have any real experience of at all. "
I see no point scoring just opinions |
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"Not my gig I have to say but these threads are usually always a place for males to show their clean credentials."
I'm a creampie queen and don't care who knows! But the amount of guys that message me wanting to play bareback and I look at their profile and it will usually say! Clean, discreet and never play uncovered blah blah blah! Alot of guys just say what a woman wants to hear most of the time just to get their end away,I think most of us know that?  |
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"Not my gig I have to say but these threads are usually always a place for males to show their clean credentials. I'm a creampie queen and don't care who knows! But the amount of guys that message me wanting to play bareback and I look at their profile and it will usually say! Clean, discreet and never play uncovered blah blah blah! Alot of guys just say what a woman wants to hear most of the time just to get their end away,I think most of us know that? "
Surely not! I really do love BBW! I just can't date them for some reason.. |
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"Shock horror it’s a site about sex and there are lots of variations on that underlying theme. Some variations are more extreme than others.
Go figure "
NO!!!! We must be repulsed! And vocal about it!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shock horror it’s a site about sex and there are lots of variations on that underlying theme. Some variations are more extreme than others.
Go figure
NO!!!! We must be repulsed! And vocal about it!!"
Seems so! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not something that appeals to me but I'm perfectly happy with people making informed choices and doing as suits them.
Probably lots of stuff I'm into wouldn't suit others."
Suits me Frankie  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not my gig I have to say but these threads are usually always a place for males to show their clean credentials. I'm a creampie queen and don't care who knows! But the amount of guys that message me wanting to play bareback and I look at their profile and it will usually say! Clean, discreet and never play uncovered blah blah blah! Alot of guys just say what a woman wants to hear most of the time just to get their end away,I think most of us know that?
Surely not! I really do love BBW! I just can't date them for some reason.."
I'm sure you're aware. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not my gig I have to say but these threads are usually always a place for males to show their clean credentials. I'm a creampie queen and don't care who knows! But the amount of guys that message me wanting to play bareback and I look at their profile and it will usually say! Clean, discreet and never play uncovered blah blah blah! Alot of guys just say what a woman wants to hear most of the time just to get their end away,I think most of us know that? "
1000% ur right guys just say what you want them to hear little funny story I message a woman and she sed sorry not interested in bi men or tv/ts but what was funny was ever one off her verification had meet me previously one guy had even jumped on my bed in a morning meet and had a afternoon meet with her still wonder if he went home and had a wash before jumping in to her bed didn’t have the hart to say honey I have shagged all the same guys you have before they been with you some were months some were days some we’re years and one on the same day |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts...."
Some do, and some don't.
Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean no-one else is allowed to like it.
Ww are all adults here, and can each make our own decisions.
You can just pass her by.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a message yesterday asking me to be their cumdump, only for a bit though just while their 8 month pregnant girlfriend had the baby n was ready to have sex again.......
Not going to divulge my reply, but got deleted n blocked.
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts....
Some do, and some don't.
Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean no-one else is allowed to like it.
Ww are all adults here, and can each make our own decisions.
You can just pass her by.."
Please note, while I may not wish to do this myself, I respect the rights of individuals to do so. |
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"I had a message yesterday asking me to be their cumdump, only for a bit though just while their 8 month pregnant girlfriend had the baby n was ready to have sex again.......
Not going to divulge my reply, but got deleted n blocked.
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So that charming message didn't do it for you
Some people seem to have a way with words it seems  |
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"Specific kinks attract different people. There's room for all the legal and consensual ones surely.  Sometimes i wonder if people are on the wrong site..."
Absolutely agree.
If you don't like other people's kinks walk on.
No need for this kind of pointless topic. It smacks more than a little of the sort of intolerance that swinging could do without. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our local dump has a specific listing of stuff they are accepting atm only taking green waste, wood and small electric etc it doesnt actually mention cum but think it's on the prohibitive list  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Specific kinks attract different people. There's room for all the legal and consensual ones surely. "
No there are other consensual things on here and quite rightly are not allowed to be shown on pics or stated otherwise it leads to a very distasteful site .... |
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So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
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Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life . |
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"...and please if this is your kink crack on, but put it on your profile so you attract like minded folk and repel those not interested."
........We do but most of the guys that contact us and wan't to play bareback usually have a profile starting! Clean and discreet and only play safe as my health is to imprortant. Most of these are the same guys contacting the girls that only play covered but tell them a different story to get what they want. |
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life ."
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle. |
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life .
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle."
The irony! I chose whether I judge or not. That is my choice not yours. We all make judgements. My opinion is mine. If I chose to find that behaviour distasteful and reckless that is my choice. Do you seriously think bareback cum dumps give a flying fuck what I think? Will it stop them being bare back cum dumps? No. So don't tell me what my opinion should be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life .
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle.
The irony! I chose whether I judge or not. That is my choice not yours. We all make judgements. My opinion is mine. If I chose to find that behaviour distasteful and reckless that is my choice. Do you seriously think bareback cum dumps give a flying fuck what I think? Will it stop them being bare back cum dumps? No. So don't tell me what my opinion should be."
Of course you have the right to express an opinion and disagree with an opposing point of view. You can make those views known but what I think the criticism is from respondents is that to place moral judgement on those who are perfectly entitled to carry out this particular activity maybe somewhat hypocritical?
For my part will I lose sleep over this person proclivity to have multiple sexual partners, I rather doubt it. Do I have an opinion on the matter yes I do but would I judge this person no I won’t as it’s not my place to do so. |
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life .
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle.
The irony! I chose whether I judge or not. That is my choice not yours. We all make judgements. My opinion is mine. If I chose to find that behaviour distasteful and reckless that is my choice. Do you seriously think bareback cum dumps give a flying fuck what I think? Will it stop them being bare back cum dumps? No. So don't tell me what my opinion should be."
That's your opinion.But don't condemned those who like it. You are entitle to your opinion. Respect those who like it as well.No matter how distasteful it may sound. Infact your opinion connote Righteous czar in my eye. |
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This van lady had a further 3 profiles with over 2000 meets. She stopped publishing her veris cos any Male admitting they had been there was " tsinted" especially if their profiles said the practices " safe sex"! . My biggest concern was she travelled around the country.. so trying to do the detective work to block all males daft enough to dip was hard work ... I hope she is safe and got it out of her system. |
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life .
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle.
The irony! I chose whether I judge or not. That is my choice not yours. We all make judgements. My opinion is mine. If I chose to find that behaviour distasteful and reckless that is my choice. Do you seriously think bareback cum dumps give a flying fuck what I think? Will it stop them being bare back cum dumps? No. So don't tell me what my opinion should be.
That's your opinion.But don't condemned those who like it. You are entitle to your opinion. Respect those who like it as well.No matter how distasteful it may sound. Infact your opinion connote Righteous czar in my eye."
Again if I chose to express disapproval over an activity that is my choice, nobody elses. I have as much respect for those individuals as they have for their own health. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ugh, another bareback thread gone all judgemental.
I do wholeheartedly agree that BB players should be honest about it so that those that have sex with them are aware of the risks they're taking. Hiding it is unfair, and as others have said, there are countless "safe only" profiles on here that lie.
After that it's a choice between the people meeting and no-one else's business. If you don't like BB, don't meet a BB player, simple. You don't need to judge, just don't meet those where you don't share their kinks. I don't like hard BDSM, but I don't judge those that consent to being beaten and hurt, just not for me.
Back to the original question. "Cum dump" certainly lacks class, and does imply complete disregard for the risk, i.e someone that'll just take 1000 strangers and never get tested, like the example above. "Creampie lover" is what I chose to put on my profile. Although I've had plenty of partners, I'm still careful and choosey about who I meet, and get tested monthly. So yes, I play bare, and always ask men to fill me, but do try not to be totally reckless about it. I'm aware of the risks and make sure they are.
If I ever choose to do a bareback gangbang and do the "cum dump" thing then I'll be honest about it, and get tested straight after before meeting again to protect others. |
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People are entitled to do what they want its the hypocrites I don't like i remember a couple asking for bareback meets on forum a guy commented accusing them of being disease spreaders turned out he had met them twice on previous profile both bareback meets |
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To be honest I am not hugely fussed whether people bareback or not.
It is how they choose to express their views that tends to gain my attention.
Rather than trading intolerant messages on the forums I prefer to simply block them.
It seems to be the more dignified way to deal with those with whom you share no interests or respect. |
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life .
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle.
The irony! I chose whether I judge or not. That is my choice not yours. We all make judgements. My opinion is mine. If I chose to find that behaviour distasteful and reckless that is my choice. Do you seriously think bareback cum dumps give a flying fuck what I think? Will it stop them being bare back cum dumps? No. So don't tell me what my opinion should be.
That's your opinion.But don't condemned those who like it. You are entitle to your opinion. Respect those who like it as well.No matter how distasteful it may sound. Infact your opinion connote Righteous czar in my eye.
Again if I chose to express disapproval over an activity that is my choice, nobody elses. I have as much respect for those individuals as they have for their own health."
Well said. Thanks for the healthy conversation without trading insult. Take care. |
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"So sad. Fab has become the police,judge and prosecutor. Personally I don’t do bareback. The rate of condemnation by the righteous crusaders is alarming. Remember one man's Socratic is another man's del boy.
Actually where the risk to my health is affected by who has played with potential play mates I will always be police, judge and prosecutor of MY life .
Judge for yourself and don't condemned those who are into the lifes-tyle.
The irony! I chose whether I judge or not. That is my choice not yours. We all make judgements. My opinion is mine. If I chose to find that behaviour distasteful and reckless that is my choice. Do you seriously think bareback cum dumps give a flying fuck what I think? Will it stop them being bare back cum dumps? No. So don't tell me what my opinion should be.
That's your opinion.But don't condemned those who like it. You are entitle to your opinion. Respect those who like it as well.No matter how distasteful it may sound. Infact your opinion connote Righteous czar in my eye.
Again if I chose to express disapproval over an activity that is my choice, nobody elses. I have as much respect for those individuals as they have for their own health.
Well said. Thanks for the healthy conversation without trading insult. Take care."
You too x |
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Saw forum thread leading with "why-oh-why" and thought Daily Mail echo chamber - move on - then thought no, it's Fab and less predictable.
Well it certainly was. But not how I thought.
It seems the Op's phrase led some forumites down a particularly spiteful path about a large group of individuals, with one at its core. And they really dislike this person and what they represent. Why else would some spend hours reading documenting and following the profile and even now are trying to 'out' them at length to us. They quote verbatim passages of profile, state their family relationships, coin their own more repellent metaphors - they even namecheck the profile without knowing if still active! All the while claiming freedom of choice. Very public spirited but I do wonder why so much effort to protect the rest of us.
It sounds as though this woman made no secret of her behaviour, so what made you guys so determined she was a 'risk to the swinging community' - a cause to be championed? It appears to be Kink shaming at its worst by people who would want their own preferences to be respected.
As to the safe sex part - Responsibility stops at individual. If people engage in fully informed consensual, legal activities then fair enough. We as individuals take equal charge of how we do or do not engage with those partners, whether they have 1 or 100. If you believe 'safe-sex only' in profiles then more fool you. 'Caveat Emptor' is the header for every profile here.
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By *htcMan
over a year ago
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I have seen people who say this but honestly they don't ever understand it. They put on the profile that they are cum dump but then put safe sex only further down.
Some people need to actually read there profile and interests. |
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"This van lady had a further 3 profiles with over 2000 meets. She stopped publishing her veris cos any Male admitting they had been there was " tsinted" especially if their profiles said the practices " safe sex"! . My biggest concern was she travelled around the country.. so trying to do the detective work to block all males daft enough to dip was hard work ... I hope she is safe and got it out of her system. "
Before you condem the van-lady in public. You don't know if she on Pr'ep as prophylactic. Before a lady will embark on such a dangerous odessy she must be prepared. Yes. I share your concern.We know such reckless behaviour is not healthy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are we not simply playing with words? Fuck or make love? Let me feel you orgasm or cum deep? Lets get real, when the moment takes over, words flow for the moment! Why not enjoy the moment !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not quite understanding the blacklisting of a man who may or may not have played bareback before.
Now I could go on a night out, pull a bloke have safe sex with him and I'd be none the wiser about his previous sexual history.
Surely meeting someone on here is the same, if you practice safe sex with a new partner, what difference does their previous actions make.
Or am I being naive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done this activity with one of the commenters in this forum and through communication and of course trust things were fine, I got tested afterwards not a problem and enjoyed the experience, yes caution should be in everyone's mind but most people aren't out to do anyone wrong and it's only through trust that I would even entertain the idea.
Awhile afterwards I met another couple quite a few times everything safe and covered then they asked me if I would like to go bareback, I knew through our friendship I was their only play partner so I agreed and this went on for months and intermittently I would organise a test as it's every individuals responsibility to make sure they are clean. If I engage with anyone like this I tend to have a cooling off period getting tested at the start and the end to make sure before I play with a different partner.
The term cum dump is as people have said about degrading someone as an object for use and there are people who like to be treated as such and there is nothing wrong with that as I have been in the BDSM scene for many years and it's very common to encounter people who like to almost strip themselves of human responsibilities and just become an object for use or affection.
Different strokes for different folks as everyone should say but I'll repeat everyone even those practicing safe sex should be getting tested regularly as it's ignorance to assume just because they wore a rubber that you are completely safe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Specific kinks attract different people. There's room for all the legal and consensual ones surely. "
This.
If they’re all consenting adults who are aware of the risks involved, then I am glad they have found something they enjoy and makes them happy.
Otherwise, I think it’d be just as fair for me to start whining about feet fetishers and BBW. I mean. I never will judge or care if that’s your thing. Just not mine. Same way that cum dump is there’s.
See, I’m not always an arse. |
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"Specific kinks attract different people. There's room for all the legal and consensual ones surely.
This.
If they’re all consenting adults who are aware of the risks involved, then I am glad they have found something they enjoy and makes them happy.
Otherwise, I think it’d be just as fair for me to start whining about feet fetishers and BBW. I mean. I never will judge or care if that’s your thing. Just not mine. Same way that cum dump is there’s.
See, I’m not always an arse. "
Good evaluation of the scene. Lots of members are more than happy to push boundaries, and if its multiple cum play, well that's their prerogative to enjoy and share. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not quite understanding the blacklisting of a man who may or may not have played bareback before.
Now I could go on a night out, pull a bloke have safe sex with him and I'd be none the wiser about his previous sexual history.
Surely meeting someone on here is the same, if you practice safe sex with a new partner, what difference does their previous actions make.
Or am I being naive. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not quite understanding the blacklisting of a man who may or may not have played bareback before.
Now I could go on a night out, pull a bloke have safe sex with him and I'd be none the wiser about his previous sexual history.
Surely meeting someone on here is the same, if you practice safe sex with a new partner, what difference does their previous actions make.
Or am I being naive.
this"
There’s a thread on one of the other pages too that goes on how people will never sleep with someone who has ever caught an STI.  |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"Not that it's our thing, but "horses for courses"
The term "cum dump" is designed to be derisory and by some measure humiliating. I imagine for those who like to be used and humiliated it's not even a thing, but to others not interested in that niche it's not quite so enticing!
It's all personal preference isn't it.
If it's your thing, fill your boots.
If it's not, don't sweat it, right?"
I don't think it's boots that's getting filled... |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"Specific kinks attract different people. There's room for all the legal and consensual ones surely.
This.
If they’re all consenting adults who are aware of the risks involved, then I am glad they have found something they enjoy and makes them happy.
Otherwise, I think it’d be just as fair for me to start whining about feet fetishers and BBW. I mean. I never will judge or care if that’s your thing. Just not mine. Same way that cum dump is there’s.
See, I’m not always an arse.
Good evaluation of the scene. Lots of members are more than happy to push boundaries, and if its multiple cum play, well that's their prerogative to enjoy and share."
Perfect!
This place is all about finding people who share your "thing". And if it's jumping out of a plane without a parachute then go right ahead. I would think it was terribly stupid and a death wish but if you are all determined to do it to yourselves rather than to me then fine. |
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over a year ago
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Death wish is ABIT much to say.
I've hand on heart never had an STI and I don't want one either, just got to do your own risk assessment and if you know someone well enough for long enough that the trust is there then shouldn't be a problem.
I'm not advocating that everyone should do it but like I mentioned previously I've only done it with two couples in the swinging scene and with partners in my personal life.
You'll never truly know "where someone's been" and with multiple STI out there again like I've said a condom isn't fully effective depending on the STI but it is good practice and hell everyone knows the only best way to avoid any risk is to not have sex at all but that's going to extremes.
Again not advocating but how many people here have sucked, licked, even fingered without any coverage as your just as likely to catch something that way.
So long as people are educated, honest and genuine not to mention respectful of others the swinging scene can remain as fun as it's always been. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"Death wish is ABIT much to say.
I've hand on heart never had an STI and I don't want one either, just got to do your own risk assessment and if you know someone well enough for long enough that the trust is there then shouldn't be a problem.
I'm not advocating that everyone should do it but like I mentioned previously I've only done it with two couples in the swinging scene and with partners in my personal life.
You'll never truly know "where someone's been" and with multiple STI out there again like I've said a condom isn't fully effective depending on the STI but it is good practice and hell everyone knows the only best way to avoid any risk is to not have sex at all but that's going to extremes.
Again not advocating but how many people here have sucked, licked, even fingered without any coverage as your just as likely to catch something that way.
So long as people are educated, honest and genuine not to mention respectful of others the swinging scene can remain as fun as it's always been."
"death wish" was with regards to jumping out of a plane not going commando. Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Death wish is ABIT much to say.
I've hand on heart never had an STI and I don't want one either, just got to do your own risk assessment and if you know someone well enough for long enough that the trust is there then shouldn't be a problem.
I'm not advocating that everyone should do it but like I mentioned previously I've only done it with two couples in the swinging scene and with partners in my personal life.
You'll never truly know "where someone's been" and with multiple STI out there again like I've said a condom isn't fully effective depending on the STI but it is good practice and hell everyone knows the only best way to avoid any risk is to not have sex at all but that's going to extremes.
Again not advocating but how many people here have sucked, licked, even fingered without any coverage as your just as likely to catch something that way.
So long as people are educated, honest and genuine not to mention respectful of others the swinging scene can remain as fun as it's always been.
"death wish" was with regards to jumping out of a plane not going commando. Lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We do also inalienable right to this wonderful thing called free choice and covered by their basic human rights for freedom and speech.
So why do they do it? Because they want to. Because they can. Asking as they consenting and aware of the risks. Go for it. If it makes them happy. If they use it as a coping mechanism. If it makes their week a little better. Then they will always have me supporting them and calling out anyone trying to put them down.
I ride motorcycles. I’m more likely to die on one. But I choose to. Some of you probably think I’m wrong and you have the right to. The same right the I have to think the opposite. But what you don’t have the right to do is the we are right and you are wrong. They are not wrong you are not wrong. They evaluation in their head of risk vs reward, as do you. Which is why they do it and you don’t. It’s why I ride Motorcycles and (potentially) you don’t.
This isn’t a binary right or wrong thing. So if this thread was started to discuss why people do it without prejudice so that you can understand why and expand your knowledge, you are awesome and knowledge is always good. But if it was to just tell someone they’re wrong, humiliate them or make them
Uncomfortable then that is hateful. That is not your right and it goes against theirs. And if you think it hasn’t effected someone, the law of Avetayes say that someone had read it and it note keeping quiet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Then that’s your choice. That’s my choice. It’s not theirs. And theirs isn’t wrong.
A condom isn’t 100% safe and you driving to work is not 100% safe either. But both have made a conscious risk to do it. |
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"Don’t get me wrong I adore hearing a woman tell me to ‘cum inside her’ or ‘fill her up’ etc etc
But does anyone find the sound of a ‘bareback cum dump’ not that much of a turn on?!
Thoughts...."
We are happy to see this type of comment.
We have the opportunity to give them a miss without too much thought. |
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"As long as its not illegal, then who are we to judge others?
this is a swingers site for all isn't it?
This seems like a concept lost to most people these days......."
Lol, as a community of people swingers are the most discriminating, judgemental group I've ever come across! |
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over a year ago
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"As long as its not illegal, then who are we to judge others?
this is a swingers site for all isn't it?
This seems like a concept lost to most people these days.......
Lol, as a community of people swingers are the most discriminating, judgemental group I've ever come across!"
It’s the third or fourth one like this I’ve in in the last day or two. Yet I’m sure if you looked at the inter at boxes they ticked, they could be easily as judged.
And I’d stand up for them too.
Apart from furries. /jk. Only kidding furries |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to be honest. I prefer bareback but I’m selective about who I play with and I wouldn’t even consider meeting somebody who advertises as a “cum dump” that being said I respect people’s right to enjoy any form of consensual sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as its not illegal, then who are we to judge others?
this is a swingers site for all isn't it?
This seems like a concept lost to most people these days.......
Lol, as a community of people swingers are the most discriminating, judgemental group I've ever come across!"
Only in the forums. Reality, in my experience, is that many dont practice what they preach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not used the term cum dump before, but I do enjoy attending bareback gangbangs, which can understandably get very messy on occasions "
Each to their own entirely, but sticking my cock into a vagina full of god knows how many men’s baby batter doesn’t do a thing for me |
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"As long as its not illegal, then who are we to judge others?
this is a swingers site for all isn't it?
This seems like a concept lost to most people these days.......
Lol, as a community of people swingers are the most discriminating, judgemental group I've ever come across!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends who says it, that particular phrase makes me grimace a bit, but if a man who has cum in me many times before calls me a cum slut that will make me blush with happiness. |
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As a few people have said, terminology is key with this. There is of course the safety side of things which I’m sure all can see. Without knowing the specifics it’s hard to give a full answer. I personally adore ‘fuck and go’ type meets which again doesn’t sound great and I can see how it can easily offend. Each to their own but safety above all else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as its not illegal, then who are we to judge others?
this is a swingers site for all isn't it?
This seems like a concept lost to most people these days.......
Lol, as a community of people swingers are the most discriminating, judgemental group I've ever come across!"
Ah but I guess the question is how many other people have cum across them too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Each to their own in here as we all have our own journey. But id never be someones cumdump. Ibam only one persons cumdump and thats the hubs. But i do not judge others on their decision as that is their choice to make. |
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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago
milton keynes |
Seen some women post they want to be used as a cum dump if that's what they want FairPlay not everyone on here wants all the touchy feely some just want to be used.. whichever you like crack on with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If that's how someone wants to describe themselves thats up to them. Sick of all this finger pointing in this site. "
Agree. Not for us but each to their own on here. We all have our own journey. |
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"Not my gig I have to say but these threads are usually always a place for males to show their clean credentials. I'm a creampie queen and don't care who knows! But the amount of guys that message me wanting to play bareback and I look at their profile and it will usually say! Clean, discreet and never play uncovered blah blah blah! Alot of guys just say what a woman wants to hear most of the time just to get their end away,I think most of us know that? "
Too right most guys get on their high horse status claiming safe sex only ect but with a hole in front of them anything goes , |
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I'm a BB guy, if you don't like it that's your choice, if you do that's your choice too. I and others who I've played with have never hidden the fact, No one has ever turned up at an event I've been involved with and told 'by the way no condoms,' I once hosted a GB for 2 women when over 70 men turned up, everyone expected BB, women and men, it happened, everyone enjoyed themselves and no one got out of order.
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These threads always get full of liars and hypocrites like one couple advertised looking for bb meets one guy commented calling them dirty disease spreaders turned out he had met them twice on a previous profile both bb meets some guys use these threads to lie about how responsible they are hoping it will get them a leg over |
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"This van lady had a further 3 profiles with over 2000 meets. She stopped publishing her veris cos any Male admitting they had been there was " tsinted" especially if their profiles said the practices " safe sex"! . My biggest concern was she travelled around the country.. so trying to do the detective work to block all males daft enough to dip was hard work ... I hope she is safe and got it out of her system. "
. The van lady is a dream come true
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