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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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Why when a guy cancels/doesn't show/does a runner is it his loss
is it not just, HIS CHOICE.
albeit, his communication/lack of could be improved.
Is it said to make the other person concerned feel better, make the person saying it look good or something else.
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Why when a guy cancels/doesn't show/does a runner is it his loss
is it not just, HIS CHOICE.
albeit, his communication/lack of could be improved.
Is it said to make the other person concerned feel better, make the person saying it look good or something else.
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well said...i have never understood the its their loss thing at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive always said this
If someone turns you down its because they dont want you, so what have they lost? 
i think its just an expression people use to make the person whos been let down feel better |
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May not be his loss exactly, but if he doesn't have the guts or decency to cancel, or have the balls to say no thanks then he is a LOSER and does not deserve to be on this site ruining peoples fun. (Or her, or they) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ive always said this
If someone turns you down its because they dont want you, so what have they lost?
i think its just an expression people use to make the person whos been let down feel better "
yes i think your right and them thinking thay had alot to offer and thay are not getting it ,  |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"May not be his loss exactly, but if he doesn't have the guts or decency to cancel, or have the balls to say no thanks then he is a LOSER and does not deserve to be on this site ruining peoples fun. (Or her, or they)"
but you see it posted when someone does cancel, gives notice and apologises....
and more often than not, when we read one side of the situation on here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is said to make the other person feel better,no-one wants to feel crap on here as its all about the fun
But no it is'nt his or her loss at all
Does make me laugh though because some people use threads like that as a boarding pass to the person that been let down and its so bleeding obvious  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its just a saying, something people have always said, not meant to be taken that seriously.
You could say its his loss, because he could have had a good time. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Its just a saying, something people have always said, not meant to be taken that seriously.
You could say its his loss, because he could have had a good time. "
But maybe he doesnt give a shit and got a better offer? Just makes people seem petulant and bitter to me IMO  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is said to make the other person feel better,no-one wants to feel crap on here as its all about the fun
But no it is'nt his or her loss at all
Does make me laugh though because some people use threads like that as a boarding pass to the person that been let down and its so bleeding obvious "
Yes that's a great bit of fun isn't it. When a woman posts she's been let down and various uys will say 'its his loss, I wouldn't let you down, I'd be there in a jiffy' - yeah right course you would |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its just a saying, something people have always said, not meant to be taken that seriously.
You could say its his loss, because he could have had a good time. But maybe he doesnt give a shit and got a better offer? Just makes people seem petulant and bitter to me IMO "
Yes, maybe he got a better offer, then good for him.  |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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You could say its his loss, because he could have had a good time. "
'Could have' but he has chosen to prioritise something else... family, job or his health ( urgent appointment ). We never usually hear what the true reason was, nor should we as it is his business....
but it is comes across sometimes that he should be grateful.
We read many times that females get irked that guys expect them to meet at a drop of a hat and family is often the barrier.... same applies to the guys at times. |
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Yep a huge amount of double standards are prevalent in swinging because men outnumber women and couples probably 6 or 7 to one if not more.
It then creates this perception that any guy who gets a meet is lucky to get it, therefore its his loss.
Not that I agree with it, just pointing out where its coming from.
Its not the only bit of strange behaviour created in this world because the stupid numbers of men to women.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on whos doing the running
A couple of weeks ago a couple put a thread up saying they met a guy and they bunked off without telling him and asked if this was acceptable and so many people was teling this couple its upto them who they meet and they can change their mind when ever and they owe noones anything etc noone told this couples...oh well your loss
Yet a couple of days ago a woman put a post up saying a guy she met said he was going for cigs and never returned and he was all the wankwers under the sun and the expression his loss was on every reply |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I think it depends on whos doing the running
A couple of weeks ago a couple put a thread up saying they met a guy and they bunked off without telling him and asked if this was acceptable and so many people was teling this couple its upto them who they meet and they can change their mind when ever and they owe noones anything etc noone told this couples...oh well your loss
Yet a couple of days ago a woman put a post up saying a guy she met said he was going for cigs and never returned and he was all the wankwers under the sun and the expression his loss was on every reply"
Double standards as per on here at times NN  |
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By *iew OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yep a huge amount of double standards are prevalent in swinging because men outnumber women and couples probably 6 or 7 to one if not more.
It then creates this perception that any guy who gets a meet is lucky to get it, therefore its his loss.
Not that I agree with it, just pointing out where its coming from.
Its not the only bit of strange behaviour created in this world because the stupid numbers of men to women.
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thanks, I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im going to jump in the shower in a bit
Anyone not wanting to come...........your loss! 
Just been and you wasn't there.......... Your loss"
You snooze you lose.........your loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im going to jump in the shower in a bit
Anyone not wanting to come...........your loss!
Just been and you wasn't there.......... Your loss
You snooze you lose.........your loss "
I work nights....... I deserve a snooze |
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
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"Im going to jump in the shower in a bit
Anyone not wanting to come...........your loss!
Just been and you wasn't there.......... Your loss
You snooze you lose.........your loss "
If I didn't have to go back to work in 10 minutes you'd be having the time of your life in the shower with me, so ...... your loss!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a term used to boost someones ego when they have been let down by someone who obviously hasnt seen it as their loss"
Yes, you might say it to cheer someone else up.
Whats so wrong with that? |
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I think the problem being alluded to here is the absolute inequality within the swinging community and the tiered hierarchy.
Your single women sit at the top no matter what they look like, how they act or what they do they are almost beyond reproach.
Your couples with fems that play/talk come under them and have a little bit less of the immunity afforded to single women.
Then you have a big old chunk of daylight.
Then single men, who are by en large treated like shit.
We find it odd as given the vast numbers of them single men have been the easiest going and at times best meets we have had on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think the problem being alluded to here is the absolute inequality within the swinging community and the tiered hierarchy.
Your single women sit at the top no matter what they look like, how they act or what they do they are almost beyond reproach.
Your couples with fems that play/talk come under them and have a little bit less of the immunity afforded to single women.
Then you have a big old chunk of daylight.
Then single men, who are by en large treated like shit.
We find it odd as given the vast numbers of them single men have been the easiest going and at times best meets we have had on here."
bloody hell you,ve been busy if youve met the vast mority |
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bloody hell you,ve been busy if youve met the vast mority ;- "
Been to lots of club nights (where we actually talk to couples), have been very active since we started swinging and I have yet to see anything to directly contradict this.
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"I think the problem being alluded to here is the absolute inequality within the swinging community and the tiered hierarchy.
Your single women sit at the top no matter what they look like, how they act or what they do they are almost beyond reproach.
Your couples with fems that play/talk come under them and have a little bit less of the immunity afforded to single women.
Then you have a big old chunk of daylight.
Then single men, who are by en large treated like shit.
We find it odd as given the vast numbers of them single men have been the easiest going and at times best meets we have had on here."
Probably the truest...and best post i've read all day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they didn't want it in the first point they why not say instead of messing people around? Happened to my wife on a couple of occassions now and she got so sick of it she deleted her account. She will now only meet at swingers clubs where at least everyone is there because they want sex and not to waste other peoples time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Compassion is the virtue of empathy for the suffering of others. It is regarded as a fundamental part of human love, and a cornerstone of greater social interconnection and humanism —foundational to the highest principles in philosophy, society, and personhood.
Compassion is often regarded as emotional in nature, and there is an aspect of compassion which regards a quantitative dimension, such that individual's compassion is often given a property of "depth," "vigour," or "passion." The etymology of "compassion" is Latin, meaning "co-suffering." More virtuous than simple empathy, compassion commonly gives rise to an active desire to alleviate another's suffering. It is often, though not inevitably, the key component in what manifests in the social context as altruism. In ethical terms, the various expressions down the ages of the so-called Golden Rule embody by implication the principle of compassion: Do to others what you would have them do to you.
Nuff said
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